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cabana_boy

Joined: 11/10/2005

Msg: 202 (view)

characteristics of a sociopath/psychopath Posted: 5/17/2006 5:14:37 PM
there is one local profile of such a person, my girl's ex, whom her friends warned her about for years in our real life circle, who apparently "can answer your questions with a smile and a laugh", which is so phony that everyone picks up on it face to face. guy's been online dating for a decade and still single and has left quite the path of destruction in his wake. a self-admitted pathological liar who uses women for sex and everyone else, friends family employers, etc. for money. no conscience or remorse, and his whole life is everyone else's fault. serial cheater who even stole from his church and bosses this past year and cheated on every female he's ever met. just be careful as these monsters are dangerous.

cabana_boy

Joined: 11/10/2005

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Not falling out of love at the same time Posted: 5/17/2006 12:24:56 PM
for those of us who believe in real love and have a positive outlook on life, thanks for this post, which is exactly the nature of a long term commitment. i've seen relatives happily married for their entire lives also, and it is as simple as you stated. i think that sometimes people who are negative, bitter and cynical tend to project their own distorted vision onto others and relationships, looking for flaws and/or complications to justify their anger or fear of commitment. great post thanks, Angelyn, nice to know that others "get" it too.

cabana_boy

Joined: 11/10/2005

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So what really is wrong? Can we name it, is apathy the new epidemic? Posted: 5/17/2006 5:42:04 AM
i'm a huge fan of Lt. G. D'allaire as well psssst. also have heard him lecture and read my copy of his book "shake hands with the devil" over and over. it's a brilliant study of our society's apathy and the humanitarian cost of this ever increasing epidemic. each person can accomplish so much to improve our whole condition if they just put in some honest effort. i'm in complete agreement on that premise and try be a part of the solution, rather then a part of the problem. compared to what took place in rwanda and the atrocities that occur every day on the news, how can we even consider our problems as being remotely "significant"? i can't surround myself with small minded people with nothing but self-seeking as a goal, problems in socializing, being positive, loyal and having ethics, morals and values, other than getting a paycheck and sex. it's too discouraging.

cabana_boy

Joined: 11/10/2005

Msg: 137 (view)

Revenge or just walk away? Posted: 5/16/2006 10:50:30 AM
just let it go and meet some decent men. the wrongs people do revisit them tenfold, and if anyone's that much of a creep, given enough rope, they always hang themselves. no matter who they date their true nature emerges in no time and the same pattern will play out all over again. some people just have no class and are not worthy of your time or attention.

cabana_boy

Joined: 11/10/2005

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Need advice.....(cheaters) Posted: 5/15/2006 6:32:40 PM
hope this situation has been resolved. when players juggle women it's not love, it's false pride, ego and self will run riot. they don't care about anyone they hurt, just out for what's in it for them. they run from one woman to the next once the narcissistic supply needs to be replenished, so once they've used you all up you're of no use anymore. my girl's ex was talking marriage and looking at places to live together, all his ideas, and professing his undying love for over a year. then last summer she found pics of his former online ex who had tried to get her green card through him, cheated and dated dozens of other guys to accomplish this. he also cheated with some local females last year and ran up thousands of dollars in credit card debt, which he hid for months as well. he's a sociopath, but you can't get anything past her intellect and intuition. needless to say, he can go ahead and date all he wants 'cause he's never held himself, let alone a healthy relationship, together, in his tragic, miserable pathetic life. she joked that when he got a raise at work last year, "heck, you can buy a better gf then me", being entirely facetious, but he seemed to have taken that literally. with such rage at the world, his mother, the pedophile brother and never working out his issues properly, good luck with that buddy. newsflash also, you're ugly inside and out, but my girl saw you through the rose-coloured eyes of real love, a word that you'll never understand. we're moving into my house next week and she's pregnant anyway, so why don't you go jerk yourself a soda.

cabana_boy

Joined: 11/10/2005

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How to recognize an Abusive person? Posted: 5/15/2006 1:18:10 PM
man, are these people ever pervasive in our society. lot more great info. on here. our local boy/sociopath, and my baby's ex, could never tell the truth, over-criticized everyone, no conscience or accountability, the daily rages were "stess induced" or because he was a victim as a child. my girl's got phone messages and emails full of these false excuses and meaningless apologies. this guy even admitted that he "got an adrenaline rush from making her cry and deliberately inflicting pain". demand full psych. histories on the locals on here to avoid wasting your time on this one. he should go back into k.p.h. for a few more years.

