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Feather Sandwich

Joined: 11/1/2008

Msg: 66 (view)

How did you lose your first love? Posted: 9/28/2009 6:05:15 PM
He went to the outhouse & the hawgs got him.

Feather Sandwich

Joined: 11/1/2008

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Borrowing money after 3 weeks Posted: 9/7/2009 3:27:58 PM
You can't delete it, OP. As has already been explained, there is an option to edit your post, but it's only available for a short time. You should have read the rules before you posted, and you wouldn't have this problem. Just like you should have been thinking with your big head when the lady asked you for money.

Feather Sandwich

Joined: 11/1/2008

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Borrowing money after 3 weeks Posted: 9/7/2009 2:59:22 PM
OP, your thread will probably be deleted pretty quickly. It's against the rules to name another member in your post. Recourse? None. Just like in real life, grown-up people are responsible for their own actions and finances. Lending money that you couldn't afford to lend to a relative stranger has nothing to do with being a nice guy. It has to do with being gullible, naive, & not really very smart.

Feather Sandwich

Joined: 11/1/2008

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What Is The Case Here? Is It Me????? Posted: 9/1/2009 9:07:47 PM
Yes, you are the case here. Put your purse down & call her already. Ask her out to do something other than "hang out". Enough with the texting & the angst.

Feather Sandwich

Joined: 11/1/2008

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Question for the men- email response Posted: 8/27/2009 7:52:51 PM
It's your inbox, do what you want based on what makes sense for you. Different guys will want different things & in the end, it's up to you.

Feather Sandwich

Joined: 11/1/2008

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What would you guys do? Posted: 8/27/2009 6:53:18 PM
Doesn't matter what we would do, OP, because you've already done what you would do: go on a dating site as single & looking for long term. You should put a qualifier in your profile that long term only means as long as she remains your physical ideal, or her term is up.

Feather Sandwich

Joined: 11/1/2008

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fool for love Posted: 8/23/2009 12:19:08 AM
I have sent him five or six emails pleading with him to give me another chance but he has avoided everyone. Part of me understands where he is coming from and part of me knows that is not what I am like Homey, sending 5 or 6 e-mails is not the way to convince the guy that "that's not what you're like". You've pretty much convinced him that what he suspected is true. He has taken his bunny to a boarding kennel, and changed both their names. You blew it, and there is no pulling this one out of the fire. Move on, grasshopper.

Feather Sandwich

Joined: 11/1/2008

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Hilarioiusly bad communication blunders/misunderstandings Posted: 8/21/2009 6:24:53 PM
One morning, late in the relationship, I meant to ask my ex if he wanted more coffee. But, instead of saying, "would you like more coffee, honey?", it came out, "you sonofab1tch, you ruined my life."

Feather Sandwich

Joined: 11/1/2008

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Would you write a bad testimonial for someone that played you? Posted: 8/19/2009 9:05:51 PM
4- It's been pointed out by many that the testimonial feature is pointless and even if the testimonials are of a positive nature, they may actually impede a persons dating success. OP, idoc steve knows what he's talking about when it comes to testimonials. Listen to the master. OT, no, I wouldn't. It's pointless, petty, and childish. I wouldn't even if I had been played and, as has been pointed out, you haven't been. Unless there's more to this story...

Feather Sandwich

Joined: 11/1/2008

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I demand everybody here to SMILE Posted: 8/19/2009 8:56:39 PM
Yeah, I can't get a date, either. But I got biggly, & biggly makes you smile. You ought to get you some biggly, Mr. Bitter Man above me.

Feather Sandwich

Joined: 11/1/2008

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Do plentyoffish pages load faster for you since last week ? Posted: 8/17/2009 8:52:57 PM
Faster to the forums, slower to everywhere else. For example, to go to a profile from my inbox takes forever & sometimes 3 tries. Irritating. It weren't broke, why'dya fix it?

Feather Sandwich

Joined: 11/1/2008

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Facebook site sounds really funny Posted: 8/17/2009 8:15:01 PM
Ginger kitty, I would love to, but you have distance restrictions. Guess you'll have to message me. Or go to facebook & search the group Plenty of Flotsam.

