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 johnfromzelie
Joined: 3/8/2018
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LOL Hello John, Where are you from?
you would be surprised how many ask that!
 Ladyinred0407
Joined: 2/6/2016
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Posted: 9/9/2018 8:08:27 AM

you would be surprised how many ask that!



LOL Actually John...………..I have no doubt...……..
 ssm508
Joined: 5/27/2018
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Posted: 9/9/2018 10:16:29 AM
Usually the woman I'm talking to and/or myself will mention a first name within a few emails. I don't necessarily think that is an extra sign of interest. Some women had given their name on the first or second email. I responded and I never heard from them again.
 Clytemnestra
Joined: 6/6/2018
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Posted: 9/9/2018 10:54:57 AM
msg#59:
surely anyone hesitant to give their name to someone their messaging has bigger secrets to hide.


You're so funny, John! Hesitation to give a 'real name' on a social media site is a sign that person has 'bigger secrets to hide'???? hahahah

If I'm just casually chatting with someone on here, I prefer to go by my 'user name'...kind of fun to have a 'nom de plume'---no big cover-up or subterfuge involved~

Any chance you are a conspiracy theorist, John?

J/K ;-)
 backcreek7
Joined: 12/2/2014
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Posted: 9/9/2018 11:38:07 AM
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heart /sun
 mahwahgirl339114
Joined: 10/31/2017
Msg: 56
Person puts first name at end of email?
Posted: 9/9/2018 12:50:30 PM
If I write someone a message I introduce myself. Isn't it the first thing we do when we meet someone?
 johnfromzelie
Joined: 3/8/2018
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Posted: 9/9/2018 4:05:14 PM

You're so funny, John! Hesitation to give a 'real name' on a social media site is a sign that person has 'bigger secrets to hide'???? hahahah

If I'm just casually chatting with someone on here, I prefer to go by my 'user name'...kind of fun to have a 'nom de plume'---no big cover-up or subterfuge involved~

Any chance you are a conspiracy theorist, John?
I give my first name to strangers all the time, couldn't imagine giving a fake name in person. if your that concerned about giving someone your real first name, then maybe your the one worried. hardly a 'conspiracy theory', just think it is the way most introduce themselves and I don't see how you can have a conversation when they wont even share something so basic.
 missvixen22
Joined: 7/28/2018
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Posted: 9/9/2018 5:41:05 PM
I use my name at the end of emails as a courtesy ONLY!

Emma
 HUMHUMA
Joined: 1/14/2018
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Posted: 10/16/2018 3:48:53 AM
Some even manage to put their name on their heading wwhich makes it easy to FB them and see if they are real or fictitious.....they don't get in this day and age when some can break codes to try and keep a low profile....lol
 siisaa
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Posted: 10/16/2018 11:02:41 AM
^ reminds me of a man who messaged me back in 2011 when I first joined POF who disclosed his full name and FB page on the very first message. Maybe his intentions were honest but it came across as trying too hard or just plain clueless.
 johnfromzelie
Joined: 3/8/2018
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Posted: 10/16/2018 2:24:40 PM
back then, it was common to switch to facebook or messenger after a few messages. easier to message than on site. I quit doing that when a girl I chatted with (never met) flipped out on a female friend for talking to me. now, I prefer to just call or meet.
 PennyAnte
Joined: 4/17/2016
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Posted: 10/17/2018 1:17:00 PM
Funny thread hemingway234 . Thanks for bumping it up.
A lot of the responses and the whole issue reminds me of Seinfeld
Jerry always found a reason to reject potential girl friends and the reasons were hysterical.
I'm thinking of the episode with the girl with man hands. LOL.
 hemingway234
Joined: 6/6/2015
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Posted: 10/18/2018 5:42:59 AM
^^^^^^^yeah, I used to reject women who would not leave a name in their first message/reply. But dating is poor in my area and I have heard that some women want to remain anonymous online, so I did ease up on that requirement when I was dating.

But I still need a woman who can bark like a dog!
 LetitiaLeGrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
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Posted: 10/18/2018 6:32:26 PM
exactly,... what is the big deal. Some people have an automated signature for emails.
 Kevin116
Joined: 8/7/2018
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Posted: 10/18/2018 7:05:56 PM

f you know it isn't going anywhere, why do you keep conversing? I give my name right away if they give me their right away. If they don't, then I wait a few emails and if the emails are still going back and forth then I sign with my name as a polite gesture.

It is quite a simple here guy. Guys get 2 types of email here Women that are bored want to talk or emails to go to a Porn site.
 Kevin116
Joined: 8/7/2018
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Posted: 10/18/2018 7:21:16 PM

L.D. that was hilarious. Yep, the credit card number should definitely get them !

