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 abelian
Joined: 1/12/2008
Msg: 21
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Finally, as a 42-year old, I have to tell you that normal people in their mid-forties--yes, including men--think of people your age as children.


Not hardly.
 Sapphireeyes
Joined: 1/13/2008
Msg: 23
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Posted: 8/6/2008 9:50:19 AM
Op, the man is a caregiver...he picks on women he can caretake. Look up co-dependency...he came into your life after the situation with your ex-husband.

As long as you are emotionally unhealthy he will feel secure in the relationship when you are no longer there ...he will feel insecure ...becareful
 RoadTrip3500
Joined: 10/28/2006
Msg: 24
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Posted: 8/6/2008 11:17:57 AM

Um, has anyone actually read what I have posted about concerning his marrriges? Let me try this one last time,

HE DOES NOT EVEN SUGGEST IT WAS ALL HIS EX'S FAULT(S). HE HAS OPENLY SAID IT WAS A HEALTHY COMBINATION OF THE TWO OF THEM AND THEY JUST COULDN'T MAKE IT RIGHT.


I read all your posts thoroughly... and it sounds like you're supporting his excuses.

A cheating spouse should be shown the door immediately. If they cheat once, they are capable of doing it again. And to remarry with **another** cheater and not recognize the signs? That tells me this guy behaves like a lost puppy with women - they can do no wrong in his eyes until it's damaging.


As far as our relationship goes, nothing has been decided for sure, but his daughter is throwing a fit, all of a sudden, with no warning. As soon as her dad grounded her for something she did that was against the rules, now she has a problem with me and him being together, and he and I agreed from the begininng that if it ever became a problem with his kids and us then I would leave....


And if he asks you to depart over this, he's the loser others have claimed he is. This is manipulation on the daughter's part, and once again, an excuse on his part. If he doesn't have sufficient parental control over his children to avoid this situation, then that just reinforces the lost puppy mentality - this time with his daughter.
 Stray__Cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 27
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Posted: 8/6/2008 5:23:35 PM
I agree with the above guy.

He's married the same type three times and knows it would be a fourth with you.
Not that you're nutzo or a bad sort.
Just he's realized it wouldn't work and has told you so.
He's atleast grown enuff to see the pattern and is honest with you.

You obviously fit into it, cus he's told you that yet you still hang around and want him.
So yeah, you are atleast a little bit nutz.

See your 4th spot in the pattern now?
 abelian
Joined: 1/12/2008
Msg: 28
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Posted: 8/7/2008 1:10:54 AM

Um, has anyone actually read what I have posted about concerning his marrriges? Let me try this one last time,


You aren't likely to get past the preconceptions, so I doubt anyone will ever get to the question. Good luck. If it works for you, go for it.
 pokerjimmy
Joined: 11/10/2006
Msg: 31
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Posted: 8/7/2008 8:35:56 AM
Thanks spoken for and don't forget us older men can bribe young girls with gifts and trips young men can't afford.

Ever consider the fact Hugh Hefner pays young women weekly to be with him as "girlfriends" but instead of being arrested as a John, we respect him because he's rich and famous. There's no lack of evidence to make the case. Several of his past "girlfriends" have documented how much he's paid them and what was expected to earn their money.

Okay...I digressed a bit. Where's my coffee
 STH III
Joined: 6/5/2008
Msg: 38
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Posted: 8/10/2008 6:09:48 PM
I have had the same problems with my choices in women as you guy. I have been married 3 times and 2 were cheaters and not sure but think the last one was too. I am trying to change the type of woman I seek. 27 years is a lot of difference in age and he probably thinks a lot about this and how old he would be when you are in your thirties.
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