Feather Sandwich

Joined: 11/1/2008

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The second date Posted: 8/16/2009 11:01:31 PM
How did you get into my world without paying the $5.00 admission fee? She sneaked under the "You must be this tall..." sign. Lots of us do. We just watch... Good for you, OP. I hope it works out & we see you in the "Testimonials" thread.

Feather Sandwich

Joined: 11/1/2008

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My First Date With Patricia (im 59 she's 53) Posted: 8/16/2009 9:40:46 PM
Well, of course it's against the rules to post personal info & ninna shoudn't have done that. But OP shouldn't have stood her up, either. At his age, he should certainly know that hell hath no fury... And he should also know where his man parts are located and how to put them into action to cancel a date.

Feather Sandwich

Joined: 11/1/2008

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Have you Started an Odd Profile Photo Collection?? Posted: 8/16/2009 9:25:18 PM
I don't have a photo collection, but I belong to a facebook group of women I met on another site. Our group has a thread where we post ridiculous profiles of men who have contacted us or show up as matches. We lol at them all day long. Let me be clear, not genuine guys who we just don't feel a match with, but the fat guys with bad backs looking for younger women, the sex trawlers, the married guys, stuff like that.

Feather Sandwich

Joined: 11/1/2008

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What do you gals get up to on a Sunday? Posted: 8/16/2009 2:58:47 PM
Usually, get together with my girlfriends. We have a couple of bottles of wine, try on each other's lingerie, get naked, & get in a pile.

Feather Sandwich

Joined: 11/1/2008

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trying to understand the female psychi, help Posted: 8/16/2009 12:43:59 PM
It's written PSYCHE not psychi. Yes, it is spelled "psyche", and the OP's question has nothing to do with it. It has everything to do with a doormat & an attention whore. OP, are you seriously going home with a woman who has told you that you annoy her and she will never go out with you, knowing that once you get to her place, she will get naked in front of you? You are not trying to understand the female psyche. You are trying to understand your own pathetic psyche. Whatever is going on in your own wussy mind is what's causing you to behave this way. Unless you enjoy being tortured, put down your purse, find your nutsack & get a life.

Feather Sandwich

Joined: 11/1/2008

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What do you miss Posted: 8/14/2009 8:29:11 PM
I miss having someone to zip me up. Or button. I hate having to put my dress or blouse on backwards & then turn around really fast.

Feather Sandwich

Joined: 11/1/2008

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Do we internet date because we all have an ISSUE? Posted: 8/12/2009 8:20:33 PM
I used to date from the newspaper personals because I had an ISSUE. Actually, once I started that, I had to get a SUBSCRIPTION. I date online because I have a COMPUTER.

Feather Sandwich

Joined: 11/1/2008

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Should I go out with a girl 16 years younger? Posted: 8/10/2009 5:11:35 PM
No, T R, you should not. When will you learn that going out with anybody but me will only lead to heartbreak? How many more undeserving women are you going to waste your good looks charm on before you realize they were only meant for me? You can hang my curtains anytime, baby.

Feather Sandwich

Joined: 11/1/2008

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Is there an expectation of who goes first? Posted: 8/10/2009 12:06:25 PM
If guys are squizzing all over my profile, I'd rather not know it.

Feather Sandwich

Joined: 11/1/2008

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is it worth it hanging in there? Posted: 8/7/2009 6:20:50 PM
The web address for these forums must be very similar to the one for the psychic hotline. Srsly, OP, do you expect anybody to be able to give you a definitive answer to whether you should end this whatever you call it when you see somebody every weekend for 3 months, with only a few lines of background referencing only one aspect of that whatever it is, and absolutely no knowledge of the parties involved? Srsly.

