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 kevinmach
Joined: 3/29/2007
Msg: 13
im done with all internet datingPage 2 of 2    (1, 2)
Ive been on here for 3 years now


I am still here, so I can't claim things have been a total success, but seriously, what makes you think meeting people in traditional venues (church, bars, social events) would be any quicker or more productive? You might still be single in that case too, and maybe meeting far less people and having less social interaction than what you get from online dating. I am not saying you don't have a point, but it's better than nothing, and I have a feeling you'll be back. We all need breaks once in a while.

And sorry but this made me laugh....


alot of men r to much in fantasy land


.. in the OPs defense, she said "a lot", not "all" men. Both genders face their share of challenges when it comes to dating, but this particular one women are FAR more guilty of then men. And that's pretty much fact.

Sadly, I see too many men on here that will accept any woman that accepts them, and too many women who if they are not immediately "in lust" (that's what the elusive "spark" is, be honest with yourself) that are ready to just move on. I guess they have more options with online dating, so they can afford to. be that way.. such is life. But this particular situation is far more the plight of the man than it is the woman.

I've been there OP... take a few months off, get back into an old hobby or find a new one, and give the relationship thing a break for a while. It really will make a difference.



 AnglFlynToCloseToGround
Joined: 4/16/2008
Msg: 14
im done with all internet dating
Posted: 7/9/2008 8:31:15 AM
I am sorry that you feel that way hun ... For me its the same on line has it is off line ... You have to wait until the right guy comes along ...
 alone in coraopolis
Joined: 1/1/2008
Msg: 17
im done with all internet dating
Posted: 7/9/2008 4:17:31 PM
whatever u say dr. phil,u some sort of dr who knows what she is feeling or thinking????some have a knack for this site,some do not.....she made her peace with site,no need to analyze in what she said,ok...what is wrong with u???u have been on here awhile ,so u said????we would ALL like to know???
 got_2_b_real
Joined: 9/1/2007
Msg: 22
im done with all internet dating
Posted: 7/9/2008 6:38:49 PM
I am also getting REALLY discouraged with internet dating.......
I've met only a few guys from here in the last 2ish years, but after meeting, and hitting it off........they still kept browsing. It made me feel like they were looking for someone better. I think if you find someone that is possibly compatible, you should quit looking! Give it a chance to work out before ya start on the next one. I think there are a lot of fakes here, a lot of people just looking to get laid, and a lot of people rebounding from other relationships. If you're not emotionally available, why are you here?? I'm here to find "the one", not a band aid, or a sugar daddy, or a porn partner......I want LOVE!!!! :)
 exiss
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 23
im done with all internet dating
Posted: 7/9/2008 7:17:27 PM
Well, internet dating IS pretty dismal, but I live in BFE and seldom meet anyone new.... so, the game continues.
 ~Myth~
Joined: 6/1/2007
Msg: 24
im done with all internet dating
Posted: 7/11/2008 9:23:37 PM
Okay . . . this is my ½ of a fried brain this evening . . .

Granted I have been on this site for 2 years in September . . . Fortunately I found the forums before I went on my first “coffee” date . . . that said . . . and in hindsight (always 20/20 vision) . . . IMO there are 3 types of people

#1 type: 40% (Disclaimer: Just a figure to get the point across. I feel the hate mail coming ooooooooooon –heheee!) . They are consumed with meeting the “PERSON” of their dreams . . . aka JUST EMOTING . . . .more of unrealistic . . . so due to their HIGH emotions and lack of judgment . . . . leads them to bad choices . . . bad actions . . . these fishies have a hard time sticking to their STANDARDS . . . . which ends up in bad results . . . and yet they fail to take responsibility for their actions and most importantly their lack of judgment! End result: Blame others, disappointed and no one.

#2 type: 10% (Just a figure to get the point across.) They know that they want . . . they filter the bad fishes (which in this pond there are quite a few bad fishes) . . . which then means that the sincere are in the 10%; thus, rare . . . then add the factor of having to connection mentally and emotionally . . .well then the odds may drop to 1% of those 10% rare . . . so the search continues . . .

#3type: 50% (Again, just a figure to get the point across.)They are consumed with the GAME . . . they will post in their profile what they believe woman/men want to hear . . . they are searching for attention (for women) and sex (for men) . . . or a combination of both (attention & sex) . . . they are not serious . . . they are in search of a QUICK FIX . . .weather it be sex and/or attention . . .

Now this site is free . . . sooooooooooooooooo take one guess as to what TYPE of person this site is going to attract?

Type #1 – they are toooooooooooooooooo oblivious due to their HIGH emotions and all.

Type #2 – they can go either way . . . not much harm done to them.

Type #3 – BINGO! Yup! . . . the GAME is FREE!!!

Now guess who Type # 3 prey on . . . ooooooooooooh yeah!!! Type #1

Moral to the story: The idiot’s reasoning is the best logic: [*drops to knees and prays*] Thank the Heavens that it was not meant to be . . . !!!

