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Cleomenes

Joined: 11/3/2008

Msg: 17 (view)

Serious member intimidating? Posted: 3/15/2009 8:19:35 PM
No, not intimidating. I also agree with the masses that it's not really an indication of anything. If you really want to show somebody you are serious about dating, start getting out those first contact E-mails.

Cleomenes

Joined: 11/3/2008

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What do guys daydream? Posted: 3/5/2009 8:19:10 PM
I usually daydream that I'm an astronaut, and if I'm driving, my car is a spaceship. And if it's night time, that my headlights are laser beams.

Cleomenes

Joined: 11/3/2008

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Why do men want to meet after a 3 minute conversation? Posted: 2/24/2009 9:41:38 PM
Well Op, like the other men AND women have said here, why waste time chatting to a monitor. You have said you have been out of the dating scene a while, and i guess that's why you don't really understand the "wasting time" answer. If you are on here long enough, you will undoubtedly run into the other end of the spectrum far more than you will like...... You will run into many who do the E-mail/chat for a year or two, and never hint at wanting to meet. You will run into the people who say they want to meet, then when you agree, they decline, or disapear. You will run in to people who will spend all their/your free time E-mailing and chatting for a few weeks and vanish without a trace for no apparent reason. You will E-mail and chat with somebody for weeks, maybe months, thinking they are the greatest guy in the world, only to meet them and realize that there is no chemistry between you in real life. You will Spend weeks/months E-mailing chatting an awsome guy, only to meet and find out he is 15 years older than his stated age, and 50 pounds heavier than his profile pic. You will likely then look back at this thread and wonder what you were thinking.

Cleomenes

Joined: 11/3/2008

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understanding a man Posted: 2/24/2009 9:12:05 PM
You should go over and ask him why. While you are at it, ask for the stuff back to see where you really stand. it's either A-he isn't over you. or B- he is very over you, and just purchased "The complete idiot's guide to voodoo."

Cleomenes

Joined: 11/3/2008

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How do you feel about relocation? Posted: 2/22/2009 7:39:16 AM
Not for me. Especially if you have never met in R/L. You really do not know much about a person until you start hanging out with them frequently....imagine picking up and restarting your life based on a lie....

cleomenes

Joined: 11/3/2008

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Gents do you mind/like it if your girlfriend ..... Posted: 2/19/2009 9:54:13 AM
I would say that's a bit much. It's a nice thought, but everyday hearing that I'm the greatest guy on the planet and all that, and I would start to feel smothered. I would also have to question the sincerity of it.....I would eventually think she was just saying those things because she thinks she's supposed to. I think once or twice a week is the most you should/could tell a guy he is the best thing ever, without comming off as clingy or insecure.

Cleomenes

Joined: 11/3/2008

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Indian giver dates... Posted: 2/18/2009 12:19:45 PM
Well honestly, yes OP. Your profile is fun, but also a little intimidating. Somebody who has not known you for a very long time may not always be able to tell exactly when and if you are joking about some things, especially online. I read somewhere around here somebody (sorry, can't remember the poster or the thread, but credit due.) said they should change the name of this site to "poof" for "plenty of obscure fish" on account of all the mysterious dissapearances to occur around here. That is probably a good idea. Has happened to me also, not gender specific, and I would not consider myself to be intimidating in the slightest, so go figure. I think alot of people on here just love the fantasy and the security of hiding in the digital world, where real life can't touch them.

Cleomenes

Joined: 11/3/2008

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Men and rejection Posted: 2/18/2009 11:08:10 AM
Thread search please

Cleomenes

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I think I'm broken. Posted: 2/17/2009 8:27:49 PM
Well, I was going to tell you how you made a huge mistake not asking her out to answer her gay question, then I saw in the next post that you did.....good for you. At least now you know where you stand/stood with her, and it sounds like it was some place you don't/didn't really want to be....again, good for you. Finally, no offense, but this girl does not sound like a very good friend, or a very warm person for that matter. It's one thing to reject a friend, if you are not interested in them romantically, but to call you her sister, was pretty rude and indifferent to your feelings. I seriously doubt she would like it if she worked up the courage to ask a friend out, only to be told he thinks of her like a brother. I think you should tell her that if you ever speak to her again.... my advice would be not to though. Again, this girl sounds like a cold fish. Better off with out her, seriously.

