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Robglide

Joined: 11/11/2005

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Why won't Women Date Nice Romantic Overweight Gentlemen Posted: 4/2/2006 11:27:01 AM
It's down to this my brother: lose the weight for you and your mental/physical being, women will come as a collateral effect. Not for nothin', work out / go for a walk 4 times week minimum, and your life will change for the better, bet me. I'm following my own advice; if you do fine, otherwise you need to find your own truth. Best of luck to you!!

Robglide

Joined: 11/11/2005

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what is so wrong with me? Posted: 2/6/2006 8:37:02 PM
Do you really want to know what's wrong with you? You're not patient! Please don't feel 30 is a magic number, where if you're not hitched up and hooked up with a guy you'll be sent to non-desirable-chick land or something. The reality is you haven't found what you're looking for yet, and it may happen tomorrow, day after, year after - but it will happen! Stay out there and look, meet, network. My mom's b/f passed from a heart attack, it took her 15 years to want/find another guy. She's not you, nor you her, but my point is it can take time, be it a second, hour or day. And not for nothing, I hate to tell you this but after 30 (oddly enough) time starts passing like cars on a NASCAR track. So cherish the times right now!! Savor them! Make them enjoyable to you and your child! You'll be glad you did. Now get your a*** out there and be happy! ps - you are a pretty thing, and if your personality is as nice as your smile, you'll find a chap quite sooner than you think....

Robglide

Joined: 11/11/2005

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The Dreaded V Day... Posted: 1/29/2006 7:13:30 PM
Know what you mean little missy. Now check this... Her birthday on the 5th, we married on the 13th, and of course, Valentine's Day (her Superbowl) the 14th. On June 2, she was killed in a fiery car crash. Still kicks my ass? You bet. Almost three weeks of pure hatin' February, and of course June 2. But, I can truthfully tell you that if a stake is driven into your heart, and they keep twisting it to boot, after long enough you get used to it. And you figure out how to make those days ok again, if not somehow special to you. I got it where it all needs to be, but I might lift your idea and give it a go. Mind? Thanks, and peace to ya.........

Robglide

Joined: 11/11/2005

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Question to all the guys out there......... Posted: 1/28/2006 9:43:52 PM
If the relationship isn't working and/or you aren't happy, then you got two choices: gut it out, or practice burping the worm. But, why be unhappy?

Robglide

Joined: 11/11/2005

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So scared of a broken heart that you unconsciously ignore the signs of new relationships...? Posted: 1/28/2006 8:16:13 AM
Could be right on the dollar there little darlin'. Been over 6 years since I've been widowed and outside of several short relationships, my heart is still empty. Could be a sub-conscious fear of having it ripped out like a dandylion on a green lawn. BUT - maybe it's really because the right person hasn't come along? Or, there's this path each of us is on, and it hasn't taken the little fork in the road yet, the one where your mate awaits. Dunno....

Robglide

Joined: 11/11/2005

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I could never understand people who commit suicide over heartbreak..........until now. Posted: 1/27/2006 8:31:22 PM
Straight up from one who knows all too well. You go day by day and build up a life again, you put your head down and bull your way through it until you can raise you head up again and see a better day. If someone takes their own life from the loss or heartbreak, they are taking the easy way out. And that is not their right to do. It's that person's body, but what they'd leave behind in grieving family and friends make it wrong and that's that. Suck it up, remember to live and go on. Anything less is unacceptable. I did it, you do it. Good luck brother.....

Robglide

Joined: 11/11/2005

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How long has it taken you for your broken heart to heal? Posted: 1/26/2006 8:55:48 PM
Almost 7 years and counting, dog.........

Robglide

Joined: 11/11/2005

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Why do people do this? Posted: 1/25/2006 6:20:41 AM
Eh, you're running into the flotsam and jetsam of the dating environment. Give it time, you're a pretty girl and you'll find whom you're looking for when it's time for you to do so. Hang in there little missy.......

Robglide

Joined: 11/11/2005

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stereotypes and dissillusionment Posted: 1/23/2006 9:07:35 PM
And who started that stuff about us guys being no more than upright dogs with paychecks? Bark.....

