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 toocash
Joined: 9/5/2017
Msg: 295
What is it with 50+ women and wanting to stay single???Page 6 of 18    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18)
Study Reveals the Age Men Find Women Most Attractive—And It’s Seriously Disturbing
Brace yourself for this one...

SEP 24, 2015 TAGSATTRACTIONDATINGRELATIONSHIPS
Amy MarturanaAmy Marturana

We live in a time where many of us pour tons of time and money into staving off the signs of aging—whether that means dutifully applying eye serum every night before bed, or hitting up your derm for some preventative Botox in your twenties.

But some disturbing data shows that as women, if we want to be attractive as we age, the best thing we can do is really just not age past 20.
Christian Rudder, co-founder of , wrote an article on Jezebel that delves into the dating site’s data “built from tens of millions of preferences expressed in the act of finding a date.” The data reveals some pretty depressing results about what men are looking for in women.

Women prefer someone roughly around their own age. Before 30, they’re looking for slightly older men; once they hit 30, they are interested in someone slightly younger. Throughout her forties, a woman is most attracted to men at right around the age of 40. “If we want to pick the point where a man’s sexual appeal has reached its limit, it’s there: 40,” Rudder notes. Yikes.

But even more yikes? All men, from those in their twenties to those who are fifty, want to date a woman in her early twenties. The most commonly chosen ages are 20-23. For almost every year in his thirties, a man is most attracted to a 20-year-old woman. And a 50-year-old man is really gunning for a 22-year old on his arm.

What these stats imply: “A woman’s at her best when she’s in her very early twenties. Period,” says Rudder. Or, you can look at it this way: Men’s expectations never grow up. “A 50-year-old man’s idea of what’s hot is roughly the same as a college kid’s.” Is it wrong to say that after the initial shock, we’re kind of not really that shocked at all?
 forumslady
Joined: 12/7/2016
Msg: 296
What is it with 50+ women and wanting to stay single???
Posted: 12/20/2017 8:07:19 PM
ThePigOfYourDreams-" Defective products can be purchased anywhere, but that's not even my point. It's all about the failure rate in itself. If one would encourage others to avoid a company for the failure rate of a product, why wouldn't they do the same for a concept with an enormous failure rate?

I could be in a "relationship" as soon as tomorrow, but I could also stick a fork into a power outlet with my hand. Both have about the same level of appeal to me right now."

Well the divorce rate, for first marriages, is around 50%, the rates for second and third marriages is even higher.
However, that means that the other 50% of first marriages succeed.
Granted, I've seen long married couples that clearly loath one another, or at best, seem resigned to their fate and stay rather than go through divorce.
I also know long married couples who truly love one another. I can think of three couples I personally know that if someone told me they divorced, I wouldn't believe it. It would be like the world ending.

What do they all have in common? They truly care about one another. They respect each other. It's not that they get along perfectly, it's that they talk and work out differences in a way that each is really trying to see the other person's perspective. They have things in common, both activities and who they are as people.

If one waits for perfection, one will be waiting forever.
I'm not about to settle for bs, or relive the nightmare that was my marriage. Settling is ALWAYS a mistake.
The thing is, as awful as things were, I took the time to heal and then I took even more time to look within. To evaluate WHY I stayed, what I needed to do to be a better person, myself. To not repeat history, if I do meet someone again that I hope we can make it work. Because a successful relationship is ALWAYS a "we" situation.
I'm not going to say I know it all, I don't. But it was only in turning a bad situation into something positive by learning from it, that I was able to be happy again and have faith that I can, one day, find someone that it works with, but remain happy even if I don't.

If I had stayed stuck, if I had become bitter and/or jaded, my ex would have won.
It would have meant that he succeeded in turning me into someone I wasn't, the person he insisted I was to justify cruelty.

I wasn't going to let that happen, I didn't let that happen. I don't feel like I "won" I feel like I stayed true to who I always really was and accomplishing that has meant everything.

People will come and go in our lives. We have to live with who we are as individuals, forever.
 ohenryx
Joined: 3/12/2010
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What is it with 50+ women and wanting to stay single???
Posted: 12/20/2017 8:28:24 PM


All men, from those in their twenties to those who are fifty, want to date a woman in her early twenties. The most commonly chosen ages are 20-23. For almost every year in his thirties, a man is most attracted to a 20-year-old woman. And a 50-year-old man is really gunning for a 22-year old on his arm.



“A 50-year-old man’s idea of what’s hot is roughly the same as a college kid’s.”


Well, there is “what’s hot”, and then there is “the woman I would really like to date and get to know and just maybe spend the rest of my life with”. And those two are not usually the same thing.

Yes, I want to date an attractive woman. But she doesn’t have to be a Playboy centerfold, she doesn’t have to stop traffic on main street. As long as she can get my motor revving, that is hot enough!

