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 runningout
Joined: 8/19/2008
Msg: 268
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Mens Dating Expenses/Dating Experiences.Page 13 of 13    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13)
Not entirely true Dark...it does still take two active participants to have sex. If you are worried about a guy being really into you and not after you for sex, then dont put yourself in a position to have sex.

I have never been "used for sex" but I also end a first date at the car or on the doorstep.
 Paderic
Joined: 2/23/2010
Msg: 269
Mens Dating Expenses/Dating Experiences.
Posted: 3/3/2012 7:04:03 AM
Because let's be real a guy will eat the free meal then turn around and have sex with a woman he has no intentions of ever calling again.


Some will, some won't. Please don't lump us all together.

It is a woman's responsibility to figure out what the man's motives are, just as it is a man's responsibility to figure out what the woman's motives are. There are no easy shortcuts, you have to look for clues in their behavior.

Assuming that everyone is alike often means assuming the worst, which is a very negative outlook to have.
 anyelina24
Joined: 10/29/2011
Msg: 270
Mens Dating Expenses/Dating Experiences.
Posted: 3/3/2012 7:12:40 AM
Funny post cant stop laughing ! . I for one dont like my dates to pay for me , but thats just me . I think you shouldnt encourage those women you choose to take on dates to order the most expensive apps or drinks . Just tell them upfront is a dutch thing .
 Archangel_07
Joined: 6/21/2010
Msg: 271
Mens Dating Expenses/Dating Experiences.
Posted: 3/3/2012 12:29:05 PM
lol runningout :-p
gotta review what she says before I accept Lol.

This whole spending money on dates thing and then getting resentful about it is just so overrated. It's really sad. Just communicate and upfront with what you want to do and tell the person exactly that. If you're not happy about spending money on a date, then don't go and save your money or do something free together.

Face it we spend money on things everyday and yet we don't get as pissed off about doing it. It's part of making a living. You buy a house, you pay the mortgage along with the expenses of the house. You buy a cell phone, get a phone plan, use the phone plan, pay the monthly bill. Everything adds up. If you can't afford it, don't buy it.
 koolfuture
Joined: 8/30/2008
Msg: 272
Mens Dating Expenses/Dating Experiences.
Posted: 3/4/2012 6:54:08 AM
just read it..so funny .
 Darkbutcomely
Joined: 4/20/2011
Msg: 273
Mens Dating Expenses/Dating Experiences.
Posted: 3/4/2012 7:26:32 AM

Assuming that everyone is alike often means assuming the worst, which is a very negative outlook to have.


Have you read of the posting men have put in the forum??? They are upset because they are spending money and not getting the physically return for the their investment. So if I spend the money will I get the relationship return for my investment?
 Paderic
Joined: 2/23/2010
Msg: 274
Mens Dating Expenses/Dating Experiences.
Posted: 3/4/2012 8:19:13 AM

Have you read of the posting men have put in the forum??? They are upset because they are spending money and not getting the physically return for the their investment. So if I spend the money will I get the relationship return for my investment?


I have read their posts, but they represent a bit of an extreme point of view. From my perspective, I am involved in this discussion because I find the man always pays approach to be inequitable. Dating isn't cheap, the cost should be born by both parties.

If you spend the money, you'll get exactly what men get. An enjoyable night out with a member of the opposite sex.

Love your new picture, by the way!
 BLoNde__ANgeL
Joined: 9/20/2011
Msg: 275
Mens Dating Expenses/Dating Experiences.
Posted: 3/4/2012 11:19:13 AM

Because let's be real a guy will eat the free meal then turn around and have sex with a woman he has no intentions of ever calling again.
 TraveliciousGuy
Joined: 9/17/2011
Msg: 276
Mens Dating Expenses/Dating Experiences.
Posted: 3/4/2012 3:19:22 PM

Does it matter if the meal is really cheap?


Not to me.
I don't care if a woman takes me to a FREE meal.
The important thing is, she asked ME to go with her.

 TraveliciousGuy
Joined: 9/17/2011
Msg: 277
Mens Dating Expenses/Dating Experiences.
Posted: 3/4/2012 3:21:02 PM
Because let's be real a guy will eat the free meal then turn around and have sex with a woman he has no intentions of ever calling again.


And, in all fairness, so will some women.

