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 forumphantom
Joined: 10/31/2008
Msg: 14 (view)
 
do i drop her or not
Posted: 5/19/2010 3:05:02 AM
I'm with the previous posters. YOU have the two jobs. She has time off, she can't work all the time. So someone has to change their schedule a tad if dating is going to happen. Because you have the two jobs, you may have to drop something.

As a teacher-librarian in a high school, I'm surprised that you have to have the pizza delivery job after subbing. The occasional teachers in my area rake it in (they make more a day than I do because I have to pay into different things every pay) and are in demand every day (we were five subs short yesterday at work - it was brutal!) Maybe you can expand the zone you sub in? Visit the principals at some other 'families' of schools and introduce yourself and get on their occasional teacher list. This will take some time and effort, but it would be well worth it - for income, dating, and career success. Good luck!
 forumphantom
Joined: 10/31/2008
Msg: 21 (view)
 
Female Nobilty to Sacrafice You
Posted: 5/11/2010 2:17:17 PM
"Malicious old bag" - so any woman, any age, that disagrees with you is an old bag? Grow up. Name calling is the last resort of the weak minded.

You're getting married, who cares? But since you're asking, she's not trying to be magnanimous, she's trying to get you to dump her so she doesn't have to be the 'bad guy'. There you go. Have a nice wedding and a long marriage - I hope you don't like to call your wife to be lame names too (it's a bad habit and and you seem to have an angry attitude - lose it). I'm going to wish your bride good luck...she might need it.
 forumphantom
Joined: 10/31/2008
Msg: 143 (view)
 
When your SO has a lot less money than you do
Posted: 5/9/2010 11:09:37 AM
It's wonderful to live life on your own terms - but not on other people's backs. Right now he's on his 'best behaviour' because he hasn't moved in yet. Just wait - he's doing the odd chore and buying the odd thing for the household, but that will evaporate soon after he moves in.

Seriously, I would love to just work seven or eight months of the year. Thing is, I'm an adult and have bills to pay. And no, going on government assistance part of the year to support my living on my own terms *cough* lazy ass. It's great he works on a golf course part of the year, so...why can't he work the rest of the time and not draw on employment insurance?

Think before you let this one move in OP.

I'm dating a guy who makes less than I do, he's got big debts - love him to bits, love dating him, but I'm not taking on the debt he accrued before we were together. It's not my responsibility to pay off his debt. I can love him, but no...people have to be smart and balance their hearts with their heads.
 forumphantom
Joined: 10/31/2008
Msg: 58 (view)
 
If your friends don't like him...
Posted: 5/9/2010 10:45:31 AM

bradd pitt

Guys, can you not reach deep into your craniums to come up with another guy to turn into a tired, old, overdone cliche? Please? Some other celebrity that's shoved down our throats that's supposed to be 'hot'? Brad Pitt is not hot anymore. Angelina Jolie sucked all the hotness out of him and he looks like an old goat.
 forumphantom
Joined: 10/31/2008
Msg: 132 (view)
 
They Run Away
Posted: 5/8/2010 1:31:20 AM
Sorry Raspyrex, I don't think that if a woman doesn't want to date a man with 5 or more kids it makes her "shallow" or "selfish" - come on! People around PoF throw those terms around whenever they don't like the results they're getting, or if they want to feel (falsely) superior. Both are quite unattractive, and well, lame.
 forumphantom
Joined: 10/31/2008
Msg: 57 (view)
 
Boyfriend with ADD/ADHD
Posted: 5/8/2010 12:59:21 AM
Read some of the debate...got exhausted...it's all too much.

OP, go find someone who is less trouble (yeah, he's got problems - it's not her problem to fix them) and date a good, less dramatic man.

Put on your running shoes and run, girl RUN!
 forumphantom
Joined: 10/31/2008
Msg: 16 (view)
 
do guys ask you to be there girlfriend
Posted: 5/5/2010 5:05:34 PM
You're bf and gf once you change your Facebook status. ;)
 forumphantom
Joined: 10/31/2008
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Shave chest yes or no?
Posted: 5/3/2010 11:46:22 AM
Welcome to Montreal, Canada my friend!