Robglide

Joined: 11/11/2005

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Cold, lonely nights....and sleeping alone Posted: 1/23/2006 6:21:04 PM
Veteran of the sideways pillows for almost seven years. Get used to it, or get ya a fella. I went to Pic 'n Save and got me a body pillow shaped like a dolphin. Turn to the left, I got pillow. Turn to the right, I have this goofy Flipper staring me straight in the mug. What the heck, you gotta put your arm around something! I know, not lot's of help, but we're all rootin' for ya!!

Robglide

Joined: 11/11/2005

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How do you get over someone famous. Posted: 1/22/2006 10:00:42 PM
Don't matter if they're the Pope, Yogi Bear, Yogi Berra or even Tom Arnold. Person is a person, bottom line. Get over them and move on. Best of luck, peace out

Robglide

Joined: 11/11/2005

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Why Does It Hurt Posted: 1/22/2006 9:56:41 PM
Wanna know why it hurts so bad? Because when it's right, if feel's like nothing on earth. Hope it works out for you, have faith that it will..... peace out

Robglide

Joined: 11/11/2005

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Sore men and their egos.... Posted: 1/22/2006 10:23:40 AM
Hey Ima Maybe you might bring a friend along on the next kaffee klatch. No, not always possible, but a wing person can be a good thing, in theory. And what the heck is a "bage"? Is that like French or something? Anyway, be cool, be careful!

Robglide

Joined: 11/11/2005

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I want to die Posted: 1/18/2006 6:31:01 PM
Hello there little buckaroo; I'd like to offer you a nugget or two of some hard earned wisdom. I'm not sure it will make you feel any better, because reality has a way of emulating sand in your bathing suit. I want to die. Tell you what, those words bug me. First some boring background, then my point. I lived with the love of my life for a few years, we went through some times but it was a most joyous ride for the both of us. She worked out a long, draining divorce, and finally a few months later we decided to get married. I remember a night in April, few weeks after we were married, we watched a Simpson's episode dealing with a character's divoce. After which, I held her, looked her in the eye and told her I was going to be the best husband she'd ever had. 6 weeks later, she was on her way to work when her car was rear-ended less than 10 minutes from home; car blew up, and she died from 4th degree burns over 90% of her body, and smoke inhalation - which meant she was most likely conscious during her passing. Now I'd gladly have given my life for hers, no ifs and or buts. To this day I'm still missing her like I can't even describe, but I've gotten this far by having belief in myself to make it through each and every day, and making joy come into my life by living it. So I don't know if this would work for you, but it's most likely worth a shot. You have no choice in the matter but to see the sun in a rainy day, and to make your life better for you. When I hear people say I want to die, it makes me wish i could trade them for Char, but that ain't gonna happen, and it's a selfish thought that I quickly extinguish. It will get better, but you have to help. Time is now your friend, it will help heal wounds you never knew could hurt so. Quit saying I want to die. That's weak. I want to hear you say, I want to live! And I want you to do it! You know you can, maybe it helps to have someone point that out. Hang in there......

Robglide

Joined: 11/11/2005

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The Nice Girls Tribute Posted: 1/17/2006 9:27:46 PM
...Voted most likely to be first in line to see "Broke Back Mountain".........

Robglide

Joined: 11/11/2005

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Must like food ... Posted: 1/17/2006 9:25:07 PM
Ketchup packets, breadsticks, and for dessert, free mints! Yummy!

Robglide

Joined: 11/11/2005

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How do you get over the one you love? Posted: 1/17/2006 7:58:12 PM
Depending on how deep that love was, you're possibly in for a long ride. Word from a veteran at this, make yourself look forward, not backward. If you don't do it, it will not get done. Put the good memories in a file drawer back of your noggin, go there now and again for a pleasant visit. When you've had your fill, close it up for later down the road when you need it. Good luck......

Robglide

Joined: 11/11/2005

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Cats and Men .... Posted: 1/17/2006 5:45:57 PM
I have a cat. And, I'm allergic to them. Why do I have this little furball? It was my wife's cat; I lost her in a bad car accident, and it's my duty to take care of this little Q-Tip. Promise is a promise. I do have him shaved though, so the furballs aren't as bad. Gotta do what you gotta do.....

Robglide

Joined: 11/11/2005

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Booty Call??????? Posted: 1/16/2006 9:08:38 PM
It's an emotional minefield brother dog, watch where you step!