 Darkbutcomely
Joined: 4/20/2011
Msg: 278
Mens Dating Expenses/Dating Experiences.
Posted: 3/4/2012 4:52:05 PM
And, in all fairness, so will some women.


If I have NO intention of calling you:
1. I am not going to dinner with you. I might sleep with you BUT most likely YOU will NOT have my real name.
2. WHY do I need to know all that to have sex with someone??

In spite of what everyone is saying rarely does sex turn into anything BUT sex.

And if I come to your house I am not cooking and truthfully I dont want to hear a whole bunch you have to say. It is straight up sex.
 badboys_bettertoys
Joined: 7/10/2011
Msg: 279
Mens Dating Expenses/Dating Experiences.
Posted: 3/4/2012 7:53:38 PM
thank you all I have wonder how this was handled now a days . kuddos to you Jayelle , you have the best answer talking before is allways the the best and if the if the are offend then they weren't after you just you wallet . I have allwas payed for the dates with few offer to pay there half or even the tip that women lib was a great think for us men as well as it was for woman some of us are just now figuring that out equal rights equal cost on first dates.
 infennario
Joined: 5/24/2011
Msg: 280
Mens Dating Expenses/Dating Experiences.
Posted: 3/5/2012 10:12:43 AM
I have to agree that paying makes a HUGE difference.

I'm a 51 year old woman and I bet I’m more brutal about it than most men seem to be.

If I am doing the pursuing and flirting and flattering and telling him I like him and how attractive he is, and initiating the little touches and even the kisses- AND PAYING- forget it. I will not pay money to have some guy play hard to get or act like I’m an option. While not expecting or wanting early sex, if someone hasn’t been affectionate and made it clear that he feels strong attraction to me and (at least some day) wants me, its done.

If you've never done it- been the pursuer and payer- with someone who is aloof and puts out little effort or affection, try it. It sucks.

Being the one footing the bill makes it a much easier decision.
 OyVay...
Joined: 7/15/2011
Msg: 281
Mens Dating Expenses/Dating Experiences.
Posted: 3/5/2012 10:55:55 AM
fjn, thank you for being honest!

"If you've never done it-been the pursuer and payer-with someone who is aloof and puts out little effort or affection, try it."

Welcome to the world of men...we get that at least half the time when having a date that we got from online!
 smilingrock
Joined: 11/9/2008
Msg: 282
Mens Dating Expenses/Dating Experiences.
Posted: 3/9/2012 1:33:11 PM
Ah the dinner diggers and cruise girls give the good women a bad rap.
 SwtSCNurse
Joined: 3/6/2012
Msg: 284
Mens Dating Expenses/Dating Experiences.
Posted: 3/9/2012 7:40:20 PM
I agree with Cristine. Not all of us are out to thin a wallet. Did you really get a good feeling watching her be detained? I think at that point I would have felt ashamed of myself for encouraging her so. Thank Heavens not all men are like you either.
 a_Libra_rising
Joined: 2/29/2012
Msg: 285
Mens Dating Expenses/Dating Experiences.
Posted: 3/10/2012 8:01:51 PM

IF women held out only for the guys we find attractive we would never date.


actually, some do. i'm one of those. it's fine with me that i don't have dates. i'd rather hangout alone or with my friends and i'll be guaranteed to have a good time rather than go on a date with someone i find unattractive and yet i'm suppose to sit across him and eat dinner? forget it. people go out on dates with those they don't find attractive to fill in the boredom gap or they're lonely. that's perfectly fine, but i don't think anyone, least of all the males (notice i didn't use the word men) can complain/whine/pout when they're just going out on dates because they don't want to be alone.
 Unaccounted_For
Joined: 2/19/2012
Msg: 286
Mens Dating Expenses/Dating Experiences.
Posted: 3/13/2012 8:23:29 AM
No, people go out on dates with those that they don't find attractive to see what they can get out of them.

I could care less about sex, I am way past that point, but finding a COMPATIBLE MATE is more rewarding than 30 minutes of pleasure, if that. I don't see how spending money, improves the chances of multiple dates(unless that is all she is looking for), it just shows to me how much money I am wasting to entertain someone of the opposite sex, rather than using that money for more important things, or monetary investments. I learned my lesson with the last person I dated off here, I told her I'm not interested, and yet she still asks me to take her out to dinner, so we can talk. SMH

If a relationship relies on what material possessions/gain that either sex can acquire or spend, then it isn't going to be successful relationship, in my eyes.
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