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 ksayer1
Joined: 1/1/2013
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I am pretty sure the op is young and sweet.
After 12 dates i dont care how young the woman is, she knows if she likes him and the answer is no but there is no one else on the hook so he can keep taking me out. Move on
 privat33r
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how long do you wait to be official-is she using me-what is this
Posted: 2/19/2013 10:10:26 PM
Couples have to operate within budgets. Its not wise to spend a lot in restaurants and bars. There are lots of options. The real problem with bars is that they're heavily taxed and more or less overtaxed through the tips and such- it ends up being a premium of about 70% above the cost of the service-- so use them sparingly.

Nevertheless guys should pay for the most part. We're bigger, we eat more, we drink more, and its sorta built into the species for relationships to be built on providing sustenance. Its how apes mate as well-why fight the phenomena..

Girls have much higher expenses in other ways. They can't walk home 5 miles at 3am, clothes cost a bunch more, all the little knickkacks for dating, like condoms, jell and preparing with the doc are expenses. They cost time and money. Its about 15% of a women's income. If they're spending that to setup we can spend an equivalent amount.

Snap out of the cheaperonnie vogue. The whole logic of it falls apart if you look close at the exchange, the actual costs that each party faces.

Edit: and aggghagaghhhh .. how did I get sucked into a 5 year old thread,..?
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