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 carolplumb
Joined: 1/18/2008
Msg: 51
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There are usually 2 people in a relationship...ugly or not!!! if you are both happy and fulfilled you will not stray!!

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 Shari67
Joined: 8/13/2008
Msg: 52
Do attractive people have more trouble being monogamous?
Posted: 8/21/2008 1:25:10 PM
I don't think being faithful has anything to do with whether or not a person is attractive. If a person is confident in themself and love their partner, they wouldn't need to prove they are attractive by cheating or care how many others find them desireable.

It all comes down to the individual person.
 babyblondhoney
Joined: 8/2/2007
Msg: 53
Do attractive people have more trouble being monogamous?
Posted: 8/21/2008 1:34:02 PM
I wouldn't know - don't have that problem - me being so ugly
 jvman27
Joined: 8/16/2008
Msg: 54
Do attractive people have more trouble being monogamous?
Posted: 8/21/2008 1:47:43 PM
I think that having this kind of aura might actually make someone actually appreciate a 'real' relationship more. Because having so many opportunities might take the sport out of it. I would imagine though that if a guy were a chick magnet a girl might get really insecure because guys are 'supposed' to just take anything they can get.

As others have mentioned, it is more about ones mindset and attitude. If you respect and love your partner you just won't do it. Simple as that.

If your attitude is that you will try and get anything you can and try and 'manage' your partner in an adversarial way then you will do this any chance you get. As long as you think you can get away with it. I suppose the applicable terms would be Narcissism and Sociopathy to describe such an opportunistic and amoral person.
 arwen52
Joined: 3/13/2008
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Do attractive people have more trouble being monogamous?
Posted: 8/21/2008 5:22:00 PM
I think my "looks" are average but I am frequently told I am very attractive. I'm definitely a very sexual woman, live very much in my body, am comfortable in my body, and feel very at ease with myself which, I presume, is why some people find me attractive. I have absolutely no trouble being monogamous when I'm in a fulfilling relationship.
 SterlingHeart
Joined: 11/19/2006
Msg: 56
Do attractive people have more trouble being monogamous?
Posted: 8/21/2008 5:29:02 PM
There's a difference between finding someone attractive and being attracted to them. The first one is commonplace with many people you see on a daily basis. The second is an action word that you employ either when you're single and available, or you're not single but have difficulty with monogamy or don't know the difference between the two ideas.
 dawn1114
Joined: 2/27/2006
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Do attractive people have more trouble being monogamous?
Posted: 8/21/2008 5:32:57 PM
Why is everyone using non-monogamous and cheating as synonyms? A person can be non-monogamous and ALSO never cheat.

I don't think attractive people have more trouble being monogamous than anyone else. I do believe, however, that an attractive person who choses to be non-monogamous (either honestly or illicitly), would have more opportunities.
 Spoken For
Joined: 12/26/2007
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Posted: 8/21/2008 5:47:45 PM
"Attractive" people can have just as strong a sense of loyalty and faithfulness as anyone else. The people who can't be monogamous are those with no ethics and moral fiber, no matter what they look like. I am highly monogamous by nature. If I looked like Elle McPherson, I'd still be that person who likes one person in her life, and only that one person.
 Katir
Joined: 8/2/2008
Msg: 59
Do attractive people have more trouble being monogamous?
Posted: 8/21/2008 6:41:44 PM
I consider myself attractive.

I've never had a problem being faithful, but I believe in being faithful.
 RustySurfer10
Joined: 6/20/2006
Msg: 60
Do attractive people have more trouble being monogamous?
Posted: 8/21/2008 6:43:36 PM
I think I have answered this same question before.

Being attractive is about as lame of an excuse as there is. It's not hard to say "no." Most people just can't pronounce things they can't spell. Hence why the human population has such a huge problem with the word.
 SweetnSassyNatureLover
Joined: 4/11/2008
Msg: 61
Do attractive people have more trouble being monogamous?
Posted: 8/21/2008 6:56:59 PM
Yes attractive people have more trouble because their just so darn burdened with all that beauty that instead of having any morals or brains or standards. They are stuck with just good looks, they can't help themselves it's not their fault, unlike the rest of the average/plain/ugly people who never cheat or go outside of monogamy!!!!
 MizzCrow
Joined: 7/7/2008
Msg: 62
Do attractive people have more trouble being monogamous?
Posted: 8/21/2008 6:57:56 PM
Oh, for heaven's sake. What a shallow question.

If you are asking whether good looking people are more motivated by their egos to respond to people hitting on them, I'd have to ask you, why would you think that?

On the converse, do you think that people who are plain or maybe a little rough around the edges might not be conceivably more flattered by the attention and be tempted to cheat?

