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 kpooks
Joined: 12/23/2008
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I'm into twice-a-week stands with the same girl. Yes, I want to keep coming back for more. We keep learning, growing spiritually and trying new things. Too much anxiety in the one-night-stand for me.
 GQSunset
Joined: 2/28/2009
Msg: 78
Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 5/15/2009 9:03:54 PM
The women that are complaining about one night stands have far too high expectations and have nothing more to offer. Find a beautiful ( beauty being in the eye of the beholder of course ) who can cook good, knows how to iron, has a job, has a car, has her own place, no kids ( or great kids ) and is not a demanding witch and you will find a woman with more marriage proposals than fingers to put the diamonds on.
Realisticly the sad truth in dating nowadays is that ( men ) and women just don't really have anything serious to offer except debt,hangups,issues,baggage, and bad sex. Back to school everyone and focus on the real skills needed to make each other happy and not the fantasies that abound making everyone miserable.
 MistaPepperZ
Joined: 2/2/2008
Msg: 79
Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 5/15/2009 10:06:22 PM
It ain't just the men. If it were men that only wanted sex then why do WOMEN dominate pornography and not men? Nobody would be stupid enough to try to suggest that they all do it for the money. A lot of them do it because sex is fun to them and rewarding. Granted, the reward is stretched vagina that's like an imploded parachute and a lifetime's worth of STDs but don't tell the porn stars that.
 MistaPepperZ
Joined: 2/2/2008
Msg: 80
Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 5/15/2009 10:06:53 PM
Besides, if every guy you meet only wants to bang you then that says something...your personality BLOWS...
 GQSunset
Joined: 2/28/2009
Msg: 81
Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 5/16/2009 12:49:48 PM
Funny how men prefer a tender steak but like their vaginas tough! -lol
 bhi99
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 82
Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 5/16/2009 6:23:33 PM
lol

I've done 2 years of College and one night stands are a bit part of a culture for some people.

Not everyone, by any means, but for some.

Women and men alike.


I know some girls who are really driven to build their careers, and they honestly do not have a lot of free time, relationships are hard for them to manage because when they find a guy and want to make something they only see them maybe once a week, and the guy gets tired of this.

So then you have these types of girls go out once in a while to let off some steam.

This is the same for some guys, I know a guy who's put his heart and soul into Basketball, and he doesn't have time to build a healthy relationship because he also studies and then has to dedicate part of his life to training and games.

Sometimes he goes to another town and after a big game finds a girl for a one night stand, now maybe this is different because a girl usually knows what she's getting herself into, but he's told me stories of how he's had sex with a girl only an hour from him when he was their playing a game and she wanted a relationship but he didn't have the time.
 GoodmanGreg
Joined: 11/24/2007
Msg: 83
Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 5/16/2009 6:37:25 PM
Honestly, I hate one night stands. I don't like it at all when I make contact with a lady, either through on-line dating, a chat room or whatever means. We talk a lot, via emails and instant messages and/or phone calls. Things are sounding good. We agree to meet. I take the lady to a nice restaurant. We have a nice dinner. Nice conversation. I treat her like a lady the whole time. When done eating, we embrace and I ask if I can call her again, and she replies sure. I call her the next day and I get her answering machine. I write emails to her. No replies. Never hear another word.
SO.....NO I am NOT into One Night Stands! Any other questions?
 HardEngineering
Joined: 4/3/2009
Msg: 84
Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 5/16/2009 6:53:58 PM
Nope. Not into one night stands at all. That's just an empty, meaningless physical release, nothing more.
 *~*Karen*~*
Joined: 4/9/2009
Msg: 85
Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 7/2/2009 8:09:35 AM

I take the lady to a nice restaurant. We have a nice dinner. Nice conversation. I treat her like a lady the whole time. When done eating, we embrace and I ask if I can call her again, and she replies sure. I call her the next day and I get her answering machine. I write emails to her. No replies. Never hear another word.


I agree one night stands suck. Of course in this situation, I don't feel it was a one night stand, sex did not happen. This is known as a one night date. How she dismisses you is wrong, if people would be more upfront and honest, things like this wouldn't happen. A somle "Hey, you're a great guy but I just don't feel things clicking with us." would work, right?
 GoodmanGreg
Joined: 11/24/2007
Msg: 86
Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 7/2/2009 8:35:47 AM
*~*Karen*~* : I appreciate your comment. I just think "one night stand" from a male perspective sounds more effective and less generic than "one night date". If she feels aren't clicking with us, maybe she should offer to pay her half or maybe pay the tip? I know theres another thread going around covering this topic:
Should she have paid for her share of meal ?
http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts12475130.aspx
but its so true. This is tough economy we are living in, and lots of guys just don't have lots of money to throw around, especially on some women who are ungreatful, unappreciative and don't know how to say thank you.