cabana_boy

Joined: 11/10/2005

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Do guys consider women recovering from an abusive relationship broke? Posted: 5/15/2006 5:29:00 AM
well of course you're not broken and from all of your posts i'm in awe of how you've shared your experience, strength and hope with others. my girl's therapist, who specializes in abuse, told her to expect 2 full years of the hard daily work she's been doing, being single in the mean time, and then she might be fully healed. but those are just stats. and don't necessarily apply to everyone. their might be some lifelong impact on parts of the psyche, but again, not always. you seem like a very strong survivor who has overcome a great deal of trauma. you have probably inspired more people then you even realize on here. hopefully, you will know in your heart if and/or when, to confide in a new man, once he's earned your trust and respect. most of the people i know have been through some rough experiences, whether they admit it or not, and have the guts to face it head on and change for the better as you have. what an amazing feat. all the best in finding someone who is compassionate, wise and gentle in your life. you deserve no less.

cabana_boy

Joined: 11/10/2005

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IS THERE LOVE AFTER TWO ABUSIVE MARRIGES? Posted: 5/15/2006 5:00:06 AM
no offense memori, but you weren't married to "two different types of men" who were also supposedly "nice guys". you were married twice to the same type of man, an abuser, and there's nothing nice about that phony mask they were to prey upon great women. my gf's still in therapy and did a women's group last year after she left the final abuser in a long succesion of losers like this. you are a strong, amazing, beautiful person, and nobody has the right to treat you with disrespect. you're not a victim, but rather a survivor, and there are lots places where you can get help from professionals who recognize such creatures. they love to destroy self esteem, isolate you and blame their partners for their actions. with some effort you can take your life back, make no excuses for this nonsense and rebuild your confidence in time. you're a beautiful gem and your past with evil men is not your fault. wish you all the luck and success in finding a guy who will treat you with love; you deserve the very best in life and happiness will come your way.

cabana_boy

Joined: 11/10/2005

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How many of you would read your lovers private e-mail ? Posted: 5/12/2006 5:56:43 PM
never, no way, no how, under any circumstances. we've got each others passwords to everything online, but there's also mutual trust and respect. my girl has never accessed mine either. her ex read through these things last year and pulled some passive agressive/moral superiority bullshit, when she'd done nothing wrong and he repeatedly cheated. without asking for clarification, it would be easy to make false assumptions, especially when most of her contacts have always been from real life, sometimes sent inappropriate material or suggestions, which she set straight either in person or by phone. she never hacked his pc out of loyality and integrity; rather, he got busted cheating with his previous ex, among other females being juggled, and fessed up when his back was to the wall. the guilty are usually the mud-slingers as a means of trying to save face; talk about projection and denial.

cabana_boy

Joined: 11/10/2005

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How long has it taken you for your broken heart to heal? Posted: 5/12/2006 5:14:26 PM
there's no set amount of time, but it does matter how you choose to spend it. grieve the loss, lick your wounds, confide in friends and family for support, then in no time you'll be a much stronger, better person from the experience. you'll know in your heart when it's mended and be grateful for having learned such valuable wisdom, insight and compassion. once you're baggage-free and have slammed the door to the past shut, then love will find you all over again with someone that you're truly meant to be with.

cabana_boy

Joined: 11/10/2005

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Re: How dangerous is meeting someone from the online world? Posted: 5/12/2006 3:25:28 PM
what my girl did a few times last year was tell someone your whereabouts, do thorough background checks: financial, legal and psychiatric reports. never take people at their word and if all else fails, get some personal bodyguards/biker friends to "chat" with them.

cabana_boy

Joined: 11/10/2005

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Abusive relationships and criticism over others who do it. Posted: 5/11/2006 5:44:31 PM
it is the most cowardly, lowest form of human behaviour imaginable. my girl's still working on herself after almost a year since she left the last one. we copied his profile on here and printed it out, along with all of the emails where he owns up to the abuse and constant fits of rage. the answering machine tape's full of the same mea culpa on his part, so we're gonna take that to the authorities as well. he must be held responsible for the physical violence at the very least. karma's a real **** when it catches up to you. we've seen him around town sometimes and it's gotten to the point where doing nothing is clearly no longer an option. nobody deserves this abuse and my girl can't put others at risk for the same nightmare.

