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 wizardofossington
Joined: 6/17/2007
Msg: 51
I need an excuse to get out of it....Page 3 of 7    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7)
I did it!!!! I told her the truth.

I am somewhat out of it, but if she can't find a date I'm still stuck....I think she'll find date real quick....I hope.
 Applette
Joined: 4/13/2007
Msg: 52
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I need an excuse to get out of it....
Posted: 9/2/2008 5:20:25 PM
Hey .. I totally understand .. just tell her the truth. You were doing her a favor but I bet the ladies on here are going to give u alot of grief.
 wizardofossington
Joined: 6/17/2007
Msg: 53
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Posted: 9/2/2008 5:29:12 PM
I just got the text...."Your are off the hook".

I told her the truth people and I'm guessing I'm still a creep....I can't win....She was actually okay with it, so no feelings were hurt. I feel good and at eased.
 wizardofossington
Joined: 6/17/2007
Msg: 54
I need an excuse to get out of it....
Posted: 9/2/2008 6:53:50 PM

Go figure the truth work..... hummmmmmmmmmmmmm Wierd totally creepy


Tell me about it?


Enjoy the Game!!!! Cheers


Thanks....
 Sweet J-me Baby
Joined: 10/14/2007
Msg: 55
I need an excuse to get out of it....
Posted: 9/2/2008 7:34:07 PM
Good job, Wiz! You did the right thing....she has time to find another date. You can watch the big game. If you had gone, you would not have been happy and I'm sure she would have sensed it and known your mind was someplace else and in turn, she would not have had a good time either.
 wizardofossington
Joined: 6/17/2007
Msg: 56
I need an excuse to get out of it....
Posted: 9/2/2008 8:15:31 PM

seriously, your type totally disgusts me


I guess you and I aren't dating any time soon....

I told her and she was okay with it....She actually find another date, which she felt it worked out even better her. I don't know anybody at this wedding, and the guy that she invited knows the people there. It actually worked out for both of us....

Now that I don't have to go, my plan is to have my son instead, which my son enjoys football too and watch the game with him. I rather be with him....Call me whatever names you want. I know what kind of person I am....


I hope she at least ends her friendship with you!!!!


Nope, I'm too honest of a friend for her to end it....
 AAuroraAA
Joined: 8/18/2007
Msg: 57
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Posted: 9/2/2008 8:26:57 PM

People are skipping what I posted in msg 14....I have already told her the truth. And she knows my passion for the game, so she somewhat understands.


Honey...message 14 says you're planning on telling her by Wednesday...It doesn't say you told her already...
 wizardofossington
Joined: 6/17/2007
Msg: 58
I need an excuse to get out of it....
Posted: 9/2/2008 8:28:20 PM
I'm telling you she's okay with it, so what part you don't understand. Is it because I'm a man who love sports? Or is it because this has happened to you many times? So you feel the need really lay it on me.


Really, so she read this post and was OK that you asked the entire world how you could lie to her?


She's not on POF and I wouldn't have posted this if she was....And I didn't lie to her. I took the advice that was given to me....Tell the truth!!!
 wizardofossington
Joined: 6/17/2007
Msg: 59
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Posted: 9/2/2008 9:02:06 PM
then use your son as an excuse to the folks on POF.


My son is never an excuse, it's how I'm going spend my day and time well spent....What kind of man are you to make such a comment?
 MaccaFan
Joined: 3/2/2008
Msg: 60
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Posted: 9/3/2008 7:00:20 AM
I would tell her the truth, and let her find another date for the wedding.

During the 2 weeks she has before the wedding, that will give her ample time to thank God you're her EX boyfriend.

I hope you and your Patriots will be very happy together!
 wizardofossington
Joined: 6/17/2007
Msg: 61
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Posted: 9/3/2008 7:36:31 AM
I do my very best keep my word


So you're saying there might have been a chance that you couldn't make it too....Would a baking cook off hold you back?


You need to be a role model not just be a game fan.


I didn't know I was giving hope to many.... I'm going to be both on that day.


TiVo


I should have thought of that....


It's only a game. Besides, didn't they cheat all last year anyway?


Let's not go there....That's a whole different thread.


I hope you and your Patriots will be very happy together!


We're actually engaged.... I'll be at that wedding for sure.
 Capitano_Blaugh
Joined: 3/18/2008
Msg: 62
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Posted: 9/3/2008 7:56:20 AM
Wiz.... you did exactly the right thing. These people who are on your case about not wanting to go are missing the point.

I'm with you.

Did you even KNOW the people who were getting married? Would you have known ANYONE there besides your ex?

I've gone to weddings where I didn't know a soul besides the woman who had invited me. They were fvcking horrible experiences. Most of the time you get ditched because she's off partying with her buddies. YOU get to dance with drunk Auntie Mary who keeps tryin' to slip you the tongue and grab your ass. Not fun.

Good for you....

 wizardofossington
Joined: 6/17/2007
Msg: 63
I need an excuse to get out of it....
Posted: 9/3/2008 8:09:02 AM

Wiz.... you did exactly the right thing. These people who are on your case about not wanting to go are missing the point.

I'm with you.


Thanks, I appreciate that....


Did you even KNOW the people who were getting married? Would you have known ANYONE there besides your ex?


Not a soul, except for my ex....And she probably would have wondered off into crowd, while I'm sitting there twirling my thumbs.


YOU get to dance with drunk Auntie Mary who keeps tryin' to slip you the tongue and grab your ass.


