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 ImAHotMess
Joined: 7/11/2008
Msg: 2
Do you ever get use to being single?Page 4 of 5    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5)
Yes my dear, you will. And it is not such a bad thing either. It will give you time to clear your mind and be a bit more ready for the right person to come along. And it will happen. I was single for 6 years, met some moron a year ago and ended up single again within a couple weeks of moving for the jerk, but I have to say, I have grown from it and have learned to really appreciate it. Enjoy it, and positive things will happen. Hang in there.
 geeleebee
Joined: 5/26/2008
Msg: 5
Do you ever get use to being single?
Posted: 8/19/2008 8:21:00 PM
Yes, I learned to love being single! After a divorce and ten more years of dating, I decided that I needed to learn about myself. I decided to stop dating and become celibate.

The next four years were spent 'climbing the mountain' and learning to own my actions. I learned to forgive my former husband, I took ownership of my part in the failure of our twenty-year marriage, I learned how to be at peace with my thoughts, process through upsets, deal with where my anger was really coming from, and became the person I cherish today.

I then felt ready to date again--joined a couple of other dating sites, met some men--then suddenly found my complement.

What you put out to the universe comes back to you. Put out peace and acceptance, then look for its return.
Peace
 Adam 4 Coffee
Joined: 5/31/2007
Msg: 8
Do you ever get use to being single?
Posted: 8/19/2008 9:12:50 PM
You can get used to anything. If you are used to being in a relationshiip it can be like an addiction but if you are sued to being single you may push others away. It really does not amtter becuaseyou don't need anyone to be happy. happiness coems from within. Usually I meet women randomly by accident though town or hit it off while tlaking to someone online. I think you need to date a bit more and meet people ebfore you say you are getting used to being single.
 verygreeneyez
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 10
Do you ever get use to being single?
Posted: 8/19/2008 10:12:09 PM

So I was wondering if it's possible to ever get use to being single. It has been years and I'm not use to it yet, so I was wondering.

~OP~ Yes, it's possible. I have no issues with my one-ness. I took a very long journey of self, reinvention of self, learned to do things entirely alone, and now, it's almost difficult to fathom life any other way. When you finally reach the point where you truly like your own company, the company of others is an additive, not a necessity. JMO
 Stonefoo
Joined: 6/14/2007
Msg: 11
Do you ever get use to being single?
Posted: 8/20/2008 3:29:46 AM
The World's shortest fairy tale:

A Guy and Girl fell in love.
The Guy asked the Girl to marry him.
The Girl said NO!
And the Guy lived happily ever after......

He...hunted and fished, played lots of golf, drank beer with his buddies,
left the toilet seat up...and farted whenever he wanted.
The End

 texasbilly
Joined: 5/29/2007
Msg: 20
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Do you ever get use to being single?
Posted: 8/20/2008 3:53:00 PM
One of my many Mottos is ( I'd rather be alone than to wish to God I was!) That's what I tell myself when I am lonely. I am sure many of you can relate.
 bellazingara
Joined: 7/4/2007
Msg: 27
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Posted: 8/21/2008 7:37:44 PM
Yes it is very possible....it's also possible to enjoy it if you take time to get re-acquainted with yourself. Ultimately you have to be happy with yourself before you can be happy in a relationship. You'll come to see too that the grass isn't always greener on the other side. Embrace your singleness and enjoy it while it lasts!

Best Wishes,

H.A.
 Ron9
Joined: 8/10/2004
Msg: 33
Do you ever get use to being single?
Posted: 8/22/2008 11:56:02 PM
After being married most of my life - I’ve now been single for 4.5 years.

At first - I ran around like a silly boy - looking for a girlfriend. After about a year of that ...... I started to realize it was not as easy as I thought it would be.

I’ve always been WAY TOO PICKY - even as a kid I was picky. Looks like all those years of being married would have fixed that but ....... NOPE lol.

Anyway - about two years ago - logic took over. I started to accept that I would prob be single from here on out.

Two years later - I am fully use to it and have ZERO problems regarding being single from here on out.

YES - you get use to being single.
 jadegreen
Joined: 2/3/2006
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Do you ever get use to being single?
Posted: 8/29/2008 8:47:44 PM
Yes you can. And after a number of years you may even begin to like it and wonder how you can learn to live with someone again...that's a trip isn't it
 EagleEric
Joined: 11/2/2006
Msg: 55
Do you ever get use to being single?
Posted: 9/1/2008 9:53:32 AM
If you can't get used to being single, I doubt that you'd have much tolerance for marriage.

The Eagle
 stephaniezowie
Joined: 7/29/2006
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Posted: 9/1/2008 1:42:52 PM
Yes you get used to it.
Then the idea of someone up your tail all the time
becomes the problem.