cabana_boy

Joined: 11/10/2005

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What are your deal breakers Posted: 5/11/2006 5:18:05 PM
a lack of honesty and integrity, no morals ethics or values, selfishness, cowards/bullies (same thing), people who completely misjudge others based upon negativity, lies and gossip.

cabana_boy

Joined: 11/10/2005

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Women who left Verbal/Emotional Abusers... Posted: 5/11/2006 1:00:13 PM
they need a lot of unconditional love and support. just talked my fiance into getting a peace bond and filing assault and battery charges against her ex. no amends or apology and she's finally had enough. he can't be allowed to hurt other women and needs to be locked up, especially with his new profile and psych. history, violent behaviour, etc. gee, hope he doesn't lose that new job, being such a great guy and all. what a joke.

cabana_boy

Joined: 11/10/2005

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When you know it is time to walk away......... Posted: 5/11/2006 11:28:14 AM
this seems to be the norm on here and sorry about what you've been through. our local sociopath has a new profile again, and he's my girl's ex from real life; nothing more than a liar, a cheater and a thief. mean to the core and no heart whatsover, never mind the false pretense of liking people on this site, whom he actually hates according to his emails., so he can lie and manipulate them into protecting his sorry ass. he ran out on her for the last time on sept. 5th last year and tried to push her from a moving car; just an emotional psychotic dangerous freakshow, which is only perceptible to those of us who have known him offline.

cabana_boy

Joined: 11/10/2005

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Is there anything better than revenge? Posted: 5/10/2006 5:36:14 PM
not sure what supposed trangression you are getting payback for, but exacting revenge is never a wise idea. the price is too high on our own character imho. we've all been hurt and this may seem like a natural impulse, but moving on and complete indifference are far more effective.

cabana_boy

Joined: 11/10/2005

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Your number one reason for kicking someone to the curb... Posted: 5/10/2006 5:20:42 PM
pathological lying, cheating, verbal and emotional abuse. kinda odd how the worst bullies are the best at playing the role of professional victims hmm?

cabana_boy

Joined: 11/10/2005

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He gets a government cheque Posted: 5/10/2006 3:44:41 PM
how can someone's worth be determined by anything other than character? with a back injury, your man can't work at most things and since when does a paycheque factor into a relationship? one of my male friends left his extremely lucrative profession recently, in order to devote more time to his live-in pregnant s.o. he claimed to have found a new level of happiness in prioritizing being a great partner/father ahead of his own ego-driven selfish materialistic goals. a person's value is immeasurable and what good is it to own all kinds of stuff if you've got noone to share it with? you could get run over tomorrow, wind up in traction for life and then what? real love and commitment is through all of the ups and downs, not just when it suits you.

cabana_boy

Joined: 11/10/2005

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Please help me get out. Posted: 5/10/2006 8:55:31 AM
wow, polly g's first post regarding in great detail what to do and the itemized list of what makes him an abuser, is dead on. my girl started the whole process of women's groups, therapy, reaching out to friends and family for support, when she got free last year of exactly what you've all described. good luck and hope that you will be safe and happy.

cabana_boy

Joined: 11/10/2005

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Favorite Quotes Posted: 5/9/2006 6:46:42 PM
~if you stand for nothing, than you will fall for everything~

cabana_boy

Joined: 11/10/2005

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Guys; help me out here before I'm driven insane!!!! Posted: 5/9/2006 5:15:50 PM
you've clearly got your act together and it's a testament to that fact if certain guys run when they realize that you can't be rushed, fooled or manipulated. when things don't ring true you catch onto that and won't tolerate it. congrats, you're a keeper.

cabana_boy

Joined: 11/10/2005

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Who is responsible? Posted: 5/9/2006 4:52:14 PM
we're all responsible for ourselves of course. nobody wastes our time and energy, it was our choice to invest it. being vulnerable involves the risk of getting hurt, but people only have any power over us if we choose to hand it over. every relationship involves 2 people, and the other person involved is responsible for their words and actions. property lines people.

