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 Gangster Kitten
Joined: 4/3/2008
Msg: 56
Being open sexually does not make you a SLUTPage 2 of 11    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11)
Slut, like all words, is just a word. the word itself is harmless. A word cannot be degrading, disrespectful. It is a word. The context and the intent behind the word is what gives it it's edge.

Now, to address this issue...
I think the negative conotation to the word 'slut' needs to be removed. The very simple definition of it means a promiscuous woman. I really don't find that to be a negative or positive, that's just how the person is. Trashy or not, that's a different angle, and I believe needs to be ignored.

Sex is a drive motivated by the lizard brain of all human beings. most all human beings have a sex drive of some degree, and everyone has experienced lust at some point in their sexual maturation. I find it interesting that human beings would condemn such a natural drive.

Whether a woman is 'prude' or 'promiscuous' is the woman's decision- her right - to be the person she is. The constitution states blatantly: "Life, Liberty, and the Pursuit of Happiness" (for all you fellow Americans). if a woman's pursuit of happiness is to be extremely selective and intimate with a very select few, it is her right and should be respected.

Conversely, if a woman's pursuit of happiness entails the enjoyment of sex, of varying degrees from varying partners, it's her right as well, and should also be respected. One can make the argument of STDs, but as all pleasures in life, there will always be risks.

The application of 'morality' to sex acts between two consenting adults which harms no-one, needs to be removed. It's silly. This also entails, homosexual activity as well. It's immature and crass. It's also arrogant to place one's standards of sexuality above someone else's.


In conclusion: It's only logical we allow women to do with their vaginas as they see fit(hopefully, one day, a woman will want to do me with their vagina!)
 Gangster Kitten
Joined: 4/3/2008
Msg: 59
Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 7/30/2008 10:15:24 AM
^^ yup, and the most annoying thing in the world, is the douchebag in the locker room after a workout, struting around with nothing but a towel around his middruff, strutting off his six-pack and rattling off to his friends about the pornstar quality sex he's been getting from six different woman over the past 2 weeks.
 arwen52
Joined: 3/13/2008
Msg: 61
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Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 7/30/2008 10:45:14 AM
The only thing that makes you a slut is actually being a slut. Showing cleavage does not mean you will sleep with someone. However, if the image you create of yourself, either in your profile or as you walk around in life, is inconsistent with the results you say you want, they you need to rethink the image you are creating. If you are consistently getting results that are not what you want, then it's time to change the message you're putting out. Guys cannot be faulted if a woman is putting out mixed messages.

There's no harm with flirting, no harm with talking openly, and no one should assume that it means I'm going to sleep with them. However, if I dress provocatively, flirt, and talk about sex with a guy, I should not be surprised or offended if he comes on to me. If I don't want that kind of attention, there are ways I can behave that make it clear and discourage it.
 Gangster Kitten
Joined: 4/3/2008
Msg: 62
Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 7/30/2008 11:10:46 AM

Right on john. There is only one thing wrong with this john. If you were on 8 mile rd. and girls are standing on a street corner giving blowjobs for $20.00. What would you call them. Hmmmm. I don't like to use the word slut, but sometimes if the shoe fits. I had jobs were women would blow there foremens at lunch time. What are they. Just hungry i guess So this word (SLUT) can be looked at many ways. When i got married my first time ages ago. We had sex 4 or 5 times a week any place anytime. She wasn't a slut. We were a happy couple in love. If i would see her with another guy now not doing anything. I think i would use that word (slut). That would be a little out of context, but never the less it would pop up in my head. Oh by the way. If a woman sleeps around with alot of guys they call her a slut. If a guy sleeps around with alot of women he is a stud. So it's not fair to the women of the world to get that rap.......sorry ladies.


Again subjective. Furthermore, That's prostitution, so the proper derogatory noun would be "Whore".

As to your second part of your post about blowing foremen, If that is true, unless you got a blowjob yourself, is it even any of your business? It is their lunchbreak after all, as long as they're not late for work, So?
 mthomjmark
Joined: 2/27/2008
Msg: 69
Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 7/30/2008 2:18:49 PM
You can do whatever you want its a free country. To me a slut is someone that sleeps around. A tease is someone that likes attention and tries to get men to think that they will sleep with them but they never will.

