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 getwhatyouwant
Joined: 7/1/2008
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Starting to get turned off with shaved womenPage 3 of 23    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23)

So...I'm guessing you have hairy legs also? Otherwise we are only talking about a very small addition to you normal shaving routine


No sir, I do not have hairy legs. But you should know that shaving the legs is very different from shaving the pubic area....
 prinsesa_latina
Joined: 5/26/2008
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Posted: 7/22/2008 7:07:46 PM
ok..i'll put in my two cent. i always trim as close to my skin as i possibly can. i don't like to shave because it itches when it grows back and personally, i don't like the 8 yr old look. why did i start shaving? good question!! i got tired of long, curly, pubic hair getting stuck between the glue on my pad and panties. ouch!!!! always made me a lil tearie...
 Pleasurelimits
Joined: 3/13/2005
Msg: 55
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Posted: 7/23/2008 3:31:56 AM
I want to wax 'Libra'...........................................anywhere
 Green Sangha
Joined: 3/12/2008
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Posted: 7/23/2008 6:38:59 AM
I am going to say something that will be unpopular: the requirement for women to shave their vulvas speaks to me of an ingrown misogyny. That's right, a hatred of women and their natural bodies. It is one thing to give a bit of a trim, another to shave it all off. A woman who has good hygiene will not smell bad with pubic hair. This is a trend that is an outgrowth of the porn industry which caters to men's fantasies. It isn't surprising that women, who are tuned in to wanting to turn men on, have adopted the practice.

If my lover said it took a shaved pus*y to turn him on, I'd have to tell him that it was disturbing that he needed my genitals to look like a prepubescent girl to get turned on. I've expressed this to my friend's 17 year old daughter and her best friend and they ecstatically agreed and said that's what they'd been thinking. If a woman chooses to try it and finds it brings her pleasure, good for her. If a man needs it, that's his problem. I wont' be with a man that doesn't love and respect women's bodies.

Okay, let the bashing begin.
 grizzelda
Joined: 6/25/2006
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Posted: 7/23/2008 7:28:03 AM
How does removing hair to better view a womans beautiful body get equated with a hatred of the female body? Hmmmm.


It does when men and women make comments that a woman who doesnt shave or wax is, disgusting or dirty. That when! Sorry but I agree with Green, do you think that any person is going to come on here and admit that they do that because they are afraid of being rejected or considered dirty? No, they will make ridiculous statements that having pubic hair causes infection, that doctors advise that you remove all pubic hair, and that thoses people that dont follow this practice are dirty to justify why they do. Funny thing is that I never hear too many statements bout how men are disgusting or dirty if they dont shave. Or better yet, the statement that men are supposed to have hair, but women arent.

I am not saying that all women who prefer this form of maintenance do this for these reasons, but you gotta wonder about thoses that make these types of ridiculous statements.
 grizzelda
Joined: 6/25/2006
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Posted: 7/23/2008 7:49:30 AM
Well frankly I think that there are plenty of women who do things because they really believe these things. See these types of things start when girls are teenagers obviously and that is when girls are the most emotionally vulnerable to peer pressure, trying to attract males, and dealing with all the hormonal issues of their bodies. Do you really think that most girls do not seek to be part of the herd, follow what they believe is the norm and not "stick out" for the wrong reasons? Of course they do. And do you think that with porn being way more accessible than ever before, that young boys/teens are being exposed to a **stardized idea of the female body. Just read all the male younguns on these forums that think that having any pubic hair is unatural, because that is what they are exposed to. So yes, I do believe that many women do these things because it has become the "expected" and they want to be seen as sexy and desirable.
 jaysonadam
Joined: 7/4/2008
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Posted: 7/23/2008 7:49:54 AM

It's interesting, most men I've discussed this with have said they prefer little to no hair "down there", and some have even said they won't do oral if it's hairy!! Too many years of watching porn maybe mind you, they think it's ok if the woman they're with needs a weed whacker to get close to it!!


Yeah that's why I shave too - feels hypocritical to not. I *love* when a girl shaves, its such a turn off when there's a ton of hair...trimmed is OK I guess, but mostly I love it bald...

 newblue1970
Joined: 3/7/2008
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Posted: 7/23/2008 8:20:11 AM

I'd have to tell him that it was disturbing that he needed my genitals to look like a prepubescent girl to get turned on.


Why do the shave-haters ALWAYS think men who like shaved women relate it to prepubescent girls! I think YOU have the problem if you connect the two things! What about these reasons (generalzing men of course):

1 - Men are VISUAL! We LOVE looking at womens bodies, close up and everything. You can see more if its shaved.
2- Your breasts and smooth and hairless and feel wonderful. Your butt is smooth and hairless (usually ) and feels wonderful. Why wouldnt we want to feel your front all smooth and hairless??

And what about underarms and legs? Shaving those looks pretty prepubescent too! So if you shave those, maybe YOU like that prepubescent look. And if men like shaved legs and armpits, then we must all be closet pedophiles! Stop being so silly...

