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 ankkka
Joined: 8/29/2007
Msg: 108
Sensuality in your 50's.....Page 3 of 14    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14)
Are you talking about sensuality or sexuality?
A woman is not going to show you her sensuality if she does not love you.
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 113
Sensuality in your 50's.....
Posted: 10/20/2008 7:32:19 PM

I love the way women here skirt the issue and start on the sensuality. Next its going to be the "inner beauty" thing to gloss over physical attraction


...From what I've been reading, most of the woman were staying on topic and addressing "sensuality" ....subject line in thread.....sexuality is not the same thing...cut & pasted from msg 17.





...He obviously does not know the difference between sensuality and sexuality. Sensuality is more about the senses, when we were younger we were not truly "aware" or thought too much about the senses, we only knew what made our bodies feel good. But as we age we have learned to appreciate, enjoy and embrace those sensations. We are far more confident, self-assured and we have experience ( and not just in the bedroom)....we know what we want and what we don't want.... we are more aware of our bodies than we have ever been.



...maeflowers
 N10SE
Joined: 7/27/2008
Msg: 114
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Posted: 10/20/2008 8:46:25 PM
In talking with a lot of both men and women one thing I have discovered is that both sexes say the same thing. The men say the wife just isn't interested in it anymore and the women say the men have no interest. Even my ex said he had no interest in it anymore and the was the ripe old age of 55 at the time! LOL..

Basically I think there is a great lack of communication.. maybe boredom. When you reach 50 quality becomes very important. What was once rushed can now be stretched into a whole day. Making love is so much more than just an act, and certainly with more than one aspect. Neither the men or the women at this age want a 5 minute wonder anymore. I think we also search for deeper feeling with age and this may be where the men and the women vary. I know for certain that women are searching not only for sexual release but also for a deep passion, the fire that fuels things. Since I'm not a man I can't say what they are looking for.. some say passion but the actions don't reflect that. Men and women are two different animals that experience like emotions very differently.

Communication is key at this age either way.
 VoxClamantis
Joined: 2/19/2008
Msg: 117
Sensuality in your 50's.....
Posted: 10/22/2008 11:05:07 AM
Nice to see how man-bashing is alive and well on POF, as always, especially in the 45+ group. If your only source of information about Boomer dating was what was posted in this newsgroup, you'd think every woman immediately became an ultra-desirable Sharon Stone upon attaining 45 and every man immediately became Ed O'Neill (Al Bundy), except he was only interested in hitting on Sarah Michelle Gellar.

It ain't necessarily so, people.

I don't ask my women for a photo ID before I ask them out. If a woman is personable, attractive, and has a reasonable waist-hip ratio, I'll ask her out. This has worked for me nearly all my life, and in the last year has resulted in very pleasant dates with women ranging from 28 to 69.
 fancynanci
Joined: 8/21/2007
Msg: 129
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Posted: 11/3/2008 1:17:21 PM
Sensuality has nothing to do with age. A 19 year old girl and a 53 year old woman can be very sensuous.
 selfsong
Joined: 8/8/2007
Msg: 130
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Posted: 11/3/2008 1:23:55 PM
Hmm maybe I be off center but I love women my age, find them sexy, fun, and well they will put me in my place quick

I love a reality check and women my age love to hand it out
 selfsong
Joined: 8/8/2007
Msg: 131
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Posted: 11/3/2008 3:40:40 PM
Pasky glad you settled that
 Sapphireeyes
Joined: 1/13/2008
Msg: 137
Sensuality in your 50's.....
Posted: 11/19/2008 7:29:47 PM
^^^^ NEVAH!!!!!!!!!!!
 DenaliDadd
Joined: 11/20/2007
Msg: 146
Sensuality in your 50's.....
Posted: 1/4/2009 7:05:27 AM
Another thing to consider is that each of us is an individual with individual wants, needs, and dislikes. Many profiles (men's and women's) say they want "honesty" in a mate. Yet when someone is honest, as I believe the writer of the email to the OP was, then somehow that honesty is scorned.

