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 neondove
Joined: 12/6/2007
Msg: 86
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Will this fix itself?Page 9 of 18    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18)

The point of my post and many others is that the past is the past and her current BF has no right to tell her what she did was wrong. She owes no one an explanation for her acts.
The 'girls' I went to school with are now 45 year old women with careers and families. What they did in their 20's has no bearing on who they are today, it was harmless college sex Big Deal. The OP's only 'mistake' as most of us see it, was not using a condom.
Do you read the forums here Pal? How many people these days are waiting a year or two between sexual relationships? No person should be made to feel ashamed of their natural human sex drive. It is puritanical to expect an adult to make excuses to their 'friends' for seeking pleasure from another adult. Grow up.


Holy crap , how old are you ? Typical response from a woman , you did nothing wrong its your BF's problem , go act like a whore it's not your problem.

And women wonder why Chivalry is dead , it's kinda hard having respect for someone who doesn't even respect herself.
 davidsauvignon
Joined: 2/6/2008
Msg: 87
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made a terrible mistake by f&&king these other guys ...
Posted: 6/27/2008 9:52:28 PM
Jesus, Cupid is Blind (how apt)....I would think as long as you've been a member here, that you would know better than to blindly post without reading prior posts on the thread or the OP's profile.....I quickly learned that after my first ignorant post. Good job sucking up, though.



!ds~
 Dumpling-Girl
Joined: 7/20/2005
Msg: 89
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Posted: 6/30/2008 9:52:48 AM
Hmm, I think it's more the friends' responsibilities to not sleep with his ex-girlfriend. He shouldn't blame the girl, but his so called friends. If my friends hooked up with my ex after the breakup, and then cheated on him on top of that, they wouldn't be my friends anymore.
 SomethingManly
Joined: 4/18/2008
Msg: 93
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Posted: 7/12/2008 1:48:33 PM

Men dont deal with these things as easy as us women do.


You have to be kidding...lol.
 niksmama1124
Joined: 5/12/2008
Msg: 96
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Posted: 7/13/2008 11:07:23 AM
i agree w/this post...tell ur current bf to get over it or move on! u were broken up at the time.
 SomethingManly
Joined: 4/18/2008
Msg: 100
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Posted: 7/14/2008 9:20:03 AM
Lol...i think i need a recap of the situation

What i recall is....she dumped him, then 10 months of her sleeping around with 3 different men (one of whom is both their acquaintance), then they get back together ans she keeps her "activities" secret (as well as the STD), then he finds all this out from someone else.

Is this accurate?

My first question is, did you ask him back or was it him who asked you?

Second question, why did you not tell him about you banging his buddy and the STD? I think people deserve to make decisions of the heart (and physical health) based on truth, not deception.

I don't know either of the two people involved here, but i'd never had gotten back with someone in this situation IF i knew the whole story before making my decision. But i don't think he had all this knowledge prior to.
 JeffC13
Joined: 6/15/2007
Msg: 103
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Posted: 7/18/2008 1:51:21 PM
Yes because you'd be "mature and confident" if an ex of yours had slept with a friend or someone you knew. Sorry, but this below doesn't wash.


A mature, confident man would have no problem with what you did AFTER YOU HAD ENDED THE RELATIONSHIP. Obviously this guy is not.

Dump him and move on.


Sounds like the boyfriend should dump her.
 SweetnSassyNatureLover
Joined: 4/11/2008
Msg: 108
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Posted: 7/29/2008 5:55:32 PM
LaFets, Rebound stuff is wrong on so many levels. I think the only thing you might have to feel guilty of is if you weren't honest upfront and he had to find out from someone else and even then I am not so sure since you were split up (the std - yeah that is something you need to tell straight up).

I wouldn't take someone back after he broke up with me and slept around, but that's just me. Sounds like your guy loves you but needs alot of reassurance and stuff, and can't blame him for being embarrassed by the whole situation. It is a pretty huge blow to his pride. Regardless of who the jacka## was, would you have been upfront and honest with your bf about everything if the guy hadn't told everyone? I think maybe that might be an area that could bother your bf - did you only come clean because you were exposed or what? That is something I would be struggling with.

Don't beat yourself up over your mistakes, learn from them. And whether or not things work out, don't repeat them! Good luck.
 JWork25
Joined: 7/16/2008
Msg: 109
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Posted: 7/29/2008 6:00:37 PM
The original poster is slutty, IMO. I really hope he leaves you if he hasn't already.
 neondove
Joined: 12/6/2007
Msg: 111
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Posted: 7/30/2008 4:26:05 PM

If he can't let go of the past then you've got to let go of him.

