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Joined: 4/19/2007
Msg: 14
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Most guys I know want a woman who earns in the same income bracket as him, but with him earning more than her. Too much more than her, and you worry she's a gold-digger. Too much less than her, and you worry that you're her cabana-boy. Less than her, and she might not feel protected. Does it make sense? No. But what about dating does?
Joined: 7/1/2008
Msg: 15
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Posted: 7/22/2008 6:21:56 PM
Dude if you are worried about gold diggers I'd say thats your issue. Just because she can't make as much money as you doesn't mean she's unworthy of you. How about this: if you are together happy, and not starving, call it good!

Gold digggers are obvious, you can tell in the phoney way they act. And if you are not sure, ask a male friend, I'm sure he'd be able to tell.
Joined: 11/10/2006
Msg: 16
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Posted: 7/22/2008 6:37:41 PM
The day women start paying my way in life is the day I'll care about what they make. The best I've been able to ever find are women that treat in kind on a semi-equal basis.

I don't want a woman for her money and certainly don't want a woman who wants me for mine.

It's like people that want to get next to really wealthy people. I ask them if they aren't cutting you a check, why do you care?
Joined: 7/18/2008
Msg: 17
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Posted: 9/11/2008 8:34:29 AM
I like the way u think.
Joined: 5/15/2008
Msg: 18
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Posted: 9/11/2008 8:47:41 AM
IMO women generally care more money than men do. I think most men don't care about money as long as a woman is able to support herself.
Joined: 2/20/2008
Msg: 19
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Posted: 9/11/2008 10:12:46 AM

There are a few who don't care, and there are a few who have requirements of 75-100k per year. But yes, around here, there's a MINIMUM income level of 50k for the under 30 crowd.

Not that I care how much she makes, never have and never will...

...but 50K isn't that much.
Joined: 5/27/2008
Msg: 20
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Posted: 9/11/2008 8:12:02 PM
Income doesn't matter as much to me as the income/debt ratio does. I'd rather date someone making minimum wage and living within their meager means without debt, than someone who makes $100,000/yr, spends $110,000 each year, and owes $360,000. It's an exaggeration of course, but you get the picture.

If someone has been irresponsible and is not making an effort to correct the situation, it places an impedance upon the possibility of a serious relationship with me.
Joined: 8/26/2008
Msg: 21
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Posted: 9/12/2008 1:33:35 AM
I think all of this talk of income on a dating site is disgusting. It takes all the fun out of dating and turns it into another mundane meaningless financial excersize. As if there aren't enough of those in our boring everyday lives of responsibility.

But here are my two cents anyways.
I think back in the day when gramps could go out an get any great job he wanted because women weren't clogging up the workforce it was great. Sure women could expect men to be the breadwinner because men could find a freaking job! (And for anyone who wants to accuse me of being sexist, don't waste your time.) But we don't live in that world anymore.

As far as I am concerned a woman has no business worrying about my income, and I have no business worrying about hers. I won't ask her for money and she better not ask me for mine. Simple as that. We are all equals here, or so modern culture would like us to think. Lets just have a good time and quit worrying about ****ing money.

I hate it when it seems like I am getting my credit checked on a date. BOOOORING!
Joined: 3/31/2007
Msg: 22
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Posted: 9/12/2008 6:20:09 AM
I don't care what her income is. But I do care how she manages her money. If a woman my age can't manage her finances and is always low on cash at the end of the month or pay period that is too many red flags for me. There are some who make 40k and have more saved and invested than another who makes 100k.

There are dating sites that have a requirement field regarding income. It's a big turn off to view a great profile and then find she requires her date to make X amount of dollars.
Joined: 10/27/2007
Msg: 23
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Posted: 9/12/2008 8:14:56 PM
The movie is Intolerable Cruelty by the Coen Brothers.
Joined: 2/21/2007
Msg: 24
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Posted: 9/12/2008 8:26:13 PM
For me it has less to do with income and more to do with money management and how goal oriented she is.
Joined: 7/5/2008
Msg: 25
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Posted: 9/12/2008 11:46:32 PM
I can't bite my tongue on this one. Irrespective of gender, it's nothing to do with who pays, who marries up/down, or any of the other things people have stated. It's a matter of plain old respect. How on Earth can you respect someone who has no ambition, no tenacity, no decent values, no education, etcetera??? It's beyond belief. I sometimes wonder if all these similar responses are truly reality (one definitely wonders given so many similar responses, yet can't quite make sense of it) or are they a mere reflection of the types of people who post on these boards? There is absolutely no intent to offend or denigrate...I just don't get the mentality. Same thing with "looks." I literally almost cannot believe someone would go for another person based mostly on looks. I cannot fathom being attracted to even a Fabio look alike if he had nothing else going for him....and it wouldn't matter if I had 20 billion bucks in the bank. It's just a total turn off and I can't believe men would feel any differently. I don't get it...and I probably never will. Am I the only one who thinks this way???
Joined: 8/21/2008
Msg: 26
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Posted: 9/13/2008 4:50:29 PM
What if her income is far less than yours? Is that an issue? What if she was out of the workforce for a while and is back in. It's hard to make a decent income when you were out for almost 10 years.
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