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 Willsfriend
Joined: 5/6/2008
Msg: 101
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for god's sake man put your shirt on. then perhaps your opinion might hold more weight (oops, did I say that? sorry....ha ha ha) or should I say, credibility.

cheers - sue
 FluffyBrain
Joined: 3/11/2007
Msg: 102
Ladies, if he asked you to dress sexy on the 1st date, would you?
Posted: 7/4/2008 6:19:02 AM
Well, just be sure to tell him what to wear....and make it something really good!!! LOL
 Kindredspirit07
Joined: 7/29/2005
Msg: 103
Ladies, if he asked you to dress sexy on the 1st date, would you?
Posted: 7/4/2008 6:46:30 AM
If he's going to show up in leopard g-string underwear and tie, then pfft I might put on some heels and a black dress. It would make for an interesting evening.
 firecracker3
Joined: 2/15/2008
Msg: 104
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Ladies, if he asked you to dress sexy on the 1st date, would you?
Posted: 7/4/2008 7:01:47 AM
If someone is already telling you how to dress on the first date... they might have some control issues you think! Dress how you want and if they don't like it tell them to move on!!!!
 kokomogirl46902
Joined: 1/20/2008
Msg: 105
Ladies, if he asked you to dress sexy on the 1st date, would you?
Posted: 7/4/2008 7:27:13 AM
Yes, it has happened to me on more than one occassion. Obviously from my profile pics, I do own a dress and heels, but I prefer to dress appropriate for the date. Highlight the "I" there. I don't need a MAN to tell me (unless of course it would be a black tie event or costume party--which in my experience w/POF men is NOT the case for an initial meet-n-greet, "let's grab a drink" at a local spot is more the offer--which if fine by me), so when a man has requested me to "wear a dress and look pretty for me", I have run the other way as fast as I can. It's a meet n greet, not some guy I've been married to for 5 years. Really creeps me out, makes me think he is the kind of guy I could never satisfy, would die if I went out to the drug store in sweats and no makeup. I agree with the previous post that said "get a barbie doll". Then again, some men don't prefer independent women with a mind of there own. Control Freak, nailed it right on the head! Then again, on one of these occassions, I told the man why I wasn't interested in meeting him that started over a week of multiple emails , wanting to argue my decision not to meet this guy, control-argue, I made the right choice NOT to see this guy or the others. We all have a sixth-sense when it comes to stuff like this, if you had to post a forum because you thought it might be a little off, then you knew!
 Ready For More Fun
Joined: 7/7/2007
Msg: 106
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Ladies, if he asked you to dress sexy on the 1st date, would you?
Posted: 7/4/2008 7:30:58 AM
If you have to ask... you already know the answer. This guy's a creep. Run
 *Sanschele*
Joined: 1/31/2008
Msg: 107
Ladies, if he asked you to dress sexy on the 1st date, would you?
Posted: 7/4/2008 7:34:16 AM
Yikes!!! OP: If any man asked me to dress in anyway at all for a date, we wouldn't be having a date to begin with.

Asking anyone to dress in a certain way is a form of control, especially on a first date. If the man respects you, then he'll respect your judgement on being able to rise to any occasion when the event (like attending the Opera or going dancing) requires dressing in the proper attire.

Why would you want to wear something sexy, short, low cut and revealing on a first date anyway? You can dance in anything from jeans and a cut off tee to a classy sundress that reaches just above the knees, just don't let someone else dictate how you should dress, wear your hair or anything else for that matter.

If a man asked me to show up at an event looking like Britney Spears and if I were in a "frisky" mood, then I would grace his presence dressed up looking like Bozo the Clown and embarrass the he!! out of him.
But that's just me...

Sans

 ripley65
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 108
Ladies, if he asked you to dress sexy on the 1st date, would you?
Posted: 7/4/2008 7:38:22 AM
I mean, if you were inviting her to a wedding or something (not that *I* would do that for a first date, but...) I think you would be remiss to not tell her and to dress "more formally". Or, *not* to dress that way if its a picnic and everyone is going to be shorts, t-shirts, *casual* (ie, don't show up in a ball gown).


You'd have to be dating a real idiot if you had to tell her how to dress when attending a wedding or a picnic. I think um,,,those 2 events are pretty explanatory and that we know how to dress for both without being told.
good lord!




just shows how brutal and unforgiving women are plain and simple.


^^ because we dont think its appropriate for a man whom we are meeting for THE FIRST TIME to tell us what to wear?? LMAO!! Pfttttt,,give me a break!! 'I know this is our first meeting sweety, but um,,id really like it if you wore something slinky and off the shoulder, and oooo maybe a pair of lace thongs underneath? Dont forget the hooker heels sweatheart!'

Grab your own tissue, Robert.

 Au79
Joined: 4/13/2008
Msg: 109
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Ladies, if he asked you to dress sexy on the 1st date, would you?
Posted: 7/4/2008 8:49:02 AM
I guess it depends on the guy and his definition of sexy. If he was a nice guy that I'd hit it off with and he found jeans and tank top sexy I probably wouldn't mind, but full out leather dominatrix gear? Ummm no.

