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 caspian0187
Joined: 5/16/2005
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i guess this thread really doesnt apply to me since i actually do prefer bbw had to many female friends who had developed eating disorders such as anorexia bulemia that now just the sight of bones is somewhat disturbing for me besides i think boobs are cool and large breasts dont look quite right on stick figure women....just my 2 cents.....
 SarGasm
Joined: 5/2/2005
Msg: 102
why do people lie about liking big women?
Posted: 6/20/2005 10:00:29 PM
it's not even about changing people...my point is this:

if you're fat and unhappy because you can't find a guy and need to start posts like this, perhaps a weight loss plan would be a good idea. sure, there's guys out there that like BBW's...and that's cool...to each their own. however, they're not the majority.

so...there's a few great steps that i've personally used to bring my fat to muscle ratio into better proportion. i eat less, but more often. try throwing an hour of cardio into your day. a walk, a light jog on a treadmill, take the stairs instead of the elevator if it's less than three floors. more often than not, it's not how much you eat...but *what* you eat. low fat, high carbs...never hurts to try at least.

i guess my problem, and why i can't be nice about this is that people are venting about how lonely they are because they're fat, and yet they won't be proactive about it...preferring to wait it out and hope that someone sees the person within before they see the person on the outside.
 Goddard
Joined: 2/17/2005
Msg: 103
why do people lie about liking big women?
Posted: 6/20/2005 11:07:14 PM
They lie because if they say the truth, they will be reviled and bashed, just as happens here. So, it's easier to lie.
 zgirl
Joined: 5/30/2005
Msg: 104
why do people lie about liking big women?
Posted: 6/21/2005 8:11:47 AM
sargasm:

Just like "my job is not what makes me, it's just what I do" so includes this fat business. I never once ****ed about how I'm fat. I'm pissed because you sit there and think you know exactly what we need and why we need it. I'm just tired of people sitting around and telling us bigger gals what we need to do about our weight when there are a million things out there to worry about that are worse. If you're tired of us "****ing" about it, then don't post in the thread. Fuel to the fire. I am an opinionated gal. I've been there. People like you suck.
 corazondeleon
Joined: 12/28/2004
Msg: 105
why do people lie about liking big women?
Posted: 6/21/2005 9:06:09 AM
OK I'll "weigh in" on this topic that seems to stir up so much sh*t. I do like women with some meat on their bones and up top too! I don't however like th XL with multiple rolls of fat or spare tires. I'm not putting anyone down, just stating a preference. Rick
 SimpsonFan
Joined: 6/21/2005
Msg: 106
why do people lie about liking big women?
Posted: 6/21/2005 12:15:43 PM
I can't figure out if I enjoyed reading all 6 pages of this thread because it was interesting, or because I'm having a slow work day and didn't have anything better to do in the last 40 minutes. In any case, here are a few of my thoughts on this topic:


Big women are great to have sex with.....but they are embarassing to take out in public. I'm a shallow cheatin horn dog with a petite live in girlfriend but when I cheat I like to cheat with big soft women with pillowy breasts. go figure!


This is the most honesty I've ever seen in an online forum! At least this guy told the truth. As a big woman, with big women friends, I know that MANY GUYS will secretly or discreetly "be with" big women, but when it comes time for a serious relationship, they bolt. The reasons seem obvious to me, and I often feel sorry for big women that can't see "the writing on the wall".


Look... the quick and short of why a guy would get a BBW and then want her to change into a petite hottie is that most often guys are physically attracted to petite women, but mentally attracted to BBW's who more often than not are quite a bit nicer...


This was a good one too. Interesting thought that big women are "nicer". I run into this a lot too. Since I'm not one of those big women that will allow you to use me or hide me in the dark, I'm often treated with disdain from men that are completely and utterly shocked that I have a backbone and won't allow myself to be treated as a doormat. Oh well, just a thought!


this world would be so much better if we learned to love each other instead of constantly beating one and other up b/c of the outside...


This was the nicest one yet! Wouldn't it be great if we COULD do this? Unfortunately, the reality is, that won't happen. We're all shallow, superficial, prejudice, etc. (at least to some point), and I think it's important that we acknowledge the imperfections that we have because it's the only way that we can deal with them, and hopefully get over them.
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Final thoughts: I always find it interesting the number of people that post to say that a topic like this has gone on too long, yet they contribute to the "foolishness" with their comments! It's hilarious! This just seems like one of those topics that goes ON and ON and nothing is ever accomplished, sort of like the "interracial dating" nonsense scattered throughout the forums.