Auntie Mary?....Maybe this is what pluger60 was talking about being a "role model". Take one for the team, right pluger60?
 wizardofossington
Joined: 6/17/2007
Msg: 64
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Posted: 9/3/2008 9:04:37 AM

Life is more important than any game


I agree....But a game is more important to me than going to a wedding with an ex GF. How do you consider going to a wedding with an ex, life? Me no understand?


role model isn't about being self centered & pouting when you don't get your way


Of course not....Isn't a role model more like standing up for yourself and telling the truth? Which I did....Isn't that what you live by? I would think you would have given me a little more respect because of it.


But if something comes up for your son & the play offs are on ,then what?.


First off, my son will always outweigh a football game or a wedding with an ex. I don't appreciate you laying this as an example or questioning me as a father. I know I brought my son up earlier, but let's leave my son out of this for now on....

Think about what you are saying to me? Think about the topic? And think about what a big deal you are making it to be?
 MGMLION
Joined: 4/29/2008
Msg: 65
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Posted: 9/3/2008 2:49:52 PM

Life is more important than any game

Games are important to.
Wiz you've been watching football lots longer than dating girls and going to weddings.
It's Football season now if you get married should be on a Monday through Friday.
( College on Saturday NFL on Sunday )
You did the right thing by telling her the truth.
Just one thought though. If the Jets win you might just wish you were at that wedding
 1Fish2Fish RedFishNewFish
Joined: 3/9/2008
Msg: 66
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Posted: 9/3/2008 4:33:53 PM
wizardofossington,

Congratulations on telling her the truth - (the truth will set you free, LITERALLY in this case! )

Enjoy the time with your son.

To those who are judging him for backing out of his promised attendance, I retort "To thine own self first be true." Whether I would have backed out (no) or not, or whether anyone else would have is NOT the point. He came here looking for an excuse, was offered advice, and took it. Admirable for doing that rather than fabricating a lie. The best part is that his ex is OK with it. So, I believe that all's well which ends well. It sounds like this ended well. Now, let this thread die, it's already way overdone!
 Goldie Girl
Joined: 1/6/2007
Msg: 67
I need an excuse to get out of it....
Posted: 9/3/2008 4:40:30 PM
Be honest tell her the truth ...I am a football fan but I can miss one game , next time don't be so fast on saying yes to her invite....
 boggie1984
Joined: 7/14/2008
Msg: 68
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Posted: 9/3/2008 4:50:55 PM
HONESTLY, I THINK YOU CAN GO TO THE WEDDING, THERE IS NO WAY IN HE.. THAT THE NEW YORK JETS ARE GOING TO WIN A GAME AGAINST THE NEW ENGLAND PATS!!!!!!!! SO YOU WILL NOT BE MISSING MUCH OF A GAME. GO ENJOY YOURSELF AS YOU MIGHT MET YOUR ONE AND ONLY.
 packagedealx3
Joined: 2/4/2006
Msg: 69
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Posted: 9/3/2008 4:59:58 PM
OP, I think what you did was fine. Told her how you really felt and were still going to be there if she couldn't find a date therefore not leaving her in the lurch. You don't have any reason to feel badly, you can enjoy the game and she will not be going to the wedding by herself.

What is ridiculous about this whole thing after reading what transpired after the comment about your son is that if this had been about your son to begin with, which is not what you stated on the thread, I'm sure that this woman and everyone else would have seen that as an actual conflict of interest and reason for bailing on the wedding. This whole deal should have been a no-brainer.
 Capitano_Blaugh
Joined: 3/18/2008
Msg: 70
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Posted: 9/3/2008 5:10:23 PM

Not a soul, except for my ex....And she probably would have wondered off into crowd, while I'm sitting there twirling my thumbs.


My GAWD, you dodged a bullet! Have you EVER gone to a wedding under those conditions? It's HORRIBLE! The only saving grace is if there is free booze.

The Chicken Dance, the Macarena, and other stupid group dances.... *GAG". Weddings are for women and all about the women. I say stay away and let the women go all by themselves.

 karma1160
Joined: 6/10/2008
Msg: 71
I need an excuse to get out of it....
Posted: 9/3/2008 6:01:24 PM
Dear wizard you have yourself a deeeeeeeelema lol so when appoached with the impossible win all you can do is FESS UP and beg for mercy lol
She will respect you more than if she finds out later.
Maybe there is a tv in the reception hall somewhere she will probably be mingling. lol or if you test the water and it looks like the boat isn't going to float have one of your freinds tape the game.
 wizardofossington
Joined: 6/17/2007
Msg: 72
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Posted: 9/3/2008 6:22:20 PM

OP, I think what you did was fine. Told her how you really felt and were still going to be there if she couldn't find a date therefore not leaving her in the lurch. You don't have any reason to feel badly, you can enjoy the game and she will not be going to the wedding by herself.


Thank you....And I mean that in all honesty, since you were quite tough on me early on.


The only saving grace is if there is free booze.


That would probably be the only thing that would have saved me....But no need to worry now. You're quite comical and I truly have enjoyed your posts. Thanks....


Get some plaster of paris and make a fake cast and then take a picture of it.
Email it to her.


This would have been the greatest fib, but too late.
 YeahHonestly
Joined: 3/19/2007
Msg: 73
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Posted: 9/4/2008 12:04:01 PM
Tell her that unless she can throw 40+ touchdowns in a season she just isn't going to hold up to your expectations lol
 A_Playful_Guy
Joined: 5/17/2008
Msg: 74
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Posted: 9/8/2008 10:32:40 AM
Thanks for being the poster boy of why women think most guys are jerks.

Probably tack on "stupid" as well for asking a banal question like this in a public forum...
 betterlate
Joined: 12/22/2006
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I need an excuse to get out of it.... try the truth
Posted: 9/8/2008 10:53:08 AM
try the truth and do it fast as you can to give her time to get another date.

enjoy the game
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