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 american-soldier
Joined: 5/10/2008
Msg: 4
did I take the correct action???Page 4 of 4    (1, 2, 3, 4)
yes I would have done the same thing for ANY WOMAN! beauty or not> I wont apologize for thinking ALL WOMEn deserve better than this jerk off
 american-soldier
Joined: 5/10/2008
Msg: 5
did I take the correct action???
Posted: 5/31/2008 3:04:23 PM
well after reading this, i guess MOSt women dont like men that are nice to them( No agenda at all), so from now on i guess no more mr nice guy> After all , some seem to have respect for the jerk that treated her badly
 clasact
Joined: 1/18/2008
Msg: 6
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did I take the correct action???
Posted: 5/31/2008 3:46:07 PM

well after reading this, i guess MOSt women dont like men that are nice to them( No agenda at all), so from now on i guess no more mr nice guy> After all , some seem to have respect for the jerk that treated her badly
I think you are misunderstanding what was said here. It isn't that women don't want a man who's isn't nice to them nor is it that they respect(ed) that man who was a jerk to that woman.

Since this action could have caused her some trouble later (who knows) I think is what the people here are saying. Plus, it wasn't anyone's business unless the woman sought out help and you were there.

Yes, she did take you up on your offer of safely transporting her to her destination. But the importance (to her) of getting to that job interview perhaps outweighed the trouble she might have been subject to upon next seeing the man.

I once worked in a domestic violence center shelter for women and had many clients subsequent to that who had been in abusive relationships. Some would say that sometimes they did things they had to do, but knew what the consequences would be upon next facing their partner. But whatever it was they chose to do (in a particular circumstance) it outweighed what they suffered in order to gain.

So, it wasn't that your act wasn't altruistic, it was perhaps not the right thing to do at the time.
 clasact
Joined: 1/18/2008
Msg: 7
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did I take the correct action???
Posted: 5/31/2008 5:59:48 PM

Ahh hell no, its hotter than a mo fo out here." I immediately pulled up to the sidewalk, got out, and told him " get up off your lazy ass, and be a man!" all he did was TSk, at me, until i moved closer to him. He got up!

My guess is the reason some (including me) were commenting on domestic violence is that it is a possibility, but then again anything is. OP didn't know the woman. Also, in his message 1, it kinda comes off as a bit combative in the scenario.

OP your intentions were honorable, however, nosey. A jerk is a jerk. Just because he refused to rock the baby. I don't know if you were having a bad day or not but sounds like you weren't in the best of moods either, to begin with. I don't know.

Don't turn into an angry NG.
No, please don't. NG is bad enough in the beginning but "angry NG" is seriously a criminal offense in GirlLand.
 CaliSoldier
Joined: 6/2/2008
Msg: 8
did I take the correct action???
Posted: 6/18/2008 6:15:23 PM
sashieq you are right. i am responsible for HIS actions...after all hes not much of a man so hes not taking responsibility for what HE does
 IamKaren
Joined: 6/15/2008
Msg: 9
did I take the correct action???
Posted: 6/18/2008 8:53:08 PM
This is really for real? Makes me wonder if you are trying to get ratings at a dating site. Your hero antics put an infant and woman in harms way. Your act will only make the "Loser male you speak of" attack the woman verbally at a later time.

Those two probably attratced each other and in most cases deserve one another. Playing hero does not work. And was your giving the supposed loser 5 bucks supposed to be your way of trying to feel higher of yourself?

What this shows is a person trying to prove themself. A meddler. A person that requires being lookep up to by others for self worth values. The wonderfull hero. A person that could have lost their life over their meddling. My personal thought? I think you're silly, and a danger to yourself.
 Miss W
Joined: 12/4/2006
Msg: 10
did I take the correct action???
Posted: 6/19/2008 7:42:50 AM

"I'm a nice-guy advertisement then threatens to become bad-guy cuz that's what women seem to want" thread.

Bingo! This particular subject seems to be the specialty theme of choice of some posters. It was not a very good decision on behalf of the OP, as another poster stated, things could have been ugly that night when she returned home that night. I feel really sorry for the baby having to live with immature people who are clearly not ready to have one.

 SweetnSassyNatureLover
Joined: 4/11/2008
Msg: 11
did I take the correct action???
Posted: 6/19/2008 10:30:20 AM
*************well if he ODEs beat her up, no one can blame ME. im sure if he does, he always has anyway> Sure, I run the risk of getting stabbed or shot. beat up? uh no lol!! But at least she knows NOw, that chivalry is NOt dead! ***********************

That's if she is still alive to know that. If he was a violent person what you did might have pushed him over the edge. So many bad scenario's could have happened, he could have had a gun for all you knew. And if he does get violent, there's a child that could be harmed.

