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 abandonedbycupid
Joined: 7/13/2008
Msg: 51
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Okay. I know the comments might not have been a great idea but I was joking. I wouldn't mind if someone were to joke with me in a similar manner. I only serve a dish that I'm willing to eat. Things such as, 'maybe we can take the left over hummus in your fanny pack.' I think that's funny. Obviously the consistency is all wrong for a leather package. Nothing hurtful.
 Fight Naked
Joined: 7/11/2008
Msg: 52
He brought his Fanny with him...
Posted: 7/25/2008 4:41:23 PM
Good One.

It is all about finding our match. But consider stepping outside of your comfort zone. Just color outside the lines, or step outside the box. It is about finding our match. I sure they is something you do that would bug him... that would bug me. Just being honest. However; look at all of the other qualities and list deal breakers and keepers... if it is a deal breaker... done... if okay, embrace it.

We are all looking for a certain look, what ever look it is.... we are looking. Not shallow at all. Just a preference. We are entitled to pick and chose as we see.
 snjbeach
Joined: 7/14/2008
Msg: 53
He brought his Fanny with him...
Posted: 7/25/2008 5:02:42 PM
Fanny pack..........HILARIOUS!!!!!!!!! How old was this guy? I don't think a man my age (i'm 26) would even attempt to try to get away with that! A man purse I could definitely understand and handle, but a fanny pack?????????!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 Javan2
Joined: 7/9/2005
Msg: 54
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Posted: 7/25/2008 5:14:37 PM
Soft Lily: "You see; this is what sisters put us through. " But she is right in that he equated it with her blackness? Fanny packs, personally, seems like something a woman would have not a dude. She didn't like him wearing a fanny pack and strangely , I understand. But I know that this sister wouldn't like me either cause I only mostly wear shorts and T's. I'm not a slave to fashion at all. I don't understand, "Why would a man have a purse or a fanny pack? "
 Javan2
Joined: 7/9/2005
Msg: 55
He brought his Fanny with him...
Posted: 7/25/2008 5:25:15 PM
Chrissy; Google It !!!
 HarleyKat~
Joined: 3/30/2008
Msg: 56
He brought his Fanny with him...
Posted: 7/25/2008 5:27:35 PM
Not reading through all the posts...but YES...Fanny Packs are OUT, and never should have been IN! And no...a "man purse" is not "better"...it is equivalent to a fanny pack...so they both would suck!

Also...the poster who compared it to strapping a back pack on his scoot...totally different...saddle bags are SO not fanny packs...primarily because...well, they are not worn on our fannies!

Sorry...I have never met a cool guy...who wears one. Ick.
 Beholder123
Joined: 6/25/2008
Msg: 57
He brought his Fanny with him...
Posted: 7/25/2008 5:34:09 PM
HARLEY CAT...

I have never talked to you in forums but I have read your responses to many and HOLY SH!T.....you crack me up .....
love it......
 alwaysme2
Joined: 5/2/2007
Msg: 58
He brought his Fanny with him...
Posted: 7/25/2008 6:56:44 PM

'maybe we can take the left over hummus in your fanny pack




If my date has the room I would prefer for him to take home the left- over desert! Not a bad idea really. No need for a doggie bag!

Me personally I think I would have raised an eyebrow too if some one wore a fanny pack to a nice restaurant. Jogging sure, vacation maybe, dinner...no.

I love how people assume the OP is shallow simply because she has a preference. She doesn't like fanny packs big deal.

So many hypocrites on here sometimes. Everyone has preferences and just because you don't agree with someone else doesn't mean they are shallow person. It's called preferences folks. Sure the guy could have been the greatest thing since sliced bread but if she isn't attracted..... she isn't attracted.

At least the OP is honest and says what she thinks. A lot of people always want to look like the good guy or girl when posting in the forums knowing that someone else may read it. But I don't care what anyone says...everyone has deal breakers and some aren't afraid to express them.

I read one poster's profile who called the OP shallow and she states in her profile that she believes in chemistry and attraction first but then she jumps all over the OP because she didn't find the fanny pack attractive. I wonder what that girls deal breaker is or what she may not find attractive?

Double standard I would say. That is like saying it is ok for me to have preferences but God for bid anyone else does or they may be different than mine!

Hmmmmm so just because the OP doesn't find a fanny pack attractive she is shallow?

Even the person blasting the OP obviously has preferences on what she finds attractive but I guess for some people if you don't share the SAME exact preferences or agree with them all of a sudden you are shallow and have issues.

Give me a break....

Now, it's time for me to dust off my fanny pack and stuff it with power bars and cosmo's so I can some cleaning done.

 rekey08
Joined: 5/4/2008
Msg: 59
He brought his Fanny with him...
Posted: 7/25/2008 7:19:16 PM
LMAO....love it!!!

