Posted: 8/28/2008 7:24:23 AM
|I think that it entirely depends on the situation. If the man and woman are married, the woman usually physically pays the bill because she is the keeper of the money.|
But in a first date scenario, both should pay if both are working. Even if the man insists of paying for the meal, you should, as a lady, pay for both your drinks.
This shows the man that you will not be brought off by a meal. Otherwise, you will end up paying for it, but in a different kind of way.
BTW chivalry has nothing to do with money. I think for a first date, the man should pick the girl up, that is chivalry. Paying for the meal, not now days. Afterall, women now have evolved from the 1950's housewife.
Posted: 8/28/2008 5:56:15 PM
|Pardon my intrusion in the Aus threads, but your post struck a chord with me.|
I understand your dilemma and have had this type of situation happen myself.
My feeling is I should offer to pay even if they invited me out.
A few years back I had a gentleman whom I had been chatting with for several months ask me out on Mother's Day because he knew that all of my family were out of town and I was all alone.
When we finished eating and before he had asked the waitress for the bill, I pardoned myself to go to the ladies room thinking he would wait and we could go to the cash register and divvy up the bill.
By the time I got back he had already paid and a few days later he told me that he felt used because I chose to leave him with the bill! I explained that that was not my intent at all and had fully expected to pay my fair share if he had waited until I returned from the restroom.
To make a long story shorter, even after I apologized and explained he chose to stop conversing with me.
So, my advice is tell them upfront your intentions and views about who should pay. Will save a lot of confusion and hurt feelings.
Posted: 8/29/2008 10:12:59 AM
And do we buy our own birthday presents maybe? How about we send ourself flowers?
No silly, this is why we give them what is called "pocket money".
Posted: 8/29/2008 4:17:29 PM
|LOL! Goddess and Bucky - no fair! I never dreamt telling my story would start the 'escape to the bathroom' trend!|
Posted: 8/31/2008 7:06:01 AM
|Ok. On Friday night, I went out on a date with a real man. |
We went to the casino, he picked me up and drove me there. He paid for the parking of the vehicle, he paid for all my drinks, dinner, and even gave me some money to gamble with.
I did not ask for any of these things, except that he come and collect me from home, because I think this is the gentlemanly thing to do.
When I tried to pay for a drink for him, he got offended and told me to put my money away. I tried to pay for my share, but he would not have it.
I actually agree with the OP in this post. It does make us feel like women and more so, respected ladies.
Men like this are very hard to find and if you are lucky enough to find one, do not ever let him go.
Learn to swallow your pride just to make him happy, because this will always make a gentleman happy.
Posted: 8/31/2008 8:54:50 PM
Oh how things can change
See what can happen when you let a man be a man? Who would have thought hey?
FYI, I wasn't brought off either. Because he is a gentleman.
Posted: 8/31/2008 9:12:22 PM
|Ok ok I admit it. Hey I can be treated every once in a while. I didn't break any rules. I didn't sleep with him. He brought me a few drinks and brought my dinner. But it was the company I enjoyed most. Not the benefits. |
No where was that other women's libbers thread?
Which one is that? The one where I burned my bra!
Posted: 9/1/2008 1:26:04 AM
A bit like your date did
Reminds me of a few lines of a song by Heart.
We made magic that night.
Oh, he did everything right
He brought the woman out of me,
So many times, easily
Not that I did anything, but he did make me feel special with the little things he did.
Posted: 9/1/2008 2:09:39 AM
|Hmmmmm. It's interesting how the mind of a woman works......|
a) If you can be 'bought off' with a meal, I'd say he sees you as an easy pick up and a meal is cheaper than a hooker, and he gets to eat as well as &^%$.
So which is worse? A man who gets sex but pays for dinner or a woman who gets sex AND a free dinner? Why do women have this superiority complex and think that it's just the man who gets something from the women IF sex is part of the date? Doesn't she get sex as well? Or is she just doing the guy a favour?
Posted: 9/11/2011 5:42:56 AM
|Look here's the deal, I'll supply the drugs and protection. You girls get the money. OK ... simple.|
Posted: 9/23/2011 4:06:19 AM
|I must be doing something wrong, you mean to say that if I take a woman out and buy/ pay for her meal and drinks then I can expect to have sex??|
Damn if that is the case no wonder I am not getting any sex because I don't have that expectation, I look for the companionship and a nice meal.
When did this change?
Why wasn't I told?
Posted: 1/21/2012 12:15:37 AM
|Me thinks some people are over thinking this..|
Why not put on your profile that your not interested in sex for meal situation.
Posted: 1/23/2012 3:36:36 AM
|...............Me thinks some people are over thinking this..|
too true, unless there blonde