Robglide

Joined: 11/11/2005

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Can emotions be turned on and off like a light switch? Posted: 1/16/2006 9:07:33 PM
The answer is yes. In one example, after a person has lost another person who meant so much, losing touch with others can happen all too easily, in a blink of an eye. Healthy? No, in the long run it isn't. But it's collateral damage of a catastrophic loss...

Robglide

Joined: 11/11/2005

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When to bring flowers? 1st, 2nd, ... date? Posted: 1/15/2006 9:44:35 PM
Bring one rose first date, seems the respectful thing to do, whilst not going overboard. Save the two dozen special for the second date if the first turns out ok.

Robglide

Joined: 11/11/2005

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older men...would u date a younger woman.. Posted: 1/14/2006 7:01:12 PM
If she don't vote that's all she wrote! If she's not of age I turn the page! Underage tail means you in jail! If she can't buy booze it ain't her I choose! And so forth.......

Robglide

Joined: 11/11/2005

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Responding to profiles/threads, ect... on the girls who say why is it so hard to find a decent guy Posted: 1/14/2006 3:33:59 PM
People! This is how it is, solid. POF is just another body of water where you bait your hook (as it were) in hopes of landing the big fish. Other examples of said water could be bars, work, other sites, even church. Hey, whatever works. No matter where you fish, you're gonna catch either Moby** Moby**eed or just lose your bait all together. You take it for what it is; no day is promised. If it sucks, move on. If you have the bait that works, stay at the fishin' hole. Expect the worst but hope for the best, and keep them whiskers up because they can't take hope away from any of us. This all goes without saying, I guess I just wanna run my pie hole..... peace out......

Robglide

Joined: 11/11/2005

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Men need all the help we can get Posted: 1/14/2006 11:43:15 AM
Perhaps instead of getting bitter with old age this choice nugget rings truer; "When I was young, I had a broad mind and narrow hips, and now that I'm older..."

Robglide

Joined: 11/11/2005

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For all the single women and men out there, this bud's for you. Posted: 1/14/2006 9:03:16 AM
Well written brother, or should I call you Che? Good points, but remember, there are three truths to everything in life: your truth, her truth and THE truth. Most of it is what you make it, or what you accept. The rest is life's Sim's game to play with. So what kind of mileage you gettin' in that Z?

Robglide

Joined: 11/11/2005

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Men and their motorcycles Posted: 1/13/2006 6:17:42 PM
Oh Baby! I love it when you talk like that!! Wish I still lived in Gaithersburg....

Robglide

Joined: 11/11/2005

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What happened to guys over time? Posted: 1/11/2006 9:17:35 PM
When was the last time that beer and ESPN ran off with the milkman, maxed out all the credit cards, cancelled the Playboy subscription or made you go to the store for them New Freedoms? You make the right point about being respectful of other genders and species, agree 100%. But your post comes across to me as: 1. Self righteous 2. A tad overzealous 3. Holier than thou Which doesn't make you a bad person, just the vibe I get. And I have a conscience, for better or worse; I for one don't need someone's manifestation of what a conscience is or needs to be. FYI, I open doors for ladies, give flowers, have even gone to events no man would dare step foot near, such as cat shows, seeing "Titanic", or even boring dinner parties with their friends. Ok, I draw the line at "Rent", or "Sisterhood of The Traveling Pants". A guy can only take so much, ya know? Peace, and don't sweat the small stuff, y'hear?

Robglide

Joined: 11/11/2005

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What men should never wear on a date Posted: 1/9/2006 9:13:15 PM
What the heck are tidy whities? freshly showered caucasians? Damn you're picky......

Robglide

Joined: 11/11/2005

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why is it so hard to find a decent guy? Posted: 1/9/2006 9:08:53 PM
It's tough to find a decent anyone, but made no easier by the use of...the internet. Just a thought, but for the most part my lasting relationships (I've had four in my life) were forged from face to face meetings or chance encounters, even meeting in the workplace. For all it's good points, the internet can't convey the emotion to the extent that a human can in person, face to face, with another. And not to say you can't express or convey any emotion through email and the like, but it's the personal touch that makes the difference. The solution would ultimately be to get out, invest in yourself by mingling with others of common interests. Internet is the ultimato search tool, no doubt about it. But again, spoken words can express so much more. My two cents, spend'em or save'em.....