JMO
~Myth~ [*coughs*]Sheeee-devil!
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 25
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im done with all internet dating
Posted: 7/11/2008 9:38:00 PM
Sweety70 don't give up !!! Good guys does not come easy,so is success.. This internet dating is a mental game, you meet all kinds of people , the good and the bad. I believe your impressioned that some men wants barbie doll and woman with lots of money,but the rest of the guys wants respectable ,intelligent,independent woman to capture them.
 troublebabe2
Joined: 3/29/2008
Msg: 27
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im done with all internet dating
Posted: 7/22/2011 7:54:31 AM
i met a guy who i realy started to like then realised he was married why do men like to play with a woman head .i think men and women should be checked first to see if they r single before being put on a dating site .
 troublebabe2
Joined: 3/29/2008
Msg: 28
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Posted: 7/22/2011 7:59:17 AM
yer u and me both hun.
 troublebabe2
Joined: 3/29/2008
Msg: 29
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Posted: 7/22/2011 8:00:28 AM
yer dont we all and all u get on here are players .
 Hench4Life
Joined: 12/18/2010
Msg: 30
im done with all internet dating
Posted: 7/24/2011 12:19:47 PM
That's the biggest problem I've found with the internet dating stuff... People don't know when to stop. People will say they want somebody serious, blah blah blah. Then you connect with them, start focusing attention on them, and two days later they're back on here every single day. But then they still expect you to keep focusing all your attention on them and complain if you don't. Why would anybody in their right mind expend energy on somebody that is obviously going to dump you at any moment? You'd have to be a total idiot, or some sort of desperate looser. I see a girl I'm talking to still on here every day... I'm done. I'm not wasting my time on some attention starved nut that's addicted to a dating site. I'm also not here to "date". Which for some people seems to be what they call, getting as many people as possible to take them out and spend money on them.

Most people here just think this is a big game, or treat it like it's some kind of warehouse, where you just pick out what you want... like you're shopping for shoes or something. People need to come down to reality and know when to quit. Bottom line... If you're a super good looking person, this site gives you the power to take advantage. As the old saying goes... Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free. So if somebody seems too good to be true, then they probably are, and there's probably a catch... and the catch is that they're going to keep on coming back here. There's extremely good looking people that have been on sites like this for years... Does it take years to find somebody when you're getting countless emails a day? No, it does not. People like that are not serious. So quit falling for their BS and go with somebody who's realistic. Nobody is ever going to be perfect, and the more perfect they seem... probably the less perfect they really are. Just pick somebody decent and get on with life.
 Darkbutcomely
Joined: 4/20/2011
Msg: 31
im done with all internet dating
Posted: 7/30/2011 5:50:11 AM
SMART MOVE OP. I doubt seriously anyone could find a great love on the internet. Go out in the real world and do it the old fashion way.
 luvtodance7
Joined: 8/5/2008
Msg: 32
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Posted: 8/21/2011 3:13:03 PM
I totally agree......... the guys my age want a 20 yr old with money and the
guy I dated for 15 months had ED, again nothing helped. Cialis, Viagra,
he always promised he was going to do something "about it" but never did!
How do they expect to get someone young or as he put it "a woman with money"
when he was a high class truck driver with ED ?????? PLEEZE
 luvtodance7
Joined: 8/5/2008
Msg: 33
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Posted: 8/21/2011 3:14:57 PM
Yeah right!!!! they want Barbie with $$$$$$$$$$
 CynM
Joined: 7/11/2011
Msg: 34
im done with all internet dating
Posted: 8/21/2011 5:34:41 PM

How do they expect to get someone young or as he put it "a woman with money"
when he was a high class truck driver with ED ?????? PLEEZE

fact is he had you for 15 months. If your opinion of him is so low, why'd you hang with him for so long? Answer that truthfully (to yourself) and you're more likely to find someone than the course you're currently on.
Peace out.
 MandaPanda2613
Joined: 5/12/2011
Msg: 35
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Posted: 9/5/2011 7:39:38 PM
people on here all seem to want sex and no substance.. why is internet dating so darn hard!! dating stinks in general.. why can't this be simple??
 Roger161
Joined: 6/19/2010
Msg: 36
im done with all internet dating
Posted: 9/22/2011 6:33:03 PM
Not all people want sex and no sunstance mandapanda. (nice name by the way) Internet dating is tough but the hardest date I have ever been on was a blind date. Had to trust the hell out of a couple of friends I know. She and I didn't click but the date ended up going off without a hitch. It was the pre date that was hard, the not knowing. But it turns out that all dating is like that. You really don't know till its over what its gonna be like. The reason is simple, because we are all exactly alike, but completely differant! But that is also what makes it fun. And in the end once the date is over and you decide there were no bells or whistles you can always walk away. No harm, no foul.
 lasttym63
Joined: 8/4/2010
Msg: 37
im done with all internet dating
Posted: 9/25/2011 2:55:42 PM
Oh, coarlan that just hocks me off when they try to get the free-bee wax! Grimey butt heads.
 WhatWouldDrewDo
Joined: 9/29/2011
Msg: 38
im done with all internet dating
Posted: 10/8/2011 10:57:32 PM
Unfortunately, it's common for women to get a lot of messages from men who are, shall we say, losers. The men who are respectable don't stand a chance, because, quite frankly, the losers usually are able to message quicker than the men who actually care about women and aren't trying to get into there pants. It's a lot easier for some guys to say "Hey baby wanna chat sexi?" than it is for them to write a genuine message that shows the woman they are truly interested in the woman for who they are and not what they look like.

One of my close friends, a female, told me horror stories of how when she signed up for POF, she was bombarded with messages in her inbox of men saying "hey sexi" and men always wanting to chat, that she ended up quitting the site within a matter of days because she became so disgusted.
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