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 goodquestion
Joined: 6/29/2005
Msg: 154
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What I will say is I waited longer than most but wanted it to be a certian way and that is the way it happened and it was the best thing I have ever done.
 dwayne88
Joined: 6/8/2008
Msg: 156
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Posted: 7/6/2011 5:16:31 AM
I'm 28 and a virgin.

Is there something wrong with me?

Well....i'm not good at talking to females when it comes to approaching them to get a date.

I'm also pretty ugly.

I've never had a female ever say I was even remotely cute.
 ekw1234
Joined: 5/31/2011
Msg: 157
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Posted: 7/6/2011 5:52:12 AM
1. I never met a woman who seemed interested in it.
2. I don't see how I have any business having sex and potentially conceiving a child when I'm not in a place in my life to support a child. If I get my degree in automotive tech and start earning, and I met a woman who seemed eager to have kids with me, than I would definitely give it up.


Sweetie, don't expect women to start taking their clothes off as soon as you see em, if you do you may just be a virgin forever. When most women want sex it is not very apparent. Also the things that make women want to have sex are different from what make men want to have sex. How about just making some female friends and/or trying to get to know someone, being kind sweet and chivalrous.
Another thing is that sex is not only for procreation. Not for humans anyway, for us, its mostly for fun. It is possible to have plenty of sex without children and on the other hand, a lot of children are concieved without sex. So just wear a condom when the opportunity arises and have fun.

As for you dwayne, no way to talk about yourself, even worse because I think you believe that about yourself. If someone else said that about you we would be calling him a jerk, why do you get to do that to yourself? And by the way I understand that people struggle with self image, whether or not it is warranted. I too have and continue to, but if you can't appreciate yourself no one can. I am positive that you are a nice young man with plenty to offer and hope that someday you can realize your potential.
 goodquestion
Joined: 6/29/2005
Msg: 158
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Posted: 7/6/2011 6:06:22 AM

I'm 28 and a virgin.

I see nothing wrong with that


Is there something wrong with me?

again what seems to be wrong with that when you are ready you will be ready


Well....i'm not good at talking to females when it comes to approaching them to get a date.

Sometimes you just have to go for it and believe in yourself there is always going to be the ones that say no, and many other things, just look at this forum and see how different everyone is when it comes to anything about sex and relationships.


I'm also pretty ugly.

who is to judge that the first thing as hard as it may be is to try and change your though process


I've never had a female ever say I was even remotely cute.

Untill you have been through a handful you will never know plus the ones you pass by or pass by you where there is no communication who really knows what they are thinking.
 dwayne88
Joined: 6/8/2008
Msg: 159
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Posted: 7/6/2011 9:26:35 AM

As for you dwayne, no way to talk about yourself, even worse because I think you believe that about yourself. If someone else said that about you we would be calling him a jerk, why do you get to do that to yourself? And by the way I understand that people struggle with self image, whether or not it is warranted. I too have and continue to, but if you can't appreciate yourself no one can. I am positive that you are a nice young man with plenty to offer and hope that someday you can realize your potential.


Well I feel that i'm saying is the truth.

I've never had a female ever show any interest in me at all. And it's not for a lack of trying. It's just that they don't like me.

I say that I am because it's the truth. I know that i'm the opposite of attractive.

IF you were fugly and not good at anything, or didn't speak well, you'd probably feel ugly too.
 dwayne88
Joined: 6/8/2008
Msg: 160
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Posted: 7/6/2011 9:31:34 AM

I see nothing wrong with that


I do, cause i'm not a "saving it for marriage" type.

I want sex with someone who wants it with me.

That and it gets rough not getting sex when its on your mind 24/7.


Sometimes you just have to go for it and believe in yourself there is always going to be the ones that say no,


And apparently the ones that say no just happen to be every single one i've ever asked out.
 goodquestion
Joined: 6/29/2005
Msg: 161
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Posted: 7/6/2011 11:10:10 AM
I do, cause i'm not a "saving it for marriage" type.

I still see nothing wrong with it. Age means nothing, you just have not met the right girl yet.

I want sex with someone who wants it with me.

Let me say this about that, most people want that atleast I do, that way it has real meaning.


That and it gets rough not getting sex when its on your mind 24/7.

This is true for everyone, and it also pertains to most things that you do not get enough of, it is not out of the ordinary to think 24/7 about sex.


