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 zangie
Joined: 5/30/2007
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Bigben; But how would she know if she were the woman who you would send an e-mail to if she e-mailed you first? That's just my point! Which is why I let men e-mail me first.


Right...we aren't mind readers...lol...and it is because of the men who say...yeah, email first if I think you are hot? (How are we supposed to know?) I have done it...it just rarely , if ever, works....
 Lucette325
Joined: 2/2/2005
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Posted: 3/5/2009 10:37:55 PM
I hope they do...
 my64bit
Joined: 12/10/2005
Msg: 535
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Posted: 5/12/2009 2:46:54 AM
It makes no difference to me, we are all on here to meet people. Your either going to like what you see & read, or your not. But if you don't hit up the ones you like, you will never know what the responce in return will be. Personaly, I do not often make contact, I work all week, I am gone allot on the weekends spending my time in the real world, I do not spend allot of time here. I will say that when I have made first contact, the responce rate on this site is probably less than 50%, thats ok though. I would rather if someone is not interested that they either just so no thanks, or not reply at all. There is nothing worse than getting hate mail from someone you have never met because you responded to the add they posted wanting to meet people. Dating is tough enough, internet dating is even tougher. Keep it simple, be real.
 whytwater
Joined: 8/7/2008
Msg: 540
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Posted: 5/25/2009 4:35:07 PM

please by all means....you will save me hours of profile screening and literally guessing who to email if you just message ME.


I completely agree. Hell, if you see me on the street, approach from the rear and goose me, I will still smile, probably more broadly than at a pof message, and greet you sincerely and warmly.
For those ladies who are hesitant to reverse the gender roles in this minute way, well, if your thinking is that high and tight, I'm probably not goin' get my bat on that pitch anyway, so do what you think is right, when you feel the energy is right. The only good conversations I have had on here, or had the opportunity to have, have been with women who initiated contact with me.
 Lone_Stranger
Joined: 4/12/2008
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Posted: 5/25/2009 8:45:36 PM
I would prefer to be contacted first because I am afraid of women. One got loose and bit me



Yea, I can see your point.........lol

I also prefer the woman to contact me, especially if she read my profile first.........but for an entirely different reason......lol.
 niceguy53
Joined: 1/4/2008
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Posted: 6/30/2009 12:37:51 PM
HELL YEA GIVE ME A SHOUT
 rocking ritschel
Joined: 2/2/2010
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Posted: 3/2/2010 9:09:27 AM
hell yeah I wish more would contact me,I think when a woman pursues a man thats very attractive an sensual to me.I can go after the gals myself but I think its sweet when they come after me too.
 Singleinlewistonidaho
Joined: 8/25/2009
Msg: 551
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Posted: 3/3/2010 4:12:18 PM
Contact the guy! He might not have seen you otherwise.

Mike
 Strings6
Joined: 7/14/2007
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Posted: 3/3/2010 5:13:58 PM
I "like" it when a woman i'm interested in contacts me with a picture...no need to go there or explain further.
 Got Trance
Joined: 5/23/2007
Msg: 553
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Posted: 3/3/2010 5:17:00 PM
Yes. Well, I do.
 JP1111
Joined: 4/13/2008
Msg: 555
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Posted: 3/3/2010 9:53:23 PM
Well, not having all 650+ replies you’ve received, I can only imagine that you’ve gotten a resounding YES to it being outdated and YES to men liking women to make the first contact!!!!

Don’t forget, we no longer live in a society with yesterday’s standards since, today’s standards are rather different.
 Strings6
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Posted: 3/4/2010 5:42:26 PM
Tuffluv..maxim models ?..why do women always assume such nonsense...however if maxim model means not fat then there are alot of women on this site who can rejoice in the fact they are in that league.
 SingleGuy4912
Joined: 7/25/2006
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Posted: 3/4/2010 7:21:19 PM
There is a difference in making the first move online vs real life. In real life, you have visual cues that let you know when a woman wants you to approach. You don't get any of that online. This is why guys on PoF like it when women make first contact. For the record, I'm in the camp that feels both sides should make first contact whether it be email or adding to the favorites list.


i guess i've been pretty lucky as many of the women who've contacted me i'd rank at 8 or better and my physical standards are pretty finicky

Pics or it didn't happen.
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