Remember too, the question Are most guys only into one night stands? implies that its only men who are only into one night stand. For ever man who is into one a ONS there has to be an equal amount of women who are also willing. Life is about taking a chance. There's no guarantees. Why put a tag on it? ONS? Just go out and enjoy life. Its so short. Be happy and Enjoy!
 tropicalknights
Joined: 5/2/2009
Msg: 87
Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 7/2/2009 11:20:11 AM
I don't get the whole one night stand thing either, if a woman is will to have sex with me you can bet I'm going to be seeing her more than just once. That in and of itself is good for at least 2 months. Even if she wasn't that good I would still come back a few times. There has to be more to these stories then what we are hearing.
 ICQRUCKING2
Joined: 11/12/2008
Msg: 88
Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 7/2/2009 11:23:11 AM
Why do they call it a stand anyway...you do tend to be more horizontal??
 GoodmanGreg
Joined: 11/24/2007
Msg: 89
Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 7/2/2009 11:33:54 AM

Come on guys be honest if all you want is one night stands

Same holds true of you gals. Be honest if all you are looking for is a free meal! Say so from the start then we guys know what we have let ourselves in for,the truth doesnt cost anything but you could gain a lot of respect.
 13karat
Joined: 3/7/2009
Msg: 90
Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 7/2/2009 11:37:57 AM
The women that are complaining about one night stands have far too high expectations and have nothing more to offer. Find a beautiful ( beauty being in the eye of the beholder of course ) who can cook good, knows how to iron, has a job, has a car, has her own place, no kids ( or great kids ) and is not a demanding witch and you will find a woman with more marriage proposals than fingers to put the diamonds on.


OMG - this one got me laughing so hard, I almost fell off my chair....
WHO??? has the "far too high expectations" in this one?
@GQ sunset... I am beautiful in my world... I can cook... I can iron... I have a job... I have a car.... I have my own place... I have great kids.... but OOPS! - I am a demanding witch... well a witch, that is for sure (btw - what is wrong with witches?) ... and yes, I guess I would also be considered demanding by your standards.... I demand that he have all the same qualities! ... must be why I don't have the marriage proposals and diamonds rolling off my fingers.

OP - I think both men and women are into one nite stands... it takes two to tango
 boliver
Joined: 5/7/2009
Msg: 91
Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 7/2/2009 3:09:06 PM
Yes. Both sides do it. If two adults decide that they want to have one great night of sex, then fine. Thats if either partner is capable of doing it safely and not developing an emotional issue over it. I have been asked to bed by female that I knew. She just wanted to do it, one time, that was it. I did not stand there and say, "Sorry babe, but I'm currently unavaliable for such activities." It was great! Yes, I thought about her quite a bit afterwards, and I admit I wanted more, but thats not what she wanted. She had made it clear and did not leave me in a confused, dissapointed state.

But to only be into one night stands? Hell no. I like solid, steady relationships that involve love. But thats just me. I would rather come home every day to the same woman than to pick up a different girl everynight.
 milklover
Joined: 3/10/2009
Msg: 92
Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 7/2/2009 3:19:19 PM
I don't like one night stands. I never knew this though until it happened. I met someone online and talked to them for a while. She kept hinting towards meeting and having fun. I developed an attraction to her physically and from the conversations. She came over one night, and i could immediately tell she just wanted to have sex. We did, and then she left. That was it. That's all she wanted, even though i wanted more than sex. I felt like a POS, and it was a bit depressing. Now i know that i don't like one night stands.
 Ellipsis1
Joined: 5/19/2009
Msg: 93
Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 7/3/2009 10:23:00 PM
One night stands are stupid....Id rather be with the same woman many times rather than many women only once! And I really respect a woman who is not looking for strictly sex on the first date and is willing to commit to something more.
 kiff256
Joined: 11/22/2006
Msg: 94
Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 7/4/2009 9:03:39 AM
if someone ends up in a one night stand, i personally feel they have no one to blame but themselves. i have no issue with people having sex if they both are in agreement. yet, if u sleep with someone and barely know them and their intentions, u risk what comes along with that decision.
 Java++
Joined: 9/26/2007
Msg: 95
Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 7/4/2009 9:29:41 AM
It seems like everybody is hurt by one thing and they judge everybody like they are thing that hurt them way back in the day. Why cant everybody enjoy life for what is and stop worrying and whining about how they think others look at them. I dont know if that made any sense at all, but I live my life by those two sentences. And not every man is looking for an one night stand. If it happens, so be it. What is the big deal? I had a one night stand once and the relationship lasted 3.6 years. Good luck everyone with your search of true happiness. "Father Ted" is a great TV show and should be watched.
 SUNSHINES ADVENTURE
Joined: 10/8/2008
Msg: 96
Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 7/4/2009 11:50:37 PM
Well I didnt get to read all the thread replies, however I am hearing this more and more from the guys I am "chatting" with on here. THAT WOMAN ARE JUST AS BAD nowdays. Time and time again I have heard that woman just as much get on her wanting a one night stand, and I believe its because they are married/or desperate or lonely or just like to have sex with no committments. I however am not that way but wanted to comment on this thread.