The ability to remain monogamous is a personal trait. It has nothing to do with what you look like, what sex you are, what color or faith or gender preference you have. As far as toning down their attractiveness to avoid making someone jealous or to keep people from hitting on them, why should they? People should be who they are, and deal with situations as they come up. This would be akin to choosing someone for the shallow reason of appearance and then forcing them to wear a burka so no one else could see them.
 lp123456789
Joined: 8/7/2008
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Do attractive people have more trouble being monogamous?
Posted: 8/21/2008 8:26:53 PM
i agree if they're attractive doesn't mean they have more trouble or not to be monogamous....it's about character...geez these days i wonder if ppl actually take being faithful seriously
 MetalVixxn
Joined: 4/4/2007
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Posted: 8/21/2008 8:29:56 PM
No, we just have issues with commitment
 lp123456789
Joined: 8/7/2008
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Posted: 8/21/2008 8:30:54 PM
i wonder why that is?
 Minau
Joined: 9/2/2007
Msg: 66
Do attractive people have more trouble being monogamous?
Posted: 8/21/2008 8:33:54 PM
No attractiveness has nothing to do with being able to commit or be monogomous...you're either capable of being and have no issues with being a cheater or you're not. I met this one guy...hot as hell in his late 20's...he has never ever in his life had a one night stand...they always turned into relationships...very impressive...and this guy was hot hot hot....just not his thing I guess.
 sassyaquarius
Joined: 4/10/2006
Msg: 67
Do attractive people have more trouble being monogamous?
Posted: 8/21/2008 8:44:36 PM

No, we just have issues with commitment
Levels and levels of ridiculousness here
 MetalVixxn
Joined: 4/4/2007
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Posted: 8/21/2008 8:59:59 PM
heehee

oh boy!!!
 Flakk
Joined: 8/15/2008
Msg: 69
Do attractive people have more trouble being monogamous?
Posted: 8/21/2008 11:07:53 PM
-Do attractive people have more trouble being monogamous?-

I wouldn't know, I've never been atractive. Ill ask one of those clowns next time I see one though.
 _Red_
Joined: 12/14/2006
Msg: 70
Do attractive people have more trouble being monogamous?
Posted: 8/21/2008 11:15:55 PM
Well, I've seen Mr HappyPants draw the women in like crazy and yet I have this very strong feeling that he's probably extremely loyal and monogamous and looks damn good on a horse while holding a weapon!

 wpgcougar
Joined: 7/13/2008
Msg: 71
Do attractive people have more trouble being monogamous?
Posted: 8/21/2008 11:24:59 PM
I don't think they have TROUBLE being monogomous, I think they just have more opportunities to not be monogomous...and yes, I avoid highly attractive men because women are constantly throwing themselves at them. Do I really need all that competition? I think I would find it hard to resist myself. You need strong character to resist all that attention for sure and there are a fair number of men that do not have that kind of self control. anyway...that's my 2 cents!
 sassyaquarius
Joined: 4/10/2006
Msg: 72
Do attractive people have more trouble being monogamous?
Posted: 8/21/2008 11:30:38 PM
Some of the responses here truly boggle my mind.

SOME people who attract a lot of others are actually slightly repulsed by those who are only interested in their looks, and would prefer to create a loving bond with someone who appreciates them for WHO THEY ARE... so why would they cheat based on someone who thinks they look hot that night?

Novel concept apparently?
 JasonGrimm
Joined: 6/9/2008
Msg: 73
Do attractive people have more trouble being monogamous?
Posted: 8/21/2008 11:34:42 PM
I definitely think so and I've been in situations where I think they are good examples.

I've gone out with at least 3 girls that were really hot looking. I think every girl I went out with was great looking but there 2 were well you get my point. 1 looked like Jenny McCartney. You know with the jaw line and the big teeth smile. She had a huge smile exactly like that all the time. Her mouth muscles must hurt at the end of the day but she prob works up the tolerance. Anyway, we'd go to the beach and all the guys would be starring. Every single time I left the girl alone for a second to get us drinks or something, I'd come back and guys would be there asking her number. Good thing they were always kool though, they just shook my hand like they were congratulating me or something and apologize. This girl was 21 and I was 21 too at the time. So she was still nice and hadn't been walked over by guys. She didn't cheat on me but we broke up when she went to school far away. She came back and had a boyfriend but cheated on him with me.

Then another girl I went out with for 4 years was a handful because she loved attention but we were like partners in crime, Bonnie and Clyde. Guys would scream and yell stuff out the window of the car. She didn't cheat on me but she has had 3 boyfriends since me and cheated on them all. I think when they got older after other guys walking over them (not me that's for sure) they ended up being jaded and would cheat. Also if I wasn't who I was back then, they might have cheated on me too but because everyone knew me and well I don't want to say anymore because this stuff is on my history forever lol.

The 3rd one well same story, guys always after her and this one had a lot of guy friends of which all of them wanted to be with her and absolutely hated me for going out with her. She was a California blond and I ended up going back east. She let me stay but honestly it was too much drama for me competing with these guys.

So now just think, hot girls are going to have guys after them all the time and a lot of them love attention. I rather have an alright cute girl who isn't egocentric. Also I'm not who I was back then. Just imagine those girls need to turn down the guy every single time, and a lot of guys pressure the girls. I've seen guys do it a bunch of times even though the girls had boyfriends and said no the first times around. I knew someone that did it like it was an art form. He could almost make anyone do anything. He was super charismatic and girls loved him for it and his confidence or rather conceitedness.
 brownie360
Joined: 8/7/2008
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Posted: 8/22/2008 12:15:42 AM
Get yourself a ugly man - Millie Jackson
 brownie360
Joined: 8/7/2008
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Posted: 8/22/2008 12:17:44 AM
It's CHARACTER; or the lack thereof is why people cheat, not beauty.
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