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 Pisces619
Joined: 7/11/2007
Msg: 154
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You were raped by your boyfriend? Smoke a little dope do we or what? What a stupid statement? Why would you have a boyfriend who rapes you? Unintelligent-period. Did he only rape you when you weren't in the mood or something? JESUS!
 janedoexyz
Joined: 1/1/2007
Msg: 155
I was raped and now I'm worthless...advice?
Posted: 10/6/2007 9:43:36 PM
To: Pisces619,

I had to post something out of your profile.....

I'm just so positive, easy to get along with & much fun!

Yet you wrote this to this thread:

You were raped by your boyfriend? Smoke a little dope do we or what? What a stupid statement? Why would you have a boyfriend who rapes you? Unintelligent-period. Did he only rape you when you weren't in the mood or something? JESUS!
 Pisces619
Joined: 7/11/2007
Msg: 156
I was raped and now I'm worthless...advice?
Posted: 10/22/2007 10:50:29 PM
How can it be rape if she's willingly the guys girlfriend? WTF??????
 becca210
Joined: 7/26/2006
Msg: 157
I was raped and now I'm worthless...advice?
Posted: 10/22/2007 11:05:19 PM
This thread is over 2 years old; but this is the first time I've seen it. I've read most of the replies and am just appalled at how many people could relate because of a similar situation.
This is just horrible. I know I'm a lot older and people are sexually active much earlier today....but at 17 I barely knew what sex was.
I do know from my volunteer work that there are rape crisis centers in most towns now...and you have given very good advise.
It is just sad that so many of you had first hand knowledge.....bless you all.
Becca
 Pisces619
Joined: 7/11/2007
Msg: 159
I was raped and now I'm worthless...advice?
Posted: 10/27/2007 9:34:52 AM
I sure wish someone could help me make sense instead of calling me names. I think I have a VERY valid point here. Cmon people, the guy was her Self Proclaimed Boyfriend whom she most willingly chose to be best friends with & carry on a relationship with even with his continued phisical advances. I'm sure if she wanted him to leave her alone at any point she could have gotten a court order. Her predicament just dont make no sense (scratching my head)
 Pisces619
Joined: 7/11/2007
Msg: 160
I was raped and now I'm worthless...advice?
Posted: 11/3/2007 12:19:48 AM
The one woman says she was raped by her husband? OK that's enough for me...
 powerhouse375
Joined: 1/4/2007
Msg: 161
I was raped and now I'm worthless...advice?
Posted: 11/3/2007 12:40:28 AM
dont take shit off any man thats wrong and you should press charges thats something youll have to live with and it shouldnt be allowed to happen to someone else
 HappyGuyx2x
Joined: 8/11/2006
Msg: 162
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I was raped and now I'm worthless...advice?
Posted: 11/3/2007 5:55:15 AM
please dont feel like that -------im a man so i dont know these things but please dont think that ----- there are good men out there and im one dont loose hope hun
 Pisces619
Joined: 7/11/2007
Msg: 163
I was raped and now I'm worthless...advice?
Posted: 11/3/2007 10:15:51 AM
When will people learn to smarten up & not put up with other people's crap & abuse anyway? That's what I'm talking about! It just amazes me some people will put up with ANYTHING negative in their relationships. If the person your with cant be your best friend & you cant get along amazingly together why would you be around them at all? Don't make no sense. Yes, rape is wrong, I understand that... but for all people living in abusive relationships I can only roll my eyes & shake my head because I'll never understand them. Too Needy? Don't you think your better off alone? Personally I've focussed on areas of self improvement ie: better career, making more $, developing new interests *YES people there actually is WAY more to life than counting on other people to complete your happiness* So What if you never find love, a soulmate? What's the big friggin deal? Take a vacation, get your motorcycle licence, go camping, try fishing- Do stuff that will make YOU happy & forget the bullcrap- it's not worth it & life is too short to put up with other people making your life miserable. I wont even charge you for this free advice, it should be common sense- Dr. Phil
 Pisces619
Joined: 7/11/2007
Msg: 164
I was raped and now I'm worthless...advice?
Posted: 11/3/2007 10:26:39 AM
Note to Carnel- Date Rape is technically what happens to someone out on a DATE. If your already stupidly involved with some obvious psychomoron & your putting up with it then be my guest & call it whatever you want but I dont think the term "rape" actually fits. Thats what I'm trying to say. & people, you should stay away from relationships that make your life miserable. HOLY! So much thread on this when really it should be common sense obvious. I'm thinking I should get a degree & become a councillor so I can help all these screwed up people. Probably make lotsa $$$$. It's just too easy, really...
 diamondjoe101
Joined: 6/24/2007
Msg: 165
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Posted: 12/4/2007 6:23:32 PM
First, it should be pointed out that abuse and/or rape is inexcusable under any circumstances. It's ashame that you didn't report this person that raped you, especially being that you were underaged and all.
That being said, it's very obvious that you have some serious self esteem problems. I believe a few people mentioned therapy, which may not be a bad idea. However, the main thing you need to do, is convince yourself that you are not worthless! If you continue to think that way, guess what?, people are going to continue treating you in that same way. develop some personal boundaries, and most importantly, enforce them. Otherwise, you're nothing more than a door mat, welcoming the dregs of humanity to walk all over you. I obviously don't know anything about you, but I can safely assume that you deserve better than that, simple because you are human being that needs to be treated with dignity and respect. However, you have to start by treating yourself with that same dignity and respect you want to be treated with.
It sounds like you may indeed need therapy, but even if you just start by making an effort to be around people who know how to treat you well, you probably have a foot in the door. I would also suggest that you hold off looking for that special someone until you do find a way to feel better about yourself. I wish you the best of luck.
 jacob8088
Joined: 9/6/2009
Msg: 166
I was raped and now I'm worthless...advice?
Posted: 9/30/2009 11:32:20 PM
Aww boo..hoo.. So what do you want, sympathy? It amazes me how girls like you will spread their self pity all over the place.

