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 sHeLz1214
Joined: 5/29/2007
Msg: 26
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I dont mind the questions really, if they remember stuff u tell them and the next time he mentions it...always makes it interesting whens hes paying attention...I hate that "what do u do for fun club...I always say "this!" in response...surfing the forums my fun...lol but seeeeriously...its kinda like behaviour type interviewing...something that allows for situations or events responses that support characteristics you are attracted to...its nice to be challenged...the smart ones get you though...you learn from people that u dont understand at first...usually right...thats why we all have a type...wow am I off topic
 Fullonpro
Joined: 2/5/2008
Msg: 27
After meeting someone, what are some good questions to ask?
Posted: 6/4/2008 8:16:52 PM
Don't ask questions.

Tell good stories.
 wannaluvjustu
Joined: 5/3/2008
Msg: 28
After meeting someone, what are some good questions to ask?
Posted: 6/4/2008 8:20:44 PM
After meeting someone, what are some good questions to ask?
1. What is your favorite sexual position?
2. Do you like innies or outies?
3. What is your bank acct. #?
4. Can u put me on the lease?
5. If no to question 4, flee the scene immediately LOL....
 sHeLz1214
Joined: 5/29/2007
Msg: 29
After meeting someone, what are some good questions to ask?
Posted: 6/4/2008 8:22:23 PM
yes and the funny stories...its great if theres laughter which is always better in person...so save the jokes...tough to see some stuff written...IMO
 wannaluvjustu
Joined: 5/3/2008
Msg: 30
After meeting someone, what are some good questions to ask?
Posted: 6/4/2008 8:27:35 PM

yes and the funny stories...its great if theres laughter which is always better in person...so save the jokes...tough to see some stuff written...IMO


Can you elaborate? Not sure I "understand" what you mean? What is tough to see writen?
 Guy Named Ray
Joined: 2/19/2008
Msg: 31
After meeting someone, what are some good questions to ask?
Posted: 6/4/2008 10:03:40 PM
First listen and if you are really interested
the questions will come naturally.
 SCUDRUNN3R
Joined: 11/30/2006
Msg: 32
After meeting someone, what are some good questions to ask?
Posted: 6/4/2008 10:39:18 PM
"Whatever you ask, make sure that you have a very bright light pointing to their eyes, don't let them sleep for at least 48 hours, and don't be afraid to slap them."




Red you ROCK
 RedCassandra
Joined: 10/9/2007
Msg: 33
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After meeting someone, what are some good questions to ask?
Posted: 6/4/2008 10:54:55 PM
^^^ A friend just reminded me, for those of more gentle disposition, sodium pentathol might be THE way to go instead of waterboarding.

Government uses it... and so does Jack Bauer... and what's good for Jack is good enough for me.

 42 4 U
Joined: 2/18/2008
Msg: 34
After meeting someone, what are some good questions to ask?
Posted: 6/4/2008 11:05:54 PM
It depends on what I feel when I first see her.You know,if she makes me feel comfortable,then pretty much anything goes.I try to find some things in common,lifestyle,music,hobbies,what out childhood was like,etc.those are always safe to discuss on a first meet.
I feel I am both a good listener and speaker.
Silence can be awkward,but as long as you don't stare at her and make her uncomfortable,just comment on something at random,like the wallpaper,or tell a joke.Just don't fidget or play with stuff,that makes you look uncomfortable.
Theres a time and place for cussing,a date isn't one of them.
Communicating when I'm upset,that depends on how and why I am upset.Sometimes I need to be by myself to sort out my feelings.Other times,I just don't let it bother me enough to affect my normal activities.
Eye contact is very important.But if she looks hot,I will do the elevator eye thing She's welcome,and encouraged ,to do the same
I something bothers me,I don't let it stew,I just get it out in the open.The thing is,it takes quite a lot to get me p*ssed off,so most women need not walk on eggs around me.
 GreenLass1968
Joined: 5/10/2008
Msg: 35
After meeting someone, what are some good questions to ask?
Posted: 6/5/2008 5:45:03 AM
Personally I'm like a lot of others on here.... I don't like the whole Q & A session. When you go out with someone it's much better to just let the conversation flow.

That said, one of my favorite questions to ask is "What is your favorite childhood memory?" This question will open up what kind of childhood they have had, and will tell a little of what makes them smile and what things they enjoy. Some people like asking the old standby "What three things would you want with you on a deserted island and why?"

