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 wacowboy3
Joined: 6/26/2008
Msg: 99
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I can't say what every other male on here is looking for, but personally, I am looking for way more than a one night stand. I will admit that when I was young, I did , but it didnt take long to decide that meangless sex was boring . I want to make love not have sex.
 GoodmanGreg
Joined: 11/24/2007
Msg: 100
Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 7/5/2009 7:06:08 AM
I know what I'm looking for wacowboy3. I'm not looking for a one-nighter, but I suppose there are situations where a "one nighter" is the best thing, rather than getting involved with somone who doesn't "float your boat". You never know until you try though. As Consfuscios once said "every long journey begins with the first step". As I see it, a "one night stand", whether its "Female Style" or "Male Style" is a first step, that sometimes leads to the "promised land" and at other times, it remains a first step and nothing more. There are no guarantees in life. If you don't take that first step, you remain immobile. Some "one night stands" have lasted for40 years, others have not.
 GoodmanGreg
Joined: 11/24/2007
Msg: 101
Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 7/5/2009 7:32:19 AM
Oh, just to clarify:

"One night stand - Female Style: Woman goes to bed with man, has sex (not making love) and never sees the guy again. Feels hurt and betrayed.

"One night stand - Male Style": Man treats a woman like a lady should, takes her out to a nice restaurant, maybe a movie, mayb dancing, all goes well, and then never hears from the woman again.
 catman50
Joined: 9/9/2008
Msg: 102
Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 7/5/2009 11:15:20 AM
You meet her today and it leaves you wanting MORE . I want her for more then one night .
 RobertKoi
Joined: 11/9/2008
Msg: 103
Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 7/5/2009 5:07:40 PM
"You meet her today and it leaves you wanting MORE . I want her for more then one night."
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Exactly. One time isn't enough unless if was just plain bad. But if it was a ONS for her and nothing else, then obviously there won't be a second time.
 vapeninsula
Joined: 6/29/2009
Msg: 104
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Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 7/5/2009 5:40:53 PM
I've had women take advantage of me by only having a one message stand. I guess they don't want the email commitment.
 jacob8088
Joined: 9/6/2009
Msg: 105
Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 9/20/2009 4:43:07 AM
I don't care much for one night stands. Unless of course she happens to be a single mother.
 RonnieB77
Joined: 8/1/2009
Msg: 106
Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 2/25/2010 5:53:24 AM
Well the funny thing is my three friends who only want a one night conquest are cleaning up. As much sex as they can handle. Ok, they have zero standards, but they are also scoring some very hot women too.

My friends who are looking for a relationship, well I've been two years without a date and my friends are doing worse.
 valenciacityx
Joined: 3/10/2009
Msg: 107
Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 3/4/2010 7:29:44 PM
If all you are going to pitch is the one nighter then yeah.
But I prefer the call back after the casting appearance, hell pick up the option and make a series out of it
 deerdog1
Joined: 12/29/2006
Msg: 108
Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 6/10/2010 8:20:44 AM
I think the difference is there are just as many guys out there as women who go out with people on a date ...and there is no chemistry ... the woman just dont appeal to him ...the difference is the guy will take sex any way ... if it is the woman who is not impressed sex usually dont happen ... and dont be fooled by these people who say they dont put out on the first date .. most people if there is chemistry they will give it up ..how do I know this ??? well when I was dating more first dates than not I got lucky ...now I would like to think that it is me and that I am just irresistible but ..in reality what I think is that there are really just a lot of lonely people out there who are hungry for emotional and yes psychical contact ...so if there is a spark then she will likely come off the booty ....and he will give it up whether there is a spark or not .. however if she feel a spark and he dont ..he wont be back for more ...if he feels the spark and she dont sex wont happen at all and he will be on here talking about what teases women are
 Big_fun_wave
Joined: 2/28/2009
Msg: 109
Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 6/10/2010 4:13:27 PM
Well, I've known lots of women that after sex on a 1st night meeting seemed content to just carry on afterward with their life. Not seeking any commitment, and not wanting any in return. The motto is, women want one night stands to!
 luckyhot777s
Joined: 12/26/2008
Msg: 110
Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 6/10/2010 11:03:53 PM
Yes, every guy on here is only into one night stands, they are cheaters, no good at sex, liars, lazy and every other thing bad you can think of.

If you read the forums enough and take it seriously....



But, I'm with you..if the sex is great, why leave great sex?...it doesn't make any sense.

I suppose there might be a few actual one night stand bandits, who just want another notch on their belts.

I think a few reasons could be the guy had the right intentions, but they had sex the first night, and he might wonder if she did this so easily with him, does she do it with every man she dates and will that effect if she can be trusted.

It could be the sex was that bad or not so bad, but enough indications to show that they are not compatible in that area for the long haul, so why waste more time?

Then it might be after that night, she acted like they were boyfriend/girlfriend on the road to commitment, and he was not ready for that yet. Surely most might shy away from that.

I guess there are other reasons and there might be more bandits that I think...but, if I was having a similar problem, the easy fix would be to not have sex on the first date.

Personally as a man, I would rather wait till I know someone more than one date.
 luckyhot777s
Joined: 12/26/2008
Msg: 111
Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 6/10/2010 11:38:24 PM
Here's the deal...if a woman is going to have sex on the first night...she has to be willing to accept the concequences....meaning there are no garuantee's, it might develop into something more, it may not...you might see him again, you might not.