What's even more funny is a faceless profile like you asking about your looks.
 48chevy
Joined: 8/19/2007
Msg: 167
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Posted: 9/30/2009 11:56:25 PM
well 1st of all your ex-boyfriend should be in jail.
there is no picture of you on here nor should there be, so it makes it hard to answer your question about looks. what i can say is that you are only 17, you need to just get out and enjoy doing what YOU like to do and eventually the guys who are more into you for being you will migrate to you. the old saying about being yourself, is still the best advise anyone can give you. The only other thing i will say is that the first time a guy is even verbally abusive to you get rid of him right then.
 Greyfeld
Joined: 1/11/2007
Msg: 168
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Posted: 10/1/2009 5:05:49 AM

Aww boo..hoo.. So what do you want, sympathy? It amazes me how girls like you will spread their self pity all over the place.

What's even more funny is a faceless profile like you asking about your looks.


Wow....

Nevermind the fact that this thread has been long dead for a year and a half, this text that I quoted is scary, and should be stamped on your forehead for any woman to read before they decide if they want to go out with you.

To tell a 17 y/o girl who's been raped and has no support system to suck it up because she's just looking for pity.... it's sad, cruel, and many other adjectives I can't use on the forums.
 jacob8088
Joined: 9/6/2009
Msg: 169
I was raped and now I'm worthless...advice?
Posted: 10/1/2009 7:38:27 PM
Wow....

Nevermind the fact that this thread has been long dead for a year and a half, this text that I quoted is scary, and should be stamped on your forehead for any woman to read before they decide if they want to go out with you.

To tell a 17 y/o girl who's been raped and has no support system to suck it up because she's just looking for pity.... it's sad, cruel, and many other adjectives I can't use on the forums.


^^^ No shit, and the fact that some guy would come in this very same thread just to quote and reply to me is umm...quite scary itself. You know what's really sad? whining wussy's like you getting offended over one single comment.

Here's a tip, if your gonna get seriously hurt by a few words on a screen, then don't read it. plain and simple. BTW I'll take you up on that offer of the stamp thing, that is after you stamp the words "whining crybaby" on yours...deal?
 Greyfeld
Joined: 1/11/2007
Msg: 170
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Posted: 10/4/2009 8:26:57 PM

No shit, and the fact that some guy would come in this very same thread just to quote and reply to me is umm...quite scary itself. You know what's really sad? whining wussy's like you getting offended over one single comment.

Here's a tip, if your gonna get seriously hurt by a few words on a screen, then don't read it. plain and simple. BTW I'll take you up on that offer of the stamp thing, that is after you stamp the words "whining crybaby" on yours...deal?


I'm only happy that the garbage you spew is all over your page for women to read.
 jacob8088
Joined: 9/6/2009
Msg: 171
I was raped and now I'm worthless...advice?
Posted: 10/4/2009 8:31:56 PM
Whew! Now this gives me so much more relief since I'm only here for the forums. They can read my hsitory posts all they want and knock themselves out. I sure won't lose any sleep over it..
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