Robglide

Joined: 11/11/2005

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I might be broken Posted: 1/8/2006 9:36:34 AM
Hey there First off, you're not broken. Been there, done that; lost interest in finding a sig other after being widowed. Frankly, the cat was more thrilling (seen his pic?). My advice? Sit down, make a list of what floats your boat. Go get it, go do it, learn to live again. You can do it. Eh, you could turn to stuff like Zoloft or Prozac, but why? You can make life better yourself. You need to see the value in what you have, and find some value you'd want, then go get it! Git'r Done! and of course, best to ya......

Robglide

Joined: 11/11/2005

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Book sense or nonsense? Posted: 1/8/2006 9:28:57 AM
Hey Ooli; My take on this is that Dr. Phil is a knucklehead, bag of wind, and opportunist to those who don't know themselves better. If his advice works for folks, fine, that means they need it. But that does not mean his advice works for the majority, and should be taken with a grain of salt until proven otherwise. Now as for showing too much interest, or pursuing us fellers and what not. Here it is (from my point of view) in a nutshell: Just be a good friend. Let's go see some live music, maybe hit Disneyland, cruise on the bike, whatever you'd do with a friend that you really like. If we (for example) enjoy each other's company, and we find ourselves looking for the same things in life, there's the foundation for a great relationship and you don't need Dr. Pill to spell it out for you. Yeah, where it goes from there is a different subject, but it should just dovetail into about 30 - 40 years of lovin', bliss, (at least) decent sex and friendship. Game, set and match! Hope that helps. And, let me know when you're on this side of the planet, I'll get the tickets for Disney!

Robglide

Joined: 11/11/2005

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THEN THEY SEND THE PIC... Posted: 1/7/2006 8:41:46 PM
Ask them if they're into Scientology. That should do it...... Of course, no offense to all you Scientologists..........

Robglide

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First Impressions of their house, dealbreaker- what a slob! Posted: 1/6/2006 6:22:46 PM
Baby I'm telling you, the cat left my underwear stuck to the wall like that!!!! That little rat **stard!

Robglide

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how many people are on your favourites list? Posted: 1/5/2006 5:51:38 PM
None, hate playing favorites...

Robglide

Joined: 11/11/2005

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is it ok for a guy to cry when he gets upset Posted: 1/3/2006 5:40:02 PM
Allow me to give you a guideline for when it's appropriate for a man to cry Ahem... 1. Taking a baseball/puck/foot to the franks and beans 2. Your team wins the World Series after 86 long years 3. Your team loses the World Series to a team that hadn't won in 86 long years. 4. Some humorless mook shoves a peppercini into your hoagie when you ain't lookin' (by the way, I did mean hot pepper and sandwhich, not... never mind) 5. You lose someone you really love, and would die for (been there) 6. You get those new pipes on your Street Glide, and it sounds F*ckin' awesome!!! And now, inappropriate times for guys to cry... 1. During the tender scenes of Brokeback Mountain (Sissy boy, what the hell are you doing at that movie to start with?) 2. During the tender scenes of Bridget Jones (See line 1.) 3. During the joyful scenes of The Traveling Pants Club (Forget it, you're officially a eunache - unick - younick, whatever, no marbles in the bag) Hope that helps!

Robglide

Joined: 11/11/2005

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I miss my girl how do I get over her? Posted: 1/2/2006 10:03:15 PM
Dude, this is the deal. Take it from someone who knows all too well what you're feeling. Married three months to my best friend, car accident took her in the worst possible way and the lights went out. Time is the great equalizer. You figure every day the world spins it's 25,000 miles. When you get to around 10 million or so, you get used to the sting. I found comfort of sorts by getting insanely busy, listening to tons of old music I rediscovered and working in bands. If you have friends, go out with them and mingle. Meet new people, discover new things, immerse yourself in anything but thinking about the past. Like that's so damn easy. The only comfort I can offer is that you're part of a big club, there's ton's of us out there. So at least, you're not alone in that sense. Best to you my brother........

