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 Smart Lass
Joined: 6/9/2008
Msg: 42
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OP, I understand what you mean. There are a lot of men and women who do not understand that true intimacy is more mental than physical.

When I have felt a true connection with a man, the mental connection was the strongest component of the relationship. Sure there was a physical attraction, but what really drew me to him was his thoughts and his desires. Being able to understand someone's deepest desires and fulfill those desires is something I very much crave and desire. Not everyone understands this.
Joined: 11/16/2007
Msg: 43
Making love to the mind.
Posted: 8/3/2008 8:23:45 AM

Yes, the most important sex organ of all.....

amen to that.
i wish more men understood that *many* of us are wired for mental stimulation, first...
Joined: 2/20/2008
Msg: 44
Making love to the mind.
Posted: 8/3/2008 1:31:28 PM

i wish more men understood that *many* of us are wired for mental stimulation, first...

What if she is dumb as a rock?

I'm kidding I'm kidding!
Joined: 6/16/2008
Msg: 45
Making love to the mind.
Posted: 8/3/2008 1:42:11 PM
Simply put, he wants to get into your mental pants before he gets into your ACTUAL pants!
Isn't that what flirting is for?

"Baby, lemme slip my mind inside you". Can you feel my enormous......................vocabulary?
Joined: 7/24/2008
Msg: 46
Making love to the mind.
Posted: 8/3/2008 6:31:32 PM
So you're trying penetrate their head?

Those English women know how to pose. :) Scones anyone?,lol
Joined: 12/13/2006
Msg: 47
Making love to the mind.
Posted: 8/3/2008 6:55:58 PM
First thing, OPie, is it's death to announce it. Because anyone who knows how, knows you don't know how if you say you do. Anyone else will think your Willy isn't werking. Work from there. A trip to Tibet might be useful. . . .

Joined: 12/25/2007
Msg: 48
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Posted: 8/5/2008 7:52:51 AM
Willy works just fine. Lol,lol,lol,
Joined: 4/11/2008
Msg: 49
Making love to the mind.
Posted: 8/5/2008 12:48:20 PM

Maybe it is a cultural thing because there are men over here (no not all) do NOT need any blue pill, but have the maturity to know how to seduce a women through intelligent converstation, having nothing to do with the physical. It's hard to explain I suppose if you have never experienced it. I don't think it is very common as most people in general don't take the time, are to rushed to get to the physical part. Is it just a more intense form of flirting? Mmmm maybe, I don't know but boy when it happens it's all kinds of good. And know it isn't using a dictionary to spark mental orgasms at all. It's not about trying to have some IQ contest. It is interacting through conversation that teases your senses outside of the physical.

Anyway - I am not sure what the op's intitially reasons were for all this but there is alot to be said to the issue of making love to the mind and it has nothing to do with broken willies and blue pills. Least not here in America.
Joined: 2/21/2007
Msg: 50
Making love to the mind.
Posted: 8/5/2008 2:43:53 PM
^^^ Viagra.

--Ms. Flis
Joined: 4/12/2007
Msg: 51
Making love to the mind.
Posted: 8/5/2008 2:59:44 PM

If you're talking about some emotional connection before sex well that's just great-if that's what you're talking about.And therein lies the problem;What in god's name ARE you talking about?
And is that how you're wording it? I mean do you actually tell a woman over****ails that you want to "make love to her mind"?
That's creepy,man,and she's probably in the next zip code before the word "mind" left your mouth.
Either come up with another line or go hang out at a Star Trek convention.Geez.
Joined: 4/11/2008
Msg: 52
Making love to the mind.
Posted: 8/5/2008 5:24:44 PM
What the bloody hell is a "blue pill"? Unless its a reference to the matrix? ...


clauclau -

I hear for some men it is kinda like the matrix!!! Glad to know I am not the only female who ever had to ask what the blue pill was.
Joined: 9/28/2006
Msg: 53
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Posted: 8/5/2008 5:40:45 PM
I personally feel if a man says he can make love to my mind. I consider him a weirdo.
Or like Wooby said...Willy's dead.

I don't need that !

It basically triggers me to believe he has mind CONTROL issues as well...nah...don't need it, don't want it.

People who brag about their smarts are usually the really dull lovers. They don't listen and don't really care.
Joined: 7/31/2008
Msg: 54
Making love to the mind.
Posted: 8/5/2008 10:50:31 PM
Its a common phrase in spoken word and written poetry... not sure about elsewhere. Means to basically be intimate with someone on a deeply spiritual and emotional level... as intimate with their mind and soul as sex is intimate physically.

To the OP I'd say... know your audience. You can't use vernacular or ideology typical of an intellectual lover-poet if the girl isn't into it. And by the time you're wanting to be that intimate you should probably already know if they are.