Personally, I like variety. If a lover indulges me, I like them to go from shaved to trimmed to making designs to fully hairy through the year. Each is fun and exciting to play with! Besides... shaving my lover is great foreplay!
 grizzelda
Joined: 6/25/2006
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Posted: 7/23/2008 8:47:54 AM
I don't believe they are shaving the genital area to fit in...they are not exposing it to the world I would hope.


No, who they are exposing it to, are the ones that have the greatest desire to be accepted by. Perhaps you are not understanding my point, I am not saying that all males think that having pubic hair is wrong or bad, but all it takes is the idea that the one she is interested is, could be. So what do you think happens? Bear in mind we arent talking about mature women, with healthy body awareness, we are discussing young women with a desire to be seen as sexually attractive.


there are guys all over these pages who show thier preference for natural breasts, unshaven women and the lot.


For every male who says this, there are easily another 5 that make disparaging statements about women who dont choose to follow this practice. I also suggest that you really "hear" a lot of the language that men use when discussing women. Go to any thread regarding breasts and a large portion of the men discuss women's breast shape and size like we have any choice in what we are born with. Count how many derogatory descriptions that are used versus positive.

Read my post again where I stated that not all women do this because of peer pressure, I said that the ones that do this because they think having pubic hair is wrong, disgusting and dirty probably are...
 Green Sangha
Joined: 3/12/2008
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Posted: 7/23/2008 10:50:34 AM
I agree with grizzelda and others. Our feelings about our own bodies are shaped by our culture and in regard to this topic, but the men we meet who have been shaped by our culture. Porn is a bigger part of that culture than ever before.

When I was a 21 year old, a woman wouldn't have dreamed of shaving her vulva and then came the explosition of the shaved "beaver" in porn (that word and others turning women bodies into animals, yet another sexist practice). It became more prevalent because men watch porn and women want to be attractive to men, so much so that they buy into the idea that it is cleaner, more attractive. It entered mainstream culture as the "brazilian bikini wax".

My friend's daughter and her best friend think this is ludicrous and only know 1 girl who shaves herself. That speaks volumes to me! Before the impact of cultural expectations has weighted them down and told them repeatedly what is expected, teenage girls aren't shaving their vagin*s. They come with hair and that is natural and seems "wierd" to shave it.

To those who say, "why shave one's legs" - that too is a cultural expectation. Go to Europe and it isn't as common, or in the African American community. We believe something is more beautiful because that is what we have been taught. I didn't shave my legs for 7 years in my twenties and it was truly liberating. I only began again because I didn't want the negative attention.

That it is a woman's choice is true. But don't kid yourselves for a minute into thinking that it is a true choice, free of pressure, conditioning, and a media barrage of images. Sure, sometimes a woman tries something just to see how it feels, but without the barrage of cultural and gender expectations a woman would most likely not choose to fully shave their vulvas.
 Beminetonight
Joined: 3/3/2008
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Posted: 7/23/2008 12:28:35 PM
Since I can follow on from Green Sangha here--I agree 100%, and I've posted a couple of anti-shaving messages in other threads here from time to time. That point that the "need" to shave is basically an insult to women, and the idea that it may well be influenced by pornography, are perfectly valid. That even goes for shaved legs and underarms, but as GS says, even for women who'd prefer not to bother with it, leaving them natural leads to such hassles that it may be easier to surrender. If only our ideas of what's attractive could match the way the human body naturally looks! But we seem to have this fetish that only a modified body can be acceptable, at least when it's the female body.

But let's be aware that there's a generational thing that seems to be happening. It's been pointed out that people over 40 tend to say "Shave my crotch? Or my lover's crotch? You must be kidding." Whereas the younger people say "Not shave? You must be kidding." So we might just have to accept some differences here.
 prinsesa_latina
Joined: 5/26/2008
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Posted: 7/23/2008 5:12:58 PM
thanks, for the tip but, no...don't really care for it. the few times that i did shave, like i mentioned before, was too itchy growing back. it was so itchy, i had to scratch and not only that, but developed lots of bumps aftwards, very unattractive. no thank you. i'll stick to the tight trimming. i think i've only watched two porns my whole entire life and don't remember if they were shaved. i guess my point is, i do it for myself and no one else. like i mentioned in my earlier posting, it was always getting caught and pulled between my undies. so, i decided to take a pair of scissors and started trimming. i never told anyone that i was doing that because i thought i was "weird" for doing so. then i started finding out that other women shave and trim...lol!!! ah....my naiveness!!! and get this...i was so excited when i found out there were bikini trimmers and shavers out there.....!!!! woo-hooooo!! this is what happens when you live in a bubble and so naive....lol!!!
 STH III
Joined: 6/5/2008
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Posted: 7/23/2008 5:26:32 PM
I love em shaved, yum!!!!
 Kahndor
Joined: 12/4/2005
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Posted: 7/23/2008 5:31:33 PM
are you ****in' kiddin' me?
if you have a lady, and your all good, who the hell cares what you think?

unless your some stuck in the 70's swinger, or watching the table an pole dancers
quit yer ****in'

if the lady wants to shave sculpt or go brazilian, that is her choice
and im betting the farm, that she doesnt give two rats asses what you think

did i say that outloud?

everyone comes to the answerman
 parry10
Joined: 1/14/2006
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Posted: 7/23/2008 6:24:23 PM
Right on GreenSangha and Grizzelda !!