Robglide

Joined: 11/11/2005

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Men posing with cars Posted: 1/2/2006 12:44:16 PM
Ha ha, psyche!! That's not my car!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Robglide

Joined: 11/11/2005

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How do you know if he/she might be The One? Posted: 1/2/2006 9:36:41 AM
You'll know he or she is the "one" when you can look back on a long relationship with love and many good memories. Now that's an interesting parallel. Perhaps the one is like a long journey, and not a destination. Wow. Too deep for half a cup of coffee! Good luck!

Robglide

Joined: 11/11/2005

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Someone please tell me what to do! Posted: 1/1/2006 11:38:22 AM
Cliche'd advice, but well worth repeating. Are you better off without this person yo-yoing you to insanity? Love of your life or not, aren't her actions an insult of enormous proportions to the relationship you two shared? Isn't that a betrayal of trust? And, if no trust can be given, there can't be a tangible basis for a relationship outside of purely physical. Life really is way too short to waste your time on someone that could be considered a detriment to your physical and mental well being. It's down to this. Kick her to the curb for a year or so and see where you guys are then. People can change, and learn, but it's a difficult proposition at best. You know what they say, if you love someone, set them free. If they love you, they will return to love you even more. Or, keep going back and forth, kind of like losing and gaining then losing weight. But that means you get the torture. Sometimes the reality of the situation isn't pretty, but most necessary. It is, after all, your life, no? Best of luck whichever direction you go, but ultimately, do what's best for you.

Robglide

Joined: 11/11/2005

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Question for MEN regarding income Posted: 12/31/2005 8:58:29 AM
Two Cent's Worth: Poor and self sufficient are two different things. People gotta carry their own weight, that's life. You don't need to make ton's of green to live a dream. Long as you can take care of yourself, there's no issue. Living with the folks can actually be a plus, means you're most likely not tied down. And if things work out you could move in with the b/f. I've been dirt poor and a millionaire, seen real bad and real good. Probably closer to dirt poor right now than the filthy rich, but I'm happier. Realize it's easier to say when you have some, but it's true: money isn't the be all end all. So don't sweat it and go get yourself a fella that wants a fine lady such as yourself, k?

Robglide

Joined: 11/11/2005

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Would you Canadians move to the U.S,Would you Americans move to Canada if you met someone on here? Posted: 12/31/2005 12:03:01 AM
Move to Canada? Three words for ya pal, So Cal Rocks! Three more for good measure: Ain't No Snow! Last three for the night: Beer Is Cheaper! Does this help?

Robglide

Joined: 11/11/2005

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How do you tell a man he has a small penis and your not interested? Posted: 12/30/2005 11:58:31 PM
Eh, tell him you got stuff going on and can't put time into a relationship right now, he needs to keep looking because you don't want to hang him up. End story. On a related note, you are F-I-N-E fine. Just putting that out there.....

Robglide

Joined: 11/11/2005

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A Question For The Guys Posted: 12/30/2005 9:02:08 AM
Here, let me, I speak "guy". Ahem.... Either; It seems brother wanted no more but the guilt of being a mooley about it has driven him to at least make the effort to be a friend. Or; He found someone else, but in his judgement he wanted to keep in touch so as not to burn bridges in case he wanted back in your life. (for a sports comparison, see Oakland Raiders) Just a guess, best to ya!

Robglide

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I'm stalking a baker...I think Posted: 12/30/2005 8:57:18 AM
Could be worse. You could be baking a stalker.....

Robglide

Joined: 11/11/2005

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what is wrong with men Posted: 12/30/2005 8:54:05 AM
Hey y'all It isn't just always men, although we may be responsibile for the lions share of initiating one nighters. Having said that, it's the sensibile person who knows that throwing a "quick bang" on first date nite is by the percentages more trouble than it's worth. Am I right? You bump nasties because little heads (ladies, you too!) think for the big heads, and all of a sudden you could have a problem on your hands that think's you're obligated to be the reason/saviour for their miserable screwed up lives. Or maybe life tosses you a rotary (Boston & DC drivers know what I mean) and someone else comes up where sex wasn't the first nite focus and you like them lot's, but look what you did on your first date with Mr/Ms X, who won't go away and let you be happy. Tsk, tsk. Have you no shame? NOTE: Allow me to say that I've probably been all these people before, and it's these experiences that have led me down to the path to acting less like a knucklehead and more like a better person. My cat may want to debate that, pay him no attention. And hey, maybe some of you guys play midnite tennis first date, go on to get married, have kids, drive a Volvo, have a gas fired Weber, and it's alllll good. It could happen. BUT - by the percentages, it ain't gonna. So, my advice is have a few dates, maybe get in some kissy kissy coco-bop, and THEN see if Riding The Wild Wilbur is the right thing for the both of you. Props to frankiethe punk, brother you got good judgement, and to beckylee, good attitude wrapped in a pretty lady. Baby, why don't you live next door!!!!!!!!!!!

