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Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 2
Young + Older vs. Older+ YoungerPage 2 of 2    (1, 2)
Older women are over they sexual hang ups and tend to be so much better in bed. The reason then older men go for younger women is because they've may have already learn all the good stuff from an older woman (or maybe not) but then see some younger girl as a person to teach her all that good stuff that he now knows on how to please a woman.
Joined: 1/12/2008
Msg: 4
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Posted: 8/5/2008 5:33:36 PM
I like dating younger women because older women generally act old.
Joined: 10/11/2007
Msg: 6
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Posted: 8/5/2008 8:37:27 PM
RE: First post.

lol Ummm... well... it's not as clear cut as you make it sound. Depends on our mood really. I could go for a young girl, which is nice for the obvious reasons but after awhile their sheer naivete, ignorance and just downright YOUNGNESS... bugs you. lol That's when I usually look for an older woman. Generally a little better grounded. I mean... they still have their "games" but these are more subtle and... adult. So that's kinda nice.
Joined: 11/10/2006
Msg: 7
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Posted: 8/5/2008 8:44:05 PM
Okay...the brutal truth which is seldom popular.

NO....this isn't EVERYONE so jump back if it's not you.

The answer is SEX!

Older women don't play games and younger men know that. They think older women are greatful and easy.

Older men want younger women because they have hot young bodies that don't sag.

Again, if this makes you line two.
Joined: 6/19/2008
Msg: 9
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Posted: 8/5/2008 11:16:54 PM
I agree with pokerjimmy to the extent the May/September and September/May thing goes on. Younger men (say, under 35) want actual sex not romance, which tends to put them *more* in sync with women in their 40s. Older men are less into actual sex, and more into appearances, which puts them *more* in sync with women under 35.

Also in my part of the world at least, women over 40 have limited success in attracting men under 35. Part of what women over 40 here want is confirmation they are still attractive. I'm told by young guys usually means they don't want to pay for dinner or the show.

Men over 40 know that the older person paying for things the younger person could not otherwise afford is a major part (essential part) of what attracts the younger person.

The above mostly applies to recreational dating, flings, affairs, and hired companions.

Most people marry people within a few years of their own age. In the absence of mega dollars, May/September and September/May marriages are rather rare. For under 40s seeking marriage, being a suitable parent and compatible long-term companion trumps short term priorities.

I'll add, that men who want to have children need a woman under 40, so there will be time to get acquainted before her fertility expires.
Joined: 6/19/2008
Msg: 10
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Posted: 8/5/2008 11:32:56 PM

How, then, do they become 45 and all of a sudden those games are fun to play??

I am guessing elderly men who can afford to indulge them, like young women because the get too look, they get to chase, they get the admiration of other men (trophy girlfriends and wives) but they are are seldom asked to perform sex.

Men in their 40s and 50s want sex, and Cialis and Viagra help improve sexual performance for those who need help, but they don't affect desire. The sexy appearance of *some* younger woman boosts desire. Even with desire boosted, it is still low enough that the games don't matter. And also, in many cases there is a trophy aspect too. Older women with sexy appearance also boost desire, but they are rarer.

But still, for marriage, for long-term relationships, most people still end up with someone within a few years of their own age.
Joined: 4/19/2007
Msg: 16
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Posted: 8/7/2008 6:44:51 PM
Most people seem to have a problem with dating people their own age. They don't seem to find they have as much in common with other people of their own age as you might think. What young men find is that they cannot find maturity in young women either, but they do find such maturity in older women. Conversely, older women find that older men lack vitality in men their own age, but find such vitality in young men. Older men find that women their own age tend to be less optimistic and more suspicious of men, while younger women are more optimistic about love in general.

I believe that it is much easier to have a conversation with someone who you share a lot of experiences with, but they are far more likely to share your strengths and weaknesses too, and so the longer you spend with them, the more it becomes obvious that they need you to be strong in the areas that they are weak, but that you are weak in as well, and they don't need your strengths because they are strong in them as well. So the longer you are with someone who is too much like you, the more it seems like a relationship with the two of you isn't going to help you or her grow. So invariably, a relationship with someone who is strong where you are weak, and weak where you are strong, is going to get better over time, because you will help each other grow, by complementing each other. Right now, it seems that with gender equality, young men and women have most of the same advantages and problems and older men and women share the same pros and cons as well. So that complementary sharing is more likely to naturally occur with younger and older instead.

That's my $0.02
Joined: 6/5/2008
Msg: 22
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Posted: 8/10/2008 6:21:43 PM
I am 55 and usually like women a few years younger than myself. You have to remember that at this age some look young and some look very old. I like small women so the pickins are slim in the 40s and 50s.
Joined: 5/10/2008
Msg: 26
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Posted: 8/13/2008 8:36:27 PM
I think I should write a book to teach the younger women to go for the older "successful " men and use them good.:) Once they are used up and become old and grey, these much younger women should take all the older men money, leave them and go for the younger men !!
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