Cleomenes

Joined: 11/3/2008

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Do women Not like to be asked out anymore? Posted: 2/17/2009 7:26:56 PM
Ok. Been reading around the forums, and I have noticed something very peculiar. It seems whenever a guy asks if a place is acceptable to ask somebody out, the answer is pretty much always no. Bar/club-Not looking to meet there. Gym-want to be left alone. Work-considered unacceptable. Resturaunts and diners- people usually already are with an S/O when they go. Volunteer places/activities-considered tacky. Malls- considered creepy. So, I have to ask, is there acually any place where you would LIKE a guy to approach you? Or would you just rather be left alone, and do the intitial contact nowadays?

Cleomenes

Joined: 11/3/2008

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women that talk like men Posted: 2/16/2009 5:33:41 PM
Well it depends on the woman. As for me, i can usually tell when she is putting on a show or an act....Big turn off. If it's you, own it. What's really attractive is being yourself. Even though it sounds like it came from a fortune cookie, it's the truth.

Cleomenes

Joined: 11/3/2008

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I'm curious... Posted: 2/16/2009 12:26:40 PM
I agree with message 2. The sooner the better, that way you can just see how different in real life she is from her profile and glamor shots, without the waste of 2 or 3 weeks of e-mails. You can't measure chemistry on a pc. OP if you are finding guys are not initiating phone or real life contact, maybe you should start doing it. Many females on here are skittish about meeting too quick, which makes some guys skittish about initiating outside contact.

Cleomenes

Joined: 11/3/2008

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Does he have a girlfriend? Posted: 2/16/2009 12:17:26 PM
We do not know this guy or his situation if you want to know if he is interested the easiest thing to to do would be to ask what's the worst that could happed he will say no at least you will have saved yourself some time and energy

Cleomenes

Joined: 11/3/2008

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Bad communication? Posted: 2/15/2009 2:43:23 PM
Yes, this was very bad communication, you two should have had this talk about 2 months ago. Both of you would have been saved alot of time and energy. That is why I like to meet ASAP. Some people like imaginary relationships for some reason. All that time for nothing, and like you said, even if you did meet, no guarantees.

Cleomenes

Joined: 11/3/2008

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Is he gay or just not interested? Posted: 2/15/2009 2:21:07 PM
WTH? This is the second "is he gay?" thread on front page here. OP, Believe it or not, there are guys out there who don't revolve their lives around sex. As stated by other posters, maybe he isn't that attracted to you, or maybe you are, in fact not good in bed. So if you go on a date with a guy, and don't put out, we can all assume you are a lesbo, right?

Cleomenes

Joined: 11/3/2008

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Ever fallen for a girl you didn't find attractive at first? Posted: 2/15/2009 2:03:45 PM
Have you ever fallen (in serious love or lust) with a girl you didn't find attractive when you first met her? -ONCE. How about someone you found UNATTRACTIVE when you first met her? -NO.

Cleomenes

Joined: 11/3/2008

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If a guy becomes more distant when he's dating, does that mean he likes you? Posted: 2/15/2009 1:50:50 PM
umm, no, sorry. What you describe sounds like somebody who is in a relationship. That usually means less time for friends, especially ones of the opposite sex.

Cleomenes

Joined: 11/3/2008

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Why doesn't he respond? Posted: 2/15/2009 1:46:16 PM
Not responding for a bit, forgetting the phone number, cutting messages short....for me personally, would send the message you weren't very interested and just being polite. Honestly, like most on here, he probably sent out a few e-mails. Chances are somebody responded more positively to him than you did, and with all the people who play the online dating games, sometimes it's just not worth it to keep correspondence with somebody who does not seem that interested. I agree, you should e-mail him telling him exactly what you posted here, see what he says. If you get no response, you will have you answer anyway.

Cleomenes

Joined: 11/3/2008

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Was he interested? Posted: 2/9/2009 2:36:13 PM
Probably he was interested. Key word-WAS. If you remember insulting him, you can be sure he remembers being insulted. Time to either be adult enough to apologize or let it go.