Robglide

Joined: 11/11/2005

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whats wrong with me? Posted: 12/29/2005 5:06:58 PM
Not a darn thing. But, learn to maximize your odds for meeting someone. People watching and chillin' on the sideline is ok, but not if you really want to meet more prospective fellers. I had the same tendencies, frankly it got me nowhere in any social situation. You have to learn to smile, be a bit more approachable, keep up with current events so you have that handy bit of conversation ready to go. If you're a people watcher then you'd have a good idea of how folks act, that will help in social situations. Remember, it's about meeting your mate but the foundation for that is meeting new friends. And don't sweat the small stuff, you got a little time, k?

Robglide

Joined: 11/11/2005

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What do you think of a person committing suicide over a broken heart?? Posted: 12/19/2005 10:45:28 PM
At one time I most certainly thought I had reason, lost my wife of three months in a bad car accident. Fact is, it takes courage to live and bull your way through it. Those that got the guts to fight live, those that don't........ Snuffing it is the easy way out, tough as it may be to actually do. There is a better way, and a person needs to find it within themselves.

Robglide

Joined: 11/11/2005

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O.K. guys,want to know why some women don't respond to your e-mails? Here's why.... Posted: 12/19/2005 4:27:19 PM
Ahem.. Excuse me, but I'd like to think that an intelligent opening to any inquiry regarding the opposite sex would be appreciated from either gender. I'm not so sure it's just a "guy thing", but perhaps a bit more indicative of a "people" things, so to generalize by sticking men in that box doesn't seem equitable and/or accurate. Just my two cent's worth, no more, no less. Signed, Rob

Robglide

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Men want what they can't have Posted: 12/18/2005 11:24:48 PM
Free Bee? Sorry you're hurtin'. Don't know anything relevant or redeeming to say outside of it will work itself out, and you'll be stronger whether you want that or not. Channel the anger. Add things up to see where point "A" is, then plan how to get to point "B". Ain't easy. This time of year magnifies the hurt, anger and frustration we all feel in normal situations, let alone one of your kind. There's only one person who can take control missy, and that's the pretty lady staring back at you from the mirror. Best of luck to you, we're always here to listen. And no offense, but most everybody want's what they can't have, not only men or not only women. peace,

Robglide

Joined: 11/11/2005

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how do i get over this? Posted: 12/18/2005 10:49:22 AM
How you get over this, in 2 parts: Part I. - Go look in the mirror. What you'll see is a woman deserving of a great relationship. You'll see this woman is (I assume) employed, has a roof over her head, phone, internet, is literate and intelligent, and can do most anything she puts her mind to. Part II - Now, around 5 or 6pm, go flip on the news, whichever your favorite station may be. See all that bad news out there? All the Katrinas, the twisters, the "war" in Iraq? Well, that's not you or me, we's lucky folks in comparison. And not to trivialize your situation in any way shape of form, but you can more easily change it because your life and free will isn't being usurped by nature, government or worse. Just some background; I was married three months to a very special lady, she left for work one morning (before I woke up) and I never saw her again. That is, until I flipped on the tube later that day to see the wreck she died in on the freeway barely 15 minutes after leaving the house. Now this is somewhat relevant in that there's been no closure except in burying her, and it has been tough to deal with. BUT - just like you I'm lucky because I can work through the sadness and make the world better for me. It might be tough, but we got it ton's easier than most, we can more easily affect our own destiny. So - look forward, keep them whiskers up, go out find you a man that deserves your good lovin' and put the other guy in the rear view where he belongs, k? Have a good holiday season, now get out there!!!

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