I'm dating a guy from Montreal and he's not overly hairy, he just keeps it as is. His sisters ADORE men with big, hairy chests and have each found men that suit the bill (seriously, they're half gorilla, lol). When I'm visiting Montreal, you see all sorts - men who groom their chests, and those who opt not to. My friend, my advice is to do what you like best and are comfortable with. Montreal is a wonderful live and let live town and very cultured - you'll do fine whatever you choose.

The Just for Laughs/Juste Pour Rire festival of Montreal is coming up - be sure to treat yourself to some tickets...they are on sale now! Maybe you'll meet a lovely lady to share some laughs with. Good luck!
 forumphantom
Joined: 10/31/2008
Msg: 16 (view)
 
Is this an emotional affair?
Posted: 5/3/2010 11:38:30 AM
I think she's dating two guys. She seems to be interested in one more than the other. She feels guilt about this. She doesn't like saying your name in front of him either. You are just hanging around in the hope she'll pick you over the other. Is this where you really want to be?

BTW - I think you have to step out of the research lab once in a while. "Kick her to the curb" is a euphemism for dumping her. It's become quite a common saying. The fellow above was not advocating violence. "Dawg" is another term for a cheater. He was not calling her a "b*tch". Maybe some fresh air and talking to new people may help.

VVV Well said Igor VVV There's a weird hate/love vibe in the original post and his subsequent post to Cdnfinanceman.
 forumphantom
Joined: 10/31/2008
Msg: 13 (view)
 
32 year old separated guy=damaged good??
Posted: 5/2/2010 3:24:15 PM
Gee OP, I dunoo. Why don't you ask your WIFE? lol
 forumphantom
Joined: 10/31/2008
Msg: 5 (view)
 
my gf and her umm.. addiction...
Posted: 5/1/2010 8:43:47 AM
WoW addiction can be death for a relationship. Both me and my now ex were badly hooked. I feel embarrassed to admit it today, being WoW free for three years - but in the thick of my WoW addiction, my husband and I would play for hours and hours - ignoring real life. It was pathetic. It is a real thing, and the only thing that saved me was getting a friend to change my pw and refusing to give it back to me ever. I wanted to quit so I never asked her what it was and I never used the password retrieval function. But I missed the camaraderie and fun terribly for a long while. Good luck my friend, my ex and I broke up (not just because of WoW - it just was a catalyst for a lot of trouble).
 forumphantom
Joined: 10/31/2008
Msg: 69 (view)
 
Won't quit 'for me'
Posted: 5/1/2010 7:32:45 AM
^^^I can't believe you posted this twice, just to get the little smiley in there. LOL
 forumphantom
Joined: 10/31/2008
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Nail Polish on guys
Posted: 5/1/2010 6:49:41 AM
I think for a one time thing, it would be funny and amusing...but all the time, in well planned colours, nah. My mom always warned me against men who took more time to get ready than I. I don't like dating vain or effeminate men.

As for D4vD4n, you've already eaten up 3 of the OP's 21 posts with your responses. Start your own thread if you want feedback, don't hijack someone else's.
 forumphantom
Joined: 10/31/2008
Msg: 38 (view)
 
Won't quit 'for me'
Posted: 4/30/2010 3:41:28 PM
mjyawn67 = angry, bitter smoker. Trust.
 forumphantom
Joined: 10/31/2008
Msg: 80 (view)
 
When a man marries because his partner got pregnant does he ever trust her?
Posted: 4/28/2010 2:23:08 PM
I think a lot of the pregnancy 'oopses' that occur are no accident (or to be blunt, total bs). Maybe on purpose (I'll just stop taking the pill), or not taking precautions, or not using contraceptives properly. But it I guess it looks better to say it's an accident. Pfft. There are accidents - but not as many as people claim to have. I feel badly for men who are trapped into unwanted fatherhood by a woman who wants a kid. But men have to start stepping up and protecting themselves, and not just leave it in the woman's hand (why is bc automatically the woman's responsibility? I'll never understand that.) Women who 'oops' men with the intention of having a kid (when he has not agreed) are selfish and wrong and I feel badly for the baby.