cabana_boy

Joined: 11/10/2005

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Mountains out of Molehills Posted: 5/9/2006 3:18:55 PM
you're not crazy at all. this is dead on. insecurities, overreacting and over analyzing each minute detail, rather than just roll with it or ask your mate to clarify, does end relationships. why learn to open up and communicate when an assumption or tantrum will suffice? lol jk, great post russbear

cabana_boy

Joined: 11/10/2005

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Would you date an ex-con??? Posted: 5/9/2006 4:26:20 AM
don't think i've ever met one, but my girl has done some volunteer work in prisons over the years and is still in touch with several great male friends she met along the way. they're very loyal and protective of her, as am i. we all deserve at least one second chance, depending on the crime also. screw that up and there's no 3 strikes you're out.

cabana_boy

Joined: 11/10/2005

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Starting to see the same people over and over Posted: 5/9/2006 4:05:22 AM
haven't been on here that long, but if they're still single after so many years on all of the dating sites, now that would be something to make ya go hmm? no?

cabana_boy

Joined: 11/10/2005

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In love with 2 women Posted: 5/8/2006 6:24:22 PM
what is wrong with which men? ot: was being facetious with an old joke that means, if ya read it, either way, he deserves neither one. my girl's been through this and then some in the past, so i'm with her on this one.

cabana_boy

Joined: 11/10/2005

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Does internet dating encourage the shopper mentality? Posted: 5/8/2006 6:11:52 PM
personally no, it would not be cool to be looking to trade up to the "next best thing", especially when i've already got that at home. no matter how people or circumstances might change, if you love someone than you work it out for the long run imho. my partner is not something i bought on ebay, lol. she's got the whole package inside and out, so i'm gonna hang onto her. nobody could even match, let alone surpass, her kindness loyalty and integrity. real love is a rare and precious thing to be cherished. money can't buy this.

cabana_boy

Joined: 11/10/2005

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In love with 2 women Posted: 5/8/2006 1:31:21 PM
here ya go, problem solved. why not just flip a coin, heads they win and tales you lose.

cabana_boy

Joined: 11/10/2005

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What's the fastest you've ever fallen HARD for someone?? Posted: 5/8/2006 4:21:25 AM
sorry about your hubby Little Lady. ot, this happened in mere seconds last year, when i saw my girl crossing the sanitarium floor in a little blue sundress, lol jk, well, that's not where we met, never knew this existed, but then i saw her face, now i'm a believer. um hmm.

cabana_boy

Joined: 11/10/2005

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Can you sleep when you are cuddling? Posted: 5/7/2006 7:50:05 PM
depends on how mindblowing the sex was prior to the cuddling, lol. no wait, this could be done, "hug for her and a roll for me". ok, jk again. it's bedtime here on a school night and my lessons are not over so peace out and have fun you amazing people in the pond.

cabana_boy

Joined: 11/10/2005

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How do you stay in love? Posted: 5/7/2006 7:46:01 PM
complete trust respect honesty integrity loyalty and communication. make her and the relationship your priority. what we give to our s.o.'s comes back 100 fold if it is true love and sincerity. always keep your word and talk out any difficulties or misunderstandings with her. make her feel like every day is your first date and make her happiness, mentally physically and spritually, your most important objective. look for all of her positives constantly, be kind gentle and loyal but strong and supportive as well. don't ever forget what your life was like without her in it or how it might turn out if you take her for granted and blow it.

cabana_boy

Joined: 11/10/2005

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what put a major smile on your face today? Posted: 5/7/2006 3:43:42 PM
Sexy Toad's post is roflmao. wow, she's just as funny as she is beautiful. fyi, nah, she has no clue but does that make it wrong? lol/jk [Thread Closed - Forum Moderator - Do not Post]

cabana_boy

Joined: 11/10/2005

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how long should you be with someone before you meet the parents? Posted: 5/6/2006 6:20:59 PM
i'm on the exact flip side of your situation. my parents are mad for my girl of 9 months, but as for her friends and family, we're keeping it under wraps. when they ask who she's seeing it's usually met with, first name "nunya" and you know the rest. we're euphorically happy right now so why risk upsetting the status quo? they may get wedding invitations for this summer, but then again maybe not.

cabana_boy

Joined: 11/10/2005

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Men who are jealous, and the women who love them. Posted: 5/6/2006 5:20:07 PM
so true. jealousy doesn't cut it in a relationship. it's a compliment when other guys hit on her and it happens all the time, but my girl's coming home to me. her ring's in a safety deposit box and so many dudes are always diggin' for info. on her status. we have complete trust and respect for each other. end of story.