I completely agree with the OP. Shallow perhaps, but funny as hell. A fanny pack is NOT attractive. People say it's important to be attracted...soooooo....there you go. Like a preference for a certain body type or hair colour, she can't accept fashion faux paus. I don't blame her.

Today it's the fanny pack in a stylish blue...tomorrow it's the green flourescent one...what comes next...slouch socks...mullets? Slippery slope.....
 HarleyKat~
Joined: 3/30/2008
Msg: 60
He brought his Fanny with him...
Posted: 7/26/2008 4:59:59 AM
^^And you are not shallow, placing a value on the "billionaire" with the diamond necklace??


BTW..whats the female equivilant of a fanny pack fax paus??


Ummm...that would be....a....FANNY PACK! It is Ick no matter what gender uses it!

PS to Beholder123...thanks! :)
 junipermoon
Joined: 3/1/2006
Msg: 61
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Posted: 7/26/2008 5:17:15 AM
hey, let's cut the op a break. the woman likes what she likes.

and if she'd rather not go out in public with someone sporting a late '80s relic that never should have appeared even when in vogue, then she has every right to that decision.

i can almost see it on a trail or on a boat or a bicycle or horse, but to a restaurant? you have to draw the line somewhere.
 rivereye
Joined: 2/19/2008
Msg: 62
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Posted: 7/26/2008 5:18:35 AM
Hi Abandonedbycupid,

I agree with you. Does this guy need survival gear in a trendy restaurant? Other people's perception of what you look like to a great extent determines reality in our society. It's not your fault society in general is somewhat shallow, and a fanny pack on the first date was a poor choice.

Now if you'd gone to Denny's, I think carting along water purification tablets, a snake bite kit, a repair kit, and an inflatable raft would have been entirely acceptable.
 abandonedbycupid
Joined: 7/13/2008
Msg: 63
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Posted: 7/26/2008 5:58:54 AM
Ummm Trailviews (slight observation) if this is what you would call the best or the worst of people.... probably to get out more. Charitable deeds/heinous crimes - probably more indicative of best and worst. A bit of a difference in taste and being choosy about which packages you are willing to open, does not a bad person make.

IMHO
 Of The Inn
Joined: 5/24/2008
Msg: 64
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Posted: 7/26/2008 5:59:11 AM
Wow.
Is this what dating has come to? Someone has an accessory we dislike, so we not only laugh at them behind their backs with others, but discard without getting to know the person? If dude was dressed as Ronald McDonald's half-brother, then I could see the issue ... but this disdain over an accessory is just sad.

I'm no fan of fanny pack (took me a few minutes to realize what OP was referring to) - but who cares if your dude was wearing one?
Forgive ... just baffled and saddened by this.
 MiPiacere
Joined: 6/16/2008
Msg: 65
He brought his Fanny with him...
Posted: 7/26/2008 6:06:05 AM
OMG...I almost wet myself from laughing so hard. Especially when I got to the captain hook and 4th of July Pants part.

Seriously though...this guy is obviously glued to his fanny pack. When he states he is connected to his fanny pack the way you are connected to the color of your skin I think there is an issue here that can not be ignored. If he seriously believes he can not remove his fanny pack way more easily than you can change the color of your skin or "blackness" as he put it then...yeah...waving bye by to this guy is not superficial in my book. It makes me wonder what other similar attachments he may have.

Some may say it was mean of you to point to his fanny pack and make light of it. I see it a bit differently. You could have just said nothing and then quietly disappeared into the ether after the date was over leaving the guy wondering what happened. You could have seen the fanny pack and flat out refused to go in public or on the date with him. There are many women who would have done that. At least you let him know in a very light hearted way that he missed the memo on fanny packs and perhaps he should ditch said item. Who knows...maybe other women saw that fanny pack and ran for the hills. At this point he can't say he wasn't told that it may be off putting to some people. Perhaps it also will make him question why he is so attached to it.

Most of the men I know would ditch an article of clothing if they thought it was c*ckblocking them or removing them from the potentials list of women they are interested in. If he is that set in his ways and feels he will/should/can/must not change in the seemingly slightest of ways in order to connect with a woman, then more power to him. Instead of you putting "No fanny packs" on your profile I think he should put "Must love fanny packs" on his.

Btw...what the hel l was in that fanny pack? That would have been one of the things on my mind.
 funnybring
Joined: 1/6/2007
Msg: 66
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Posted: 7/26/2008 6:07:16 AM
ok here i go...i agree with the poster whole heartedly....and i am chuckling here because i have a sense of humor...come on men...get with it....step into the "singles" world and brush up on your appearance if u want to date.....i went on a "first meet" and the guy showed up wearing a green raincoast material jacket that had "volunteer fire fighter" written across the back...i could not get past that....Go to the Gap come on....break out that wallet spend a few bucks....we do it all the time in cosmetics alone....
 gxa
Joined: 7/3/2008
Msg: 67
He brought his Fanny with him...
Posted: 7/26/2008 6:29:46 AM
? we all will laugh but if it had turned out he had something useful in there for a given situation we would applaud him or his preparedness.