No one should feel compelled to marry unless it is what they wish. Just my Canadian two cents.
 forumphantom
Joined: 10/31/2008
Msg: 125 (view)
 
They Run Away
Posted: 4/26/2010 2:54:57 PM
Hi OP - I want to wish you the best, you have been quite patient with this thread. :)

But, to be honest - I wouldn't be interested in a guy with 5 kids: I don't even want any of my own (I teach and enjoy them at school, but when I'm not getting paid, nah), you sound like you have a potentially troublesome ex (yikes!), kids are expensive and I'm not interested in supporting someone else's kids, I enjoy travel, going out, etc... and having that many kids would limit this, I don't want to be a stepmom - ever - from what I've read, it's a raw deal.

I also think you're shooting yourself in the foot by not telling people in your profile that you have kids. I know that if we started dating and you pulled this bait and switch on me (because really, that's what you're doing), I'd feel stupid and like I wasted my time even if I liked you. I would be looking for a long term relationship and yes, while I'm not dating your kids, if we were to get together long term, the kids would have to come up.

Good luck!
 forumphantom
Joined: 10/31/2008
Msg: 10 (view)
 
I changed my headline to PENIS and its working??? 10 new views in the last hour
Posted: 4/25/2010 5:00:33 AM
People will stop and watch a trainwreck too my friend. Don't read too much into your 'success'.
 forumphantom
Joined: 10/31/2008
Msg: 57 (view)
 
Should married people still hang out with their single friends?
Posted: 4/24/2010 8:43:02 AM
OP - here's some more advice you're never going to take.

1) Turn off the computer.
2) Get out of chair.
3) Cancel internet.
4) Interact with WIFE.
5) Get counselling with WIFE.
6) Learn how to communicate with each other without having to run to the forums to ask for advice you won't listen to.
7) Grow up.
8) Stop arguing about the minutiae of life (seriously, it wouldn't occur to most people to argue about the inane things you do).
9) Stop trying to micromanage everyone in your life (you actually left your 13/14 year old kid a note to come in, lock door and make sandwich? Crazy).
10) Get a life.
 forumphantom
Joined: 10/31/2008
Msg: 69 (view)
 
Am I trying to keep our families separate?
Posted: 4/24/2010 5:41:11 AM
I feel badly for your kids. They are 13 and 14 and you had to write: come in, lock door, make sandwich? Did you leave instructions on how to make the sandwich too? (Two slices of bread, get butter, put butter on bread...lol)

Wow, I don't think these teenagers need this kind of thing spelled out. I'd put money that they are WAY smarter than OP and his bride are. Just another example of the lack of communication skills the OP possesses (and *closer, I know you're trying to help, but this guy has written tomes full about his relationship with this woman, and he's taken NONE of the advice given - he's an advice whore and deserves the reaming he's getting). You both need counselling, both together and apart. Get help now.

Okay OP, I think you should get a divorce two weeks in, because if you both are already too hardheaded and like to escalate arguments over something so trivial and stupid, you both don't deserve to be married.
 forumphantom
Joined: 10/31/2008
Msg: 13 (view)
 
here is something to make you shake your head
Posted: 4/23/2010 12:01:31 PM
Why are you playing 'friends' and carrying a torch for this woman for so long? Does she take advantage of your 'friendship' in other ways because she knows you like her more than just friends? Drop this 'friendship' and stop playing friends with women you have feelings for, it's not fair for anyone involved. This woman is not your friend and never will be more than that. Move on.
 forumphantom
Joined: 10/31/2008
Msg: 77 (view)
 
Ever notice that being too nice turns you into a doormat?
Posted: 4/21/2010 10:38:27 PM
Ugh...someone dug up a Franken-thread about nice guys from 2005! Let these stay dead! Come on! There are a million ACTIVE nice guy threads already, no need to dig them up! :P
 forumphantom
Joined: 10/31/2008
Msg: 22 (view)
 
Man is not contacting as often...what gives?
Posted: 4/21/2010 3:15:08 AM
Stop with the texting. Telephone him.
Stop with the obsessing. You're coming off as scary clingy right now.
Stop with the weird 'rules'. They don't work.
Stop with the rationalizing. Relax, take it as it comes.
Stop with the expectations this guy shouldn't have to live up to right now. Just chill.