You wanted to be the hero and the big tough guy. Do that with a single woman, she was with her man by her own choice. Unless there was an obvious threat to her and the child's safety, you should stay out of it.
 CaliSoldier
Joined: 6/2/2008
Msg: 12
did I take the correct action???
Posted: 6/19/2008 10:33:59 AM
your right Jem, abusive guys have the right to be abusive. I mean after all, women are never too scared to ask for help right? As for being the big tough guy? absolutely not! That has nothing to do with it. I just cant stand to see a woman treatd that way, especially in public.
If he fddoes get violent, then thats just who he is, regardless of anyone else
 CaliSoldier
Joined: 6/2/2008
Msg: 13
did I take the correct action???
Posted: 6/19/2008 2:05:27 PM
[Is this a bitter revival, or a final realization?]
LMAO, neither! it was sarcasm. i think to blame one for anothers actions, is not only ignorant, but hilarious!
 CaliSoldier
Joined: 6/2/2008
Msg: 14
did I take the correct action???
Posted: 6/19/2008 3:12:17 PM
[If the OP were still around I'd say it was a nice gesture and nice of him to give a woman with small child a ride to an interview.

The BF could just be lazy. There is no way to know. ]

Thank you Michelle!! I see your still a sweetheart. Im glad to see some actually appreciate it. BTW, she did leave the guy, and told me she had began to think all men were cowards
 CaliSoldier
Joined: 6/2/2008
Msg: 15
did I take the correct action???
Posted: 6/20/2008 2:27:58 PM
I guess He should have a guilt free concsience? After all, since he has NO backbone, and can whine and blame others for his actions, apparently thats ok?
 SweetnSassyNatureLover
Joined: 4/11/2008
Msg: 16
did I take the correct action???
Posted: 6/21/2008 12:34:34 AM
*************well if he ODEs beat her up, no one can blame ME. im sure if he does, he always has anyway> Sure, I run the risk of getting stabbed or shot. beat up? uh no lol!! But at least she knows NOw, that chivalry is NOt dead! ***********************

That's if she is still alive to know that. If he was a violent person what you did might have pushed him over the edge. So many bad scenario's could have happened, he could have had a gun for all you knew. And if he does get violent, there's a child that could be harmed.

You wanted to be the hero and the big tough guy. Do that with a single woman, she was with her man by her own choice. Unless there was an obvious threat to her and the child's safety, you should stay out of it.

*******your right Jem, abusive guys have the right to be abusive. I mean after all, women are never too scared to ask for help right? As for being the big tough guy? absolutely not! That has nothing to do with it. I just cant stand to see a woman treatd that way, especially in public.
If he fddoes get violent, then thats just who he is, regardless of anyone else

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So American Soldier --- I mean Calisoldier (?) WHERE did I state that abusive guys have the right to be abusive? NOWHERE.

I think what you can't stand is not having everyone on here singing praises to your trying to be some big hotshot and not giving a damn that you MIGHT have provoked a POSSIBLE abuser into violence later when NOONE would be around to stop it. You don't seem at all concerned about the aftermath of your actions. And you refuse to consider what anyone else is saying, only getting angry that we are not all saying how great and wonderful you are for doing that.

Points to consider:

1 NONE of your business
2 Stupid, he could of had a gun and went postal on you and her with a child in between
3 There was no obvious reason to step in except YOU felt he was worthless and YOU decided you were better then him (maybe he was maybe he wasn't - you didn't know for sure so you were being judgemental)
4 You were abusive in your words to him, being provocative in your own actions for a fight (mmm maybe you were looking for one and he didn't react so he's a loser in your eyes)
5 You stepped into a relationship between a man and woman w/o being asked, psycho behavior in my opinion - if this even really happened like you said
6 Oh who cares, you won't get the point anyway.
 IamKaren
Joined: 6/15/2008
Msg: 17
did I take the correct action???
Posted: 6/21/2008 9:26:17 AM
Sorry OP... you aren't getting a medal of honour for this fiasco. You didn't act in honour, you acted in selfishness for applause from your audience (msg.62).

Bravo for Pssst from msg62. She said it like it really is. This guy playing hero is trying to make us women think he is some sort of a hero.
 wisguyingb
Joined: 1/5/2008
Msg: 18
did I take the correct action???
Posted: 6/21/2008 9:32:17 AM
Dude, you should of left the whole ordeal alone! You have no right butting into someone's life like that. Those people choose their own fate, and you have no right changing that.
 CaliSoldier
Joined: 6/2/2008
Msg: 19
did I take the correct action???
Posted: 6/21/2008 11:07:32 AM
for those of you who say I PLAYEd hero....you couldnt be any more ignorant. Im sorry but if some moron treats a woman like this< IN PUBLIC, then its no longer a PRIVATE matter
 wisguyingb
Joined: 1/5/2008
Msg: 20
did I take the correct action???
Posted: 6/21/2008 4:58:37 PM
I think we need to know how big this "other dude" was? I mean not many guys will stop and help a "helpless" woman if the man is bigger then he. Another thing we need to know is how attractive this "young lady" was? Cuz many times a so called "hero" would not stop to help a un-attractive or over weight woman.