I'm getting so tired of everything being about sex, sexiness, sexy, these days. If two people hit it off and there's a natural chemistry... I mean isn't sex a given?

So I met this guy here and we had a really good phone conversation, then the second phone converasation came late one night, we're talking and vibing and stuff then out the blue he asks me what I'm wearing? Mind you I'm in the bed. So I tell him a Tshirt. He goes, "What's under the tshirt?" I was so turned off. I've known you all of what two hours and you want to know what's under my Tshirt? Okay, I get that you're a sexual being but you couldn't even control your hormones until we even clicked? I guess he couldn't tell I was turned off because he kept going asking did I own any sexy lingerie, I told him "no" and he goes maybe we can change that. UGH... The direct, upfront way is not the best route into my pants.

So if this guy asked me to wear something sexy on a first date, I'd be turned off. Once we got to know each other and we were vibing, trust... I'll pull out all the stops and me dressing sexy or being sexual will be the least of your concerns but use some restraint during the first meeting...geesh.
 DallasFlier
Joined: 3/19/2006
Msg: 110
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Ladies, if he asked you to dress sexy on the 1st date, would you?
Posted: 7/4/2008 12:51:45 PM

men turn to younger women and usually will prefer to simply pay for sex

Robert, get over yourself and quit making yourself look stupid by trying to say what "men will usually prefer." YOU may usually prefer that, and based on your attitude, it may be the only way you GET sex, but speak for yourself, not for the rest of us, ok?
 mystery2me
Joined: 4/15/2008
Msg: 111
Ladies, if he asked you to dress sexy on the 1st date, would you?
Posted: 7/4/2008 7:15:32 PM
I'd have to laugh, and then,no, I would not comply. I could only imagine how the guy would plan to dress to match the mood.

It would be different if I'd been dating for a while, and the guy had already seen me in my fuzzy slippers with my hair in a towel and night cream on my face. Then, I might understand, and could anticipate a great, fun night out.
 Smart Lass
Joined: 6/9/2008
Msg: 112
Ladies, if he asked you to dress sexy on the 1st date, would you?
Posted: 7/4/2008 8:19:17 PM
Being sexy has nothing to do with what you are wearing. It is a state of mind. I could be sexy wearing flannel pajamas or a rubber raincoat and boots.

I have seen absolutely stunning women wearing gourgeous gowns without exuding one ounce of sexuality.

If you or he are waiting for a piece of clothing to make you sexy, you will never be sexy.

So no, I will dress for me. If I choose to turn it on, he is one lucky man.
 SweetieGuy_81
Joined: 12/25/2005
Msg: 113
Ladies, if he asked you to dress sexy on the 1st date, would you?
Posted: 7/4/2008 8:37:36 PM
I personally would prefer a woman to dress the way that makes her feel comfortable, if that means, a mini skirt and tanktop, so be it, but if it makes her feel comfortable, i don't really care, cause if you like her enough to meet her, then she would be lovely regardless of what she wears, since you like her for who she is and not what she looks like.
 dirtydeeds101
Joined: 3/12/2008
Msg: 114
Ladies, if he asked you to dress sexy on the 1st date, would you?
Posted: 7/4/2008 8:48:18 PM
Exactly willsfriend
Some of the requests the **gentlemen** make online are wild.. not ALL you guys out there..don't get me wrong.. but if they were to walk up to a woman on the street with these same requests they would get a slap in the face. I can't understand why the men out here seem to think its acceptable online.
To All The Men Out There: Most of us women Do know how to dress appropriately..there is no need to request a certain outfit..especially on a first meeting.
Geez..and I'm not even a girlie girl.
 DallasFlier
Joined: 3/19/2006
Msg: 115
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Ladies, if he asked you to dress sexy on the 1st date, would you?
Posted: 7/4/2008 11:28:27 PM
^^^^^^^
mystery2me and GPSweetheart, 2 great posts! Totally agree with both and love the attitudes you displayed.
 Harlee66
Joined: 5/31/2008
Msg: 116
Ladies, if he asked you to dress sexy on the 1st date, would you?
Posted: 7/5/2008 3:50:57 AM
I'd cancel the date! That speaks loud and clear to me that he's shallow minded and has a control issue. I have no desire to waste time with someone who is either!
 maggiedoyle
Joined: 6/21/2008
Msg: 117
Ladies, if he asked you to dress sexy on the 1st date, would you?
Posted: 7/5/2008 4:42:37 AM
If someone asked me that it would show he didn't have a f*cking clue who I am.
 blue70
Joined: 1/12/2008
Msg: 118
Ladies, if he asked you to dress sexy on the 1st date, would you?
Posted: 7/6/2008 8:09:16 PM
how bizarro- you were flattered by their requests? Well, then I don't blame men for trying.

