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 124Lilacs
Joined: 7/17/2007
Msg: 198
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Physical Attraction.... Does it really matter????Page 11 of 11    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11)
Yes, of course it matters! I don't see why, however, that you have to say goodbye to her. It sounds as though you really value this woman and don't want to end being with her. It sounds as though she could become one of the best friends you have ever had. Why let that go, without giving it a shot? Tell her, in as positive a way possible, what your feelings are. She may tell you goodbye, but it's also possible that she values your friendship and isn't necessarily attracted to you either. And - try not to feel bad about not being attracted to her. I don't think that's something we have very much conrol over. Either you are - or you're not. It's not a judgement against the other person or their appearance.
 anglophile artist
Joined: 5/22/2009
Msg: 200
Physical Attraction.... Does it really matter????
Posted: 6/28/2009 12:24:45 PM
I agree--physical attraction is very important. Initially it can be the deciding factor. But, it is a mistake to use that 3 second gut feeling to determine where the relationship goes--or even if there IS a relationship. Maybe this is just a gal-thing, but things can change for the better as you know a person and physical attractiveness starts to grow as the person inside becomes more and more attractive to you. Not sure if this works for men, tho. Comments ?
 Gumbo_YahYah
Joined: 9/30/2008
Msg: 201
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Physical Attraction.... Does it really matter????
Posted: 7/11/2009 10:18:20 AM
You said she doesn't turn you on...
If you didn't like pickle,,,would you get it on your hamburger???


Not meaning to be too technical,,but, don't eat something you don't like!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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