Feather Sandwich

Joined: 11/1/2008

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courtesy rules? Posted: 8/7/2009 10:45:15 AM
Why? Why do you people need to actually see in black & white that someone you like doesn't like you? And some of you even want to know why! Are you all a bunch of masochists? Do you also like to hear that your new haircut looks like a squirrel is nesting on your head, that your a$$ does indeed look fat in those pants, your "few extra pounds" is the rest of the world's obese, & do you find your way around your house at night by stubbing your toes on the walls? Since it seems to be so bloody important to so many men that they be rejected flat-out & in no uncertain terms, I sometimes reply if I'm not interested, depending upon the message and the profile, and I get very few of the nasty rebuttals that many women here use as an excuse for not replying. I don't need an excuse. It's my inbox and if I consider a message to be junk mail for reasons that I determine, it's not rude to decline to reply to it. My first contact messages are overwhelmingly read and deleted, and I prefer it that way. I don't understand why anyone wouldn't. I also don't understand why a woman would think it's any more attractive to whine about things that other people do, and that she will never change than for a man to do it.

Feather Sandwich

Joined: 11/1/2008

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Styles of Beauty Posted: 8/7/2009 8:36:42 AM
Outmind, I didn't know that about your gf. Strength and health to you both. Keep fighting. My beauty is in my sense of humour, my self-confidenc and my ability to accept reality & deal with it. I appear very capable and level-headed and yet fun and easygoing. I am exactly as I appear. I also have really fabulous legs.

Feather Sandwich

Joined: 11/1/2008

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So how about cheaters Posted: 8/6/2009 2:16:32 PM
No, thanks. I'm trying to cut down.

Feather Sandwich

Joined: 11/1/2008

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very good point Posted: 8/6/2009 1:15:05 PM
Completely flipped out, did they, OP? You mean they actually backflipped out of the room upon meeting you? Clearly, gymnasts also prefer a$$holes over good, honest men.

Feather Sandwich

Joined: 11/1/2008

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being blown off Posted: 8/3/2009 8:00:01 PM
Ooops, sorry. I thought this was about something else entirely. I can't offer any advice beyond the usual get over it. People do what they do & only they know why. Sometimes not even. Carry on.

Feather Sandwich

Joined: 11/1/2008

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Tim Hortons / POF Alliance Posted: 7/30/2009 8:24:19 PM
I have boycotted Tim Horton's for several years, since I got my leg humped by a young employee who cornered me by the ice cap machine. I guess now I'll have to boycott POF. Damn, & I was thinking about getting one of those gold d00hickeys.

Feather Sandwich

Joined: 11/1/2008

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First Date Posted: 7/28/2009 7:58:43 PM
Maybe you should have asked her to go with you before you spent the $300. However, now that you have spent the $300 (OP mentioned it twice, so I thought I should, too, to give it the respect it deserves), how does that preclude your taking a friend instead of the girl?

Feather Sandwich

Joined: 11/1/2008

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What code phrases do women see in men's profiles, and how do you translate them? Posted: 7/28/2009 6:01:32 PM
You ladies are amusing. Thank you for the laughs. Amusing? Amusing? A kitten playing with a cotton ball is amusing. Bucsgirl is freakin pee your pants hilarious!

Feather Sandwich

Joined: 11/1/2008

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Physical traits in a man that are not attractive to females...... Posted: 7/27/2009 9:25:33 AM
LMFAO!! THIS from a species that keeps the hair dye business operating... Hypocrisy thy name is woman. I wear make-up, skirts & high heels, and I think women probably keep those businesses going, too. Is it hypocritical to not want my man to wear them? I don't know why it is, but when men colour their hair, it never looks natural. They look older, actually, and desperate. Just btw, BDJ, how is that not a mullet?

Feather Sandwich

Joined: 11/1/2008

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Physical traits in a man that are not attractive to females...... Posted: 7/26/2009 10:33:43 PM
Manzoombas. I don't mind a little extra weight on a guy, prefer it actually if it's not sloppy. But guys should not have boobs.

Feather Sandwich

Joined: 11/1/2008

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Are there women out there who prefer big men (overweight) Posted: 7/26/2009 9:50:54 PM
HOLY CRAP.... I do not have a c*ck that will reach my feet... Jesus the pressure just keeps mounting.. OMG. Laugh? I thought I'd pee. I'm not overweight, but I'm not a tiny girl. I'm muscular and busty and leggy & substantial, and I like it that way. I like a man who is also muscular & substantial. I draw the line at busty.

