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 Montreal_Guy
Joined: 3/8/2004
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When you see a woman you like, what do you do?Page 2 of 7    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7)

Ok I lied.... I usually throw marble at her feet so when she falls I can come to her rescue. 9 times out of 10 she knows I'm the one who threw it. The other one time she's usually unconscious....


That worked great, in fifth grade.

There aren't nearly as many women now who are interested in men that are losing their marbles, as there were back then.

Actually, if she delivered that line properly, and with an impeccable "Hepburn" level of timing and poise - I might considering proposing to her right then and there. It's all in the delivery.....
 AndalusiaJoey
Joined: 8/6/2007
Msg: 79
When you see a woman you like, what do you do?
Posted: 6/29/2008 8:14:06 AM
I just admit to myself that I like her. To obsess about her is destructive. I usually just turn off the urge to make fool of myself through affirmation that I don't have time for emotional investments. However if she approach me, this is different.


Another stupid question.
Ditto. I think this should be turned into Latin and become the motto or coat of arms for POF forums.
 sparxarebad
Joined: 4/25/2008
Msg: 81
When you see a woman you like, what do you do?
Posted: 6/29/2008 10:58:32 AM

To all men, when you see a woman that you would like to get to know, how do you approch her? And how does she need to be to attract your attention?


Seems silly to ask what she needs to do to get my attention because if I'm attracted to her then she has obviously done what needed to be done. Honesty always seems to be the best policy as far as I'm concerned. Just say Hi and carry on from there!
 kwrft1062
Joined: 5/2/2008
Msg: 82
When you see a woman you like, what do you do?
Posted: 6/29/2008 6:50:41 PM
(/yell at her, whistle, go up to her and start talking. throw a cheesy pick up line, its funny. not a dirty one and dont be too obnoxious yelling or whistling. "heyy you, with the blonde hair... " tell her your sorry if your bothering her but you couldnt let her just walk away. smile a lot, look her directly in the eyes
This might work for the teenage years but for us aged like a fine wine. My advice is dont do it major turnoff to the older crowd it can come later and there is a time and place for it. A woman wonts to be respected. I met and have dated one woman in particular we IM each other for a while and at the end of the conversation she told me i was the first that hadnt called her" sweet ass" , "Baby" etc etc you getthe picture and she like the fact that i had enough respect for her not do it and yes i got a second and third date
 MsTazzzz
Joined: 8/12/2007
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When you see a woman you like, what do you do?
Posted: 8/20/2008 5:27:58 AM
A womens perspective for what it's worth

I have read this thread with great interest, but thought a womens perspective might be helpful. Forget the pick up lines, cat calls whistles etc. a nice warm smile and eye contact shows that she has caught your eye. If she smiles back and makes eye contact too then the ice is cracked and a simple hello or generic great weather comment should get things rolling. The other very important thing is be yourself!!!

I also want to comment to all of those men who want the women to make the first move. Did you ever consider she is just as afraid of rejection as you are? On top of that women also have to deal with some men NOT liking an aggressive and assertive women. Some of us in this 40+ generation were also taught "proper young ladies" don't ......... So if any of you men are lucky enough to have a women make the first move keep in mind she must be interested because not only is she taking the chance of being rejected but also being considered too assertive and heaven forbid not proper Even if things don't work consider yourself complimented.

Happy Fishing!!

Donna
 Urbanessa
Joined: 8/15/2007
Msg: 87
When you see a woman you like, what do you do?
Posted: 8/20/2008 7:02:31 AM

When you see a woman you like, what do you do?

*flashes ManClub Membership Card*
drool
*tucks away ManClub Membership Card*


 FloridaMusicMan
Joined: 5/15/2008
Msg: 92
When you see a woman you like, what do you do?
Posted: 8/20/2008 8:47:22 AM
Op for me it is not a set in stone routine.Women smell that play 10 miles away.If I am playing music somewhere and a Lady catches my eye I do not try to be anything but myself.I talk to strangers in the grocery store so have not problem communicating lol.My approach is simple smile and a hello my name is.... and then open conversation with something local or an event happening say your at an outdoor festival.I ask if she is available or seeing someone and would she like to maybe get a drink or sit and talk.If she is attached I politely thank her for the conversation and I walk away.I believe Women enjoy confidence in a Man not arogance BIG difference.If during this She becomes Offended I am very quick to apologize and move along.Not every woman appriciates being approached by a stranger especially in todays society.More times than not I get shut down,am never rude about it.Unfortunatly dating has become more of a game than real life to alot and you have to play the game.Odds are what count so the more women I talk with the better chance I have of dating and finding the Lady who will complete my life. Happy Fishing.
 Sardonis
Joined: 9/28/2007
Msg: 94
When you see a woman you like, what do you do?
Posted: 8/20/2008 1:25:35 PM
When you see a woman you like, what do you do?


