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 Confident-Realist
Joined: 2/8/2004
Msg: 729
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I don't think there's any trend that babes in general dig ugly guys at all. There are some babes who have a really low self esteem with a unique/abnormal fashion sense that will go out with some guys who are ugly in comparison to her (but not ugly in general), to avoid fear of being dumped or played.

And it depends on what you call babe, and their "demographic", too. But in general, if you go to a standard well-kept bar, of the patrons that fit that mold there, the single "babes" will want good looking guys, period. Of those good looking guys, they'll want guys who aren't lacking in status and have most of their sh!t together..

And of course, a high-status, or notably "popular" guy amongst other ladies will make up for his looks if he's stylish and not "ugly" by everyone else's standards. I think that's what you might see. One strategy for a guy to draw in a girl optimally is to come across as if you are wanted by other ladies... or highly liked by others in general. That gives off the vibe of "good catch", which in the end for some, is what they want.
 sammylg
Joined: 12/20/2006
Msg: 730
Why do Babes dig ugly guys?
Posted: 12/14/2009 7:41:06 AM
^^^^^"I don't think there's any trend that babes in general dig ugly guys at all. "

I agree with you there C-R. I think that most "ugly dude-pretty babe" situations don't happen in one night pickup joints but probably happen over a period of time, where the guy starts as a friend and then moves to the next level.

Since most babes don't date ugly guys, often it is relegated to the friend zone, but there are a few that do "make" it.

It has little to do with money I would say, but more about what the person offers in personality, attitude, abilities, etc.

For example, once, about 10 years ago, I dated a woman several levels prettier than I am because I love to cook and cooked her a meal from one of the Food Network type shows. We went out for 6 months.

Today, with some leftover frozen blueberries I wanted to get rid of, I baked a Blueberry Pie and offered it to the ladies in my office. I had a really good conversation with our office hottie, who often doesn't talk to the guys in the office cause she has office romance issues. I'm not going out with her, but I asked her that we should be friends with a drink after work, and she agreed.

However, I would say that it has less to do with self-esteem (cause many of those go after the bad boy), but being burned so many times by putting looks first, that they decide to go the other route for happiness.
 sammylg
Joined: 12/20/2006
Msg: 731
Why do Babes dig ugly guys?
Posted: 12/14/2009 7:52:16 AM
"Never been impressed by a woman's humor either. Humor seems to be the big thing for women, however, given the choice btw Jessica Alba and Wanda Sykes gues who 100% of guys will pick every single time. "

Well, guys won't go for Wanda because she's an out of the closet lesbian.

And for Jessica Alba, whom I have met in person, she is the sweetest person. Guys may go gaga over her body, but would find her catch due to her nice personality. If she was a controlling biatch, it doesn't matter if you are Jessica Alba or not, you'd be jumping ship!
 8soldierfalcon8
Joined: 2/16/2009
Msg: 732
Why do Babes dig ugly guys?
Posted: 12/14/2009 7:55:27 AM
Are we talking pre-baby or post-baby Jessica Alba? There is a big difference.

-8sf8
 YoucancallmeGod
Joined: 9/26/2009
Msg: 733
Why do Babes dig ugly guys?
Posted: 12/14/2009 3:02:08 PM
maybe he has a good personality and treats her right?
seeing as how that's a tad more important.
 Sensibly Sweet
Joined: 1/22/2010
Msg: 734
Why do Babes dig ugly guys?
Posted: 1/26/2010 8:49:09 PM
He was so good looking I called him beautiful!!!!!!

