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 drew8472
Joined: 5/4/2006
Msg: 159
How a black male can approach white women... helpPage 3 of 10    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10)
Well said Kari1. It's great to see interracial dating. You'll find that a lot in the United Kingdom of Great Britain.

For me, from personal experience, I don't always read body language, non-verbal social cues very well (Asperger's Syndrome) but the advice you give is great for Neurotypicals.

People do seem to "size" you up based on your credentials (career, car [BMW 330Ci Sports Convertible, for example], university education, where you've travelled, how tall you are, physical build etc). It's true as you say.

But for me, I'd like someone to just "get me" with my idiosyncracies (quirks) and to be able to understand her (her quirks, personality, etc). We'd have to have some common interests but also some different ones as well.
 sriannaailyim
Joined: 11/14/2007
Msg: 167
How a black male can approach white women... help
Posted: 11/27/2008 5:55:04 AM
This thread is so damn offensive.
 MisterTee777
Joined: 6/18/2009
Msg: 171
How a black male can approach white women... help
Posted: 7/8/2009 9:15:05 AM
===Don't look at the color, look at them like they are human. ==

==A warm smile, a twinkle in your eye, and a kind word from a handsome Black man would get my attention just as it would it from a white man.==

Good advice frm the last 2 chix.

What cracks me up is blk women who ONLY date white guys and EVEN WORSE (because, let's face it, there's still plenty of prejudice) are
white women who ONLY date black guys.

There's something SCREWY with BOTH lots and don't hand me that ' it's just my preference' bs either.

There's PLENTY of attractive girl and guys in EVERY race.
I could possibly see you wanting to stay within your race, but to only marry the race you are NOT is, as I said, loopy and messed up.

MISTER Tee
Always Ahead of the Curve
Same goes with any other race unless someone can prove that ALL Asian men have small...ummm...then I MIGHT give the Asian woman a pass!
 MisterTee777
Joined: 6/18/2009
Msg: 172
How a black male can approach white women... help
Posted: 7/8/2009 9:27:32 AM
=Maybe it's an innate need for genetic diversification?=

Now THAT is as CHARITABLE an explanation as you're EVER gonna hear!




MISTER Tee
Always ahead of the Curve...
 jazzcook
Joined: 6/6/2009
Msg: 175
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Posted: 7/28/2009 5:34:11 PM
In my experience, I have found that the best way is to have an interaction with them; work, school, etc. None of the posters have really stated what African-Americans have held as truth for so long-most White folks are biased. Not that is not the same thing as racist (and there are a lot of those too, but not in the majority), this meaning that all the negative bs they see on the news and read in the paper or hear from associates will flash across their minds when you say hello or attempt to strike up a conversation in some fashion. I am attracted to women of all shades, hues, colors, races, whatever! Beauty is beauty. But I have learned from life's experiences, including here, that some ladies just "aren't in to Black guys." A lady told me that in a club one time in S.D. and I walked away laughing. And that is the key. Think of it as asking a lady to dance. You may get as many yeas as nays, but don't let it get under your skin. You see a lady you like, step to her, and try to be as charming (genuine) as possible. Oh, one last thing. You'd stand a better chance in Europe! Believe me.
 jeramiahwashington
Joined: 8/23/2012
Msg: 180
How a black male can approach white women... help
Posted: 1/5/2013 11:59:29 PM
Ha..i dont know about the sock..but pulling out wads of cash....definetly works...
 Soul Union
Joined: 6/9/2007
Msg: 181
How a black male can approach white women... help
Posted: 1/6/2013 12:18:03 AM

Well i hope that white woman have enough good morals, and since of whats right and whats wrong to not date a black man, a white girl should never have a black baby and a black girl should never have a white baby, mixing is wrong, inmoral and if you look in nature you will see what i mean. lots of diffrent types of cats in the wild but thya never inner breed unless man makes theme in cativity. i hope no white woman would lower herself to the levle of a common slut or dog and dishoner her family by haveing a black baby and failing all her ancesters and all future genarations by doing that. not to mention the point of dateign is to find someone to be with and have kids with, has a future parent it is your job to make sure you do the most you can for your children, by haveing a mixed kid you are makeing it harder on your kids and your family and the other persons family, mixed kids are called mix breeds by whites and blacks and are given a hard tiem for thare parents dumbness. stick to your own race and let the good white woman stay pue and your family line stay pure like god intended cuz if he wanted one race thare would be. --- dcmartin08


I haven't read the preceding posts, or the subsequent posts, but I am with Doc 1,000 per cent.