Sometimes you just have to go for it and believe in yourself there is always going to be the ones that say no,


And apparently the ones that say no just happen to be every single one i've ever asked out.

The way I see it you have not asked enough of them out you have to keep trying.
 dwayne88
Joined: 6/8/2008
Msg: 162
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Posted: 7/6/2011 12:15:44 PM
^^I see alot wrong with it, because it makes me feel like none of them want me.

And feeling unwanted sucks quite a bit.

And it's really frustrating to not get it.

It would be different if it were this out of the world thing, like winning the lottery, but it's not.

15 year olds are having sex, and I cannot even get a kiss from a female.

And i've asked out tons of females. And the rejection takes a tole. It's hard to keep at something you've never had sucess with after having nothing but failure.
 goodquestion
Joined: 6/29/2005
Msg: 163
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Posted: 7/6/2011 1:29:15 PM

^^I see alot wrong with it, because it makes me feel like none of them want me.

And feeling unwanted sucks quite a bit.

And it's really frustrating to not get it.

It would be different if it were this out of the world thing, like winning the lottery, but it's not.

15 year olds are having sex, and I cannot even get a kiss from a female.

And i've asked out tons of females. And the rejection takes a tole. It's hard to keep at something you've never had sucess with after having nothing but failure.

I really do not know a lot of the circumstances around the OP but I do think you are concentrating on it to much. There are millions of guys in your shoes, believe me, I have been there before and maybe still there. I was your age when I first had any type of interaction with the opposite sex. I really do not care what anyone say's or thinks. As for 15 year olds having sex believe me they do not even know what sex is they just go through the motions and act. You might not see it because you only see what you want to see. A lot of relationships start unexpectedly when you are not even trying.
 ekw1234
Joined: 5/31/2011
Msg: 164
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Posted: 7/6/2011 1:47:19 PM
OK, I think this is more serious that it seems at face value. You may not be the most handsome fellow but the concerning thing is how you are talkling about yourself. It ia very damaging. I would really recommend that you see a professional.
 negpotoprens
Joined: 2/12/2010
Msg: 168
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Posted: 7/8/2011 5:59:18 PM


I see nothing wrong with that


I do, cause i'm not a "saving it for marriage" type.

I want sex with someone who wants it with me.

That and it gets rough not getting sex when its on your mind 24/7.


Sometimes you just have to go for it and believe in yourself there is always going to be the ones that say no,


And apparently the ones that say no just happen to be every single one i've ever asked out.


Ever thought about hiring an escort?
 goodquestion
Joined: 6/29/2005
Msg: 169
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Posted: 7/8/2011 6:44:25 PM
Ever thought about hiring an escort?

I believe an escort does not want to have sex with anyone unless there is money involved. I rather have sex with someone who wants to have sex"to have sex" not to have sex to pay this months electric bill.
 negpotoprens
Joined: 2/12/2010
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Posted: 7/8/2011 7:08:20 PM
^^^^^
Seems like he just wants to get laid at this point, and you never know maybe being with a woman (even if he has to pa)y, might just boost his confidence/self-esteem, that seems to be very low.
 dwayne88
Joined: 6/8/2008
Msg: 172
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Posted: 7/9/2011 6:58:59 AM
As for 15 year olds having sex believe me they do not even know what sex is they just go through the motions and act. You might not see it because you only see what you want to see. A lot of relationships start unexpectedly when you are not even trying.


I never said they were good at it. I was just mentioning that they are able to get it, while someone like me isn't.


OK, I think this is more serious that it seems at face value. You may not be the most handsome fellow but the concerning thing is how you are talkling about yourself. It ia very damaging. I would really recommend that you see a professional.


Me saying i'm ugly isn't damaging. It's the truth.


And no, I really don't think I could hire an escort.

If I ever have sex, I want it to be with a woman that actually is attracted to me, and wants to have sex with me.

I'd only hire and escort if I were still a virgin in my 40's.