I wonder how many folks are detoured by the Pink Back Pack I have with me most of the time. (in it: tools, a book and fun stuff I probably shouldn't mention here)
would i brink it on a Date? **** YEAH. The pink really brings out my Biceps.
 MrD4Thee
Joined: 1/27/2008
Msg: 68
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Posted: 7/26/2008 6:31:46 AM
Gwendolyn2008, msg 56:

I must say, I felt quite taken aback at how you would "fanny-pack" someone because of the type of car they drive. I bought a PT Cruiser a few years ago. It was cool at the time, now everyone in Florida owns one and I look like I am always going to Bingo no matter where I go, such is life. Do you have "PT Cruiser Owner" blocked in you profile settings? Iguess it would pretty much ban me from any future dates if I had a fanny pack in a PT Cruiser, probably almost have to register in the neighborhood because of it.
Yes, I think the OP was shallow and no matter how much they were "laughing" about it, the continued comments bordered on verbal abuse in my opinion.
Have a Great Day !!
Mr.D.
 gentlemanjack1
Joined: 5/13/2008
Msg: 69
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Posted: 7/26/2008 6:45:21 AM

I must say, I felt quite taken aback at how you would "fanny-pack" someone because of the type of car they drive. I bought a PT Cruiser a few years ago.


Oh oh...it is somewhat of a disappointment to find out someone's deepest secret and see their true colors revealed.

I think a fanny pack would be worse than a PT Cruiser. At least it's a means of transportation...and I think they are fairly decent looking cars...however I heard they aren't really great mechanically though.
 williamaus
Joined: 6/2/2008
Msg: 70
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Posted: 7/26/2008 6:46:11 AM
Crikey, can someone tell me what a Fanny Pack is?. I could decipher this to Australian but it wouldn't get published here.
 DJ Gravey
Joined: 9/26/2007
Msg: 71
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Posted: 7/26/2008 6:51:54 AM
I agree, the Fanny Pack is outlawed and needed to be made fun of... However, if I was in the same situation it would not have been a deal-breaker... Just because your not interested in someone who would wear a Fanny, doesnt mean that your shallow. Its just another Turn-Off in your List of Turn-On's/Off's. You know what you want and your not settling for less, right? You go girl!


Gravey



 afashionlady
Joined: 4/19/2008
Msg: 72
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Posted: 7/26/2008 7:16:07 AM
OP

How old was this guy? And this is going to sound off, but what color? I ask because you said...


And then hoped I would see the light by asking me how I would feel if he wanted me to remove my "blackness".


That's why I'm asking. Yes, it can make a difference. Some European men wear them (I've been to another country) and there's nothing seen as wrong with it. And yeah sweetie...a tad shallow. I might have taken him up on the 2nd date to see if he was serious or not. The 2 didn't balance but you sound like you talked about that silly thing all night! Did you get to know him at all? And if it was that bad, why did you continue the date?

And I hate to tell you...but fanny packs are sold these days.

It'so ok to want someone of your fashion equivalent, but realize that clothes do not make the man. Did he treat you with respect and courtesy? You did snipe at him all night--I'd have probably called it a night long before he did. Kinda shows he was into you. Maybe even enough to put aside the fanny pack. Unfortunately...you'll never know.

But no...NOT a dealbreaker. Dirty, smelly, unkempt, yes. Fanny pack, nope.
 SummerWheatley
Joined: 2/12/2007
Msg: 73
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Posted: 7/26/2008 7:17:28 AM
The men I know who wear fanny packs usually have a gun in there due to their job requirements. Those same men usually have a goofy fashion sense because they wear a uniform every day and don't have practice making those choices. It doesn't bother me in the least considering their character and what they stand for.
 afashionlady
Joined: 4/19/2008
Msg: 74
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Posted: 7/26/2008 7:24:55 AM

BTW..whats the female equivilant of a fanny pack fax paus??


Hmmm....panty lines showing--and not just lines--but wearing white pants with freaking flowered panties...WTH...yeah everyone sees it and everyone's laughing. AT, not WITH, you.

Muffin tops...why would a girl think belly flab hanging over pants is sexy?
 indehills
Joined: 2/23/2008
Msg: 75
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Posted: 7/26/2008 7:40:48 AM
Was I too shallow

Yes, you were. You've got a plaid skirt on in one of your photos (I assume you aren't in high school anymore), and you think there's something wrong with him wearing a fanny pack?


Crikey, can someone tell me what a Fanny Pack is?.

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