But the more I saw him... the uglier he became.....
 FA780
Joined: 12/5/2009
Msg: 735
Why do Babes dig ugly guys?
Posted: 1/27/2010 7:32:36 PM
I don't understand this post. Hey ladies, am I ugly? Seriously... I don't get replies in my messages or anything so I was just wandering.
 Mr No Baggage
Joined: 10/11/2009
Msg: 736
Why do Babes dig ugly guys?
Posted: 10/25/2010 11:08:59 AM
I have often been called ugly, and it's a long time since I dated a pretty girl (high school).
On dating sites, I usually get only the very obese, or the elderly sending me messages. So in answer to the question, from my experience, attractive women only date attractive men.
 Minau
Joined: 9/2/2007
Msg: 737
Why do Babes dig ugly guys?
Posted: 10/25/2010 9:45:43 PM
It's because he treats her very well and with respect...they appreciate them and don't take them for granted...who wouldn't want to be with someone who treats them that way
 _Icon_
Joined: 5/18/2008
Msg: 738
Why do Babes dig ugly guys?
Posted: 10/25/2010 11:21:53 PM
Everyone is beautiful to someone.
 Mr No Baggage
Joined: 10/11/2009
Msg: 739
Why do Babes dig ugly guys?
Posted: 10/26/2010 12:55:43 AM
@FA780

I've looked at your profile. I'm a heterosexual guy, but YOU'RE NOT UGLY.

It's an enigma. So join the club of UNANSWERED MESSAGES.
 broncsbuff
Joined: 4/18/2008
Msg: 740
Why do Babes dig ugly guys?
Posted: 10/26/2010 9:53:16 AM

maybe he has a good personality and treats her right?
seeing as how that's a tad more important.


yes and no...

the hotter a person is, the more crap you will put up with....

Im pretty sure if Donald Trump was a manager at wallmart he wouldnt be landing runway models....just saying....
 browneyesboo
Joined: 5/19/2005
Msg: 741
Why do Babes dig ugly guys?
Posted: 10/26/2010 10:34:12 AM
Why do Babes dig ugly guys?
Translation: How come babes don't dig me?
How come an ugly guy has a girlfriend and I don't?
How come an ugly guy WITH a honda civic has a girl
and I don't and I have a hot car?

Only your personality knows for sure.
 broncsbuff
Joined: 4/18/2008
Msg: 742
Why do Babes dig ugly guys?
Posted: 10/26/2010 10:47:35 AM

Why do Babes dig ugly guys?
Translation: How come babes don't dig me?
How come an ugly guy has a girlfriend and I don't?
How come an ugly guy WITH a honda civic has a girl
and I don't and I have a hot car?

Only your personality knows for sure.


TOTALLY missing the point....

You dont see personality from across the room. I could have the greatest personality a guy could ever have, it doesnt mean I land hott chicks. It just means that IF someone finds me attractive it will improve my chances...

again...Do you think Donald Trump is landing hott chicks because he has a great personality?

If your a male that has money, you have an advantage in the dating world...I know women dont like to hear it, but its the truth.
 browneyesboo
Joined: 5/19/2005
Msg: 743
Why do Babes dig ugly guys?
Posted: 10/26/2010 12:05:50 PM
No I didn't miss the point at all.
I realize people with hot looks get tossed to the top of the list,
but the fact that some ugly guy has a girl, has NOTHING to do
with why someone else doesn't...it just points out the ugly guy
is apparently better at selling himself..

The question was...why do Babes dig ugly guys.
It's the same reason why good looking guys are sometimes
seen with women other women don't deem attractive enough.
They obviously were selling something someone else wanted to buy.

Trump might be "landing" nice chicks because he's rich, but he sure isn't
keeping them.
 MisterDynomite
Joined: 5/8/2010
Msg: 744
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Why do Babes dig ugly guys?
Posted: 10/26/2010 5:41:52 PM

If your a male that has money, you have an advantage in the dating world...I know women dont like to hear it, but its the truth.


I'd like to argue against this.. but hey......Truth is truth.

Kudos for telling it like it really is.........................


 jezebellpgh
Joined: 2/3/2010
Msg: 745
Why do Babes dig ugly guys?
Posted: 10/27/2010 4:11:24 AM
Because the guy treats her like gold, not like sh*t, like you would.
 Dancing_4_You
Joined: 1/21/2006
Msg: 746
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Why do Babes dig ugly guys?
Posted: 10/27/2010 12:22:28 PM
i think ugly is often preferable to shallow, stupid, vacuous, etc. what good is a flashy car, if the man has nothing between the ears. a lot of people w/o a lot of "things" are doing admirable work, are committed partners and often quite better in bed! after all, can't take your car into the bedroom.
 MarriedMommy
Joined: 10/3/2010
Msg: 747
Why do Babes dig ugly guys?
Posted: 10/27/2010 1:37:36 PM
Has it ever occurred to you that perhaps ugly is just a subjective term? To me Brad Pitt is butt ugly and I wouldn't give him the time of day but lots of women swoon over him.