It's not like you were together so he shouldn't feel bad...


and this is why relations between the genders is at a all time low...
 SweetnSassyNatureLover
Joined: 4/11/2008
Msg: 114
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Posted: 8/1/2008 12:37:23 AM
If you really, really want to hurt someone that you love, lie to them and let them find out later, about the other sex you had....

No kidding. I have been holding myself back for about an hour since I read allno’s post. Yikes. Someone should stamp a red flag onto her forehead for everyone to see.

Maybe she doesn’t know about pain caused by others.
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Hi Translation!!!

Having had this done to me, I agree - I don't think someone would say this and mean it if they had it done to them personally.
 tony19601960
Joined: 7/22/2008
Msg: 115
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Posted: 8/1/2008 1:31:17 PM
It won't fix itself and it is time to move on but perhaps it's not because he's imature - it might be because while he was hurting his ex was off f**king ?
 STH III
Joined: 6/5/2008
Msg: 118
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Posted: 8/3/2008 5:15:15 PM
You knew he still cared for you and it was out of line sleeping with any of his friends, did you think about his feelings at all? He should move on.
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 121
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Posted: 8/6/2008 12:25:08 AM
That is the reason we can not be equal with men, they can bang and bang and soon he was forgiven and his banging ways is forgotten when he change to a decent man.. But a woman who bangs any one it pleases her is down the gutter, even she change into a decent woman ,a succesful respected career woman that stigma of sl*t is in her until she die.. perhaps it has something to do with being a *wife *and a* mother*??
 tanfastyic
Joined: 7/7/2005
Msg: 124
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made a terrible mistake by f&&king these other guys ...
Posted: 8/8/2008 9:59:18 AM
You should have known better than to sleep with guys that both you and your bf knew. In other words "you blew it"! There is nothing that can be done now and your relationship with your bf is over. He can be the most mature,confident,forgiving person in the world, but he is not ever going to forget. He may forgive in time but the damage is too severe to get on with a healthy relationship.
There is one thing that can be done and that would be to move away from all your old friends and start out fresh in a place that neither of you know anybody. If you and he agrees it will show him that you care enough about him and are truly sorry to just pack up and move away with him.All things happen for a reason as they say and usually for the best. Maybe you both need to relocate.
Hope this helps.
 Pleasurelimits
Joined: 3/13/2005
Msg: 125
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Posted: 8/9/2008 8:46:55 PM
Sorry darlin but it sounds like it wont fix itself by the sound of your boyfriends personality
the way he should approach it is to say you had the chance to sample others and came back to him, he is the best! did he become celibent (spelling) while you were apart? If he didnt what right does he have to question you, in fact he has no right to question you anyway you were not cheating on him you were separated. To him I would say find some maturity and be happy your girl came back to you
 SomethingManly
Joined: 4/18/2008
Msg: 127
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Posted: 8/11/2008 10:45:20 AM
I'm just waiting to hear what her beau says next time she says "but he's just a friend"....lol.
 Snprvnm
Joined: 12/11/2006
Msg: 128
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Posted: 8/11/2008 12:58:17 PM
who wants to Date a Slut??? Not ME!!!, My answer is NO.. find NEW FRIENDS
 Snprvnm
Joined: 12/11/2006
Msg: 131
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Posted: 8/20/2008 1:30:30 PM
FYI > Sleep around = Slut
 Snprvnm
Joined: 12/11/2006
Msg: 133
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Posted: 8/26/2008 10:34:04 PM
Did I say woman? Anybody who sleeps around can be considered a SLUT IMO

S ensitive

L oving

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 Gangster Kitten
Joined: 4/3/2008
Msg: 134
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Posted: 8/27/2008 12:38:40 PM

I don't think that's 100% true...
I think true love is the ability to love unconditionally....

In some cases, love triumphs over everything...



While i'm a young fool who's never been loved/loved(outside of family of course)...

I'd say that Love isn't 'unconditional love'. that only goes so far. Love doesn't triumph over everything. Love often times seems to beat you into defeat.
 Mr Magu3
Joined: 1/20/2008
Msg: 135
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Posted: 8/27/2008 12:47:45 PM
your boy friend should call for ,sloppy seconds,thirds fourths......what the heck.....
 briargate
Joined: 8/18/2008
Msg: 142
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Posted: 9/14/2008 3:33:43 PM
Nice to hear, Lafets! Congrats on working things out. Keep it up.
 want to travel
Joined: 7/29/2006
Msg: 145
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made a terrible mistake by f&&king these other guys ...
Posted: 10/11/2008 9:40:07 AM
you where single,,,,,,......tell him to get over it
 Snprvnm
Joined: 12/11/2006
Msg: 150
Once a Slut, Always a Slut...
Posted: 1/13/2009 7:47:28 PM
He knew it when he got with you the first time.. he should accept it or move on.. So should you!
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