Sheesh. Maybe he read this thread and got scared off. Just relax and play it cool.
 forumphantom
Joined: 10/31/2008
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Get her off my back!
Posted: 4/21/2010 3:10:30 AM
I'd tell him to lose YOUR number and find a higher caliber of friend who doesn't encourage his friend to cheat, and who will keep his nose out of others' relationships. Butt out. Your post reads like you have a stake in him breaking up with his girlfriend.

I hope this guy figures out ALL his relationships, including his friendship with you, because I have a feeling you can be poison.
 forumphantom
Joined: 10/31/2008
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Parner in Crime
Posted: 4/19/2010 2:14:49 PM
Do you live under a rock? You've seriously never heard this phrase used by people around you? Really?

No, it's not a bad boy thing or a criminal thing (LAME). It means a person is looking for someone to do things with, have inside jokes with, their partner in life. It's a phrase, a saying. A similar saying is "Jane and Joe are as thick as thieves" - it does not mean they are thick or thieves - it means they are closely bonded.

Go read a book or something. Sheesh.
 forumphantom
Joined: 10/31/2008
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Well, this caused a stir
Posted: 4/19/2010 1:51:49 PM
Hey shut the gate - not all men are man whores. You may tell yourself that, but some men have self control and quietly live their lives without putting their c0cks into every hole they encounter. I don't want a walking STD who calls up a FB, trolls bars, or hires a pro, I want a man with respect for himself and others. Got an urge? Rub one out.

Just because you whore around, doesn't mean everyone does.

OP - I like your profile, it's smart and interesting. After reading this thread, I'm sure you'll keep your restrictions up. Good luck!
EDIT FOR BELOW:

Proof. Give me some sort of proof for your sweeping generalisations. Oh yeah, you don't have any proof because what you are saying is a BELIEF. Just like belief in the Easter Bunny or Santa. So, keep telling yourself what you're telling yourself - doesn't mean we all have to agree or believe you.

I'd bet you have your panties in a twist STD, oh wait, Shut the Gate because a lady you liked profile blocked you because you're a perv, or quite possibly in real life... ;) LOL
 forumphantom
Joined: 10/31/2008
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Anything wrong here?
Posted: 4/19/2010 1:38:02 PM
Op, you're the worst kind of hypocrite. Christian - yeah, sure. Build a new "Christian" family while you're still married to your WIFE. In your other thread you're looking for a band-aid woman to get tangled in your mess and fix your life. You're too chickensh*t to leave your wife yourself...so you're trolling for a woman (hopefully with a place of her own) for you to mooch off of:
From your last thread:


But I do need an inspiration to jump and burn bridges,
a place to go when I leave.

Seriously? You think a woman is going to swoop in and rescue you from you? Pathetic.


Am I supposed to divorce and move out of the house
to start the process ?

Gee, you think? Yeah. It would be a good step.
Fix your own life, THEN come back and try to date. You are undateable right now and I think you need counselling to start formulating reasonable expectations of your future. What do you have to offer anyone except for rationalizations, hypocrisy and a wife hanging around? Yeah, good luck with that.

Does your WIFE (yeah, that lady you're still living with) know you're 'separated'? Were you planning on having any unlucky lady over to your house ignore your WIFE sitting over there? Women aren't responsible for fixing your life. Fix your own life before trying to get into someone else's life.
 forumphantom
Joined: 10/31/2008
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Her mother doesn't want us to date - salvageable?
Posted: 4/18/2010 4:37:59 AM
OP, this is going to come off harsh, but I think you need to hear it.

Stop with the rationalizations. You are a much older man dating a 17 year old and sending her home liquored up and covered in hickies. It doesn't matter if the girl let you or wanted you to - it's inappropriate and disgusting. I can totally understand why this woman wouldn't want her daughter dating a man who gets women drunk, gives them hickies, all the bs.