cabana_boy

Joined: 11/10/2005

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what put a major smile on your face today? Posted: 5/6/2006 5:14:00 PM
same as usual. watching my roommate doing her daily naked happy dance to inxs' "pretty vegas". now that's hot.

cabana_boy

Joined: 11/10/2005

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Are you Emotionally Intelligent? Posted: 5/6/2006 2:24:20 PM
i'd like to think so, lol, but it's not too credible if i say something about myself is it? my gf and i have a copy of the book "emotional intelligence", which is very fascinating. having happy healthy relationships requires this quality and it far outweighs i.q. in one's personal life interactions. my take on what this means is a good balance between the heart and mind. apparently some people suffer from emotional "alexithymia", coined by psychiatrists from the greek to describe patients who seemed utterly devoid of feelings and passion. initially considered to be just flatlined in this area, it's more a case of the inability to identify emotions and put words to them. if anything or anyone stirs up any feelings, love included, with such a person, "they find them baffling and overwhelming, to be avoided at all costs". it's one big jumbled mess in their head, which they can't understand or process at all. those of us who are passionate and have self-awareness are very fortunate to have these skills, but they are not innate to all people. with a little effort and perhaps some therapy, even these people who can't handle emotions can learn an effective way of doing just that.

cabana_boy

Joined: 11/10/2005

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ADDICTED TO PERSON - NEED HELP Posted: 5/6/2006 8:16:02 AM
or more likely you're addicted to sex itself, perhaps drama or endorphin rushes, etc. treat it like any other addiction; cut off all contact, work on yourself and don't beat yourself up over the occasional slip or relapse when in recovery, even from a toxic relationship. you might have moments of weakness and romanticize at times, but once you see this person or hear their voice, it will bring home the very reasons why they are not a part of your life anymore. good luck.

cabana_boy

Joined: 11/10/2005

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What is his problem? Posted: 5/3/2006 6:35:30 PM
my girl went through this with her ex for over a year until she finally snapped and just couldn't take anymore of the lying cheating and abuse...it was the breaking point where she knew this guy could never be in her life again...the affairs, the obsession, this constant cycle of breakups/makeups and juggling other women, which she caught onto...all of the empty promises to change broken, just like her heart...you warn someone for that long that one day you will have had enough and this guy just won't get it...he's in denial about what he's done and she's still in therapy to rebuild her shattered dreams...he won't loose any sleep with no conscience or fully grasp the damage he's done, not that he cares...the only solution does seem to be cutting off all contact and moving on...that's not love at all, it's just really messed up...

cabana_boy

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revealing too much Posted: 4/24/2006 4:17:11 PM
no such thing if you're with someone that claims to be in love and trustworthy. it's a healthy form of bonding within a committed relationship. an emotionally available man will put all of his cards on the table too. what a shame that some people can sink to such a depth of mistreating others. having your trust betrayed must just suck. it's so spiteful, childish and petty; not to mention the fact that you know all of the skeletons in his closet also. the typical sociopath gets kicks by inflicting pain for sport and has no conscience whatsoever, so they're not the best dating material. there are a few locals of this nature on here, so it's best to be careful, but don't ever blame yourself or miss out on all of the great single men who are available and would be happy to meet you.

cabana_boy

Joined: 11/10/2005

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Was it something I did? Posted: 4/23/2006 1:52:42 PM
omg, this man needs to be charged for assaulting your innocent child. throughout this thread i've noticed you wondering perhaps what you did that "changed him from a seemingly nice normal guy into an abusive monster". unfortunately, the evil side is his true character and all the rest was one big put on. my girl's ex is the same creature and he's never fooled any women for more than a few months at best. just be careful 'cause this is one dangerous jekyll & hyde mental illness. good luck and don't beat yourself up too much. good honest trusting women are no match for sociopaths.

cabana_boy

Joined: 11/10/2005

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When someone says I'll never hurt you... Posted: 4/21/2006 6:29:59 PM
i'd be seriously doubting their emotional maturity level. we're all human beings and noone can keep such an unrealistic promise. hopefully it won't be intentional and can be resolved through communication. what makes a healthy relationship work for me is not the unavoidable curve balls in life, but the character-defining manner we choose to conduct ourselves in, with love honour patience acceptance and tolerance.