Sorry, thats the way it is, we are adults and accountable for our own actions.
 Cat*Eyes
Joined: 9/13/2006
Msg: 112
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Posted: 6/11/2010 5:19:01 AM
Sadly I do think most guys would like a one night thing. The guys I have met, are either out to get physical with me with no regard to me, or are not interested in me at all. Either way, in reality, they are not really interested in me. One night stands are so superfiscial and meaningless. I am not into one night flings or guys who only want sex for a physical moment to sastify their own needs. I have desires too of sexual fulfillment. I want sex in a REAL, mutually, caring, loving, and on going relationship, with a SANE man, of the type I described in my profile.
 Bobis35
Joined: 6/4/2010
Msg: 113
Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 6/11/2010 5:39:49 AM
Are most guys only into one night stands?

No, not most, not at all, some folks are, just like some folks are not into one night stands. They can be fun, but I don't really see the point in them. But at the same time, sometimes they are hard to turn down, sadly. You live and learn.
 luckyhot777s
Joined: 12/26/2008
Msg: 114
Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 6/11/2010 6:41:19 AM

Well the funny thing is my three friends who only want a one night conquest are cleaning up. As much sex as they can handle. Ok, they have zero standards, but they are also scoring some very hot women too.


Really? and when you figure its said men can have sex freely and society claims women can't be that way...it makes you wonder.

Who are these men having sex with?..........lol, someone has a lot of explaining to do, and this is why you cannot believe surveys where the participants answer the questions.
 Big_fun_wave
Joined: 2/28/2009
Msg: 115
Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 6/11/2010 5:57:55 PM
Cat*Eyes... Your kidding yourself! The men you meet that you say are after sex and want it from you, there interested in you. Their just not interested in you the way you would like them to be. A few women I was with were only after sex, as I showed an interest in pursuing more than sex. But they were content with only remaining friends at most. I would see them again courting other men for the same reasons. You should just be glad men are interested in you at all and not complain. I've known others like you (same complaint), I kid you not when they were not getting much or any attention from men, they were mad about that.
 luckyhot777s
Joined: 12/26/2008
Msg: 116
Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 6/12/2010 6:14:35 AM
^^^^most people post responces based on their own experiences...I believe thats to be expected.

However...I can't imagine why anyone would want to have one night of sex with her and just disappear.

Hell, I would come around at least three times a week....I could use the extra sleep.
 naturallydeselected
Joined: 6/6/2010
Msg: 117
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Posted: 6/12/2010 8:07:16 AM
Most guys with profiles aren't writing their profiles to land a woman and be in a relationship with them. The profiles are written for the sole purpose of manipulating the woman into thinking that's what they want and are seeking. If the woman is attractive enough they will "wait it out" until the woman gives into sex. Once that conquest is over then it becomes a matter of them weighing their future options with other "prospects" they have in their inbox and if you're not at the top of their list don't expect a callback unless it's a booty call.

Profiles on sites like these are like resumes, they are meticulously written to sell themselves better than they actually are in hopes of landing a job... unfortunately the "job" here is between women's legs. Everyone wants to get hired, but not everyone who is employed likes where they work so they seek better jobs.

I read these profiles and I can't help but laugh at most of them.
 Helloitsmeyourlookingfor
Joined: 7/23/2009
Msg: 118
Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 2/17/2012 11:27:07 AM
Plenty of married women on here too. Just as many women want to play as men. The men just tend to be more open about it.
Its like the rest of the world... bar scene, grocery store.... if you choose not to get to know the person first..... that's on you.
 dondea
Joined: 12/10/2007
Msg: 119
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Posted: 2/17/2012 12:01:50 PM
Thank you POF Judge RomanticArtist for your off topic remarks on one night stands! Someone must have stirred your Wheaties to bring up an old thread and comment on it off topic. BTW: Married people are allowed to participate in the forums just as you divorced people are even though you do not agree with it. There is no need to bash any married people on POF.


OT: I agree with most of the previous posters that it's not just the men (including the married ones) who want or initiate one-night stands. If there is some sort of chemistry between two ADULTS, it can happen regardless of whether the guy or gal or both initiates it. Throughout my life and the interactions I have had in the past, it's been about 50/50.
 shygirl413
Joined: 2/12/2012
Msg: 120
Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 2/17/2012 1:18:44 PM
not at all most guys I meet want to get married.. I never met a guy who wanted a one night stand actually .. they all get serious way to fast and scare me away...
 Nstram
Joined: 1/20/2012
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Posted: 2/18/2012 3:34:35 AM
Honestly I don't even have any friends that are into one night stands... I mean some of them just want a strictly physical relationship sure, that's normal around my age range. But why limit yourself to one night? it doesn't make sense.. especially because the first time with anyone is usually a little awkward.


OH there is another option: something happened during sex that scared the guy away from coming back. Definitely a possibility.
 forums_gal
Joined: 1/30/2012
Msg: 122
Are most guys only into one night stands?
Posted: 2/18/2012 4:03:56 PM
I'm sure some are. I wouldn't necessarily say most though.
 MikeWM
Joined: 2/7/2011
Msg: 123
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Posted: 2/18/2012 4:48:14 PM
I think most people are only into one night stands at certain points in their lives. But not all will either admit thats all they want or even act on it

Where the genders DO differ though is that I think women are far more likely to lie about it than men, even to themselves

So even if both people ONLY wanted a one night stand it will only be the woman trying to feign wholesomeness and claim that for her it was "love at first sight" and the cad of a bloke used her and discarded her yadda yadda blah de blah to try and keep face and avoid being stigmatised by peoples rather silly double standards or even her own conflicting viewpoints
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