Thanks for reading.
Registered, Card-carrying Fatist!
 SarGasm
Joined: 5/2/2005
Msg: 107
why do people lie about liking big women?
Posted: 6/21/2005 1:34:56 PM

Just like "my job is not what makes me, it's just what I do" so includes this fat business. I never once ****ed about how I'm fat. I'm pissed because you sit there and think you know exactly what we need and why we need it. I'm just tired of people sitting around and telling us bigger gals what we need to do about our weight when there are a million things out there to worry about that are worse. If you're tired of us "****ing" about it, then don't post in the thread. Fuel to the fire. I am an opinionated gal. I've been there. People like you suck.


dear, i'm not telling you that you should change...and i'm not upset that you're fat. i'm simply saying that if there are fat people out there whining about not being able to find someone, perhaps they should change the package they're offering.

if you're happy being overweight, then more power to you...there are guys out there who like that sort of thing. personally, i want more out of life, so i've increased my activity level and i don't eat as much as i used to. sure, i indulge from time to time, but i want the extra 15 pounds i have left on me to be gone...i want to see my abs again, so i'm doing something about it.
 Goddard
Joined: 2/17/2005
Msg: 108
why do people lie about liking big women?
Posted: 6/21/2005 1:40:01 PM

I'm just tired of people sitting around and telling us bigger gals what we need to do about our weight when there are a million things out there to worry about that are worse.

I've never met a guy who purposely goes to a fat woman and tells her to lose weight. But I've met several fat women demanding to know why a guy doesn't find them attractive, and then blowing off a gasket because the guy answered her honestly.
 corazondeleon
Joined: 12/28/2004
Msg: 109
why do people lie about liking big women?
Posted: 6/21/2005 4:21:13 PM
Guy's lie about it because their friends taunt them like in the old schoolday's Some guys like me, like fat girls but not real fat or obease. You never know, (I don't) how fat until the moment of truth, then it's all your's like it or not. If it's too much for you then you are stuck in a "larger than life" situation. No offence intended.
 Rubylipstick
Joined: 6/17/2005
Msg: 110
why do people lie about liking big women?
Posted: 6/21/2005 4:52:30 PM
Don't worry skinny guy lookin4fun, luxury sized women prefer men with intelligence and who can phase a proper sentence, so you are definately safe. Spelling, capitalization and punctuation count as well.
 kzcamp
Joined: 6/19/2005
Msg: 111
why do people lie about liking big women?
Posted: 6/21/2005 6:42:28 PM
I don't consider myself a BBW, but I'm not skinny. Losing weight since hubby left because I can eat what I want, or not eat if I don't want. I can cook veggies again! And no snacks around the house all the time. If I don't have to buy them, they're not there to tempt me. I feel more like exercising, too, since I'm not all depressed all the time, like I was when he was around. The most important thing is, I like me. I notice a couple of not-so-skinny guys here expressing a preference for slimmer women. That's ironic.

It's a fact, though, that it is harder for women to lose weight, because women are genetically programmed to have some fat on them. It's how we nourish the babies we bring in to the world. I always got back down to my 'fighting weight' after each kid, but I'm sure not as skinny as I was in high school. When I was in high school, tho, I thought I was fat. We just don't appreciate ourselves, ladies. Until we do that, men won't appreciate us, either. It's not them buying all the fashion mags!
 Linerunner
Joined: 6/14/2005
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why do people lie about liking big women?
Posted: 6/21/2005 9:15:59 PM
I don't lie about it. I never claim to at all. lol

Truth is I have a definite preference for petite girls, but they do not need to be models. I'm the guy who finds Willow far more attractive than Buffy. Or Fred over Cordelia. (And yes I watch too much Buffy and Angel lol)

 Goddard
Joined: 2/17/2005
Msg: 113
why do people lie about liking big women?
Posted: 6/21/2005 9:21:26 PM
A good relationship, which in my eyes consists of excellent commuication, sharing of interets, awesome sex..etc etc....really has nothing to do with looks.

Ok, that's in your eyes. What if somebody else sees it with other eyes?

We as a society should be accepting differences in our society..not creating barriers and conflict. I think that instead of bashing out unintelligent arguments, certain people, need to seek major therapy and get a better sense of what is important in the world.


You just said that those guys that don't like fat women "not having a good sense of their own self worth", and "need to seek major therapy and get a better sense of what is important in the world".

Well, if I were to say that "those women who don't like me need to seek major therapy", most women here would say that I am a jerk... and they would be right.

You should practice what you preach, and accept the differences in our society... meaning, accept that there are guys who don't like fat women.