If you have the poets heart and your affectionee doesn't... then you probably need to step back and start at square one. Or scratch it altogether if its that important to you.

Oh... and good luck getting your Willy working again.
Joined: 8/4/2008
Msg: 55
Making love to the mind.
Posted: 8/7/2008 8:44:41 AM
I know that I keep putting it simply. But, if SOME chemistry is there, then you don't need to talk about it. It just happens and she's full party and participant to it.
Call it what you want, but I think someone else said it best. It's a mental, emotional, and spiritual bonding thru words, attitude, and tone. If you have the personality and your flirt game is good, then it just happens naturally.
And you're catching hell from the women-folk here because they can naturally sense that you just don't have it! It's kinda like the way a dog can sense fear in you.
No ladies, it's just an example! I'm not inferring anything relating to you and dogs! LOL
Joined: 8/4/2008
Msg: 56
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Posted: 8/7/2008 8:46:44 AM
foxyred: If it weren't for all that damn water............I'd work it for ya girl!
Joined: 5/18/2008
Msg: 57
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Posted: 8/7/2008 8:52:02 AM
Vulcan mind meld.

Joined: 9/24/2007
Msg: 58
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Posted: 8/7/2008 8:55:55 AM
AHHH A man that understand!

My mind awaits..........
Joined: 8/4/2008
Msg: 59
Making love to the mind.
Posted: 8/7/2008 9:06:15 AM
Oh really???

Well now, that's very........................interesting!
I'm 34 and I get it!
Actually, I got it a long time ago.........just perfecting it now!
Joined: 11/6/2006
Msg: 60
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Posted: 8/21/2008 3:52:46 AM
Op, do you go round trying those lines on every woman you meet?

I, too, crave that mind connection, in my life.
With one guy...........

I find it creepy for someone to go around talking about it..........with everyone.

Mind intimacy is not sleazy nor is it used to get what you want out of someone...everyone..
That's being another player....

Some people think they can go through the "drive through" and get a home cooked meal.

Stimulate my mind....simmering....move into my heart...slow burn.......and everything else follows.
And for me, it could start, way before eyes were gazed into....or hands were even held.

And it ain't about a Keith Sweat song....that would follow much later.
I would prefer.........Sexual healing...the woo woo song.

It can not be taught........even though there probably is a book for "dummies", on that subject.
It's a natural, mind connection, that feels as though they know each others souls...... and anything less wouldn't be real and just wouldn't work.
Joined: 7/18/2008
Msg: 61
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Posted: 8/21/2008 9:04:29 AM
This post reminds me of Dead Prez's "Mind Sex"

Its time for some mind sex, we ain't gotta take our clothes off yet
We can burn the incense, and just chat
Relax, I got the good vibrations
Before we make love lets have a good conversation

IMO it's just "setting the mood".
Joined: 9/14/2006
Msg: 62
Making love to the mind.
Posted: 8/21/2008 9:39:17 AM
this is soooooo emo.

there is love.... then there is sex.

IMO, love is a unique feeling shared between a man and a woman who have that unique connection towards each other. Love can be expressed in many forms, including sex.

Then, there is sex. without giving a clinical description, is an act between consenting adults which... is great. People don't need to be in love to have sex.

Some people can make a clear distinction between the two, while others can't. Personally, I find it difficult to make the distinction BUT not impossible.

"making love to the mind" would be better described as seduction and again, don't need to be in love to be seduced (or the seducer).

Seriously, sex is one of the most biological fundamentals of any species but its amazing how far people have gone to hush it or make it taboo. some religions shun sex before marriage, while others impose strict dress codes to make one sex less tempting to the other. yet its one of the most natural and instinctive things that we do besides eating, drinking and sleeping; and without it the human race would not be around! if we have a look in nature, how many animals are waiting till they're married before they do the do??? just my buck o'five!
Joined: 7/17/2009
Msg: 63
Making love to the mind.
Posted: 8/8/2009 4:02:51 AM
Love making starts in the morning and ends at night .. goes throughout the day with gentle conversation , passionate kiss here n there, sappy eye contact, a touch while walking by just to let her know shes desired,wanted, loved, appreciated, respected. etc.. If a man wants a woman that will fulfill his needs along with hers.. he needs to not just listen to what shes saying but truly hear her and not just n hr or 2 before he wants sex.. this is a fill time job.. communication with a woman will get what a man wants.. understand her soul on a 24/7 if you want a woman that will give her all in n out of the bed.. Making love to a womans minds is no easy task for a man.. only because by nature men dont hear.. we are 2 different creatures we all may look alike in human form but our souls are mountains apart. Communication is what brings 2 as one and there is no greater sex then to make love to the one you have that total bond with..
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