People have told me that my husband is ugly but that is just their opinion. To me he is absolutely gorgeous.
 _Icon_
Joined: 5/18/2008
Msg: 748
Why do Babes dig ugly guys?
Posted: 10/27/2010 2:22:38 PM

Because the guy treats her like gold, not like sh*t, like you would.


Who is the most likely target for a man's bad behavior?

The same woman who is the most likely a target for a man in general.
 jackfouru
Joined: 9/10/2010
Msg: 749
Why do Babes dig ugly guys?
Posted: 10/27/2010 2:42:45 PM
Here is another fact. . better looking people tend to be the more intelligent and educated people. That is a fact. Part of the reason is smarter and educated people are far more likely to take care of themselves than those not as smart or educated. College educated people are far more health conscious than the guy who dropped out of highschool and drinks beer as his hobby on his off hours.

And intelligence begets intelligence . . generally. Nobody will enter a relationship with a person who does not suit their personality or intelligence requirements. It just doesn't happen. Smart guys will sleep with dumb girls but we won't date them for very long and we sure wouldn't marry them.

And there is something else in the genetic makeup . . I believe, which bequeaths good looks on the more intelligent. Has something to do with if you get good genes, you are getting good genes for everything . . from health to physical appearance to intelligence.

Now granted beautiful women don't always date beautiful guys, but its rare when you see a beautiful woman with an ugly guy or vice versa. It simply does not happen very often, unless you are somebody like Mike Tyson and Givens.

Anyway, going back to the OP, that was a question assuming facts which really are not very true except in unusual situations. Most people find people that are more or less their equals. That is what my fifty five years of living has shown me and taught me.
 jackfouru
Joined: 9/10/2010
Msg: 750
Why do Babes dig ugly guys?
Posted: 10/27/2010 2:45:06 PM

i think ugly is often preferable to shallow, stupid, vacuous, etc. what good is a flashy car, if the man has nothing between the ears


This is an interesting comment, but again how can a stupid or vacuous person be good looking? One of the thing that makes a person good looking is that spark in their eyes that denotes intelligence and maybe a deep soul. A vacuous person simply could not pull it off for very long imho.
 theforumfiend
Joined: 10/21/2007
Msg: 751
Why do Babes dig ugly guys?
Posted: 10/27/2010 2:48:39 PM
A lot of women do care about personality and find that an attractive trait in a man. I used to date a short, fat, balding man that at first glance didn't do it for me. It was the getting to know him that won my heart. After several months he dumped me because he felt he just had to have a prettier woman.

And yanno, just the other day there was a thread by a guy that listed a dozen reasons not to be with this woman he's dating. The list was pretty bad. Do you know why he was still with her? I'll give you a clue - it wasn't her winning personality.

So guys, if all you care about is looks and are willing to put up with anything just to be with a hot woman then go make money and quit bytching. Otherwise be more open to the fat and/or average chicks that you reject.

Edit: for the record I am not saying a lot of hot women are bytches. I don't believe that any more than I believe all men are azzholes.
 jezebellpgh
Joined: 2/3/2010
Msg: 752
Why do Babes dig ugly guys?
Posted: 10/28/2010 4:46:11 AM
Jack:

I've never met a man who was humble and though he was average to ugly looking; even when most of society would probably think him gross to look at. Since looks are subjective, how do you come to that conclusion?
 citygal95
Joined: 10/14/2010
Msg: 753
Why do Babes dig ugly guys?
Posted: 10/28/2010 7:02:21 AM
I think the majority of women would not date a man that they consider to be physically unattractive. Perhaps a man that is unattractive to most other women is very attractive to her. Perhaps he was more physically attractive when they first met and he didn't take great physical care of himself after that.

There are some other women that would date a man that they consider to be physically unattractive due to money, fame, power etc. Yes personality may help a man keep a woman. But if there isn't something that initially sparks her interest ( whether it's looks or money ), then most likely he won't get a chance to show his personality.
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