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 Moonchild51
Joined: 3/11/2007
Msg: 2
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The sex lasts too long....he doesn't like to be rushed? He's wearing me out!Page 2 of 5    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5)
Hunny I am sorry but...I don't seem to be understanding your point?
Seriously though? Maybe becuz this relationship is so very new sex lasts that long? Then again, not all people's drives are the same. I could suggest starting earlier in the evening so you can rest up for work the next day?
 beautifuldancer400
Joined: 6/12/2007
Msg: 5
The sex lasts too long....he doesn't like to be rushed? He's wearing me out!
Posted: 5/29/2008 12:50:42 PM
My ex-husband was like this and so was my last boyfriend. With both guys it just got so annoying that sex became a major issue in our relationship that eventually led to being part of the reasons for us breaking up.

When sex feels like work it isn't a good experience anymore. When my partner can't understand that he isn't a good partner anymore. It gets to the point where you either can't be around him or you can't get in any way physical because then they just won't leave you alone. It doesn't make for a good relationship.

If he's just a FWB that's a little different. You can just pick and choose the times but even then you shouldn't have to throw someone out of your room or house because they can't control themselves.

Another idea would be to have sex at his place and leave when you're done!
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 7
The sex lasts too long....he doesn't like to be rushed? He's wearing me out!
Posted: 5/29/2008 3:01:08 PM
I could go for hours and hours. But the reality is that if that is the only thing that one can do, it gets old eventually. So tell him that variety is the spice of life. Have a quicky. Go down on each other and then stop. Do different things. For instance me and my gf some weeks have sex twice a day. Then other weeks, take our time, not have sex for days. Is it perfect? No, but by adding things makes it something to look forward to. So tell him you need variety, otherwise a good thing even becomes boring.
 Masked_Hero
Joined: 12/14/2003
Msg: 9
The sex lasts too long....he doesn't like to be rushed? He's wearing me out!
Posted: 5/29/2008 4:05:23 PM
Yeah def a problem I have as well... Yes it is a problem.. A lot of times when your have intercourse for so long, the woman that your with a lot of times can't have sex the next day or barley walk for that matter. You FWB may be getting help and not even know it... Because that is what happend to me. You mentioned that he has a nice body.. Find out if its natrual or if he likes to hit the gym and ask if he takes any supliments. When I was take'n a nutrition class my professer told us to bring in any suppliments that we take. When I showed her my suppliment she read the bottle chuckled and ask what do I take it for. My reply was that its helps with my weight lifting. She then told me one of the ingridents in the pills I was taking was used to help guys that had problems becomomg erect. Umm yeah that was embarrasing LOL..So if you combine that with somebody thats in good health.. Yeah you could be looking at a sex marathon. I love it, but I've found that most women I've come across can only take so much and then they wave the white flag..
 beautifuldancer400
Joined: 6/12/2007
Msg: 11
The sex lasts too long....he doesn't like to be rushed? He's wearing me out!
Posted: 5/29/2008 5:04:12 PM
You are not getting the sleep you need and want because he is bothering you to fulfill his needs. Masturbating next to you is disrespectful.

Just tell him no and set your bounderies and stick to them...if he respects you he will not whine, masturbate or get angry. If he has to leave let him.

You are not his personal blow-up doll.
 JustMary65
Joined: 5/26/2008
Msg: 12
The sex lasts too long....he doesn't like to be rushed? He's wearing me out!
Posted: 5/29/2008 5:14:23 PM
LOL..too much of a good thing...can suddenly become a BAD thing. There was a point in my life where I could keep up with the best of them, but with age....work demands..family...my sex drive, while still quite high, is happily satisfied by quality sexual intercourse rather than quantity of sexual intercourse. I have met a few men who had a lot of sexual stamina...but too much of the same ol same ol is as boring as just laying there and letting em do their thang.