The questions of which someone is better at, listening or speaking, along with the question on silence in conversation, and eye contact (and sometimes the cussing/strong language) usually are not necessary because in normal conversation you can tell if they listen more or talk more, handle natural lulls in conversation with ease and make eye contact.

Sometimes it's best to bring up subjects and talk about things rather than just ask a question... Such as "I was really lucky when I was growing up, because my parents never told me to do something 'because I said so', they always asked me to think about why they were wanting me to do things. That taught me a lot of logic and reasoning, and I try to do that with my kids as well. As a parent I think that is important." instead of "How do you handle it when you want your kids to do something and they ask why?" The first example will usually open up the dialog and tell you if the other person has the same parenting style as you do, or if they handle things in a very different way... and it is so much nicer than a blunt question about parenting styles. Keep in mind, this is just and example and doesn't have to be about kids, it can be about any subject. It is just more natural in conversation and doesn't leave the other party feeling like they are being grilled/interviewed.
 recall
Joined: 6/1/2005
Msg: 36
After meeting someone, what are some good questions to ask?
Posted: 6/5/2008 6:00:11 AM
People will tell you so much. You just have to listen. Also watch because people don't always tell you the truth. Or they aren't even aware that they aren't what they say they are. Ask just a small amount of questions. Just to draw them out. Ask what is important to you. But be aware that it isn't good to ask alot of questions. Somethings should just be found out over time.
 ctrydancer
Joined: 5/29/2005
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After meeting someone, what are some good questions to ask?
Posted: 6/17/2008 8:11:51 AM
thanks for the good advice, but for those moments when there is silence, it can be awkward.
 woobytoodsday
Joined: 12/13/2006
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Posted: 2/4/2009 11:46:16 PM
On a first meet, if/when there's silence, I've always found: Tell me what your first day of school was like works pretty well. If not, any other question, observation will do as well, 'cause I know I ain't got a keeper. . .

 gottalight
Joined: 12/15/2005
Msg: 39
After meeting someone, what are some good questions to ask?
Posted: 2/4/2009 11:58:03 PM
The best one I can remember:

My place or yours?

It alleviates any problems of silent moments. (After I pick up my jaw off the floor.)

Of course there are lots of question to follow that one.

When was your last STD check?
Do I need protection?
Are you fertile?

And at my age she might ask;
Do you need some Viagra?
 gottalight
Joined: 12/15/2005
Msg: 40
After meeting someone, what are some good questions to ask?
Posted: 2/5/2009 12:05:43 AM
" Do you want to have sex, or talk about idle nonsense?"

Has life been a bowl of cherries for you, or do you even enjoy the torture of it?

What is your favorite pastime, and why do so many people consider it a "forbidden fruit?"

What is your least favorite sexual hangup?
 zrythm8
Joined: 9/21/2008
Msg: 41
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After meeting someone, what are some good questions to ask?
Posted: 2/5/2009 12:31:24 AM
A few innocuous questions of give and take are bound to happen - and it usually breaks the ice to discuss their opinion on POF - can sometimes be good for a lauch,
In the silences I jot notes on a pad of paper or bapkin - the other person is so intrigued - they invariably ask what I am doing - I usually say I hate to waste time and am either writing down new open ended questions - giving him marks for his answers - or mu shoppinl list should things keep going well. Each of these respoonses have broken the ice and given fodder for some light hearted joking or toungue in cheek conversation
Just my tip
Z
 ladylookingagain
Joined: 8/16/2008
Msg: 42
After meeting someone, what are some good questions to ask?
Posted: 2/5/2009 7:50:21 AM
Are you kidding me????? People would really ask these types of questions?

I guess it's the cynic in me but I think a lot of people would answer with the responses they think you want to hear.

Example: Do you like to drink? Are you a Social Drinker? Now to an alcoholic they'll say yes they do drink but it's only on a social basis. Code speak for I have to drink every day to make it through social situations.

People tend to show their personalities in the very beginning and they do let things leak through, one just has to be observant enough to catch the minute details. The only way you learn about someone is to spend time with them and seeing them in a natural state of being (I'm not talking in their birthday suit, get your mind out of the gutter.)
 Gwendolyn2010
Joined: 1/22/2006
Msg: 43
After meeting someone, what are some good questions to ask?
Posted: 2/5/2009 7:52:40 AM
My newest question is, "Have you been to prison? If yes, why?"
 ~Hello~
Joined: 7/30/2008
Msg: 44
After meeting someone, what are some good questions to ask?
Posted: 2/5/2009 7:58:21 AM
...................................................................................................................................


