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Joined: 7/16/2008
Msg: 30
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I understand your concept and MOST women I've met want someone to stimulate their brain before any other body parts, but you didn't give enough information:

Are woman trying to sleep with you two seocnds after you meet?

Is it 20 dates later?

Do you actually use those words?

There's no reason to ever say that sentence...if someone wants to move faster than you just say so, but please tell me you don't just blurt that out while saying 'Please pass the salt, and by the way..... " LOL

Joined: 3/24/2008
Msg: 31
Making love to the mind.
Posted: 8/2/2008 5:13:35 PM
^^^^^I hope she was wearing a life jacket because sheep can't swim,if she was shaved. JK....
Joined: 4/11/2008
Msg: 32
Making love to the mind.
Posted: 8/2/2008 6:24:19 PM
Oh come on, am I really correct to assume that so many men are too hormonal to know what the op is talking about? Seriously, if you have not been part of this then you just don't know what your missing and it's pointless to try to explain!


Now we have someone who knows what their talking about. To look into a women eyes and see the heart, even holding her hand and feel the butterflies in her stomach. To walk and without realising it, being in sequence and feeling. I only once went out with someone like this once. One time we were on a boating lake cuddling to each other, I felt what she was thinking, I repeated her words, her thoughts... she.. moved ..and nearly fell overboard. Fusional chemistry. Its beautiful. I thought it was normal. Now I know why its taking me so long to find someone again. Without the mind together two cannot walk in feelings. Its like walking on air, but feeling it flow though you.


It's this and so much more, seduction of the mind, mental foreplay - and this does NOT mean talking dirty for a few minutes before grabbing azz!
Joined: 6/21/2008
Msg: 33
Making love to the mind.
Posted: 8/2/2008 8:07:47 PM
nestled discreetly in the middle of the 10,000 guy herd;one man with THREE working grey cells quickly mimmicked the others. desperatly hoping no one noticed...
 Smart Lass
Joined: 6/9/2008
Msg: 34
Making love to the mind.
Posted: 8/3/2008 7:10:48 AM
OP, I understand what you mean. There are a lot of men and women who do not understand that true intimacy is more mental than physical.

When I have felt a true connection with a man, the mental connection was the strongest component of the relationship. Sure there was a physical attraction, but what really drew me to him was his thoughts and his desires. Being able to understand someone's deepest desires and fulfill those desires is something I very much crave and desire. Not everyone understands this.
Joined: 11/16/2007
Msg: 35
Making love to the mind.
Posted: 8/3/2008 8:23:45 AM

Yes, the most important sex organ of all.....

amen to that.
i wish more men understood that *many* of us are wired for mental stimulation, first...
Joined: 2/20/2008
Msg: 36
Making love to the mind.
Posted: 8/3/2008 1:31:28 PM

i wish more men understood that *many* of us are wired for mental stimulation, first...

What if she is dumb as a rock?

I'm kidding I'm kidding!
Joined: 6/16/2008
Msg: 37
Making love to the mind.
Posted: 8/3/2008 1:42:11 PM
Simply put, he wants to get into your mental pants before he gets into your ACTUAL pants!
Isn't that what flirting is for?

"Baby, lemme slip my mind inside you". Can you feel my enormous......................vocabulary?
Joined: 7/24/2008
Msg: 38
Making love to the mind.
Posted: 8/3/2008 6:31:32 PM
So you're trying penetrate their head?

Those English women know how to pose. :) Scones anyone?,lol
Joined: 12/13/2006
Msg: 39
Making love to the mind.
Posted: 8/3/2008 6:55:58 PM
First thing, OPie, is it's death to announce it. Because anyone who knows how, knows you don't know how if you say you do. Anyone else will think your Willy isn't werking. Work from there. A trip to Tibet might be useful. . . .

Joined: 12/25/2007
Msg: 40
Making love to the mind.
Posted: 8/5/2008 7:52:51 AM
Willy works just fine. Lol,lol,lol,
Joined: 4/11/2008
Msg: 41
Making love to the mind.
Posted: 8/5/2008 12:48:20 PM

Maybe it is a cultural thing because there are men over here (no not all) do NOT need any blue pill, but have the maturity to know how to seduce a women through intelligent converstation, having nothing to do with the physical. It's hard to explain I suppose if you have never experienced it. I don't think it is very common as most people in general don't take the time, are to rushed to get to the physical part. Is it just a more intense form of flirting? Mmmm maybe, I don't know but boy when it happens it's all kinds of good. And know it isn't using a dictionary to spark mental orgasms at all. It's not about trying to have some IQ contest. It is interacting through conversation that teases your senses outside of the physical.

Anyway - I am not sure what the op's intitially reasons were for all this but there is alot to be said to the issue of making love to the mind and it has nothing to do with broken willies and blue pills. Least not here in America.
Joined: 2/21/2007
Msg: 42
Making love to the mind.
Posted: 8/5/2008 2:43:53 PM
^^^ Viagra.