Feather Sandwich

Joined: 11/1/2008

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It's almost impossible to find a good woman today Posted: 7/25/2009 6:34:45 PM
Some days are like that, OP. Just get a good rest & try again tomorrow.

Feather Sandwich

Joined: 11/1/2008

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Should I ask him out From an English lady Posted: 7/23/2009 3:23:41 PM
If he's in an English lady, he probably wants to be there. I'd leave him alone. Unless he's yelling for help, and then asking him to come out probably won't do any good. Maybe grab his ankles & give a good yank.

Feather Sandwich

Joined: 11/1/2008

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Canadian women hotter than American women Posted: 7/19/2009 10:50:15 PM
The only reason we close at 9 pm is cuz that's when we have to herd the polar bears home. It gets tricky between the igloos and we don't need a bunch of horny Americans getting in the way making them nervous.

Feather Sandwich

Joined: 11/1/2008

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Ladys, what's wrong with this reply Posted: 7/19/2009 4:36:39 PM
Ladys, what's wrong with this reply Just 2 things- Everything it says & how long it takes to say it.

Feather Sandwich

Joined: 11/1/2008

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GOLD BALLS? Posted: 7/15/2009 8:42:05 PM
I've been told I have brass ovaries. But gold balls? Nope. Now I'm kind of jealous. OP, of course you mean the gold seal thingy that mans you're "serious". As I understand it, some women were given them free when the idea was first implemented. That may be why it seems more women have them. It doesn't make any differnce to me if a man has one or not, I will contact or reply to him based on his message, profile, and pic. Now, if I got a nice message from a good-looking guy with a well-written profile & gold balls, I'd be about done here.

Feather Sandwich

Joined: 11/1/2008

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My friend who is utterly hopeless. You've got one, too. Posted: 7/14/2009 8:21:29 PM
Actually, I don't have a hopeless friend at all. My friends are all married or in long relaationships & most of them are happy. They're always fixing me up & giving me dating advice but it never seems to..... Oh, wait. Never mind.

Feather Sandwich

Joined: 11/1/2008

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What kind of man/woman do you think you attract? Posted: 7/13/2009 6:28:41 PM
The invisible kind. They send me funny, witty, & insightful invisible e-mails from their invisible computers.

Feather Sandwich

Joined: 11/1/2008

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Older women: would you date a man old enough to be your son? Posted: 7/12/2009 11:10:44 PM
I have a 10 years either side guideline, not a rule. If a much younger man, even one young enough to be my son, was smart & witty & interesting enough, & we had enough in common to make me want to spend time with him, I would consider dating & even sleeping with him. That's pretty unlikely though. Even just considering music and favourite TV, literature, & movie genres before getting to life experience. What are we going to have to talk & laugh about? Just for sex? Nope. If the only attraction is physical, it isn't attraction. It's admiration & for me, that doesn't require or inspire any action.

Feather Sandwich

Joined: 11/1/2008

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How often should men change their pictures on their profile? Posted: 7/2/2009 8:41:26 PM
Never. Men never change. They always look exactly the same as they did when they were 25, so that pic of them that was taken for the security pass for their first real job is still just fine. A little less hair, a little more jowl, glasses where there were none before? Details, details, he hasn't changed that much, you should use some imagination. Women are too damn picky, all looking for Brad Pitt. Their bodies never change, except to become more athletic as time passes. It's a true fact that, although even in the 20 year old pic the body may not be athletic, it certainly is now. The belly hanging over the belt? The caved-in chest & rounded shoulders that become noodle arms? Nooooo, ma'am, he owns a bicycle and a gym membership. He even went hiking once. That makes him athletic and you should be a little more realistic about your expectations. Changing your pics will just shock and confuse us at this point. If we see a pic of an actual middle-aged man, we'll assume it was taken when he was 25 and that will skew our whole screening system, so we'll all end up only writing and responding to 30 year old women with pics of their golden retrievers up.