You see, that's one of the reasons why people lie about liking big women. They don't want to be lectured about what they should like, or to be called sick just because their tastes are not of your liking.
 1ladyjewl
Joined: 5/23/2005
Msg: 114
why do people lie about liking big women?
Posted: 6/22/2005 4:19:32 AM
There is a major difference between..."prefering thin women" and being outright mean. Everyone has a preference and that is fine but there is no need to insult or belittle anyone based on their size. There are many people out there who won't even make eye contact with you if you are overweight...I can understand not wanting a relationship because of physical preference but have some manners people! I myself at least TRY to see the good in everyone.
 singguk
Joined: 11/4/2004
Msg: 115
why do people lie about liking big women?
Posted: 6/22/2005 6:39:53 AM
TO LADYJEWL
i dnt think that skinny or average body has any big difference ,yes bbw are a bit in minus position for some men but i think average are as fine as skinny ,but not too skinny ,
 kzcamp
Joined: 6/19/2005
Msg: 116
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Posted: 6/22/2005 9:25:08 AM
And you, of course, are a prize. Not a very nice person. So, what's YOUR definition of a good relationship?
 Goddard
Joined: 2/17/2005
Msg: 117
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Posted: 6/22/2005 10:41:47 AM

And you, of course, are a prize. Not a very nice person. So, what's YOUR definition of a good relationship?

I think you're talking to me. Well, about a definition of a good relationship: Who cares? Ask 100 different people, and you'll get 100 different answers. The thing is that 1 of them can't say to the other 99: "You're sick because your definition is not like mine".

Now, I don't consider myself a prize. There are women who like me, there are women who don't. But I'd never insult somebody only because their beauty standards don't include me.
 anadarial
Joined: 6/19/2005
Msg: 118
why do people lie about liking big women?
Posted: 6/22/2005 11:33:12 AM
"You don't like me cause I'm heavy, then pass on by me. I don't live my life for you or your opinion. "

See, I like this attitude much better. This woman obviously gets more men than the ones that were pissing me off earlier when i was reading. this is what they say "why do men lie about liking big women?" THen men would answer, and they'd jump down their throat and tell them how horrible they were, and they were just answering the fricken question!
I think some women, unlike this strong woman, are severely insecure, and dont take care of themselves in many ways, including emotionally. Who wants a women who asks a real question, gets real answers, and then shows how bitter and hateful and mad at the world they are? Ever occur to you that you might just not get men becasue of your actions and bitterness towards people? I'm a 5'11 125lb blonde and I wont get a man if i act like that. I like zgirl, she's comfortable in herself and doesn't blame others for what they think of her, if they dont like her she tells them oh well move on. I like myself. THats the attitude to have, take that one and you'll get more men. YOU GO ZGIRL!
 corazondeleon
Joined: 12/28/2004
Msg: 119
why do people lie about liking big women?
Posted: 6/22/2005 12:22:04 PM
Are we judging who's a prize here? I hope not.
 fishbill
Joined: 3/19/2005
Msg: 120
why do people lie about liking big women?
Posted: 6/22/2005 12:29:20 PM
we do like curves, we dont like fat. I mean there are "fetishes" and "abnormalities" of all kinds. Do you really want to date a guy who "likes fat women". That should send up warning signs right there. Dont get me wrong, I will fuk them if my penis can reach inside, but, I will still bug them to workout for 1 hour 3x week, shouldnt everyone?
 fishbill
Joined: 3/19/2005
Msg: 121
why do people lie about liking big women?
Posted: 6/22/2005 12:33:40 PM
going to work doesnt count as "exercise" neither is a "walk". AFTER WORK...every human who can afford it should pursure vigorous aerobic and strength training for 30 to 60 minutes 3x to 4x per week. Hell if "walking" and "bending over" were exercise, I'd be charles Ajax.
 SICutie
Joined: 6/8/2005
Msg: 122
why do people lie about liking big women?
Posted: 6/22/2005 12:38:33 PM
what exactly is curvy? i thought i was curvy at 125 pounds.

am i fooling myself? wouldn't be the first time
 SICutie
Joined: 6/8/2005
Msg: 123
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Posted: 6/22/2005 12:39:19 PM
going to work doesnt count as "exercise" neither is a "walk". AFTER WORK...every human who can afford it should pursure vigorous aerobic and strength training for 30 to 60 minutes 3x to 4x per week. Hell if "walking" and "bending over" were exercise, I'd be charles Ajax.

amen. amen. amen. amen. amen.
 zgirl
Joined: 5/30/2005
Msg: 124
why do people lie about liking big women?
Posted: 6/22/2005 2:03:14 PM
f you're happy being overweight, then more power to you...there are guys out there who like that sort of thing.


hello? I'm a PERSON, not a THING. There are guys out there that are into ME...not my weight, "dear". It's like talking to a brick wall.


personally, i want more out of life, so i've increased my activity level and i don't eat as much as i used to


You want more out of life cause you are xxlbs overweight, so you decided to lose it instead of losing your attitude about people that are overweight? You're never going to be happy, dude.

Thanks, anadarial!
 SICutie
Joined: 6/8/2005
Msg: 125
why do people lie about liking big women?
Posted: 6/22/2005 2:06:46 PM
i don't think they were referring to you as a thing. i think thing was referring to something they liked
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