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 evrybdy
Joined: 12/14/2005
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Actually the fanny pack would make me want to date him more! But then, I like people who don't care what other people think. I miss people who are interesting and not doing what "trends" say to do.

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 OnTheM0ve
Joined: 1/15/2009
Msg: 152
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Posted: 7/14/2009 12:43:44 PM



Okay, here's a funny one. Met a guy online. Beautiful in his pictures even if slightly balding (okay a bit more than slightly but who cares). We exchanged a few emails, moved to a phone call or two and then of course the first date. I was so excited. I don't make it to many first date (due to the weeding out process). I wanted to look my best. Eyebrows arched, hair combed, deodorant. I went to meet him and he shows up wearing.... a fanny pack. Now, I'm not as shallow as I'm going to be called but come one. A fanny pack? We went to an extremely trendy restuarant. Me with an embarrassed smile. Him with a pack named Fanny on the front of his belt. I'm not one to beat around the bush so I broached the subject. I asked him whether he had a special permit to carry one of those after 1993. Surely they've been outlawed. He didn't find the humor in my comment or the subsequent comments that I made all night. He then admitted that his bag was a bit beat up and asked would I like to help him find a new fanny pack. Maybe this coming Friday. Make it a second date. He didn't understand that the problem wasn't with this particular bag but Fanny packs worldwide.

I know it seems shallow, superficial, maybe a bit mean but, is it not alright to look for someone who takes the same pride in their appearance. I mean would you date someone with a Captain Hook mustache and Fourth of July pants?

In the end we agreed that we wouldn't be a great match despite the awesome rapport over the phone. He said that he couldn't change who he was. And then hoped I would see the light by asking me how I would feel if he wanted me to remove my "blackness". Somehow the two didn't balance out in my eyes.

Was I too shallow? Has anyone else met up with someone who had some sort of oddity that seemed small but was a total dealbreaker?


He showed up...wearing...a fanny...pack...
He showed up...wearing...a fanny...pack...

NO! you were not too shallow. WHO in the world wears a FANNY PACK to a trendy restaurant? or anywhere?!? there's a time and a place for everything. I think he was a racist prick for making the statement about removing your "blackness". Does a fanny pack represent whiteness? evidently so to this clown.... "small oddities" like that normally mean there are bigger oddities to be seen later. i.e. no sense of fashion or style (can't dress..etc) I have stories for days about this from others...
 tbuddha
Joined: 2/28/2005
Msg: 153
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Posted: 8/4/2009 1:37:53 PM
It's a little wimpy looking to wear a fanny pack, but I wouldn't stop dating someone over it.
 Blakkardaberry
Joined: 2/7/2009
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Posted: 8/4/2009 1:41:12 PM
if you gotta ask the question ROFL
of all the reasons to rule a person out this seems the most shallow of all.

I hope you remember this when your older and can appreciate the humor in it or lack of it in my case.
 Perigee123
Joined: 7/14/2009
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Posted: 8/4/2009 6:54:56 PM
No - I don't own one.

But I do have a question.

Modern life has started to pile on the gizmos and gadgets that people use to get through the hours away from home. Men started out with wallets and keys; now we have cell phones (which you should keep away from the cards), an extra battery for the cellphone (yeah-laugh: those Instincts eat battery charge like a fat man eats cake), some headphones for the MP3 player - and, if your phone can't hack it, a separate MP3 player - sunglasses, regular glasses, and, depending on the situ, I might want to drag along a paperback or the PSP to while away some time.

Obviously, fanny packs are out...

So - where do we go from here?

We could go with an Indiana Jones style murse, but I'm not sure that doesn't have an inherent dork factor of its own.

I'm lying - of course it does.

