Counseling is a LOT more than "just talking about it." They guide you to where your real blocks are, and underlying issues; and guide you through working them out. In the end, all of the answers are yours; but a lot of the artificial, or old, garbage is knocked out of the way.
In the end, some of the answers are our own, but some we do get from others. But 'therapy' is not a cure all; we don't get to 'work out our issues' and become completely free from things that happened to us in the past. Some 'issues' ARE forever, no matter how much we wish they would go away. While modern medicine would like people to believe that they can 'fix' everything, they really can't. The best you can do, is cope with what's happened to yourself, and it doesn't always mean becoming what everyone else thinks you should be. Gypsy came here to ask a question (though she probably already knows the answer), most likely looking for some support for her position on various sexual opinions; that said, yes, Gypsy, there are plenty of men in this world who aren't interested in either oral or anal sex. But with each activity you eliminate from prospective mates, the percentages of finding someone who will be interested in you lowers as well. So, just be up front about it in your profile, and those of us who are still interested will make themselves known.