As for me, any guy who knows me knows I would laugh my ass off if they asked for that cos I'd show up in overalls and clogs, perhaps with hairy legs and sans deodorant.
 Robert4u2love
Joined: 1/15/2008
Msg: 119
Ladies, if he asked you to dress sexy on the 1st date, would you?
Posted: 7/18/2008 1:36:11 AM
Thats exactly what Im talking about! How dare a man mak a simple request? OMG!
How dare women say to men "oh I like to eat sushi" Knowing good and well it will cost pleanty for dinner Geez all of you whacked out in the head women need therapy.
You know that I am currently writing a book that will be called "The Way It Is" and much of what I read on these forums will be material for laughter. Unfortunetly the target audience will not be women but rather men and Im sure a best seller.
I have totally given up on internet dating and if by chance I meet someone in person that resemble a thing called normalacy then I will grab her. But as for this rabble of sycos on here Im finnished. I heard enough to give a panel of psyciatrists a major headache and they all have recommended a daily dosage of Xannax 3 times a day for life! Not for me but all of you nut jobs out there. My God what have you done?
Hey girls Im also going to design a line of clothing specifically designed for first dates!
It will include an all black covering from head to toe where only you can see the eyes and dark sunglasses will be optional. haha Isnt that what the islamics wear? Do you ladies want to resort to that? haha Its only a matter of time till your sycosis sets in all of the way and you will all replace men with large male dogs or a cat.
Just quit while your ahead. Take your Xannax and pretend to be looking for a man online so you dont have to feel like your getting too old. Then take a good hard look at yourself in the mirror and ask yourself what happened to me? I used to never be this uptight? Then take another Xannax and go to bed ALONE>>>>>>>
 NCgirl12081
Joined: 3/22/2008
Msg: 120
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Ladies, if he asked you to dress sexy on the 1st date, would you?
Posted: 7/18/2008 8:54:09 AM
No I wouldn't. I want a man that wants a classy woman. A nice dress and heels is more of something I would wear on date. I want a man who finds me sexy and attractive and doesn't want to share this with strangers on the street.
 desert wildflower
Joined: 6/4/2008
Msg: 121
Ladies, if he asked you to dress sexy on the 1st date, would you?
Posted: 7/18/2008 9:06:32 AM
Let`s see, okay , the guy wants you to go out with him, then at least go dutch but preferrabley you pick up the entire bill, then dress like a hooker and of course give him awesome sex on the first date. Sounds like my idea of a heavenly date. Really , why don`t women just buy escorts. At least most of them don`t have guts hanging over their d!cks.
 MissStackhouse
Joined: 8/1/2011
Msg: 122
Ladies, if he asked you to dress sexy on the 1st date, would you?
Posted: 8/8/2011 6:40:25 AM
I dug up this old thread because I've run into this type of situation several times over the past few months. While planning out the first meet, the guy would tell me to "dress sexy" or "wear something sexy" or "wear a skirt a heels"

One of these men I was supposed to meet for coffee at a Starbucks, which was inside a shopping mall in Paramus, NJ. I told him "I'll dress appropriately for a Starbucks " after going back and forth about it (!!!) I cancelled on him, basically telling him "If you're dictating what I wear now - before we even met - I have no idea what would happen down the line"

But that was just one example. Again, telling a woman to "dress sexy" when you're just meeting for drinks at Applebees is just weird to me.
 MsMuscleChick
Joined: 5/31/2011
Msg: 123
Ladies, if he asked you to dress sexy on the 1st date, would you?
Posted: 8/8/2011 6:50:40 AM
Miss, I am with you on this. It is weird. These men, for a first meet asking us to wear heels and skirts & to look sexy . Really???? ....LOL First we need to see what these clowns look like and if there is even a connection. Last thing I want is to be sitting there like that with someone I do NOT want to be with.

I never get all dolled up because that is not how I am all the time. Casual and appropriate for a simple meeting at a Starbuck's in the afternoon is NOT going to be all dressy. All I care about is knowing where the exit door is is in case the guy is a freak.
 MissStackhouse
Joined: 8/1/2011
Msg: 124
Ladies, if he asked you to dress sexy on the 1st date, would you?
Posted: 8/8/2011 7:34:55 AM

Miss, I am with you on this. It is weird....Casual and appropriate for a simple meeting at a Starbuck's in the afternoon is NOT going to be all dressy


Totally! I dress according to the venue, you know. 9 times out of 10 I'll be wearing jeans...Why would I "dress sexy" to grab coffee at a shopping mall? I guess if a guy is demanding for us to look sexy he is probably only after one thing - and it ain't a Frappacino!
 sfre34
Joined: 9/12/2009
Msg: 125
Ladies, if he asked you to dress sexy on the 1st date, would you?
Posted: 8/8/2011 9:02:14 AM
Its not about what a woman wears that makes her sexy, its about who she is and if there is an attraction between the 2....you would think she is sexy reguardless of what she was wearing.
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