Of course she isn't thrilled that she's dating a man too old for her, who gambles for a living, who has no education, who has no qualms about liquoring up a minor and who covers her in hickes (seriously? Are you thirteen? Who does that? Gross). A mother wants her teenage daughter to not get serious so quickly, with a young man who respects her and has her best interests at heart. Not just his own. Maybe she wants her daughter to hitch her star to a winner, and not a woman beater or an uneducated gambler who drinks to excess.

You're trolling your own thread (you only get 21 replies but you like to argue and rationalize, so you'll reply with a bunch of excuses soon) and I know you want people to agree with you - but I don't think this is salvageable at all. The first impressions of a person last - and you left the mother with a terrible one. Move on, find someone your own age, and learn from this.
 forumphantom
Joined: 10/31/2008
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Dating after broken marriage
Posted: 4/17/2010 3:45:15 AM
Hey OP -

I see what you're trying to do. You want to find a "long term relationship" (emphasis on those quotation marks) to stick it to your "vixen" WIFE. Yes, you are still married. You have not even moved out of your house yet and you want another woman? What is wrong with you? Are you serious? You are trying to USE another woman for revenge against your wife, to boost your sagging self esteem and put the pieces back together for you. Women aren't responsible for these things, and you should be such a selfish thing that you'd want to get an uninvolved person involved in your current mess.

So:
-grow up, stop being a wimp, move out of the home you share with your WIFE.
-get divorced (yeah, yeah, yeah, a lot of the junk fish around here claim: oh, it's so expensive, I'm divorced in my heart, just ignore my wife sitting over there - we're like roommates now) Just get divorced - finish your business with your WIFE.
-stay single for a while (after my divorce I didn't date, just had some friend fun for almost two years to get my head together).
-get your act together. Dating should be the last thing on your list right now.

Women aren't bandaids OP, fix your own life.
 forumphantom
Joined: 10/31/2008
Msg: 79 (view)
 
i know my girlfriend is being unfaithful but i dont know how to approach her about it
Posted: 4/15/2010 5:28:17 PM
OMG OP, if you're still reading this thread, I want you to read your own posting history. What would you tell this guy (after you smacked him upside the head for being so without a clue)? You're sexually incompatible, you don't do it for her in bed, you guys can't seem to communicate, you're a snoop, you don't trust her --- but you're afraid of having REGRETS? My God man, what's it going to take for you to take a hint? Sheesh. *shaking head*
 forumphantom
Joined: 10/31/2008
Msg: 9 (view)
 
What's the issue about male non drivers?
Posted: 4/15/2010 4:36:00 PM
Steve - doesn't that chip on your shoulder get kind of heavy over time?

Anyways...I had boyfriends who didn't drive for all sorts of reasons. I always ended up being Ms. Taxi Service. I always had to be the DD. I always had to plan the logistics for outings. I always had to drive. I always ended up paying the gas (non drivers always seem to forget about car upkeep). It's nice to be driven around once in a while. In my current relationship, sometimes I drive, sometimes he drives. When I recently broke my arm, it was nice that I could depend on my man for help getting around.

I wouldn't want to depend on someone else for rides - begging and pleading. The transit system is crap where I live. My mom told me an independent woman should always have her license, a car, an education and a career so she doesn't have to depend on anyone. I think it was good advice and I expect my man to have the same. I'm not going to drive some schlub around. No way.
 forumphantom
Joined: 10/31/2008
Msg: 123 (view)
 
Canada child support law for non-bio parents: different points of view
Posted: 4/15/2010 12:25:59 PM
OMG - Exiledbyabusers - your posts are nonsense. Go fold a new foil hat or hide in your Unabomber shed or something. Oh, and start taking your meds. Crazy.
 forumphantom
Joined: 10/31/2008
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Should I get a car just for dating?
Posted: 4/12/2010 3:48:51 AM
As long as you don't expect the woman you're dating to schlep your a$$ around like a chauffeur. And...I doubt the justice system was 'picking' on you because you're a young man. There's more to the story regarding losing your license. If it involved a lot of stupid behaviour (which it probably did), I probably wouldn't date you for being an idiot, not so much for the car. Good luck and keep your head on straight.
 forumphantom
Joined: 10/31/2008
Msg: 27 (view)
 