I have a friend who is a breeder of champion dogs. She fully understands that you cannot contaminate the lineage if you want to have a strong, pure, healthy breed. She knows the racial laws when it comes to champion dogs, and she follows those laws rigidly. Alas, she cannot see it with something far more important - humanity.

Let them do what they like, Doc. Don't stir the pot. They don't want to hear this kind of talk, not here, where anything goes and everything is super cool and 'hip.'

This is one of the reasons I have opted out of the rat race. I am no longer part of the mainstream. I want to live under the radar, off the grid, as they say. I don't want to be part of all this. I keep myself to myself, and I do it splendidly.

- Peter
 ixtlan09
Joined: 9/9/2012
Msg: 182
How a black male can approach white women... help
Posted: 1/6/2013 6:38:21 PM
White women prefer to be approached aggressively. They like to be told in explicit detail what you'd like to do to them. The nastier, the better.
 Karismaticappeal
Joined: 7/17/2012
Msg: 183
How a black male can approach white women... help
Posted: 3/16/2013 9:24:21 PM
Kari1,Would you date a brown dude?
 Robert122077
Joined: 1/17/2013
Msg: 184
How a black male can approach white women... help
Posted: 3/16/2013 9:34:39 PM
She posted those comments five years ago, dude...
 ThatsoJay
Joined: 9/12/2012
Msg: 185
How a black male can approach white women... help
Posted: 3/16/2013 11:23:18 PM
Hilarious, ignorant and uneducated comments abound.
 Ed Bear
Joined: 5/19/2007
Msg: 186
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Posted: 3/17/2013 1:53:55 AM
For those deriding "miscegenation" - we are all human, despite your attempts to debase yourself with racist hate.

That faecum is off-topic, mean, nasty, ugly and really not a good way to impress women or your parole officer.

The more we see and live with humans of their diverse choices of mates, the more we respect that good things come of them, too. Come check our Vancouver. We got'em all, races, languages, genders, clothes and it's all good.
ED BEAR
 Iredurbio2
Joined: 3/6/2009
Msg: 187
How a black male can approach white women... help
Posted: 4/2/2013 9:51:48 PM
All I know is what works for me.I'll take a pool cue break it over the table and
put one part to your mid section and say look!I'm a black man!Every time Yo!
 Iredurbio2
Joined: 3/6/2009
Msg: 188
How a black male can approach white women... help
Posted: 4/2/2013 9:51:56 PM
All I know is what works for me.I'll take a pool cue break it over the table and
put one part to your mid section and say look!I'm a black man!Every time Yo!
 SaltLG13
Joined: 12/18/2012
Msg: 189
How a black male can approach white women... help
Posted: 4/4/2013 6:29:15 AM

You walk up to her very slowly- no sudden movements- and stop at least 10 feet from her. Keep one hand up in the air and tell her, "Yes, I'm a black man but don't be afraid. I'm more like an Obama black than a Fiddy black. I'm just going to reach into my pocket and pull out my credit report, criminal history and latest drug test results. Then I'm going to place them on the ground and back up 20 paces so you can pick them up and review them."

We white chicks really dig smooth brothas like that.


That was funny ,lol.
 abmccray
Joined: 8/3/2008
Msg: 190
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Posted: 4/4/2013 7:20:06 AM

I haven't read the preceding posts, or the subsequent posts, but I am with Doc 1,000 per cent.

I have a friend who is a breeder of champion dogs. She fully understands that you cannot contaminate the lineage if you want to have a strong, pure, healthy breed. She knows the racial laws when it comes to champion dogs, and she follows those laws rigidly. Alas, she cannot see it with something far more important - humanity.