Feather Sandwich

Joined: 11/1/2008

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have we met before? Posted: 7/1/2009 7:38:44 PM
Something kinda like this happened to me, only it was way creepier. I let my married friend use my place while I was at work for trysts with her married lover, who she met here. Yeah, I know, but she's my bff & I owe her a lot. He added me to his favourites & I sent him a little note to let him know who I am & he said he knew, my friend had told him my username. I didn't reply, just thought he maybe considered me kind of a friend since he was at my house once or twice a week. He started messaging me, asking about my day & so on. After a few of those, I sent him a message saying that I didn't like the direction he seemed to be going and that I had no interest in playing in someone else's sandbox. He said he didn't know what I meant, I didn't reply, and the messages stopped. Until she ended it with him. Then he started seriously messaging me. I blocked him right away, but what a creep. I asked my friend for my key back right after that & told her she couldn't use my sandbox for her playdates anymore.

Feather Sandwich

Joined: 11/1/2008

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What you can tell by their eye color Posted: 6/30/2009 8:15:08 PM
^^^^^ You can't catch it over the internet. Whether you meant to be or not, you were rude. If you don't like the poster, stay out of their thread.

Feather Sandwich

Joined: 11/1/2008

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Why? Posted: 6/27/2009 10:56:48 PM
I've done my best to resist, but it's futile. I am now on the long list of women a little bit in love with bodypro8.

Feather Sandwich

Joined: 11/1/2008

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Why? Posted: 6/27/2009 9:47:25 PM
This topic's been covered 789,234 times. Today. Someone, again, left the gate open at the Nice Guy dungeon. Who WAS it? OK, OK, I'm sorry. I opened it to throw in "What the HECK is going on?" & "it's time to see what u think ladies only". I had to wrestle with him a little bit, he's feisty for a nice guy, & I guess I didn't quite hip check the gate all the way closed. But jeezus, it's been busy at the dungeon tonight. A little help, maybe?

Feather Sandwich

Joined: 11/1/2008

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From a guy with custody of his kid Posted: 6/27/2009 8:00:36 PM
Everyone's kids mean the world to them, everyone loves and nurtures and protects their kids above all else. That isn't the same as them "always coming first" or "being my number one priority". I think this attitude that the sun should always rise and set on our kids' butts is largely to blame for the spoiled rotten, self-centred, entitled teens & young adults we see so often. My priorities change , sometimes very quickly. I think most people's do. My kids are often at the top, especially when they were very young. But sometimes my job has to come first, my sister, my house, gasp sometimes I am! Or OMG, yes I'm going to say it...sometimes my relationship needs to take priority over everything else. Part of raising kids responsibly is to teach them to be self-reliant, to be aware of others, that the universe does not revolve around them, and they will not always be the priority. Learning those things helps them to learn to prioritize in their own lives, to solve their own problems,and to see themselves realistically in the context of something bigger. A family, a team, a school, a workplace. I would not date a man who felt that his kids should always come first. Not because I'm selfish or not a good parent myself, but because I wouldn't agree with his lifestyle.

Feather Sandwich

Joined: 11/1/2008

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do you look for good or bad Posted: 6/25/2009 11:56:05 PM
It is my experience that what ever it is we wish to find, that is the thing we find. Really? Then I'm going to wish to find a Lexus in my driveway..no, wait, first a driveway so I don't have to park my new Lexus on the street... no wait, let's go all out & wish for a house with an attached garage, a virgin daughter who will go to Osgoode Hall instead of U of L, the banishment of that weird-ass wrinkle on the right-hand side of my mouth, speedy recoveries to my friend's sick husband & my son's sick friend, the right shoes for every outfit, never-ending good hair days, a yard boy who looks good & does good, & of course, the one thing that all women want..... chocolate lettuce. I have to go to bed now cuz I can't wait to wake up. W t h kind of crap is that, OP? The thing we wish is the thing we find? Go poop another rainbow. Somewhere else.

Feather Sandwich

Joined: 11/1/2008

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Something ALL women on pof should put in their profiles Posted: 6/25/2009 11:01:14 PM
^^^^ I don't know any women who behave like that. If I did, I would un-know them pretty quickly.

Feather Sandwich

Joined: 11/1/2008

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My hormones are killing my relationships... can u help?! Posted: 6/24/2009 7:12:04 PM
Try biting your fist, his shoulder, or a pillow. That should quiet those things down a little.

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