Have you moved away and regretted it?
Posted: 4/7/2010 5:43:34 PM
This is the weirdest original posts ever. OP, you seem to be full of anger and phenomenally forgetful. Get help soon.
 forumphantom
Joined: 10/31/2008
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Paying for teen's birth control
Posted: 4/7/2010 3:45:45 PM
I think you're being a tad shortsighted OP. Yes, she should pay for her extras - phone, car, etc... but if she's going to be sexually active and you don't want a grandbaby, you'd better help her out on this one. This one isn't one to take a gamble on.
 forumphantom
Joined: 10/31/2008
Msg: 18 (view)
 
do women talk about guys
Posted: 4/5/2010 5:01:49 PM
*raising hand and voting for situation is TOO MUCH and TOO WEIRD* No thank you. *waves*
 forumphantom
Joined: 10/31/2008
Msg: 17 (view)
 
I have a girlfriend, she has a boyfriend
Posted: 4/3/2010 6:11:42 PM
Break up with her. Don't waste any more of her time or your own. Just do it - take off the bandaid. You're not doing her any favours by keeping a dead relationship propped up. Good luck!
 forumphantom
Joined: 10/31/2008
Msg: 38 (view)
 
Was I too harsh?
Posted: 4/3/2010 6:33:24 AM
You're way up on a high horse OP, so you may not be hearing what some of the responders are saying (a lot of former drinkers, druggies and smokers can get really preachy after they quit) . I don't have much to add but to say, yes - everyone has a right to be picky regarding whom to date, but your holier than thou attitude may come back to bite you in the bum someday. You also mentioned that if she would have been 'honest' (in your eyes, in her eyes she probably feels she was honest - who's right?) this may have brought you closer together...I don't think so, I sense that you put a lot of hurdles in front of people. Good luck, I think you may need it.
 forumphantom
Joined: 10/31/2008
Msg: 15 (view)
 
Why her mom mad at me.
Posted: 4/3/2010 5:58:35 AM
*bonk* Maybe instead of buying beer, you can buy some books about getting a clue.
 forumphantom
Joined: 10/31/2008
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Coming in Second (or Worse)
Posted: 4/2/2010 12:35:41 AM
Hi OP - putting the child aside, I agree with Taken - your man sounds like a jerk (a jerk that doesn't drive to boot - one of my pet peeves) in how he communicates with you. Good luck, you're going to need it.
 forumphantom
Joined: 10/31/2008
Msg: 3 (view)
 
How do I tell a friend I cant go with her to kill another baby?
Posted: 3/29/2010 1:24:05 PM
Sheesh. Some people should be put to sleep. Disgusting. Tell her to f*ck off, get her a$$ on birth control, to grow up and stop being such a selfish slag. Why are you friends with people of this ilk?
 forumphantom
Joined: 10/31/2008
Msg: 10 (view)
 
I'm not sure what to do.
Posted: 3/27/2010 8:05:36 AM
Pfft - she didn't take your fantastic offer to be "friends" or a "f*ck buddy" and you're wondering why she doesn't want anything to do with you. What were you trying to do, build a harem? LOL I can't believe you posted this "My first choice doesn't like me anymore, and my second choice isn't jumping at the chance - I don't get it!" Seriously?

Good for her for staying away from you. I like a woman with a backbone.
 forumphantom
Joined: 10/31/2008
Msg: 64 (view)
 
Caught her shoplifting
Posted: 3/23/2010 7:16:45 PM
Wow! That's just amazingly crazy! Who does that? Is it the dollar saved or the thrill? Did she want you to see her? Did she want you to approve? Does she think you don't know?