Way to stand your ground !




(I haven't checked in here in way over a week I think and I'm surprised the thread is still going strong.....)

 parry10
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Posted: 7/23/2008 6:34:18 PM

Perhaps you are not aware, but many OB/GYN's advise
patients to remove all pubic hair. Pubic hair traps
moisture and bacteria which can lead to painful
urinary tract infections and vaginal infections.



Someone else replied to this also and called it a load of crap........I agree!

I think women had best spend their time worrying about bacteria and germs spread into their vaginas during oral sex from their partner's mouth a heck of a lot more than worrying about shaving their own pubic hair..........All those guys who demand a woman shaved bald down there for the bogus reason of hygeine would probably run for the hills if a woman asked him to go to the doctor, get a mouth swab done and have the results from the lab delivered before he's allowed to "go down" on her......
 parry10
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Posted: 7/23/2008 6:52:57 PM

Yeah, oral sex used to give me yeast infections. I never made the connection until after we separated.


This is now going to be funny seeing the predictable responses from the guys in this thread.......saying stuff like........."nope, can't happen with me cause I brush my teeth 82 times a day and have 5 bottles of Listerine on the go all the time.......lmao!

I wonder if all the women who shave will now think twice about the mouth and tongue that is invading their body........hahaha

All the guys in here are going to hate my guts now !!......
 JWork25
Joined: 7/16/2008
Msg: 70
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Posted: 7/24/2008 7:37:48 AM
Hair traps smell.
 BaldyisBeautiful
Joined: 3/28/2008
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Posted: 7/24/2008 7:50:18 AM

If you have a honey, then why would you care if other women are shaved or not? Just curious... Are you a hair dresser for the nether region?

I applied for that job but they turned me down on account of all the drooling! I tried to tell the it was only so I could lube it up better, but for some reason they thought differently!
 BaldyisBeautiful
Joined: 3/28/2008
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Posted: 7/24/2008 8:00:09 AM

Was it the drooling or the sniffing?

Drooling, sniffing, licking ... what's the difference? Well, except 2 are just unacceptable and the third will get restraining orders!
 Green Sangha
Joined: 3/12/2008
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Posted: 7/24/2008 1:27:52 PM
I'll just mention that since the internet when porn got an even wider audience through amateur sites there has surfaced genre porn for men who specifically like women with a hairy "bush". It is a good trend in my opinion, even though I do not think overall that the prevalence of porn is good, but that's for another thread. In any case, any quick perusal of porn will show a preponderance of women with hairless genitals which I find to be disturbing for the reasons I already mentioned. No need to beat a dead horse. I think this thread has about run its course.
 blonde chickie
Joined: 11/3/2005
Msg: 74
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Posted: 7/24/2008 1:35:19 PM
I happen to like mine shaved thank you very much, and the guys luv it shaved also
 WindSongLover
Joined: 7/20/2008
Msg: 75
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Posted: 7/24/2008 3:27:42 PM
Shaved,trimmed or not is all reflective of a woman's personality and we all have different personalities..One holds mystique , another adds a bit of character and one bears the whole truth.In which ever form the lady decides to keep her area ,The Vagina is still one of the most beautiful sights and most sought after treasures in the world.

I like to keep mine smooth as silk,but that's me,it fits my personality and the apparel that I like to wear . I haven't had one complaint yet.
 tezerah
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Posted: 7/24/2008 3:44:26 PM
people who look into porn.. and the like ..become desensitized to the real thing.. nothing is special , everything is unreal... all the passion is spent on the porn.. and the expectations are unreal... it makes a woman feel she needs to fit to that mold.... if a lady wants to shave because she feels good about .. so let it be.. it a man shaves .. thats icky.. I mean he should be neat and trim... but shaven men is just... ick... and guys.. remember to use conditioner on all hairy parts of your body including your facial hair.. rough hair hurts... and guys.. get away from the porn and smutt or you will never be attracted to real lasting love.. only to smut... good luck
 parry10
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Posted: 7/24/2008 7:36:18 PM

Oh dear.. if the OP is getting turned off by shaved women, does that mean the women that do shave will have to buy some sort of toupee for the area now?



Nawwwwwwww............the only reason I'm turned off of shaved ****s at this point in life is because the last time I was turned "on" by them was when I was playing doctor with neighbourhood girls when we were all 10 years old.......I like to think I've grown up since.......

........I really wonder about men who insist on a hairless ****.........it's very strange in my opinion........
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