--Ms. Flis
Joined: 4/12/2007
Msg: 43
Making love to the mind.
Posted: 8/5/2008 2:59:44 PM

If you're talking about some emotional connection before sex well that's just great-if that's what you're talking about.And therein lies the problem;What in god's name ARE you talking about?
And is that how you're wording it? I mean do you actually tell a woman over****ails that you want to "make love to her mind"?
That's creepy,man,and she's probably in the next zip code before the word "mind" left your mouth.
Either come up with another line or go hang out at a Star Trek convention.Geez.
Joined: 4/11/2008
Msg: 44
Making love to the mind.
Posted: 8/5/2008 5:24:44 PM
What the bloody hell is a "blue pill"? Unless its a reference to the matrix? ...


clauclau -

I hear for some men it is kinda like the matrix!!! Glad to know I am not the only female who ever had to ask what the blue pill was.
Joined: 7/31/2008
Msg: 45
Making love to the mind.
Posted: 8/5/2008 10:50:31 PM
Its a common phrase in spoken word and written poetry... not sure about elsewhere. Means to basically be intimate with someone on a deeply spiritual and emotional level... as intimate with their mind and soul as sex is intimate physically.

To the OP I'd say... know your audience. You can't use vernacular or ideology typical of an intellectual lover-poet if the girl isn't into it. And by the time you're wanting to be that intimate you should probably already know if they are.

If you have the poets heart and your affectionee doesn't... then you probably need to step back and start at square one. Or scratch it altogether if its that important to you.

Oh... and good luck getting your Willy working again.
Joined: 8/4/2008
Msg: 46
Making love to the mind.
Posted: 8/7/2008 8:44:41 AM
I know that I keep putting it simply. But, if SOME chemistry is there, then you don't need to talk about it. It just happens and she's full party and participant to it.
Call it what you want, but I think someone else said it best. It's a mental, emotional, and spiritual bonding thru words, attitude, and tone. If you have the personality and your flirt game is good, then it just happens naturally.
And you're catching hell from the women-folk here because they can naturally sense that you just don't have it! It's kinda like the way a dog can sense fear in you.
No ladies, it's just an example! I'm not inferring anything relating to you and dogs! LOL
Joined: 8/4/2008
Msg: 47
Making love to the mind.
Posted: 8/7/2008 8:46:44 AM
foxyred: If it weren't for all that damn water............I'd work it for ya girl!
Joined: 5/18/2008
Msg: 48
Making love to the mind.
Posted: 8/7/2008 8:52:02 AM
Vulcan mind meld.

Joined: 8/4/2008
Msg: 49
Making love to the mind.
Posted: 8/7/2008 9:06:15 AM
Oh really???

Well now, that's very........................interesting!
I'm 34 and I get it!
Actually, I got it a long time ago.........just perfecting it now!
Joined: 9/14/2006
Msg: 50
Making love to the mind.
Posted: 8/21/2008 9:39:17 AM
this is soooooo emo.

there is love.... then there is sex.

IMO, love is a unique feeling shared between a man and a woman who have that unique connection towards each other. Love can be expressed in many forms, including sex.

Then, there is sex. without giving a clinical description, is an act between consenting adults which... is great. People don't need to be in love to have sex.

Some people can make a clear distinction between the two, while others can't. Personally, I find it difficult to make the distinction BUT not impossible.

"making love to the mind" would be better described as seduction and again, don't need to be in love to be seduced (or the seducer).

Seriously, sex is one of the most biological fundamentals of any species but its amazing how far people have gone to hush it or make it taboo. some religions shun sex before marriage, while others impose strict dress codes to make one sex less tempting to the other. yet its one of the most natural and instinctive things that we do besides eating, drinking and sleeping; and without it the human race would not be around! if we have a look in nature, how many animals are waiting till they're married before they do the do??? just my buck o'five!
Joined: 7/17/2009
Msg: 51
Making love to the mind.
Posted: 8/8/2009 4:02:51 AM
Love making starts in the morning and ends at night .. goes throughout the day with gentle conversation , passionate kiss here n there, sappy eye contact, a touch while walking by just to let her know shes desired,wanted, loved, appreciated, respected. etc.. If a man wants a woman that will fulfill his needs along with hers.. he needs to not just listen to what shes saying but truly hear her and not just n hr or 2 before he wants sex.. this is a fill time job.. communication with a woman will get what a man wants.. understand her soul on a 24/7 if you want a woman that will give her all in n out of the bed.. Making love to a womans minds is no easy task for a man.. only because by nature men dont hear.. we are 2 different creatures we all may look alike in human form but our souls are mountains apart. Communication is what brings 2 as one and there is no greater sex then to make love to the one you have that total bond with..
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