Cleomenes

Joined: 11/3/2008

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Answering questions Posted: 2/4/2009 9:05:36 PM
Weellll....There's nothing really wrong with your answers OP....except, well, there not really answers. The things you list are kinda vague, and shouldn't really be bonuses, they should be givens in any relationship. If I asked a girl that question and got those answers, I don't think I would dissapear, but it certainly would make me sleepy.

Cleomenes

Joined: 11/3/2008

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romantic to guys Posted: 2/3/2009 8:37:10 PM
Build a statue/shrine to me...please leave out the love handles in the sculpt. Thank you.

Cleomenes

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Do you really smoke??? Posted: 2/3/2009 8:33:38 PM
I put that I smoke on my profile, but I really don't. weeds out the anti-smoking nazis.

Cleomenes

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What is thought – those words in our head ? Posted: 1/25/2009 11:30:27 AM
Human thought is just the evolution of animal instinct. A very advanced instinct. Words are just man made tools. How can a deaf person think with out words? Again the words are just man made tools. I would imagine it the same way you would watch a person who speaks a foreign language go through a very stressed situation. You don't understand the words, but the facial expressions and gestures would be very familiar.

Cleomenes

Joined: 11/3/2008

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Jesus and the Halls of Montezum Posted: 1/25/2009 11:05:14 AM
Absurd? Maybe. Nessecary? Certainly. What sort of world would we be living in if the allies didn't send young men off to "murder" Hitler and the natzis? Who knows, but it almost certainly wouldn't be a good one. You could very well argue that the world wars were nessecary to preserve gods creation. Yes I understand most wars aren't as noble or righteous as those were, but I also so know soldiers do not get to choose what wars they fight in.....That is the job of the politicians who send them.( Ironicaly the vast majority of politicians in this country proclaim Chiristianity.) So I argue that the world will always need soldiers, and it they will always need comfort when facing possible death at almost any moment. So the saying goes "no aetheists in a fox hole". It's the whole beathbed Christian syndrome. When you know, or know there is a good chance you will be leaving this world for the next, it's a very tough thing for most to face without religion. For the record, I guess I would be called an agnostic, but I can certainly see the moral/mental value of carrying a cross into battle. I would say your second inclination is correct, OP.

Cleomenes

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can non-pot smokers handle pot smokers? Posted: 1/24/2009 10:26:07 AM
I have dated one or two, and possibly would again, as I have no problem with pot smokers in general. The problem is that I have yet to find a pot smoker who doesn't try to push it on me 24/7. That is the main reason I beleive pot users and non-users generally don't mix well. The poster who said smokers are more tolerant than non-smokers is very wrong....unless by tolerant they meant try to force their illegal habit on you constantly. Like I said I have no problem people who smoke weed, or dating one, that is if I could ever run into one who didn't ask me to get high everyday.

Cleomenes

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Disappearing acts Posted: 1/23/2009 10:41:04 AM
Op, this is not new, and not gender specific. It happens to us all, and if you date long enough, especially online, I will put money down that you too will eventually do this to somebody.....if you haven't already.

Cleomenes

Joined: 11/3/2008

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should I keep him or move on?? Posted: 1/22/2009 7:36:34 PM
I have to agree with aloha. This can't really be called dating....You are freinds with benefits, if not just freinds.

Cleomenes

Joined: 11/3/2008

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Why Would He? Posted: 1/21/2009 9:18:37 AM
Simple, he doesn't know what love is yet. I am assumming(hoping) he is very young and inexperienced with life. Like alot of young guys, he equates "love" with physical attraction, and looks. And op, that s pretty violent, I think you do in fact have a violent streak in you. Violence never solves anything. Peace.

Cleomenes

Joined: 11/3/2008

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When do I say I have had cancer or do I? Posted: 1/21/2009 9:09:42 AM
op, I don't really think it nessecary to put in the profile, but that is something I would like to know early on. Then again if you are not terminal, I am not one of the ones who would have a problem with it. Might as well let them know early and find out which they are, rather than finding out later they can't handle it. Either way, like with everything else, honesty is the best policy.