And zsuzsa62, thanks for your reply in message 416. I am not going to spend a lot of time looking for that “needle in the haystack” younger woman who appreciates older men. Heck, to me, a good looking woman in her fifties is an “attractive younger woman!”
 ThroatLozenge
Joined: 3/2/2016
Msg: 298
What is it with 50+ women and wanting to stay single???
Posted: 12/23/2017 7:50:11 AM
Do you still have that Sybian Henry?
 ohenryx
Joined: 3/12/2010
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What is it with 50+ women and wanting to stay single???
Posted: 12/23/2017 10:59:15 AM

ClooneysTutor
Do you still have that Sybian Henry?

You keep asking that question, and I’m not sure why you would give a damn?

But to answer your question, yes, I do. And that has worked out quite well for me. Years ago, in a different thread over in the sex forum, several people (including myself) were talking how expensive it can be buying new sex toys every time you get a new girl friend.

Pretty much all women like and enjoy sex toys, and no woman (at least none I have ever met) want to use a sex toy that has been used by and on another woman. But with the Sybian, you can just buy new “accessories”, much cheaper.

And the Sybian is the ultimate sex toy for women, let there be no question about that.
 storm8862
Joined: 3/8/2017
Msg: 305
What is it with 50+ women and wanting to stay single???
Posted: 1/23/2018 5:55:47 AM
At my age I would never marry someone just to be married... its a commitment, a lot of men here want a marriage and a wife but still want their single life style they are not looking to be in a couple situation. They still have friends they call their boys and they have drinking nights and still hit strip clubs and bars with those drinking buddies. Men wanna be boys then have a woman at home they call a wife smdh...

Those are most of the 50 and over men I have met...
 BlackLady1953
Joined: 5/27/2011
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Posted: 1/23/2018 7:06:07 PM
If he has worked all his life, and she has worked all her life....when it's time to draw Social Security....married couples get cheated royally. I know a couple in their 80's "living in sin" with much consternation by their adult children. But when they showed me how, if they were married, they would lose income, I understood. They've bee together for 15 years, and are as "married in spirit" as any "legally" married couple. So, I get it.
 boatbob2q
Joined: 3/7/2012
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What is it with 50+ women and wanting to stay single???
Posted: 3/10/2018 5:14:01 PM
I have been a widower for over 12 years.I find MOST women are too materalistic,They want everything given to them,and dont want to share anything about themselves, I drive an old car,BUT,I also,drive a new Toyota Prius,,I also have 2 NEW pickup trucks,that they never see,blue jean shorts,and T-Shirt,NO SUITS FOR ME,I have 2 propertys,one is a small mobile home on 1 acre,very decent though,thats where I bring the ladies Im dating,So they can look down their noses at me,my other property,That I DO NOT,take these so called ladies???? to,is just a little over 1100 acres,,I have 3 airplanes,and my own runway,on my property,At the ranch,I have a 5 bedroom.4 bath,.log cabin,thats absolutely gorgeous. they question WHY,I have no credit cards,I dont need/want CC s, I pay CASH for everything I want. My income is PROBABLY, (in a year) what most office bound people,earn in 5 years. IF ( and so far I havent) find a Lady,Thats interested,in me,not material things,i will probably ask her to marry me. so far,nobody meets MY qualifications.,,look into yourselves Ladies,and as yourself, is the old goat frog,a PRINCE IN DISCUISE???????
 Platinum_Blonde_Angel
Joined: 1/23/2018
Msg: 308
What is it with 50+ women and wanting to stay single???
Posted: 3/10/2018 5:38:55 PM
^^^

Braggety-brag much???
 halcyon_skies
Joined: 7/27/2015
Msg: 309
What is it with 50+ women and wanting to stay single???
Posted: 3/10/2018 8:34:26 PM

IF ( and so far I havent) find a Lady,Thats interested,in me,not material things,i will probably ask her to marry me. so far,nobody meets MY qualifications.,,look into yourselves Ladies,and as yourself, is the old goat frog,a PRINCE IN DISCUISE???????


If the old (unlettered) goat frog you're prattling on and on about is yourself, I seriously doubt it.
 purplerider1200
Joined: 9/10/2011
Msg: 310
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Posted: 3/11/2018 5:19:14 AM
You have all that, AND you want to get involved with a woman????

I'll bet you have all that because you weren't involved with a woman. That $10 buck Timex keeps time just fine. They want to see that $2000 Rolex on the same wrist. You're not showing that money off, and that's what bothers them.

Learn to do without them. It's easier, and won't put you in the red.
 MachIMustangII
Joined: 2/16/2018
Msg: 311
What is it with 50+ women and wanting to stay single???
Posted: 3/11/2018 8:06:04 AM
So, you own a mobile home and an old car, but elsewhere you have a life with new trucks and 1100 acres. Do you tell women you're married and travel for work? :) I think I saw this once on Criminal Minds....OK, seriously, if women are as material as you are in your bragging, then they are right not to date you (you aren't showing it off), and you are right not to date them. So, where's the issue?
 spot4username
Joined: 12/15/2015
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It's raining men, hallelujah, it's raining men, amen
Posted: 3/11/2018 8:18:51 AM

So, where's the issue?