Which are you better at, listening or speaking?
What do you do when there is silence in a conversation?
How do you feel about cussing and strong language?
How do you communicate when you are upset, if you do at all?
How important is eye contact when speaking to another person?
If something is bothering you, how long will it take you to bring it up?


1 - that answer should be apparent during the date.
2 - See 1
3 - See 1
4 - See 1
5 - See 1
6 - Check his reaction if the waiter is slow with the coffee .. ;)

OP - Actions speak louder than words. If you ask someone "Hey - are you honest?" Do you really think a liar will say "no"?? If you ask Leading Questions - you tell that person the answer you want to hear. All of your OT questions are easily answered through simple observation.

2 things - Time and observation. .. was he looking in your eyes when you asked him how important eye contact is when speaking to another person??

I don't care what you say you'd do - I care what you Do.
 MikeM1968
Joined: 11/3/2007
Msg: 45
After meeting someone, what are some good questions to ask?
Posted: 2/5/2009 8:41:58 AM
Some of us men know what these classics are really all about:

1.) "Did you go to college?"
2.) "What's your degree/major?"
3.) "What do you do for a living?"
4.) "Where do you live?"
5.) "How many rooms in your house/apartment?"
6.) "What kind of car do you drive?"
7.) "What restaurants do you like?"
8.) "What's the last movie you saw in theaters?"

The list goes on and on ad-nauseum. These are all designed to "find-out" what your socio-economic "status" is in life. I get just as insulted by these as a woman must get when a guy asks her "so what's your bra size?" or "Are they real?" They really are equally disgusting to me.

Best answers:
1.) "I dropped out of grade school."
2.) "College? That's hilarious, I love your humor"
3.) "I work part-time at MacDonalds (or any minimum wage paying job)"
4.) "(the worst local urban area you can think of, we're talking drug dealers and prostitutes)"
5.) "I live in a homeless shelter/on the street/in a cardboard box"
6.) "I don't have my license/my license got suspended for 3 DWI's/CAR?!? OMG there you go again! You are just too funny, seriously you should do stand-up comedy"
7.) "When I'm feeling all "Diamond Jim - big time spender" I like to splurge on the dollar menu at (insert fast food restaurant name here)"
8.) "Star Wars in 1977 (or any movie that hasn't been in theaters in years)"

That'll definitely get rid of the freeloaders

Mike
 gottalight
Joined: 12/15/2005
Msg: 46
After meeting someone, what are some good questions to ask?
Posted: 2/5/2009 9:37:34 AM

My newest question is, "Have you been to prison? If yes, why?"


Do you have my cell number?


..."Are you going to bombard me with all kinds of stupid questions?"


That works.
 marhevka1
Joined: 11/4/2007
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Posted: 2/8/2009 9:24:54 AM
Oh my God,

You think those are good questions to ask on a first date?? You've got to be kidding me.
I must say the first three are ridiculous!
What kind of animal would you be and why? LOL.... You can't be serious.
 Bob_49
Joined: 11/19/2008
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Posted: 2/8/2009 9:51:59 AM
I'm all for avoiding the 50 questions. I need to discover the person within. If they are with me, I'm attracted enough that the superficial stuff is mute. Two questions usually lead to an entire night or a long date. One what gave you the most smiles as a child? The second is Outside of dating what has been your greatest joy lately? Then the trick is to listen , to see the eyes, to feel as that person feels.

If you do get into the persons home, keep your eyes open. The joys are left all over the house. Key spots: the nightstand, the bookcase, where ever games are left out and on the refrigerator.

live, laugh, love. Life is good.
 sweetnsour44
Joined: 12/11/2008
Msg: 49
After meeting someone, what are some good questions to ask?
Posted: 2/12/2009 9:01:00 AM
Questions I would ask my date.... (I heard this on a radio show)

1) One night stand or relationship?
2) Do you like pets?
3) Job situation
4) Dream vacation
5) Perfect Saturday night
6) Kissing style

 moonlit09
Joined: 9/18/2008
Msg: 50
After meeting someone, what are some good questions to ask?
Posted: 2/12/2009 11:00:59 AM
If you are looking for a relationship then ask them if they are as well for example. Hopefully if they are truthful- you will either be on the same page and or get off that page if you are looking for something different.
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