The irony is...we can b!tch about too much sex, but if you weren't getting any, you'd be just as inclined to b!tch about that. As one poster said...eat yer wheaties, and get lot's of rest. Sexual compatibility is hard to find...just make it work or put the kitty on ice after he leaves.
 isspringhere
Joined: 3/18/2008
Msg: 15
The sex lasts too long....he doesn't like to be rushed? He's wearing me out!
Posted: 5/29/2008 7:46:42 PM
HMMMM.............................nice to see I'm not the only one that can go for a long time
 dikgameright
Joined: 5/11/2008
Msg: 16
The sex lasts too long....he doesn't like to be rushed? He's wearing me out!
Posted: 5/30/2008 1:40:54 AM
K-Y JELLY!...lol..does the job...or you could try wear him out..instead of laying there...like most females...give it to him!..lol
 Loveonfire
Joined: 5/8/2008
Msg: 18
The sex lasts too long....he doesn't like to be rushed? He's wearing me out!
Posted: 6/2/2008 3:07:39 PM
I think you just need to do some exerice and shape up. I think it's just a case of an inexperienced person who is experiencing this new experience and it may seem overwhelming at first. It happens, it's nothing wrong.

The guy is a love machine, what can we say, thats what it appears to be. It happens, and again not surprisingly it's a guy that is running the marathon.

I wouldn't worry about this OP, you can just talk to him about this and maybe consider taking some more breaks and just tell him that you can't keep up with him to that extent.
 Boricua Papi
Joined: 10/8/2007
Msg: 19
The sex lasts too long....he doesn't like to be rushed? He's wearing me out!
Posted: 6/2/2008 7:10:38 PM
Change the Friends With Benefits to BOYFRIEND and you will see how his sex drive will slow down a bit! :)
 Boricua Papi
Joined: 10/8/2007
Msg: 21
The sex lasts too long....he doesn't like to be rushed? He's wearing me out!
Posted: 6/3/2008 5:50:56 AM
What about changing FWB(Friend with Benefits) to SR(Serious Relationship)? His high sex drive and energy will go down faster than ASAP! hahahaha
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 22
The sex lasts too long....he doesn't like to be rushed? He's wearing me out!
Posted: 6/3/2008 6:48:27 AM

I cannot wait to get hold of him again so he can wear me out again.


I love a happy ending.

And by the way, sex is an awesome way to lose weight and all the endorphins and hormones that are being exalted help with your stress, which in terms helps with your health.
 Ravenstar66
Joined: 8/27/2007
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The sex lasts too long....he doesn't like to be rushed? He's wearing me out!
Posted: 6/3/2008 11:26:05 AM
I don't get it


how is this a problem?... if I was single I'd say send him my way... love a man who will take his time and last more than 20 minutes.
is he giving you yours?

Maybe you should schedule it so that after say..oh..an hour and a half you have to leave for an appointment or something? It's a thought. Or you could do what some guys do and just start snoring! Or get up and make yourself something to eat and put the game on.
 heaight
Joined: 9/6/2007
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The sex lasts too long....he doesn't like to be rushed? He's wearing me out!
Posted: 6/5/2008 9:54:52 AM
9 monthes? so very new? naw thas a while in men time babe
ukno its funny, we cant be too quick, chicks complain, we cant be too long, chicks complain... sheesh, thassit, im going lesbian.
 Branes
Joined: 7/27/2006
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The sex lasts too long....he doesn't like to be rushed? He's wearing me out!
Posted: 6/5/2008 10:27:07 AM
Nobody seems to take this problem seriously. And it is a problem.
If you like this guy, you need to talk this out with him. He probably doesn't have a clue that it's a problem since most women have the opposite complaint as some of the responses here have shown.
Here's a suggestion, since he's capable of 2 or 3 rounds a night, maybe you should ask him to "take care of business" BEFORE he comes over, if you get my drift.
I've read that porn actors do this so that they can last during a session.

In my much younger days I had a problem with not being able to last very long, so I would do that before a date that I knew was going to involve sex. The "second" time took much longer and was more satisfying for both of us.
 Branes
Joined: 7/27/2006
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The sex lasts too long....he doesn't like to be rushed? He's wearing me out!
Posted: 6/5/2008 11:30:46 AM
No, I wasn't suggesting that so he could last longer, it was so he didn't have to have 3 rounds to get satisfied with her. I only brought up the other issue because in my 20's and 30's I was like him but the first time was always quick. Fortunately, that's no longer a problem...but neither is the wearing her out from 3 or 4 times a night, even with the blue pill. LOL. But there are always other methods.
 4umsreader
Joined: 4/30/2008
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The sex lasts too long....he doesn't like to be rushed? He's wearing me out!
Posted: 6/5/2008 2:32:23 PM
OP when you said he was younger than you and said he is thirty I had to go look at your profile. You look very young but then I thought maybe you posted an old picture….. HE IS ONLY 4 YEARS YOUNGER.