Is it true men? How many of you have been emailed by a woman just wanting to have sex with you? Or I have heard they are wanting sugar daddy's too.

I am old fahioned in my values, I believe that sex should be cherished and made special between two people that truly love each other, sex is just the bonus that comes from two that want to share themselves on a deeper level of connection. Its sad to me to hear how many give that "special" part of them away so easily. how they let strangers invade their most initmate parts of their being. I dont get it. I am proud that i have only let a few ever know me that deep and on that level. Not everyone deserves to know me that way.... I guess I honor myself and have different values......

One night stands really dont help.. they mostly hurt others in the end..........

that is my two sense anyway....
 ThatGamerDude121789
Joined: 5/31/2009
Msg: 97
Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 7/5/2009 3:02:50 AM
I never had a one night stand. I prefer to date a girl for a while and if works well stay as long as I can. And besides, I found out that the hard way that sex without love or passion is empty and pointless. Kinda like masturbation.
 SFX Group
Joined: 2/20/2008
Msg: 98
Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 7/5/2009 6:35:49 AM
this is one of my HUGE problems with the UK.

Sex is a basic supply and demand thing, you dry up supply demand gets greater, its 101 marketing...

If you lot GAVE sex freely you wouldnt be having one night stands, you make men jump through hoops, attempt to call all the shots then winge when he vanishes after sex, listen, its a 2 way street, and we are supposed to be equal, however the law seems to take women side (CSA, women rights etc...).

Now i am bound to be flamed for this, but then that just proves my point as you know i hit the nail square on the head over it..... If you supply enough of what everyone wants then there wouldnt be a desperate scamble to find sex ANYWHERE then leg it.

Imagen you could get sex from everyone, no one would be out night after night looking for it on 1 night stands, or all over the internet.

Basic marketing says to make someone everyone wants, make 10 of them, people will pay the planet to get you to make the 11th item (look at Rolls Royce, only 20000 Silver Spitirs, there fetching more then the new BMW RR which has a production line, why, you cant buy a SS anymore thats why...).
 wacowboy3
Joined: 6/26/2008
Msg: 99
Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 7/5/2009 6:56:11 AM
I can't say what every other male on here is looking for, but personally, I am looking for way more than a one night stand. I will admit that when I was young, I did , but it didnt take long to decide that meangless sex was boring . I want to make love not have sex.
 GoodmanGreg
Joined: 11/24/2007
Msg: 100
Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 7/5/2009 7:06:08 AM
I know what I'm looking for wacowboy3. I'm not looking for a one-nighter, but I suppose there are situations where a "one nighter" is the best thing, rather than getting involved with somone who doesn't "float your boat". You never know until you try though. As Consfuscios once said "every long journey begins with the first step". As I see it, a "one night stand", whether its "Female Style" or "Male Style" is a first step, that sometimes leads to the "promised land" and at other times, it remains a first step and nothing more. There are no guarantees in life. If you don't take that first step, you remain immobile. Some "one night stands" have lasted for40 years, others have not.
 GoodmanGreg
Joined: 11/24/2007
Msg: 101
Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 7/5/2009 7:32:19 AM
Oh, just to clarify:

"One night stand - Female Style: Woman goes to bed with man, has sex (not making love) and never sees the guy again. Feels hurt and betrayed.

"One night stand - Male Style": Man treats a woman like a lady should, takes her out to a nice restaurant, maybe a movie, mayb dancing, all goes well, and then never hears from the woman again.
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