cabana_boy

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what did i do wrong Posted: 4/21/2006 5:15:44 PM
nothing sugar. your ex has serious issues like control, jealousy and insecurity. no amount of honesty, loyalty or reassurance would have changed that. he needs professional help so try to be strong and place the responsibility for his cruelty back on him where it belongs. any sane rational decent man will cherish you, love you and be proud at the priceless gem they have found. much peace and love will come your way.

cabana_boy

Joined: 11/10/2005

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What are your pet peeves on profiles? Posted: 4/20/2006 5:13:44 AM
while it's not by definition a "pet peeve", i'm curious to know why people would post direct quotes from p.o.f. members which include their nicknames. i know this is against the forum rules and find it unethical to see this on a profile to say the least. just a thought.

cabana_boy

Joined: 11/10/2005

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How to recognize an Abusive person? Posted: 4/20/2006 4:31:48 AM
a few more red flags i've noticed are having a generally negative attitude, a tendency to avoid responsiblity for things, usually their own history of abuse where they might identify with the perpetrator and act out what they've been through themselves. usually there's some difficulty in sustaining any healthy relationships, quite often they have a very short fuse and anger over minor things. usually denial and/or minimizing plays a role as an adjunct to blaming others for what's wrong with them. perhaps there is hope with rigorous honesty, a look in the mirror and going to therapy with a sincere desire to change. trust your gut instincts and if they refuse proper treatment it may be time to cut your losses. good luck.

cabana_boy

Joined: 11/10/2005

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Why do guys want to keep you hanging? Posted: 4/19/2006 10:37:50 AM
it's like having a safety net while they walk the tightrope, like my girl's ex lied stole and slept with every teenage nubile on the planet. they're cowards who hate themselves and can't stand to be alone. get rid of this parasite and find a real decent man. this type is a child trapped in a grownup body with nothing to offer but a lifetime of misery, not that they ever take real responsibility for their crap or change at all.

cabana_boy

Joined: 11/10/2005

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How to recognize an Abusive person? Posted: 4/19/2006 10:13:57 AM
my girl's ex is one abusive s.o.b. the initial charm and kindness is just an act to use women until the mask falls off to reveal the dirtbag underneath. never date these monsters and grasp the fact that they never cared about anyone but themselves and never change.

cabana_boy

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What do you fear Posted: 4/17/2006 1:49:35 PM
although i've never actually seen one in real life i just gotta say that****oaches on t.v. or in movies scare the bejeezes outta me...if one were to appear in my house i'd no doubt be standing on a kitchen chair screaming like a wee schoolgirl.

cabana_boy

Joined: 11/10/2005

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What is the biggest age difference you would date? Posted: 4/17/2006 1:39:29 PM
aside from the obvious legal issues, there is no target age range. my girl is a smokin' hot older babe, who also has no hang ups about this. it's about finding love and being happy.

cabana_boy

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Taking her for granted... Posted: 4/15/2006 4:00:10 PM
wake up each day and remind yourself what you love about her. daily communication is the key to avoiding misunderstandings or resentments. if one stuffs their true feelings down it will boil over at some point and blindside your s.o. be kind, gentle loyal and honest. give your word, keep it. don't shut down or run like bambi caught in the headlights, lol. clean up your side of the street, keep your hands and conscience clean and you'll be loved like no other has ever known. you get out of a relationship exactly what you put into it. if all else fails, then seriously ponder what it feels like to lose this person forever. be careful what you wish you 'cause you just might get it.

cabana_boy

Joined: 11/10/2005

Msg: 26 (view)

All that and a bag of chips.... Posted: 4/14/2006 3:34:21 PM
omg yea...my girl's ex changed into a lying cheating megalomaniac while they were involved for over a year, but had known each other in real life for over a decade...with all of the unconditional love and support, forgiveness & trust she gave with her whole heart, just seemed to create a monster...ironic how the very love we seek our whole lives is blown to bits by the false pride and ego of one who thinks it's all them who's suddenly a chick magnet, when their real confidence stems from being part of a solid team who can share everything and grow stronger & closer as a result...she woulda taken a bullet for that guy, but he preferred to only play games...oh well, his loss is my gain...

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