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 willowbunny
Joined: 7/20/2006
Msg: 3
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Maybe they just like to meet lots of different women. Not everyone wants to settle down and just see one partner, even though western society is based around that idea. The reason you don't understand why some people (not just men) like to date lots of potential partners, rather than settle is because it is not YOUR way of doing things.
Personally I wouldn't question it. We are all individuals and everyone is entitled to leading life their own way as long as they aren't breaking the law.

Having said that, we have all met serial daters but they are usually pretty easy to spot. You only have to ask how many dates they had in the last month and they will tell you the truth because they are proud of their total.

Just take your time choosing someone, don't get involved too quickly and then you won't get hurt by one of these men again.
 ***Kitten***
Joined: 5/10/2008
Msg: 10
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Posted: 8/5/2008 12:15:56 PM
I hardly ever dated before my long term marriage, then my divorce.

When I re-enterend the dating world a few years ago, I was shocked at the so call "dating" is actually "sexing" in the men's minds. I think that is the reason why most men/women checked dating , friends, hang-out, other activities on they are looking for. There are very few men have the guts to check long-term. I know long term must start from dating, but it's all in the mind. If emotionally, they are not thinking long -term, chances are they never will.

A much older woman adviced me to give the man(pursuer) 3 months at least and NO sex, if he would still be around after 3 months, he just might be really interested in a real relationship than sex only.

POF is a free site,so it becomes free entertaintment for most people I would say. POF is like a catalogue and internet is a device to contact many women/men at once. I knew a man who had a dozen women on the go and he was busted eventually because of his mass mailing list on jokes etc to all these women.

I lost faith on the on line dating. There are many dreamers, cowards, liars, users, abusers hiding behind the profiles so I have noted.

Only Face to face with real information, real intention, real interaction, no bullsh*t.

Maybe I should start going to the funerals looking for widowers.
 2souls
Joined: 5/7/2008
Msg: 12
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Posted: 8/5/2008 12:27:08 PM
Yes,men and woman both on here make it a sport......how many they can date....look at the Favs.....8O...200....and so on...like how long they been on here.....?????
Some pepole think the next one and the next one.......call it sport dating
 ImAHotMess
Joined: 7/11/2008
Msg: 13
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Posted: 8/5/2008 12:52:43 PM
Leanne, I agree. I wonder if we can change this site to Narcissists.Com...lmfao So far, I have met 2...full blown Narsy's. The first one was the worst. Gotta love it. Being single, that is. I am sure some women do it as well.
 SwampHunter
Joined: 6/1/2007
Msg: 14
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Posted: 8/5/2008 1:02:21 PM
Online dating is FULL of narcissists - both men and women...

Why? Well - who wants to be married to a narcissist?

Who wants to even date one for very long?

So where do they go?

You win the cupie doll!

Mark
 ~rain~
Joined: 6/9/2007
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Posted: 8/5/2008 1:02:24 PM
they can pursue and break hearts only if they are allowed to do so!

as for using................I hear this all the time.."he/she USED me"

used you for what??

Please dont say sex because sex is a two way street. You have to consent before anyone can have sex with you unless it is rape. If rape is the case...then you have ever right to throw a sorry ass in jail.

I think it is pathetic when a woman cries.."HE USED ME" everytime she hops into bed with a guy and things down turn out the way she wants it to in the end...

Thats my vent for the day!

Thank you very much!
 Davidabeliever
Joined: 5/29/2007
Msg: 21
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Posted: 8/5/2008 1:35:23 PM
Aren’t we all looking for that one in a million?
Doesn’t it take that one in a million to go the distance and have a great relationship?
My personal experience is that so far I really haven’t known anyone before a date. For that matter I wouldn’t say that I really knew a woman until I had been with them for months. There really isn’t anything in a profile to let a guy know if she is some one he wants to be with, so really I don’t think you should feel to bad about it and just try to remember that it isn’t easy to find some one.
I think we are not as open and as honest as we should be on these profiles to help each other, personally I don’t date a lot but I would just like to not date anymore and find the right one but I know I am not going to settle until I know I found who I want to be with.
Maybe you need to look at it that your heart wasn’t broken by the wrong Guy, he moved one as he should and he did it early on Good Luck i hope you find what you need.
 mthomjmark
Joined: 2/27/2008
Msg: 22
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Posted: 8/5/2008 2:02:25 PM
I really dont get what you are saying; many people say they want to just have someone to hang out with; that means they want to have someone to go have fun with; they dont want a sincere relationship. I dont think that is wrong.

If he says he wants something serious right off and then spends time with a person and dumps them, then that is wrong.

in fact OP you even say in your profile you just want someone to hang out with. Again, not getting what your saying other than bashing guys. Not getting it at all.
 Optimistic for 2008
Joined: 5/2/2008
Msg: 29
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Posted: 8/12/2008 5:03:58 PM
Geg, I wanted to contact you but fall just outside your age limit....
 degostyle
Joined: 2/24/2008
Msg: 35
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Posted: 8/13/2008 12:39:32 PM
Ill tel you what...You show me where it says more men do this type of thing than women and Ill back you up on this, otherwise, its crap. Heres a test for ya. How about going out with an average looking guy and see how much of a difference the dating scene will be. Im sorry, did I just basically sugest that you only date the hotties? How would I know that if I dont know you? Get my point?
 setuid
Joined: 9/5/2008
Msg: 40
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Posted: 9/20/2008 12:57:29 PM

I don't understand why some guys that date online are serial daters..


I couldn't do that... it's just too damn expensive!
 Aroseforu
Joined: 6/7/2008
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Posted: 9/21/2008 1:51:01 PM
I too have had this happen to me...Long story short I dated this guy that I met online think it was Cupid for three years. We broke up after words. I get a call from his new wife asking me if he has been talking too me? Told her yes , that he has been texting me asking me how I was doing? (in the few texts he never told me he gotten married just 4 weeks after we broke up) come to find out he had been talking and dating women he met online the whole time he was with me and he met her online as well. Now he is doing the same thing too her (his wife) but she was alot wiser than I was because she busted him. Just glad I am not the one that married him. I am so thankful he is out of my life.
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