Just my opinion......
 professora
Joined: 7/28/2008
Msg: 57
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Do you ever get use to being single? NO WAY
Posted: 9/2/2008 7:13:18 PM
Hi solar panel and othrs.
Solarpanel said "Teaching yourself to walk away from dating situations that would be bad for you improves your self-esteem and it does you good to observe the dating process for a while without diving in too."

I learned quickly to walk away. the men i meet agree that it is better to part quickly rather than drag it out. been lucky this way. BUT I STILL DO NOT like being single. this is the longest single spell i have had in my life. maybe age? dont know but i know enough about myself to know i dont dive in without caution.
 professora
Joined: 7/28/2008
Msg: 58
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Posted: 9/2/2008 7:23:32 PM
responding to Magnificentlady : you sd: "I would never trade living alone for being married. Single means 100% independence to do what you want, go where you want, and eat what you want-" I appreciate what you said but want to rebuttal with:

i was married 26 yrs and then later had a long time bf- and with both i was completely independent. i went where i wanted, ate what i wanted, etc. With each man we were sort of "ships in the passing night"...but the house was filled with their scent, so to speak, and their presence was there. The intimacy was special since we were otherwise so independent.

Peppie
 Invictus01
Joined: 2/20/2008
Msg: 59
Do you ever get use to being single?
Posted: 9/2/2008 7:46:34 PM
I got an opposite problem. I can't get used to dating 'cause I'm so used to being single.
 RoughAsGuts
Joined: 7/27/2008
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Do you ever get use to being single?
Posted: 9/2/2008 7:50:25 PM
Its funny how the ones that are least likely to enjoy being single are the ones who arent much fun themselves lol.

Being single teaches you to be resourceful & resiliant and getting used to your own company. It really makes us question ourselves. If your lousy company then being single will be hell for you, because you take "YOU" wherever you go!

As for me Im great company, all my mates can attest to that, and whenever the party is glum Im always only to happy to liven things up. Im a jokester and never take things too seriously. And why should I, we arent immortal, and we are only passing by here in this game called life.

So next time your feeling whether you will ever get used to being single, ask yourself if you cant get used to putting up with your own company, is it fair to ask that anyone else should shoulder that burden for you?
 ck1time
Joined: 9/10/2005
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Posted: 9/2/2008 8:07:24 PM
I am. Technically, you're alone when you're born. And the same when you die.
What's the difference in between? A state of mind. Of course you make a difference
in the meantime. Companionship, co-creating life, raising a family. You are still 1,
a single human entity.
 Ron9
Joined: 8/10/2004
Msg: 65
Do you ever get use to being single?
Posted: 9/3/2008 1:15:26 PM
oops ....... I meant to put this post in a different thread.
 ________
Joined: 12/24/2006
Msg: 67
Do you ever get use to being single?
Posted: 9/3/2008 3:07:29 PM
Yes -- on balance I would take single over attached any day of the week, month or year. But you need close friends to make it work.
 Dpilot1
Joined: 6/15/2008
Msg: 74
Do you ever get use to being single?
Posted: 9/4/2008 7:30:13 AM
Well, I'm going on 59 never married. I'm used to it. Every now and then someone wakes me up and I realize what I've been missing and the benefits of what I have too. I think there's plusses and minuses to both ways of life. However a happy, marriage filled with love is I think the closest to Heaven you can have on earth. A bad marriage is the closest to Hell you could find.
 CherylCake
Joined: 2/27/2007
Msg: 75
Do you ever get use to being single?
Posted: 9/4/2008 8:09:45 AM
Ya, 6 of one, half a dozen of the other. Been on both sides. Each has its plusses & minuses. Just be happy with what you have, or God won't give you any more to complain about.
 want to travel
Joined: 7/29/2006
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Do you ever get use to being single?
Posted: 10/11/2008 7:37:17 AM
being single is terrible, and not natural, i hate it, but so is being in a relationship that is not loving
 evrybdy
Joined: 12/14/2005
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Posted: 10/11/2008 8:24:53 PM
I've experienced being single more than relationships most of my life and I guess it does boil down to really appreciating the person you are inside and what you want out of life and going for it, and not caring what other people might think ofyou for it. That's when you show your true self. As an example, now I am focussing on my health which has gotten bad and getting help from family so I am not even dating or meeting anyone, but I am going to school and reading and taking in learning at an insane level, getting A's, and I am 35 going to school with 18 year olds.lol I laugh sometimes at it all, but it's made me really get to reacquaint with myself, that person we take the least amount of time to get to know. I'm journaling now, thinking about my mother I lost a year ago and learning how to stand for something in myself. Should a man come around that wants to be my friend, that is how I would want it to start, not an insane rush to get someone to validate me through love, but someone who likes what they know so far, and might want to know more. After all, that's what I am trying to do =)

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