I'm pretty sure utility belts are out of the question, and a jacket in August won't hack it. Juggling is creative, but difficult over the long term, and carrying a plastic bag from Wal-mart full of junk is likely to set off the fashion police. So - since the arbiters of fashion are here in force, clue me in: what Can I carry all my crap in, or do I have to hire a caddy to be acceptably unencumbered?
 FlameNFire
Joined: 7/11/2009
Msg: 157
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Posted: 8/4/2009 10:09:07 PM
I have said soooo many times, a picture will never convey what a person is like...in person! Pictures don't show mannerisms and personality and oddities. Maybe it sounds shallow to some by the way it has been described, but I certainly understand what you mean that in photos he appeared to look one way and in person he was a bit "different". Sadly, that is just the risk you take when you meet someone online, and then later meet them in person. Sometimes the in-flesh version isn't what you hoped it would be.
 cw35
Joined: 4/8/2005
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Posted: 8/5/2009 9:38:20 AM
I agree with you Flame. The guy with the fanny pack probably thought she was really nice from her emails then found out what a complete as*hole she was in person. It happens all the time in the online dating world but you just have to keep looking.
 coveredinpaint
Joined: 7/13/2009
Msg: 159
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Posted: 8/5/2009 10:08:59 AM
He must not have been rocking it the right way. I remember when I was a skater kid in the late 80s and fanny packs were all the rage. But only a LOSER would where them with the pouch centered over your groin. You had to have it slightly off center to one side.

But if I was hoping to hook up with a beautiful black woman in the 2000's, I probably wouldn't be wearing a fanny pack at all.
 browneyesboo
Joined: 5/19/2005
Msg: 160
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Posted: 8/5/2009 10:33:49 AM
You guys are freaking hilarious.
Talking about someone being shallow because they were freaked at a fanny pack.
The fish pond is FULL of PREFERENCES that people perceive as being SHALLOW.
Everytime someone posts something about someone being too tall, too short, too
fat, too thin, too old, too young, the old shallow vs preference debate ensues.

So apparently when someone shows up too fat or too old and we don't like them...we
are entitled to our preferences.
When someone shows up with a fanny pack and obviously is living a different
lifestyle than yourself and you don't like them, you're being shallow.
Where do we draw the line in what is acceptable to accept as shallow or a preference?

Oh I get it...we come to the POF PHD PP club to get the definition.

Jaysus Kerist.


 Bablynbrook
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 161
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Posted: 8/5/2009 12:27:33 PM
I have to agree with the OP. If someone I went on a date with were wearing a fanny pack I would be embarrassed. Call me shallow if you want to, but I take the time to make sure that I have appropriate attire for my date. If we were going to a fancy trendy restaurant I would be embarrassed. How much stuff does he need to carry around that would necessitate an entire fanny pack?
 cw35
Joined: 4/8/2005
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Posted: 8/5/2009 1:39:34 PM
Let's see. How can I put this? If someone thinks someone is perfect in every way for them but that person happens to have an article of clothing they don't like, or handbag or whatever, being arrogant & shallow is the least of your worries because it makes you a MORON. It's something that can be taken off or changed. It seems as if some of the genius comments in this thread are trying to say that fanny packs sprout from your body as some kind of permanent growth. You can't compare an article of clothing to obesity or smoking or any other physical trait. Are people really this stupid? I'm not sure why anyone cares so much. If people want to die alone and bitter or become a crazy old cat lady, let them. Meanwhile, those of us that aren't 100% perfect in every way will be in happy relationships at some point with our imperfect partners.
 privat33r
Joined: 2/8/2009
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Posted: 8/5/2009 7:54:41 PM
I thought dressing like a git was part of the charm.
 jacintos
Joined: 7/23/2009
Msg: 164
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Posted: 8/5/2009 8:32:08 PM
I wouldn't blow someone off just because of a fanny pack, but I'd probably have to laugh, make a joke, and inquire about said fanny pack :P.
 Quazi 100
Joined: 3/2/2008
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Posted: 8/5/2009 10:33:53 PM

But the fanny pack is just not a piece of clothing or an accessory, it is an indication of a life style. I do not want to be part of the fanny pack life style.


The fanny pack is not necessarily an indication of a lifestyle per se.

If the fanny is used for medical reasons, or as a place for an off duty weapon, the stereotypical lifestyle may not apply.

OP may have had herself a great guy that had to give himself insulin shots on a regular schedule.

Would that fall into the "fanny pack lifestyle?"
 Quazi 100
Joined: 3/2/2008
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Posted: 8/6/2009 8:44:09 AM
Ooooohhhh....bamboo....it's been sooooo long......
 Quazi 100
Joined: 3/2/2008
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Posted: 8/6/2009 9:53:49 AM
Forget the spelling and the monkey.....we were talking about bamboo, weren't we?....NO?.....fanny packs?.....tsk tsk....what a waste......
 tbuddha
Joined: 2/28/2005
Msg: 168
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Posted: 8/6/2009 1:14:34 PM
I think the point that needs to be made here is that fashion sense, especially with a guy, should not be used as a measure of someone's character.