I don' t want to date women my daughters' ages and very much appreciate the sensuality - and sexuality - of a woman my own age. But not all men are alike, so let them be the way they are. There are plenty of 'young' women out there who will be attracted to to an 'older' man. Heck, I get winks from women half my age. I guess many men would think that's pretty cool, but date one of them? Nah. Gimme the experience of age!
 fancynanci
Joined: 8/21/2007
Msg: 147
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Posted: 1/4/2009 10:31:45 PM
Sensuality has nothing whatsoever to do with age. A woman can be sensual at ANY age.
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 148
Sensuality in your 50's.....
Posted: 1/4/2009 11:15:27 PM

Sensuality has nothing whatsoever to do with age. A woman can be sensual at ANY age.



...I agree. Correct me if I'm wrong people...and I'm sure you will...but to *my* way of thinking, you either have it or you don't.... it's not something that is learned. And some people have it and are not even aware of it....now to me that's attractive.

...maeflowers
 catkin2007
Joined: 12/18/2007
Msg: 161
Sensuality in your 50's.....
Posted: 2/17/2009 12:30:32 PM
No OP you are not too sensitive, its just the way it is... Personally, I look at it as their loss... the guy who does find you will have a blast though, won't he!
 kpooks
Joined: 12/23/2008
Msg: 164
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Posted: 2/20/2009 9:12:16 AM
For this man, "sex" is largely visual and tactile (how you look and how you feel to the touch). If you keep yourself in great shape and as smooth as possible, great. Have seen some women in their 50s who still look really hot, and some that should NOT grace a bathing suit (mounds of cellulite and wrinkles), but then, they didn't look hot in their 20s either. If you happen to be blessed with a high metabolism, that helps. I don't really have an age preference, but I do prefer slender women over more heavy women. If a woman is a stick in her 20s, she'll become shapely in her 40s and onward and still look great. My mom is 65 and still looks cute! Me, at 43, I'm still pretty slender, but my face is showing those telltale wrinkles...gotta parade around with my shirt off I guess lol.
 kpooks
Joined: 12/23/2008
Msg: 170
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Posted: 4/21/2009 1:08:10 PM
Why not simply respond to the guy and say "I'm not one of those ladies, am extremely sensual and could please you in ways you never imagined, but good luck to you" and see if that reignites his interest-!
 CoolOldBroad
Joined: 8/9/2007
Msg: 173
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Posted: 11/21/2009 2:45:52 PM
Imagination is a large part of sensuality/sexuality, and I've had over 30 years to develop those fantasies....sigh....if only I had that talent in my 20s!! Guess this is my second peak....and for those who are willing to share that particular climb, it is priceless...
 pleasurelimits
Joined: 2/9/2009
Msg: 179
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Posted: 11/29/2009 5:31:23 PM
'Ahmen' to that
 ForumFilly
Joined: 5/14/2008
Msg: 180
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Posted: 12/1/2009 1:13:24 AM
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^Hang in there, baby. We'll be together soon. And when we are, our ages won't even come into play.
 MAGIC_MARCO
Joined: 11/16/2007
Msg: 183
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Posted: 12/4/2009 1:06:59 PM

I am 57 and my sensuality and sexuality have never been greater! I am amazed how many younger men write to me!


I lifted this quote out of context here, to make a point . I'm not directing my comments towards this poster.

This is just another dynamic of this online dating scene that skews the final out outcome;
that being two people of similar likes and interests getting together and staying together.
Just because some 28 yo nerd behind a keyboard, playing with his pud, who probably never got laid in his life, hits on a woman in cyberspace ,that does not make her a hot property. Some of the ladies think it does, though.
The real question you have to ask is , how many young bucks would walk up to her on a street corner or supermarket and say the same things, face to face? No where near as many, I would guess , and even far less from the geeks who would do it online.

Another part of this dreamworld, totally devoid of reality...