But thats you. Many women in todays world are slutty. They get tats and other things to be equal to men and they are now almost as bad as men.

And I dont really listen to anyone that much that says they are so smart. Have you ever seen anyone post,"I'm not very bright". never got that one.
 smhrgs3000
Joined: 7/7/2008
Msg: 75
Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 7/31/2008 9:22:14 AM
No no no no. If you're a self confident, sexually liberated and self assured lady who knows her own mind, makes her own decisions, and chases her own dreams, and refuses to let others decide these things for you based n their own warped or antiquated morals, then it just means that you DO NOT LIVE IN THE BIBLE BELT (Kansas to be specific)! AARRGGHHH!
Why did I ever move back from Canada, tse tse tse.
 Gangster Kitten
Joined: 4/3/2008
Msg: 77
Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 7/31/2008 9:30:39 AM
To be honest, the only women i'd ever even consider calling a slut, wouldn't be the promiscuous or sexually open women.

it'd be the women that use sex as a manipulative tool over men. Like a woman who dangles sex over her boyfriend's face to get what she wants; or a woman who sleeps with her boss in hopes of a promotion.
 startle
Joined: 7/22/2008
Msg: 79
Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 7/31/2008 9:53:59 AM
sex is something that takes place behind closed doors. therefore, you have no idea how many partners the other has had. you only know how they are presenting themselves. 2nd point, if someone is having no problem controlling themseves sexually, it could be because they have a weak sex drive. is that what you want in your life on a permanent basis.
 BaldyisBeautiful
Joined: 3/28/2008
Msg: 80
Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 7/31/2008 9:58:46 AM
Sabrusura:
Just do what I do, and skip over his male chauvinist posts! I think women with tattoos are sexy (depending on the tattoo and the placement) and women have the right to do with their bodies anything they want ... and they aren't considered sluts either!
 lilgurl4U
Joined: 7/27/2008
Msg: 81
Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 7/31/2008 10:46:42 AM
OP.....I could NOT agree with you more....however seeing that women such as ourselves are far and few between that when we do find someone that interests us and we begin to drift out of the "SAFE" zone most will assume us EASY!

There are a few select individuals that know me and know me as a real person and it is those people that I chose to associate with and not those who pass judgement based solely on the fact that I am able to carry a conversation outside of the norm....which most times they are not capable of handling....:)



Wishing You Enough,..............................
 HarDayKnight
Joined: 12/27/2007
Msg: 82
Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 7/31/2008 11:30:31 AM
I don't think I've ever used the word "slut" to discribe a woman... Unless the word "drunken" preceded it. Even then, I just thought it.
 BaldyisBeautiful
Joined: 3/28/2008
Msg: 83
Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 7/31/2008 11:32:11 AM

I don't think I've ever used the word "slut" to discribe a woman... Unless the word "drunken" preceded it. Even then, I just thought it.

I don't use the word for women either ... just for myself!!!!
 HarDayKnight
Joined: 12/27/2007
Msg: 84
Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 7/31/2008 11:37:37 AM
^^^ Now you're just bragging.
 the_write_stuff
Joined: 6/27/2008
Msg: 86
Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 7/31/2008 12:51:14 PM
I'm a bird of a different feather altogether when it comes to matters and issues of sex and sexuality. But I will say, and only partly in jest, that the term "slut" has, more often than not, been a term of endearment on my part. If a man is honest with himself first, allowing himself to then be honest with you/women, he will tell you that he wants a certain degree of "sluttiness" in his bedroom--even with his prized possession. If he tells you differently be wary as, and I realize the risks I take in painting with such a broad brush, he's likely lying. After all, we've been conditioned this way for generations!
 the_write_stuff
Joined: 6/27/2008
Msg: 88
Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 7/31/2008 2:22:47 PM
Just like women want it all (according to ads, commercials, etc) so do some men; I want a great communicator, a passionate woman with a zest for living and one who is cultured but is just as comfortable in jeans, ball cap and barefeet as she is in her business suite. I want a woman who likes to skydive, swim with sharks, climb mountains, go to museums, do crosswords with me and do it all with a smile while keeping (and enjoying) our bedroom a fire zone! I don't want a woman who is going to be content to stand in my shadow or behind me but rather one with her own identity who will challenge me, confront me & call me on bullshit. One who can give as good as she gets. One committed to a life fully lived within the context of a faithful, monogamous relationship. One to share my dreams with as well as one who'd bring me along in the pursuit of her own. I have always said that if a woman, any woman, can capture my interest, attention, heart and mind then my****will gladly and easily follow. Too much to expect? Quite possibly. Too much to ask? Not hardly.