Cleomenes

Joined: 11/3/2008

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HELP ME? Posted: 1/20/2009 10:49:22 PM
well then, if youare saying you "can't get any guy", then self- esteem could be an issue. Looks matter a little, obviously some attraction has to be there. If you asking about real life, it's hard to say no one here knows you, your freinds may think you have a great personality, but one persons good personality is another persons annoying. If you mean help on here, I just checked your profile, and the only thing that really stood out was---prefer not to say, under the do you do drugs category. Now I'm not trying to call you out on it, I know your young and probably in the um, "experimental" stage of life, but you may want to be more up front about that, and maybe expalin it a bit.(provided you are not a junkie of some kind) That answer pretty much means yes to people anyway, and could be a deal breaker.

Cleomenes

Joined: 11/3/2008

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HELP ME? Posted: 1/20/2009 10:19:51 PM
Wait....are you saying you WANT your male freinds to use you for one night stands!? Weird, but whatever works for ya.....But well, without a picture it's kinda hard to do the "your not ugly" thing, sorry. On a side note, if you really want to bang one of them, and they don't find you attractive, you may find getting them utterly sh*tfaced on vodka may do the trick. Goodluck.<img src=http://www.plentyoffish.com/smiles/icon_201.gif border=0> editing, ah I see you have a pic up now, and no your'e not ugly imo. The vodka trick should still work though, and if not, there's plenty of fish in the sea. Not sure where I've heard that.

Cleomenes

Joined: 11/3/2008

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are feet sexy ? Posted: 1/19/2009 11:54:17 AM
Op, I think you put too much though into what other people think. You say you feel guilty for finding open toed feet with painted toe-nails sexy....Maybe they spent time painting them because they wanted somebody to find them attractive? As for the fetish thing......remember, everything in moderation, and you'll be fine.

Cleomenes

Joined: 11/3/2008

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Out of Curiosity... Posted: 1/19/2009 11:46:24 AM
Tom-boys are ok....not all the time though. it's cool if a girl doesn't mind getting her hands dirty, but guys do want to see their women in skirts and make-up also. There is a happy medium somewhere.

Cleomenes

Joined: 11/3/2008

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do men dislike this? Posted: 1/19/2009 9:27:02 AM
Yes, men love it. If you don't beleive that, you should do a thread search on women making the first move. You will see about a hundred men say they like it for one that doesn't. The ones you are contacting just aren't interested.

Cleomenes

Joined: 11/3/2008

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whats wrong with me Posted: 1/18/2009 11:59:23 PM
He's not a player, he's not a jerk, there's nothing wrong with you, there's nothing wrong with him. Your'e great, he's great, everyone's great....I bet the new girl he met is great too. She is also not 3 hours away, so I'm not seeing the issue.(personally I wouldn't drive 3 hours to meet the pope, let alone a date.)

Cleomenes

Joined: 11/3/2008

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i've e-mailed AND im'd him and he doesn't respond Posted: 1/18/2009 10:56:11 PM
Well honestly, you could be a challenge by not sending him unanswered e-mail after unanswered e-mail. That DOES scream of lack of self respect, joking or not. C'mon OP...there's only like a million guys on here, wouldn't you rather e-mail somebody who might be interested?

Cleomenes

Joined: 11/3/2008

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i've e-mailed AND im'd him and he doesn't respond Posted: 1/18/2009 10:48:56 PM
One guy??... Wow, what will you do when you find out almost 90% of e-mails go unanswered in the online dating world?? And no, he is not interested. If he is not on your veiwed me list, he didn't even check out the profile. hint.

Cleomenes

Joined: 11/3/2008

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How weird is this, guys??? Posted: 1/18/2009 10:12:30 PM
Yes, I concur. What sort of riff-raff would lower themselves to consort with blue collar, peasant, women-folk. The mere thought obviously means the scoundrel is uncouth and lacks taste of any kind. Seriously though OP, leave it alone, not one thing in your post makes this situation sound like a good idea. (thanks for the blue collar part though, I got a kick out of that)

Cleomenes

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The friend role???? Posted: 1/18/2009 10:02:32 PM
I don't really get why would you be too shy to ask out somebody you've already slept with....Sorry, I'm not buying the "He doesn't remember" thing, and neither should you. This is one odd freindship though. It sounds like you are already out of the freind role, and in some weird in between freind/fwb zone. If you do work up the courage, you should be prepared for a negative response though. Honestly, claiming not to remember sleeping with you, along with all that time of platonic freindship, may mean he is not interested in a real relationship.