I got 12 years until then.
 brycha181
Joined: 3/25/2009
Msg: 175
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Posted: 7/11/2011 7:07:02 AM
honestly have to say learned the hardway being honest about being a virgin seemed to be the biggest turn off to majority of the ladies I met online. Don't say it beforehand if they bring it up after, tell them you are.
 Lowtones84
Joined: 9/9/2008
Msg: 176
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Posted: 7/11/2011 10:45:58 PM
I'm 27 and I still more or less have it. I've been around and had the occasional experience, but never really felt sold on letting it go, for the following reasons:
1. I started dating/relationships later than most. In my early years I guess I was delusional and listened to the "things will automatically pick up for you" biz. wrong.
2. The girls that I've met that did want to have it came across pretty sketchy to me. That or they have extreme amounts of baggage that prettymuch make me feel like a jerk for considering having sex. Don't get me wrong, I believe people can have whatever background they like, but I feel like if it's going to make the other person worse off than they already were, its not worth the emotional strain.
3. The few times I have had sexual experiences, I didn't leave satisfied. Negative reinforcement.
4. Never really had a great streak of dating with one individual or several different people (at separate times, of course) for a long period of time. In other words, I never felt at ease.
5. I've always been something of an oddball. Nuff said.
6. I've always kept busy with working on individual goals in my life. I don't want to get involved with someone whose going to feel pushed away because I continue to try and achieve the most out of my life as an artist.

Some people look down on me for it, I look at myself as trying to make the best choices so I can find someone who I feel an honest connection to. Yea you only live once but if nothing you've experienced means anything to you, what are you really achieving?
 ekw1234
Joined: 5/31/2011
Msg: 178
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Posted: 7/15/2011 1:14:02 PM
^^^I prefer not to wear a condom. I want the first time I have sex to be an attempt to conceive. That's just the way I am. That's also why I prefer to wait longer than most men.^^^^

What in the world!! I am stumped. Well good luck to you.
 ops1000
Joined: 9/9/2011
Msg: 186
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Posted: 9/13/2011 11:28:20 PM

What the ****? You've never KISSED a girl?

What the hell are you so damn nervous about, make a name for yourself, walk up to the prettiest girl you can find downtown and give her a smack right on her lips and see what she thinks about that!


She'll think about slapping him, actually I take that back she wouldn't think it would just happen.
 blakbro2k
Joined: 3/13/2011
Msg: 189
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Posted: 9/19/2011 10:47:34 PM
What an interesting topic... some of the answers are so bleak and uncompromising. I have known some girls who are now married and they the guys were virgins at first. They loved the fact they could 'train' and tune them for themselves. Then again, I have seen some horror stories in which the guy became creepy and unbearably attached. I guess it is all up to each individual.

Happy Hunting.
 blakbro2k
Joined: 3/13/2011
Msg: 190
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Posted: 9/19/2011 10:49:05 PM
Hey look?, I just popped my forum cherry, who wants to date me!!
 Eryx_UK
Joined: 2/24/2007
Msg: 191
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Posted: 9/23/2011 3:15:21 PM
As a 37 yo guy who is still a virgin, I would certainly hope that aspect of my being wouldn't put anyone off.
 SunshineAngel99
Joined: 10/13/2010
Msg: 208
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Posted: 12/9/2011 6:57:35 PM
It is not an excuse, but a preference. Some women would date male virgins as this thread shows, while others would not.



 DrumminD
Joined: 2/3/2011
Msg: 212
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Posted: 12/12/2011 9:58:10 PM
You're 33 and dating a virgin? That's gotta be illegal.
 diamondprize
Joined: 3/25/2007
Msg: 213
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Posted: 1/27/2012 7:25:05 PM
I will date a guy that is a virgin because i am also a virgin. I am 24 years old. It's hard, but i'm trying to stay this way until i can meet a guy that isn't about playing games. Seems i cannot find a mature guy that is ready to settle down. But yes i will most def date a guy that is a virgin, but he cannot be afraid to kiss, touch etc.... Any virgin guys out there??????
 dwayne88
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Posted: 1/28/2012 8:50:35 AM

I will date a guy that is a virgin because i am also a virgin. I am 24 years old. It's hard, but i'm trying to stay this way until i can meet a guy that isn't about playing games. Seems i cannot find a mature guy that is ready to settle down. But yes i will most def date a guy that is a virgin, but he cannot be afraid to kiss, touch etc.... Any virgin guys out there??????


I think it would depend on the virgin.

If he's a virgin becasue he's claiming to be waiting for the right person, he might be able to do all the other stuff well. But if he's a virgin that isn't one by choice, he might be pretty shy about attempting to kiss or touch you.

I myself just haven't been able to do any at all. And I would be rather shy about things, and certainly don't have any experience in doing anything with a woman.

And define maturity? Because a guy that doesn't have any experience with a woman probably won't be as mature as you want him to be. Cause I know i'm not.
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