Champion dogs are judged on how much they excel at the breed standards, not on healthiness. The stringent inbreeding that goes into maintaining purebreeds, especially on a champion level, gives them many health problems and long term genetic defects. Mixed breeds are actually stronger, on average, than purebreeds. Even when it comes to "purebreeds," the more recently mixed lines tend to be stronger than their "older" relatives. For instance, rat terriers, who are a recent American breed and a mix of a ton of different dogs, are healthier and have less health problems than their Jack Russell cousins, who are an older breed (see JR skin problems, for instance).

To put it in human terms, if you were to apply the same "rules' to dog breeding as you were to humans, then "keeping a race pure" would only be the best in some arbitrary superficial judgment, where the judgment is based on "how standard white/black/whatever do they look," while mixing people would be more beneficial to the entire human race. So even by those goofy standards, "genetic purity" (which doesn't even exist if you even have a high school level geographical education) is pointed out to be nonsense.
 GovanaGeneral
Joined: 4/23/2013
Msg: 191
How a black male can approach white women... help
Posted: 5/16/2013 9:38:03 AM
Message: Hey all,

I was just looking for some advice on how I can approach white females. Preferably younger. Approaching black, hispanic, and even somewhat asian females is no problem for me in public. Although, with white females, I choke. On average, I usually attract much younger women, just not sure if I appeal to white females. I'm just never really dated one and I'd like to try. I find it harder to determine if they are interested. I'm a district manager for an entertainment company and I encounter mixed couples all the time. Lately, I've noticed lots of brothas with very nice white females. Usually nice looks and nice shapes. Ha at some point, I've even debating asking these males for the secret to appraoching these women.

So any advice?

**Also... is there anyway to get some sort of email notification for forum posts?
 wonderland013
Joined: 2/9/2013
Msg: 192
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Posted: 5/16/2013 9:17:59 PM
how can they approach them??

by not putting them on a pedestal.. treat them like black women.. asian women.. indian women.. and so on..
 DragonBits
Joined: 1/6/2012
Msg: 193
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Posted: 5/17/2013 12:06:53 AM
When I read this title, I keep thinking how does one go about snipe hunting?
 lostnfoundluv
Joined: 1/10/2009
Msg: 194
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Posted: 5/17/2013 9:05:27 AM
Just learn to walk first and you shall be able to approach the white woman !
 GJBrown
Joined: 9/12/2011
Msg: 195
How a black male can approach white women... help
Posted: 5/17/2013 6:31:45 PM
You walk up to one and say "Pardon me miss but do you like chocolate?"
this is so dumb that I bet OP wish he could have deleted this thread. Why is race such a big deal to him. You see a woman white black yellow red whatever, You approach with Confidence and manners! I do know that some closed minded people will have there racial preferences but you won't know just by looking at them. If this helps how about you just approach white women as if they were black! ha
 sunsunsun4
Joined: 1/19/2013
Msg: 196
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Posted: 6/3/2013 3:14:30 AM
The same way as you'd approach any woman. Once we get to know you, we'll teach you the secret handshake :-D
 cherryyblossom
Joined: 7/19/2009
Msg: 197
How a black male can approach white women... help
Posted: 6/4/2013 6:19:57 AM
really, no different than an Asian man approaching a white woman, a black man approaching a hispanic woman, or an Indian man approaching an Arab woman. just go with the flow. This reminds of the recent Cheerios commercial featuring a white woman and black man that is causing quite a racist response from people.
 LoneScottishBoy
Joined: 2/13/2012
Msg: 198
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Posted: 6/4/2013 7:26:01 AM
I like to approach white women any time I can...
Actually I like to approach ALL women any time I can...

If you close your eyes, they are all the same color. :)
 ChocolateSugarRush
Joined: 7/9/2013
Msg: 199
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Posted: 8/13/2013 2:28:52 PM
1) Say "Hello" works infinitely better than "Holla"
2) Treat the ladies with some respect, they're not rap video hos
3) Nothing wrong with being stylish, but keep the bling tasteful
4) Use proper English instead of that Ebonics crap
5) Keep your hands to yourself at the onset, unless she gives you the green light otherwise (more of a club atmosphere point when dancing and stuff)
6) Face acceptance OR rejection with humility, rather than thinking you've just pimped her out, or the even classier "well f&#k you anyway B*itch!" (I've actually heard 'Brothas' shout this when the girls didn't react the way they wanted )


Some NEGRO women don't respond well to this either. I'm one of them.
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