Cleomenes

Joined: 11/3/2008

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I love you but it's over WTF is that??? Posted: 1/18/2009 9:33:10 PM
WTF exactly....from your post, you told him you weren't sure about your feelings for him, and you are upset he wouldn't relocate to another state to be with you!? I'm sorry, but this is the only WTF I'm seeing here. Any guy would have had to be completely insane to even consider doing that.

Cleomenes

Joined: 11/3/2008

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Is there a dating season? Posted: 1/18/2009 8:28:09 PM
Most likely. I have noticed women to be more receptive in the spring. I would think that with valentines day comming they wouldn't want to be alone, but maybe they just figure it's akward to start so soon before it.(to hang out or not to hang out.) Yes, spring time is the time for loving.(at least that's what I keep telling myself!)

Cleomenes

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Asking a guy if he finds you attractive Posted: 1/18/2009 11:54:32 AM
I would have to agree with the others here. If you were always saying you were ugly to him, one can only assume you have unreasonably low self-esteem, or were fishing for compliments all the time. Either of those traits are very unattractive, not to mention highly annoying. The poor guy. OP, would you want to date a guy who always wondered if you thought he was ugly?

Cleomenes

Joined: 11/3/2008

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We're all gonna be OKAY!!! Perhaps... Posted: 1/18/2009 11:33:18 AM
Nobody has a perfect life, even the best of us have problems. Sometimes the best you can do is try to do some damage control and keep the waters from drowning level, but that's OK because that makes you a better swimmer in the long run. Actually I have no idea what I just said. When my problems seem overwhelming, I usually just go back to working on my time machine creation, so I can go back and change things. (It's actually more thraputic than you would think.)

Cleomenes

Joined: 11/3/2008

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What Playgirl women want: hairy, chubby and poor? Posted: 1/16/2009 8:40:36 PM
Well last time i chexked 42 and 47 percent were still the minority, which would explain why chuby, scruffy guys generally do not get hit on by the hotties. lol, They also left out the survey where over 70% of their readers are old gay men who have love handles and chesthair themselves. So I've heard.

Cleomenes

Joined: 11/3/2008

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Dating a much older woman Posted: 1/15/2009 7:48:53 AM
being a guy of that age, I will say simply that I tend to date people I like and am attracted to, regardless of age. (keeping it legal ofcourse) Something to think over if your really looking for long term - When that 30 yr. old guy becomes your age, you will be in your mid-seventies. I am not sure how that would work.

Cleomenes

Joined: 11/3/2008

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Is it all about looks for guys? Posted: 1/15/2009 7:24:57 AM
Is it all about looks? Yes...if that's all she has to offer. The women who complain that guys only care about their looks need to take a look at themselves and and see if they bring anything else to the table. If they are complaining that guys WON'T date them for their looks, well they can improve in that area too.

Cleomenes

Joined: 11/3/2008

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Getting a guy to go see the (ugh!) doctor Posted: 1/8/2009 8:23:03 AM
Simple, guys hate doctors. The only way to him there against his will, is to shoot or stab him repeatedly until the blood loss becomes unbearable. Once there ask the doc to do a blood pressure check.

Cleomenes

Joined: 11/3/2008

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Dating Identical Twins Posted: 1/8/2009 8:15:57 AM
Persia!? I hope they didn't really tell you that. If this happens to be a real post.....my answer would be it doesn't really matter which one you date, because you know nothing about either of them. Persia, really? lol.

Cleomenes

Joined: 11/3/2008

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you see something you want you go after it.. Posted: 1/7/2009 10:07:45 AM
I have seen this statement often on this site. Probably from almost half the women here, in context to making the first move/asking a guy out. I was wondering what exactly makes a guy irresistable enough to you for you to break out of the shell and make the first move?

Cleomenes

Joined: 11/3/2008

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What does it mean when? Posted: 1/6/2009 9:48:55 PM
Pffftt...maners are so '90s. Not sure when exactly it was decided, but dissapearing is the new "not right for me". It's not you dude, it happens to us all.

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