You do realize guys get emails with credit card number to Log into different online dating sites.
 MeramecRiverRat
Joined: 10/12/2017
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Posted: 10/19/2018 4:29:13 AM


Does anybody have to ask for a person's name in a message on a dating site?

Does anybody wait for a person to ask for your name before giving it out?


Dating sites have moved to first names. The OKC site told users to go by their first name instead of screen name a year or two ago. Tinder and Bumble go by first name, though some people put a fake non-name word instead. For years POF has a first name option.

I agree with the people who say it's friendlier to have your name on a POF profile, so it says "About (yourname)" instead of "About Me".

I don't ask for names first.

Because my name is considered unusual in the USA, I don't put my name at the end of an early message because they might not realize the word is a name. In real life I tend to let people say their name first because if I say "I'm (myname)", they often don't realize I'm telling them my name. They can say their name or ask "What's your name?"

Easy to put your name at the end early if you name is John or Mike or Jennifer: still gives plenty of anonymity. I'd rather not have my name as the first impression / main identity because they might make assumptions, imagining I'm an exotic foreigner with an accent.

Names are easy to forget, especially as we get older. I remember the Seinfeld in which he forgot a girl's name. Instead of admitting to her he forgot, he had a lot of neurotic dysfunction trying to get her to reveal her name. All he could get her to say was her name rhymes with a female body part. Then he and the other characters brainstormed what her name might me.
 Carnival_Fishing
Joined: 10/2/2018
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Posted: 10/19/2018 5:08:29 AM

Because my name is considered unusual in the USA, I don't put my name at the end of an early message because they might not realize the word is a name.


Some parents give their kids unusual names to make them stand out. So if someone with an unusual name puts their real name on a message or on any documents, others might think it's a made up name. People from a foreign country would be the exception to the rule. A couple of weird first names that come to mind is Moon Unit (daughter of Frank Zappa) and-maybe not quite as weird-Prince (Michael Jackson's son). IMO, the only people who should be called Prince are people in a royal family, where Prince is more of a title than a name.
Person puts first name at end of email?
Posted: 10/19/2018 6:27:06 AM
There isn't much that is formal when it comes to OLD. You can have a very deep conversation with someone who seems totally into you then POF... they are gone! Onto the next one or five. I sign my first name in POF messages as a way of showing I'm interested. I look at it as why tell them my name if it's not going to go anywhere. And even after that, one of us might stop replying.
 Carnival_Fishing
Joined: 10/2/2018
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Posted: 10/19/2018 9:01:01 AM
This brings up the question: At what point do you tell a person your last name? It's a catch 22 situation, because most people will say you don't give out your last name until you decide to get into a relationship-but on the other hand, who is going to get into a relationship without knowing a person's last name? Plus, you have to be comfortable with a person who will more than likely look for info when they get a last name, including a person's Facebook account.
 Ladyinred0407
Joined: 2/6/2016
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Posted: 10/19/2018 7:03:13 PM

…………... you have to be comfortable with a person who will more than likely look for info when they get a last name, including a person's Facebook account.



LOL, Not one man, not one date, ever looked at or looked for...……………... my Facebook page. It's not open to the public.
Person puts first name at end of email?
Posted: 10/19/2018 10:00:53 PM
I sometimes look up people on Facebook. I don't think that's a big deal. You have a good chance of seeing what they really look like on there.
 PennyAnte
Joined: 4/17/2016
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Posted: 10/20/2018 1:02:06 AM
I've been checking profiles since this thread got bumped up and I would say the majority of men that I have looked at do not use the POF option on their profiles in the About Me section to add their first name. I wasn't browsing woman but I wonder if more woman use that option than men. I used to have it on my profile Mary Beth before I hid it.
 Spectrallight
Joined: 9/14/2018
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Posted: 10/20/2018 6:49:46 AM
If I message a potential then I always leave my first name so they can address me by my name and introduce themselves.

It means nothing more.
 curvylady1965
Joined: 12/31/2017
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Posted: 10/20/2018 3:34:38 PM
I haven't had FB for a couple of years, but when I did have it, I remember getting a friend request from a young girl in Spain. She had the same first name as I. didn't know her so I checked her friends to see if it was someone I should have known or recognized (kid of a friend or something). While there were not any mutual friends, the notable take away was that she had 14 others with the same first name. I have never met or encountered another human with the same first name as mine. I've lived in several areas across the country and work for an organization that has thousands of employees across the country - yet, never encountered anyone with my name. This young lady was the first ever. I presumed she was scoping out FB friends with the same first name, because it is so rare. I never put my name out there before the point where we are comfortable enough to meet. My name is way too atypical. Trails remain on the internet forever. A barely savvy person could scope out address, workplace, etc. about me once they have my name so I am pretty picky about who I give it to online.
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