What that really means is when I see a woman I find so physically attractive to me that I want to approach her. I don't know if I "like" her yet.

There are lots of good looking women around, but I don't see too many that make me think "Wow, I really want to get to know her". But when lightening strikes, usually instinct takes over and I feel compelled to interact with her like a new born sea turtle feels compelled to walk into the ocean.

Unfortunately, I have never had success when approaching a woman who struck me like that. Not that it was a bad experience, but they usually are already in a relationship, or they are not really my type or just not reciprocating in a way that compels me further.
 hard starboard
Joined: 6/21/2008
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When you see a woman you like, what do you do?
Posted: 8/20/2008 3:20:00 PM
I sit on my hands until someone else comes along and hooks her.
 Vancer
Joined: 10/29/2006
Msg: 106
When you see a woman you like, what do you do?
Posted: 8/21/2008 12:07:26 AM
I have one of them spinning bow ties and I do this.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7gYK9iqrCOU
 AllDaveAllDay
Joined: 10/19/2007
Msg: 107
When you see a woman you like, what do you do?
Posted: 8/21/2008 12:35:34 AM
Well typically it starts off with something like "Wait here while I put on my robe and wizard hat..."
 stopstarin
Joined: 7/13/2008
Msg: 111
When you see a woman you like, what do you do?
Posted: 8/21/2008 6:28:32 AM
walk up

pull pigtail

giggle

run!

yes I do still raise my hand when I have to pee!

SO?

 geewiz001
Joined: 5/10/2008
Msg: 114
When you see a woman you like, what do you do?
Posted: 8/21/2008 5:02:09 PM
I have been reading through all these suggestions... I'm confused.... I've been grabbing them by their hair and dragging them back to my cave........ and I gotta say... those short haired ones are tuff........

MG
 dynomiteman4u
Joined: 4/12/2008
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When you see a woman you like, what do you do?
Posted: 8/21/2008 9:14:10 PM
Look in her direction to see if she looks back at you...if you get a smile from her...take it to the next level...
Just say Hi & maybe ask if she lives in the area.
If its a nice day, say it to her with a nice smile on your face while making eye contact.
See if she smiles back & her eyes have a sparkle in them...good sign
If you get this far, tell her she is looking good today....usually you'll get a thank you...you may even see her blush...then just take it from there...
Tell her you would like to take her on a magic carpet ride sometime. If she is interested, she'll open up to you....if not...move on.
 robfish
Joined: 11/14/2006
Msg: 118
When you see a woman you like, what do you do?
Posted: 8/21/2008 11:41:55 PM

Eye contact. After about 5 years of that, I'll eventually pluck up the courage to go and say hello


That sums up my technique followed by days of kicking myself for not making a move. I'm usually drawn to the quiet girl in the group, but have yet to muster up enough courage to approach.......that might be the reason why I have never been rejected!!
 ExplosiveSheep
Joined: 9/22/2007
Msg: 122
When you see a woman you like, what do you do?
Posted: 8/22/2008 1:53:50 AM
I think there's a lot to be said for the fact women fear rejection just as much as men do, the only difference is they aren't really socially obligated to put their balls on the line, well their philisophical balls, if she has actual balls then I'll hafta pass on that one anyway.
 867love
Joined: 3/16/2006
Msg: 123
When you see a woman you like, what do you do?
Posted: 8/22/2008 2:37:27 AM
i usually throw rocks at her, hit her in the head with a basketball, put a frog down her dress or slip her a note that says "do you like me?" yes, no, (chooes one)

-if all else fails, i will just walk up to her, smile and say "hi" -(if she's friendly) -i'll take it from there. (if shes mean and nasty) -i'll just walk away, or find a snake to scare her with.
 dynomiteman4u
Joined: 4/12/2008
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When you see a woman you like, what do you do?
Posted: 8/22/2008 3:15:09 AM
SUNLITE...
it works great most times......it really makes my day!
makes me all warm & tingly inside...
 geewiz001
Joined: 5/10/2008
Msg: 129
When you see a woman you like, what do you do?
Posted: 8/22/2008 7:38:46 AM
"I'm only on page 2. This is amazing eye-opener. Most men responding are so afraid of rejection that they will do nothing when they see someone appealing. I can sure understand how horrible rejection might be, but come on. Nothing ventured, nothing gained!"