She will come.......as sure as my mind knows my name, my heart knows I'll one day meet "this" woman!.
 StarcityRomeo
Joined: 4/19/2008
Msg: 90
Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 7/31/2008 5:34:22 PM
As long as she's a smart whore, I really dont care if she is open about sexuality in general, or how she dresses. I'm just very intolerant of dumb sluts.

Flash all the lovin' you want. I prefer my girl to dress sexy if she likes so that she feels sexy, and if it stimulates her to have men drooling, then more power to her as long as she's not ****in' around.

My girl recently told me she "flashes" her tits at truckers on the interstate. I had no clue previously, but I haven't been seeing her that long. Nevertheless, I found this to be very stimulating for me. She hasn't obliged me to witness it yet, but if she does, that would be awesome...lol.
 StarcityRomeo
Joined: 4/19/2008
Msg: 97
Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 8/1/2008 11:53:34 AM
I dont think I have low self esteem buddy. Its really bait, thats all, and it works for me. Ive got the hottest chick on POF now. I really need to work on the abs though...lol, like losing about 50 lbs wouldnt hurt.

side note: Ive heard Bush plans on selling Canada to China before he leaves office. Im not sure if its true or not, but if so, not much you guys are going to do about it huh? I mean, you could beg for some mercy, as usual. Hey, at least we Americans wont have far to go to work now. Maybe, they will move the other 20,000 factories we've opened in China back over to Canada too. The first thing I would do is get those cops some squad cars in exchange for those poor cold ass horses.


 El_Mariachi
Joined: 4/21/2007
Msg: 102
Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 8/2/2008 5:46:13 AM
You know, not all cleavage shots are created equal.

I wonder if the men who put up shirtless pics are considered "sluts". I know either are considered to have low self-esteem, but I dunno.

I would think that showing off one's body to strangers shows a certain amount of a healthy ego, really. I mean, would you be showing something that you didn't think was nice to see?

Anyone who shows skin probably does so because they know sex sells.. even just the teeniest hint of it. I very much doubt that anyone here showing skin feels that said skin is ALL they have to offer... they merely understand advertising very very well.

So not sluts... just adept marketers.
 Angelnurse10
Joined: 6/10/2007
Msg: 103
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Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 8/2/2008 8:53:31 AM
harliegal. I am a very sexual person and very open about sex, which does not make me a slut ,and you are so right about men having a little more class.
BUT, I do have to say I have only had one bad email from a man on here. Most of the men on here are very classy.
YAHHHH POF guys
Denise
 StarcityRomeo
Joined: 4/19/2008
Msg: 104
Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 8/2/2008 3:12:59 PM
El Mariachi,
Are you saying I may be a "slut"? I cherish the thought sweety. Thank you so much.

Kaylie,
You're the bomb princess. I could love you all over, and up and down.