The questions are tantalizing OP, but I don't recommend you hang around to find out the answers.
 forumphantom
Joined: 10/31/2008
Msg: 18 (view)
 
in need of a womans opinion. should i just let go?
Posted: 3/23/2010 6:44:59 PM
Pfft - why are you even asking this? You want attention that badly? Pathetic. Your profile says "divorced" and you're far from it.
From your profile:

I have a lot of goals for my life and would like to have that special girl to share all of my and her triumphs with . So if your a goal oriented girl who is looking for a partner in crime for good and bad, for better or worse we might just be the perfect match. All that is missing now is that we come together.


Get your act together and grow up before trying to date. It would be stupid and shortsighted to "come together" and get an innocent person involved in your mess. Work on your marriage, or don't. But don't lie about it.

PS - Also from your profile: I don't think "dinning" is the word you want for interests...or maybe you do. Who knows?

din1 [din] Show IPA noun, verb,dinned, din·ning.
–noun
1.
a loud, confused noise; a continued loud or tumultuous sound; noisy clamor.
–verb (used with object)
2.
to assail with din.
3.
to sound or utter with clamor or persistent repetition.
 forumphantom
Joined: 10/31/2008
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Should i let my wife have guy friends?
Posted: 3/21/2010 7:25:00 AM
"Allow her her freedom" "Should I let my wife..."

She's not your dog or an object, she's a person. You don't "let" her do anything because she is a free individual with freedom of choice. Just because you happen to be married to her does not make her subject to your will. You can express your thoughts and concerns, but you have to trust her to make good decisions. If you don't trust her, there is no marriage and no relationship. If you're jealous and there is no reason to be (past issues of cheating, etc..), that's YOUR problem, not hers.

EDIT - you're on here looking for female friends to "chat/email"...hmm, interesting. I think you're a hypocrite of the worst sort. Get a life.
 forumphantom
Joined: 10/31/2008
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Does she like me? She also has a boyfriend?
Posted: 3/21/2010 12:08:15 AM
The "Why's" of this doesn't matter OP. The only "What" that matters is that she has a boyfriend.

Go find a girlfriend who is actually available.
 forumphantom
Joined: 10/31/2008
Msg: 524 (view)
 
What do you girls think about guys with guns?
Posted: 3/20/2010 6:31:30 AM
No, I wouldn't date a gun enthusiast - it's just not for me. But, there are plenty of women who probably would. It's just about preferences really.
 forumphantom
Joined: 10/31/2008
Msg: 94 (view)
 
She Doesn't Like My Kids
Posted: 3/19/2010 5:17:25 PM
^^^Chillpill - WORD.

OP - read every word Chillpill just wrote. Read it again. Stop thinking with your c0ck, stop expecting your f*ckbuddy to mother your kids, stop using the few days you have with your kids to drag them along for your hookups. Just STOP and act like a father, not a horny teenager.

Shameful.
 forumphantom
Joined: 10/31/2008
Msg: 116 (view)
 
getting increasingly irritable with my gf
Posted: 3/19/2010 4:56:27 PM
OP, you seem to be more worried about your c0ck than your fiance. Just because you happen to be with a woman, she doesn't morph into a walking vagina for you to stick your thing in. Do her a favour and dump her then. She's probably tired of your crap anyways, I know I already am and I'm just reading the thread.
 forumphantom
Joined: 10/31/2008
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Met a nice guy, he has a girfriend. Is it wrong to ask him out for coffee?
Posted: 3/19/2010 7:03:43 AM
Pfft platonic. If this were purely platonic, you wouldn't be asking this.

Go find your own boyfriend. Don't poach other women's.
 forumphantom
Joined: 10/31/2008
Msg: 47 (view)
 
She Doesn't Like My Kids
Posted: 3/19/2010 6:43:42 AM
Why would you schlep a sick little boy 25 minutes to your girlfriend's house for a 'date'? She doesn't seem to like your kids. How does that make your kids feel? I know as a kid I wouldn't want to be schlepped to Dad's girlfriend's house when she doesn't like me, it's not my house, I feel out of sorts, I possibly don't like her kids, etc... It sounds like your priorities are just all wrong.

Maybe it's time to have some real 'grown up dates' without dragging the kids along? At any rate, I agree with the poster above me, I think you're selfish and short-sighted. This is a friends with benefits and some family time thrown in. Nothing more, so don't expect more.
 
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