rejection $uck$.... but I'm so used to it. I agree , nothing ventured nothing gained, but there are times when I just get tired of slamming my head against a wall too. I have tried to shorten the process...... I walk over and just say, "Hi.., I'm just going to reject myself now, and save you the trouble." its the new " holding the door oppen " for ladies. (kidding.., it isnt that bad.., but it has its moments) glad to see alot of guys are having the same responses.
I just try not to take it personal, I just keep thinking how hard it has to be a the ladies, they are just so quick to jump to a conclusion.

MG
 temp2484
Joined: 11/20/2007
Msg: 130
When you see a woman you like, what do you do?
Posted: 8/22/2008 11:46:10 AM

there are actual evolutionary reasons why a man wants to approach you, but doesnt, even tho you could be giving him signals that you're interested in him


Can you explain this a little more?
 broncsbuff
Joined: 4/18/2008
Msg: 131
When you see a woman you like, what do you do?
Posted: 8/22/2008 12:06:09 PM

I can sure understand how horrible rejection might be, but come on. Nothing ventured, nothing gained!


another women telling men just to approach women and that its no big deal...

every man on this thread understands whats its like to go up to a women and get turned down in a blaze of glory...why?....cause USUALLY men do all the approaching...

women dont get how hard it is to go up to a women and try to hit her up...

Im not afraid, I have thick skin, I have been turned down countless amount of times, but I keep going like the trooper I am...

but I completly understand why some men are timid, as someone said before...they are tired of beating there head against the wall.....
 SingleGuy4912
Joined: 7/25/2006
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When you see a woman you like, what do you do?
Posted: 8/22/2008 12:30:31 PM
I used to stalk them, send anonymous gifts, notes that proclaim my love for her and that no one else could have her. They always thought it was too creepy so now I just stick to stalking. At least I don't get any more restraining orders.



 Gangster Kitten
Joined: 4/3/2008
Msg: 133
When you see a woman you like, what do you do?
Posted: 8/22/2008 12:48:08 PM
I usually end up staring at them. They get scared and weirded out that I may be some stalker. So I generally try to avoid eye contact the rest of the evening. But I can't help it, I'll glance over and she catches me everytime.

I then throw my head away from her attention and down at my glass. I shake my head and rub my forehead. Then I spend the next three days telling myself how stupid I was for not approaching her. Then the three days after those three days about how stupid I was for thinking I actually had a chance with this woman.
 867love
Joined: 3/16/2006
Msg: 134
When you see a woman you like, what do you do?
Posted: 8/22/2008 1:51:19 PM
the men get blamed for not having the nerve to approach a woman, however a majority of women don't know how to be receptive when a guy is trying to get her to notice him.
women say the guys need to learn how to approach a gal, why isn't she trying to figure out how to be approachable? i see soooo many women freezing up or inverting when a guy who intrigues her aproaches and smiles. -she gives off closed signals, doesn't make eye contact and generally is way too timid to show she is interested, then to flustered to make her move back. -i was just talking to a friend who said her friend really likes this guy, however she won't try to get his attention cuz "he's soooo cute he would never like me" -jeeeeeeez -are we back in jr high???...
sometimes a girl may think a guy is a creep and wishes the guy would leave, however shyness mimics the same body language as not interested -that is unless she just tells him to get lost. -then she really looks like a mean b!tch to everyone watching -unless he is a creep.
some women really have the approaching thing right. they are calm, smile, have quick positive answers and questions that require answers back, open ended questions, eye contact, and they seem to bring up topics like "i really like that", "i wish i knew someone who could help me with that", "or i love going there, they have the best cheeseburgers, etc." -(you walk away with her number not even remembering when you asked for it)
so in all that -women if you want to get approached -first: calm down, then learn how to direct your "approach me" beam
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 140
When you see a woman you like, what do you do?
Posted: 8/22/2008 7:09:21 PM
I like to use the canine approach. If I can get close enough, I try to pee on her leg. When she runs away I can track her down by following my scent.

If she stays and sniffs my butt, then I'm in like Flynn


...I have never had so much fun, great thread .... some of the responses were priceless.....this one almost had me on the floor.

...maeflowers
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