A glance at the posting history reveals many issues.
 Platinum_Blonde_Angel
Joined: 1/23/2018
Msg: 313
It's raining men, hallelujah, it's raining men, amen
Posted: 3/11/2018 8:44:46 AM

I have been a widower for over 12 years.I find MOST women are too materalistic,They want everything given to them,and dont want to share anything about themselves, I drive an old car,BUT,I also,drive a new Toyota Prius,,I also have 2 NEW pickup trucks,that they never see,blue jean shorts,and T-Shirt,NO SUITS FOR ME,I have 2 propertys,one is a small mobile home on 1 acre,very decent though,thats where I bring the ladies Im dating,So they can look down their noses at me,my other property,That I DO NOT,take these so called ladies???? to,is just a little over 1100 acres,,I have 3 airplanes,and my own runway,on my property,At the ranch,I have a 5 bedroom.4 bath,.log cabin,thats absolutely gorgeous. they question WHY,I have no credit cards,I dont need/want CC s, I pay CASH for everything I want. My income is PROBABLY, (in a year) what most office bound people,earn in 5 years. IF ( and so far I havent) find a Lady,Thats interested,in me,not material things,i will probably ask her to marry me. so far,nobody meets MY qualifications.,,look into yourselves Ladies,and as yourself, is the old goat frog,a PRINCE IN DISCUISE???????



ZZ TOP -

Clean shirt, new shoes
And I don't know where I am goin' to
Silk suit, black tie,
I don't need a reason why
They come runnin' just as fast as they can
'Cause every girl crazy 'bout a sharp dressed man
Gold watch, diamond ring,
I ain't missin' not a single thing
Cufflinks, stick pin,
When I step out I'm gonna do you in
They come runnin' just as fast as they can
'Cause every girl crazy 'bout a sharp dressed man
Top coat, top hat,
And I don't worry 'cause my wallet's fat
Black shades, white gloves,
Lookin' sharp lookin' for love
They come runnin' just as fast as they can
'Cause every girl crazy 'bout a sharp dressed man

https://youtu.be/7wRHBLwpASw

Women are THE GUARDIAN OF THE EGG, (not the golden vagina as some have suggested)
You do not understand science, biology & evolution.

And yes, women want sexual attraction just like men do.

What man goes on a dating site & looks for the woman he is least attracted to?

What woman looks for a man who looks like a slob, is selfish, won't share & is all but homeless?

A sane person wants comfort, security & peace of mind!
 Strawberry_Jello
Joined: 5/13/2014
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It's raining men, hallelujah, it's raining men, amen
Posted: 3/11/2018 12:04:51 PM
Boatbob is dishonest with the women he dates, pretending to be poorer than he is..
He's 5ft2, has a hole in his neck, and a bad attitude.
Good luck Bob, yer gonna need it.
 MachIMustangII
Joined: 2/16/2018
Msg: 315
when its raining men, let a smile be your umbrella
Posted: 3/12/2018 7:32:05 AM
"a glance at the posting history reveals many issues"

ya mean like this? :)

Its been my experience,that the older Ladies,are looking for a good catch,nice house,nice car,lots of money,wears suits,and will kiss their asses. Me,I have great retirement income,9 cars ( 5 are hot rods) ,single,60 acres,nice house,EVERYTHING paid for (thanks to 30 years,of working my ass off) I dont wear suits,PERIOD,when I go to pick a Lady up, Im dressed decent,clean shaven,smell good,drive one of my older cars,wear my timex watch, take her to a decent restaurant for dinner,( not a high class joint,then I get those sideways looks,and then I see that shes thinking," how the hell,did I end up with this bum" Im trying not to laugh,cause Im reading her just like a book,someday,I'll meet a Lady,thats not looking for a sugar daddy,(though not much chance)

>>i confess, when someone tells me its hard to read a potential partner...that's when i get snarky and ask how good looking was he. :) or maybe i'm good at reading people. But comparing the difference in facts here, i can spot billybob's problem with women--shrinkage.
 spot4username
Joined: 12/15/2015
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when its raining men, let a smile be your umbrella
Posted: 3/12/2018 7:54:44 AM
∆∆∆
Well, his "jungle bunny" reference is the one that caused me to nope out of his posting history.
 halcyon_skies
Joined: 7/27/2015
Msg: 317
when its raining men, let a smile be your umbrella
Posted: 3/12/2018 8:50:41 AM
https://forums.plentyoffish.com/14846338datingPostpage7.aspx

Message 164. I'm surprised he got away with that.
 LetitiaLeGrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
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What is it with 50+ women and wanting to stay single???
Posted: 3/15/2018 5:38:21 PM
seriously you are 80?? Give it a rest lol!!!... You sound demented to me in fact. Not much of what you say is making sense.
What demographic are you looking at for a woman?? I doubt there are any within a twenty year age range on here that are sane and genuine.

Get yourself a mail order bride who will marry an old guy for immigration and hopefully take at least half of your property, if you indeed have any..... sooner rather than later. An Asian petite lady that would not be turned off by a very short man.... meanwhile you can have a bit of fun....
 feirene
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Posted: 3/29/2018 9:17:03 AM
I'm not even 45 (so shouldn't be in here hehehe) but i can see definite advantages to staying single and always have done. Most people like reciprocation so if you have high standards and a lot to offer why would you waste that on someone with less? Might as well be single and not waste your time.
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