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 ForRumOnly
Joined: 3/16/2009
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We were out last night at a bar with a group of friends (about 8 other couples) who are basically all like you describe, RDtoo. We pretty much made the party, had a blast with karaoke, pool, flirting, dirty dancing, and just socializing. Most are in the 40 to 60 range, in long term happy marriages, and *gasp* most are swingers. We call the group the non-jealousy club.

Often, other people in the bar at these impromptu gatherings join our party for the evening and have a blast too.
 damassteel
Joined: 7/22/2009
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Posted: 2/6/2010 3:57:15 PM
My GF and I are both very good dancers. One night while at a local Tappas Bar, when a selection by "Buena Vista Social Club" came over the sound system, we got up and began to dance. In that moment we were totally oblivious to the rest of the crowd and focused on one another. The song ended and all who watched us appauded.
I think it was the fact that we were unselfconscious enough to just enjoy the moment as though we were the only ones in the place. That I think, captured the imagination of the others. It was kind of like a musical movie where the couple breaks into song and dance in the midst of a romantic scene; we initiated a somewhat "surreal" moment not seen everyday and we simply brought others along with us for the ride; They liked it.
 LG2727
Joined: 1/20/2010
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Posted: 2/7/2010 8:13:08 AM
All my friends(men and women) are like that! We enjoy getting together whether its dancing, boating, parties, etc. Some of the most fun and active people I know are in thier 60s, you would never know it because of their zest for life. I thank God I found such wonderful kindred spirits! As far as why we still like enjoying life? I dont understand why you are confused unless you are that lonely and unhappy?
 oldkid
Joined: 7/3/2006
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Posted: 2/7/2010 9:23:10 AM
On an individual basis, it is attitude and self confidence. The real multiplyer is having 2 or more people together with similar attitudes - they tend to inspire each other to greater heights. Watch couples who do a little flirt, tease each other, enjoy some spontaneous laughter - they light up the room and make others feel good about themselves. Throw your hang-ups out the window and enjoy life.
 RDtoo
Joined: 1/30/2005
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Posted: 2/7/2010 9:56:26 AM
UPDATE! As it has been a couple of years since I began this thread, I wanted to update you. I got to know the couple that I opened this thread with a little better after that as they showed up at our POF parties a couple of more times. I want to tell you, appearances are deceiving! It turned out that they were not the nicest of people when you got below the surface. Very selfish and self-centered and deceitful. Oh well.

I think the thing that makes people stand out, as some of you have pointed out, is energy. Energy that comes from within. I guess I wanted to explore this because I have had the ability at times in my life, to light up a room like that. More often I have the opposite effect. Some of you have claimed that you and your friends have this effect on a room. Maybe you do, I cannot confirm it. I know I see people in bars all the time who think they are the center of the universe and everyone else in the room wants to be with them. More often than not they are mistaken. At any rate, I have come to the conclusion that all that glitters is not gold, and that sometimes simple kindness to others is much more attractive and in the end shines brighter.
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
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Posted: 2/7/2010 10:29:09 AM

At any rate, I have come to the conclusion that all that glitters is not gold, and that sometimes simple kindness to others is much more attractive and in the end shines brighter



....Indeed, all that glitters is not gold. And being on a dating site has taught me to beware of shiny objects (lol)....

...mae
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
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Posted: 2/7/2010 10:36:03 AM



I think the thing that makes people stand out, as some of you have pointed out, is energy. Energy that comes from within.




I totally agree. I think positive energy makes people happy & successful. I don't know if the energy could be called an aura, but it's been described that way by some



...Hey, I went out on a meet with a guy who saw aura's. As soon as I sat down he said I had an aura and he felt very positive about me. He saw images in the fire too.
Needless to say, there was no second date.


...mae
 Gue$$who
Joined: 11/14/2009
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Posted: 2/8/2010 10:50:43 AM
Sometimes you'll run into just the right partner that no matter what differences you have, when your together its like your the only 2 people on the dance floor. Your focus is your partner and just having fun. No worries or concerns of being criticized and if for any reason you would be....tough for them. It's called living life and having fun, you know what they say about hinsight, so isnt it better to just have fun !
 Rythmn
Joined: 1/21/2006
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Posted: 2/9/2010 10:24:54 AM
interesting update RD2. i think back to my longer term relationship of several years. when we got out on that dance floor, we were great! but underneath, the rest was not coming together. unlike your couple, we are both nice people.

i think that peace and joy must be intertwined in this way of living life. not just out partying and drunk. a temporary joy, that for me comes with dancing, nature and community making, is a gift. but underneath, i wish i were not so "sensitive" at times. at other times, i realize that with it, i have somehow managed to garner an incredible strength.

this living life is a quest it seems. to all the seekers!
 lonelydavid77
Joined: 5/7/2007
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Posted: 2/9/2010 3:05:51 PM
Incredibly alive people are not a rarity!! Up here in the frozen north, we thrive with great turnouts to our events.

When I have hosted a PoF event, I have all kinds of comments about "what a great party" it was, "what a good dancer" I am and how much their belly hurt from laughing so much. All a person has to do is enjoy the good company they are with, if the company does not want to join in and have some of the fun, it is their loss. Keep it simple and fun is the best anicdote for a good time when ever you are out. The simplest one liners will always get people lightening up and joining in. I love to be amongst partiers, and am always thanked for a good time (some times even a bit of ment to end the night!)
 Molly Maude
Joined: 9/11/2008
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Posted: 2/16/2010 12:52:37 PM
Heart Tunes ... I've been back here ... just to RE-read your post!!! unbelievably witty! surely ... hopefully ... WRITING is what you do for a living???


to comment on the original post ... we've all seen people who appear to be "incredibly alive" ... in fact, we've all BEEN those people ... but not every day ... not in every situation ...

when you're totally comfortable in your setting ... when you're "at one with" the situation, the other people in the room ... when your mood is good, you're healthy and you're focused on the event ... sure ... you can be "incredibly alive" ...

people just don't do it every day in every situation! in my humble opinion!
 StevieCashmere
Joined: 4/22/2009
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Posted: 2/20/2010 12:50:37 AM
Try seeing the 'alive' bit in yourself!

~sc~
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