I am 44 years old my FWB is your age . We go on for hours, literally. I have a job and a child that take up most of my time but I still make time for myself.

All I have to say is…

Girl, take some vitamins!

Beso, Beso
 Willsniffurundies
Joined: 4/7/2008
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bad news for us both
Posted: 6/7/2008 10:45:34 PM
Believe it or not, my now ex-wife divorced me because (among other reasons) she thought I took too long to cum and that I was too big for her.
So your problem is not totally unheard of. . .not where i am concerned anyway.
 ace1821
Joined: 12/23/2007
Msg: 36
The sex lasts too long....he doesn't like to be rushed? He's wearing me out!
Posted: 6/9/2008 8:11:21 AM
I have always done my best to satisfy the woman i was with. Sometimes lasting for hours. I did everything i could think of to make her squirm or squeel. However i found that sometimes i worked at it to long and hard. After a while it could be like work. Not because i didnt enjoy it but because she didnt want or need that much and became less interesting to her. I think you should sit down and talk about how much you want and need. There is probably a point at which you will both be satisfied. As for you girls that complain about it not lasting long enough. Raise the age limit of the guys that you are looking for. We appriciate you more and will work harder at your satisfaction when we are a little older.
 DDay555
Joined: 12/27/2007
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The sex lasts too long....he doesn't like to be rushed? He's wearing me out!
Posted: 6/9/2008 9:47:41 AM
On person's trash is another person's treasure...
 bigshrek
Joined: 11/15/2007
Msg: 38
The sex lasts too long....he doesn't like to be rushed? He's wearing me out!
Posted: 6/9/2008 11:18:42 AM
If more men did their Kegel's instead of jackin to porn there would be FAR MORE Marathon Men. It's not rocket science (Oh, wait...maybe it is!! LOL). Men can control their orgasms nearly as well as women, but for the most part guys are TOO LAZY!!

Heck, if you are gonna pick ONE muscle you can control, might as well start with your favorite, right?? I see guys at the gym & dojo practising to control dang near every muscle in their bodies, yet MOST neglect to spend an short period of time daily to dedicate to Kegel. (Of course the steroid use tends to cause shrinkage problems anyway...lol) So they kvetch about their relationships, or go through an inordinate number of women trying to find the "Right One" (meaning one that'll put up with the BS & lousy sex) while ignoring the simple exercise that will make them not only last LONGER in bed, but give them multiple orgasm capability!!

Do the Kegels. Do them daily. Take the time to actually LISTEN to the women and try out their fantasies (most are kinkyer than you'd think). Be the guy they'll forever remember as "Oh Gawd, there was this one guy...mmmmm....I miss him..." because 92% of men out there are Minute Men and YOU will be a Bacchnallian Delight.

Now for the bad news. Being a Marathon Man also makes it somewhat difficult to find that "Miss Right" just as the OP stated. Most gals have NO IDEA what they've got and actually complain about it...at least the first time they run across it, the second time they chain you to a bed & keep you there I've got ex-gf's going back to 1985 that want another go-round...but as I'm currently monogamously occupied they are outta luck The other bad thing is that occasionally you will find a wonderful woman that matches your intellect...but is absolutely horrid in the sack...what to do there?? break it off and move on. Sexual Compatability is not an option, it's a requirement.
 essyies
Joined: 1/17/2008
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The sex lasts too long....he doesn't like to be rushed? He's wearing me out!
Posted: 6/10/2008 7:20:35 PM
I agree with the last comment....great conversation!!! LP
 PirateOB
Joined: 5/22/2008
Msg: 41
The sex lasts too long....he doesn't like to be rushed? He's wearing me out!
Posted: 6/20/2008 11:53:16 AM
dump him and find a bunny
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