I'm with FFS on this.. Aghhhhhh

 Moonchild51
Joined: 3/11/2007
Msg: 186
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Posted: 12/9/2009 5:30:57 PM
I have been simply delighted to discover mine at my ripe old age of 51!
But having someone who is 57 and knows how to treat a woman could possibly have something to do with it! Kudos to us ole folks and sensuality! Never could wrap my mind, never mind anything else around someone young enough to be my Son...just "ewe"!
 MondoVman
Joined: 4/26/2009
Msg: 187
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Posted: 12/9/2009 10:23:10 PM
Never knew what most women in their 50s looked like before joining POF.

"Just ask any American male, lol. They will probably tell you ..." - Fail.

Physically active women in all 50 states are the most beautiful in the whole world - plain and simple.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 190
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Posted: 12/11/2009 8:31:26 AM
Unfortunately, there are a lot more overweight and out of shape people in their 50s and 60 than there used to be in their 20s. Statistically, this means that it is going to be a lot harder to connect with someone who has kept themselves up.

I do agree, however, that there are a lot of good looking people out there and you can find them at almost any age. You should be able to offer as good as you seek, in my view.

Its also true that different cultural settings produce men and women with different sexuality behaviours, and there is some merit to the oft lauded attitude of the French/Latin cultures towards sexuality and sex as compared to the English/Germanic cultures, as is the Catholic attitude different from the Calvinist attitude. You can, however, find all varieties of woman in any culture, and up here in Canada, which has a significant French culture, you find that the English speaking men laud the benefits of the French women, but also that the French speaking men laud the benefits of the English women. This makes be deprecate the linguistic myths and think that behavioural differences are probably more a result of religious environments and beliefs than of other cultural factors.

Personally I have found women from both backgrounds to be hot!
 betterdays0429
Joined: 4/28/2009
Msg: 193
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Posted: 12/13/2009 12:34:55 PM
As an sculptor who is very much into the visual, sensory and sensual, I can tell you that sensuality gets better the more you exercise it...you become "tuned" to i t and learn to minimize those things that interfere with your enjoyment so you can focus more fully. It can benefit a partner certainly, but it enhances your everyday life in so many ways. Think about that first appreciate sniff of your coffee...the "ah" when you sink down in a hot tub...the feel of a soft fabric whispering across your skin...these are all sensual experiences of the everyday.

Think of it as just as much a sense as taste or sight, it's the level of importance you give it.
 rodanmar
Joined: 10/4/2008
Msg: 197
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Posted: 12/29/2009 10:14:46 PM
Sounds like he's missing out, but if it works for him, then it's all good. This is his
story and you don't need to read it if your don't want to!

Some of the mid-50's POF women have it all over a lot of ladies ten
years younger (my opinion) and I should be so lucky to enjoy their company!

To each his / her own!!!
 jazzlovervic
Joined: 5/1/2009
Msg: 200
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Posted: 1/6/2010 7:22:45 AM
I think not. Some women are just peaking at 50 and I agree with you that he may be missing out totally. His loss....Skill + Wisdom = Exceptional Experience
 canyunflyer
Joined: 2/6/2006
Msg: 201
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Posted: 1/6/2010 8:49:02 AM
In a nutshell: YES. However, I certainly empathize with your frustrations.

Go dig out that old dusty copy of the "serenity prayer" and really read it. It gives us all the advice that we ever need to deal with everything.

So what if this guy... (or a whole bunch of guys) have some kind of eroneous concept that mature women are not "sensuous". To He11 with him. Don't let these guys have any power over you. Ignore them. smart women (and men) learn the art of living life on life's terms. And, the difficult truth is: Life is not fair. Life just happens. It doesn't care. Its what we do about it that makes all the difference.

All any of us need is just "One" person who meets our needs. Why should be give away our energy to every nut case who happens to pop up on our in box...etc. Everyone is entitled to their own values.... criterias.... and requirements, no matter how looney we might think they are.

I strive to be kind and considerate while being "true" to myself.
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