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 Wahoo4me
Joined: 1/31/2011
Msg: 173
Is falling in love different at age 45+ than when you are younger?Page 8 of 8    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8)
I am 45 and in love -- really -- for the first time in my life. I had many romances in my 20s, met and married what I thought was my best friend in my 30s, and divorced a few years back. When I met my love, I was in the process of preparing myself mentally to "settle." You know, find someone who meets the requirements, someone you like and want to spend time with, but not necessarily someone who knocks your socks off. Boy, was I in for a surprise when my man walked through that door and I touched his hand for the first time. I'll be taking down my profile on this site today.

And yes, it really is the same in almost every way. I do think men are better able to express themselves, their feelings, when they're older and so that makes it even more intense. And I do think 45+ people are able to gauge more quickly whether the relationship is a true "keeper."
 zippytwo
Joined: 6/7/2006
Msg: 174
Is falling in love different at age 45+ than when you are younger?
Posted: 10/31/2011 4:57:26 PM
Yes, it's different....we've heard all the 'lines' and can pick up on the 'red flags' quickly and know we won't settle for anyone just to be in a relationship. We've gained wisdom over the years, and have seen a lot.

The feeling of falling in love is the same, that doesn't change, but we have. It's a wonderful feeling and fortunate are those that experience that again. It would be awesome if it happened and I haven't given up all hope for it, just not holding my breath!
 HarDayKnight
Joined: 12/27/2007
Msg: 176
Is falling in love different at age 45+ than when you are younger?
Posted: 11/1/2011 9:00:20 PM
I know that many people see love as something you fall into. Something that sneaks up on you and knocks you over the head. I've been one of those people. But now, I think love is something you do. Something you give away to others and hopefully are given in return. What we call love when we are young and inexperienced can often be something else. (Or amplified by something else.) Lust. Obsession. Ego. Desperation. (I'm sure the list goes on.)

I think that as we get older and more experienced, we don't let these things cloud our judgement as much, or maybe we just become jaded. In either event, we tend to choose who we love, rather than trying to love whoever gets our blood up, or presents herself/himself in a time of need or weakness. That's if we allow ourselves to love at all.
 travelinshoes5
Joined: 10/16/2011
Msg: 177
Is falling in love different at age 45+ than when you are younger?
Posted: 11/2/2011 12:13:56 AM
I fell in love and the hurt is ten times as bad as high school
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