Romeo
 SweetnSassyNatureLover
Joined: 4/11/2008
Msg: 105
Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 8/2/2008 3:46:25 PM
(quote) with all due respect bigadventure i disagree. i think that there is a standard for how "good" girls conduct themselves vs. how less scrupulous girls conduct themselves. obviously i don't think that a woman should go around wearing all black and a bur'qa the way i do. this simply isn't appropriate for most women in our society, and understandably so. i do believe however that there are certain standards of decency that women should uphold. i'm not saying that every woman who sexualized herself by flashing cleavage and being blatantly sexual with men is a wh@@e, but i definitely think that it sends men a bad signal. even if she is not a wh@@e, this is one of those ,matters where if it walks like a duck, and it quacks like a duck........you know where i'm going with this. men looking to settle down will not settle down most times with a woman who behaves this way. on the other hand, men who want a cheap roll in the sack and nothing more will target these kind of women. ladies get back what they send out. the femenist movement has taught women in this country that loose behavior is a way for women to empower and express themeselves and the tragic thing is that so many women have bought into this. girls don't need to behave like women of ill repute to get a man's attention, unless they're looking for the wrong kind of attention
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Women call other women sluts more than men do.While I appreciate the beliefs of HRH queen B above and indeed they are good ones, I do not agree with all of them. I am open minded and have no problem discussing sexual matters.I don't know what being blatantly sexual means , I would only be so with someone I was deeply interested in.I would not flash the flesh on a profile, but I don't judge those who do. If you got it, flaunt it.I have found most men on here, lonely and looking for Miss right.I am very upfront about sexual things and have never encountered a man , who thought badly of me because of it.In fact most have wanted serious relationships with me and not the solely sexual kind either.All the men who contacted me were serious, decent men.I would never be crude or vulgar or send nude pics--I find such things debasing.But there is no doubt I am a sexual woman . I think men appreciate a strong, sexual, intelligent woman and if they don't, mores the pity.I will never change who I am and those who call women sluts should forget the labeling of others and look in the mirror at themselves. Peoples sex lives are their own business.If only people got as het up about violence as they do about sex.

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Diablera - My feelings as well. And my experiences pretty much too.
 El_Mariachi
Joined: 4/21/2007
Msg: 106
Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 8/2/2008 5:18:41 PM

El Mariachi,
Are you saying I may be a "slut"? I cherish the thought sweety. Thank you so much.


Um.. no.. I was asking "the board" if they say the same $hit about men and skin as they do about women and skin.
 SweetnSassyNatureLover
Joined: 4/11/2008
Msg: 108
Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 8/3/2008 7:50:31 PM
Talking with my friends on this subject made me see how many people really interpret certain words differently and how easily it is to misunderstand and miscommunicate - and that's just on a general basis. It seems harder in a more intimate setting and so it's so important for people to be open about things.

Being open sexually does not mean a person will sleep around and are willing to be "open" to anything that comes along. It doesn't mean that they have no boundaries or self respect. It doesn't mean they are agreeing to doing anything and everything either, or having their private and personally thoughts, feelings and intimacies broadcast on the internet ect. It doesn't mean that they give another permission to degrade or abuse them, to humiliate or embarrass them. It also doesn't mean the same as an "open relationship" which some might assume. It certainly doesn't mean she is a slut because she can express herself as a woman to her man.

In how I look at this is that a person that is open sexually is that they can be completely free to talk to their partner/so/bf/husband about sexually issues w/ trust and w/o judgement. It just means there is a wonderful communication between the two and that the intimate part of their relationship is not confined to rules, that they can be open to each other w/o fear. That's my understanding anyway. It is my strong belief that it is not only important to be able to openly discuss sexual topics with your partner but that it really helps the relationship be a solid and strong one. But that's just my opinion and of course I could be completely wrong. Hmmmm.

I am glad that the op started this thread, it has been very interesting to see the responses, the different views and the sparks for thought and discussion.
 jmrzeus
Joined: 7/7/2007
Msg: 112
Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 8/13/2008 11:51:48 AM
This phase has always pissed me off. If a guy sleep with a bunch of consenting ladies, he's called a stud(please) And if a woman does it, she's a slut(give me a break). Woman have a sex drive just like men(sometimes More). I find they people who call ladies sluts, for doing this ARE JUST INSECURE IN THEMSELVES and need too put other people down,to feel better about themselves. If your single,or swing(both parties consent), then whose business is what consenting adults do. HELLO people where in the 2100 century. Well, have fun all, and practise SAFE SEX(make sure the husband isn't home ). Take care all Jim
 jmrzeus
Joined: 7/7/2007
Msg: 113
Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 8/13/2008 12:20:26 PM
What the difference between a "slut" and a "****" ----A slut sleeps with everyone ---A **** sleeps with everyone but YOU

I may be easy, BUT i ain't cheap

FREE ( o )( o ) EXAMS, house calls available

What doesn't hurt ya, makes you glad the paddle had fur on it.

WHY CAN'T WE ALL JUST GET ALONG

Take care all, Jim cheers
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