And even if there was more men out there like the OP it would not matter anyways. Cuz the women would think "they would never be good enough for him anyways." And thus they would go and find what arrogent scum bags were still left out there. I never ever feel sorry for a woman who has a relationship with some prick. If a guy has had it with a woman, he won't be afraid to toss her a$$ out the door. But woman get all emotional and attached and feel that over time things will get better, or that they can better this guy. So why on earth should I pitty them? They made a choice, and that is part of evolution. Creature's that make good choice's survive, and creatures that make bad choice's perish. It's the law of nature. Compassion and empathy are human created emotions and they many times do more harm then good. Lets say when the OP stopped to help this young woman out that he get's shot by her boyfriend. He would have just threw his life away for strangers. Chance's are that even if this young women leaves her bad boy boyfriend, that she will find another one just as useless to fill his shoe's.
 SweetnSassyNatureLover
Joined: 4/11/2008
Msg: 21
did I take the correct action???
Posted: 6/21/2008 9:36:14 PM
I think we need to know how big this "other dude" was?

I don't think it would have really mattered in this case. The OP is a trained military boy who is a little high on himself.


Sure, I run the risk of getting stabbed or shot. beat up? uh no lol!!
(see Post 6, same poster, different profile.)
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QUESTION: If OP (either american or cali lol) doesn't care for anyone's opinion as to whether he did the right thing then WHY did the subject title say:

"Did I take the correct action????"

OP, I don't think you cared if anyone thinks you took the correct action, you seem only to want to hear audulations to the great hero of women holding babies waiting for busses while you mouth off to their men for no good reason other then because YOU think he's a jerk. LOL WHATEVER!!!

Sorry I think your an egotistical and abusive jerk yourself.
 wisguyingb
Joined: 1/5/2008
Msg: 22
did I take the correct action???
Posted: 6/22/2008 12:09:12 AM
Brave men and hero's normally don't talk about their herioc acts. Nor do they ask other people if they did "the right thing."

Hero's never need a audience or attention.

Case dismissed.
 SweetnSassyNatureLover
Joined: 4/11/2008
Msg: 23
did I take the correct action???
Posted: 6/22/2008 1:34:57 AM
The other day, while driving, I stopped at a red light, in front of a bus stop. Waiting there, was an incredibly beautiful lady, ahd her man. The guy had his pants half way down his crack(looked like he needed his diaper changed), wearing a wife beater shirt, and a ball cap turned to the side. He was sitting on the bench, she was standing up, rocking a baby, in a car seat. I heard her say " My arms are getting tired, can you rock her?" He replied, " Ahh hell no, its hotter than a mo fo out here." I immediately pulled up to the sidewalk, got out, and told him " get up off your lazy ass, and be a man!" all he did was TSk, at me, until i mioved closer to him. He got up! I told her, if she needed a ride somewhere, Id take her anywhere she needed to go. She informed me she was late for a job interview. I asked her what time He had to be at work, no one said anything. she put the baby in my truck, and climbed in. He started to get in and I thru a 5 dollar bill at himn and said, "your bus will be here soon. " she informed me he was always like this. So, was I wrong? Im just sick of seeing worthless men get the woman. She actually did thank me, and said "I didnt think any men were that nice"


You're an idiot! Go back to masturbating to internet porn! You at least had a baby car seat, I'm sure?

Brave men and hero's normally don't talk about their herioc acts. Nor do they ask other people if they did "the right thing."

Hero's never need a audience or attention.

Case dismissed.


And another to the real and intelligent men on here.

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Im just sick of seeing worthless men get the woman....
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Wow read that again!!!! Me thinks this has less to do with wanting to rescue some supposedly mistreated girl then it does with he was jealous that he ain't got one. Seems op things he's all that and should have all that regardless of what reality is!!
 sara-bi
Joined: 6/21/2008
Msg: 24
did I take the correct action???
Posted: 6/26/2008 6:20:11 PM
Just to let everyone know, I am the girl hes speaking of. What gets me, is all of the retards, who attack him. Do you girls REALLy hate yourselves so much, that you would wish ILl on a guy who steps up to the plate. As far as whoever said i was in no danger, how do you know? I definitelly left the jerk behind. No i didnt ask for any help, I was scared to. How many women, when they are beaing abused, actually walk up and ask for help? As far as you women who bash this guy, I am thankful that he wasnt the cowardly " its none of my buisness type" Like the wussies in here
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