Let me make this clear to the less mature folks on here. When I date, deal breakers are things related to how the person lives, what their abilities are, and their integrity. A girl could come to a date with me in a trash bag if she was an active person, could teach me things, and treated people nice.

To act as if you know a guy is wrong for you because he has on a certain fashion faux pas, is pretty damn lame when you think about it. Like one of the posters said - What if he wore it because he couldn't fit his huge wad of cash in his wallet? He wouldn't be so dorky then now would he?

Sorry guys, making fun of a fanny pack just seems pretty high school to me.
 cw35
Joined: 4/8/2005
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Posted: 8/6/2009 3:17:05 PM
Greg: I don't "savvy" because you're wrong. I think differently. A jerk is a jerk. Just because it's a woman, doesn't make it any different. It's pathetic when guys use the forums as a means to score brownie points with women by defending them no matter how stupid it is. I doubt you would be so defensive with regards to a complete stranger if they were male. You're transparent as glass I'm afraid. You savvy? According to your logic it would be totally reasonable for me to laugh at someone then dump her if she were completely perfect in every way but I didn't care for the color purse she may have decided to use that day. That wouldn't just make me insane, I'd be an arrogant moron. There's more to people than what fashion accessory they may have chosen on one particular day. You can bet money if that had happened to the OP, it would be a different story.
 Monkey_brains
Joined: 6/25/2009
Msg: 170
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Posted: 8/6/2009 3:25:46 PM

He brought his Fanny with him...

Did you at least pinch it....?
I prefer a man with a fanny.....a nice big brawny one to be specific...
 cw35
Joined: 4/8/2005
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Posted: 8/6/2009 4:20:01 PM
I'm not sure if I'm more disturbed that you think you're a psychologist or that you've been stalking my posts. If you ARE stalking my posts then why are you acting like my comments surprise you? You have me all figured out so why not just ignore me? Why are you allowed to think what you want about people but I'm not? I have my opinion. End of story. If you don't like what I say then you'd better stuff your head up your as* because I don't plan to shut up anytime soon. Funny how you didn't bring up any of the positive comments I've made.
 jmim
Joined: 3/19/2007
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Posted: 8/7/2009 2:46:34 AM
This is why people should go to dates naked.
That way they can't be judged for what they wear.

On a serious note, yes... It is very superficial.
But... Dating is all about physical attraction.
And physical attraction is... superficial.
 cw35
Joined: 4/8/2005
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Posted: 8/7/2009 6:13:00 AM
Greg: It gets thrown at me whether I give it out or not and I don't really care to be honest. Water off a duck's back. If you're so sensitive to my comments (which have NOTHING to do with you) don't pay attention to them. Pretty simple solution.
 sinlov
Joined: 2/25/2008
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Posted: 8/7/2009 2:02:04 PM
Oh shit fanny pack! Was I suppose to throw mine away???
True I have not worn it in a while.,
I don't think I got enough use out of it, to throw it away,
It was quite handy at the amusement park.
so I really gotta put it in the goodwill bag Hugh?
Burn? shoot it? castrate.......
I only put it up because it wouldn't fit around my waist anymore.
But smaller now, Hmmm fanny pack to keep or not to keep???
 *topchef*
Joined: 8/2/2008
Msg: 175
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Posted: 8/7/2009 3:52:53 PM
Today, I was getting my lunch at my favorite sandwich place and there behind me in line....a road worker, in coveralls and a brilliantly visible flourescent vest, with..... his fanny pack. Except....he had cut the strap from the fanny pack, and was using it more as a "clutch". While he searched for his wallet in his pack, digging through his smokes, keys, various and sundry items, including a small change purse where he tucked away the coins, I couldnt help think of this thread. Clearly this guy had a few items to tote around and didnt get the APB that even modified fanny packs were no longer in vogue. In fact...he couldnt have cared less. He grabbed his sandwich, tucked his clutch under his arm, in lethal range of his sweat glands and trotted out the door. No one would ever consider telling this guy, his fanny pack detracted from his appeal. He wouldnt give it a 2nd thought.
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