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 bodypro8
Joined: 12/10/2007
Msg: 56
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If you work forty hours a week for minimum wage, you can eat or you can have shelter, but you can't do both. You could work a lot of overtime. Maybe two jobs. There but for the the grace of God...
Yeah, I piece em off sometimes. I know it's probably gonna go on crack, but...
 beehearnow
Joined: 9/28/2007
Msg: 57
Do you help out people with signs at the end of EXIT RAMPS begging for money?
Posted: 9/21/2008 1:10:54 PM
no. there are plenty of places to get a meal...if I want to gift , my time or items, that's the route I choose. Sheesh...i donate money to social programs every hour I work - its called income tax. I wish more of that donation went to the hungry/homeless in this country.

years and years ago, my roommates and I invited a panhandler to our house for a meal because he claimed he wanted the money for food. He responded that he really wanted to buy a bottle of white port and get drunk. I started looking around and realized he was not atypical.
 WannaCStarz
Joined: 4/5/2007
Msg: 58
Do you help out people with signs at the end of EXIT RAMPS begging for money?
Posted: 9/21/2008 1:33:08 PM
Raellic? and everyone else too, Im just wondering/? do you think 1000 a month is doable?? cuz i mean, wow, thats impossible to live on that. i have tried! and i have done a darned good job. peepz have told me they dont know how i have managed before, and i chalk it up to good management when i was a child , my parents had 6 kids and only my daddy worked and everyone thought we were "rich'
My mom knew how to budget and we picked up on that and even when i dont have to.....i go to Dollar Stores (not second hand) but Dollar stores. and Odd or Big Lots. i find that the stuff made there is the same exact stuff (same factory even) as those sold at krogers, walmart, kohls and even Macy! yep.

so , you see, sometimes our child hood sticks and Im glad in my case that it did. it has helped me to have a lovely home and have many many extras besides! my kids never do without. They wear nice clothes and have all the extras , like games, cellphones, gadgets etc, and more even than some have.
Haze56, i feel for you. I have been there. . .I know the hardship.
and the feeling you get when people try to help you , it makes you feel an inch tall. You are like me and would rather be the GIVER....:)

some people dont have because they dont know HOW to budget. Im not saying that people can not be down on their luck. BELIEVE ME!! i have been, but i am just saying that with proper management , usually it can be conquered. ;0
 bodypro8
Joined: 12/10/2007
Msg: 59
Do you help out people with signs at the end of EXIT RAMPS begging for money?
Posted: 9/21/2008 1:35:38 PM
Yes! You are right. Minimum wage went up since I lived and worked in the States. Even at that time you could do it in Las Vegas. Which is why 60,000 people a year were moving there.
 rockabillykitten
Joined: 3/24/2007
Msg: 66
Do you help out people with signs at the end of EXIT RAMPS begging for money?
Posted: 9/21/2008 10:28:04 PM
My late finace was homeless for a while in Arizona and he would always give them money. Before I met him I wouldn't give much thought to it and ignore them on the side of the road but after him explaining how he got there and how he tried to not be there it made me turn over a new leaf.

I still have the bumps in the road though where I offer to buy someone a kids lunch (this is true) at Subway and the guy was being picky about it and wanted this instead of that. Its like dude, you arent really hungry now are you? BUT on the other hand I bought a taco and some other things for this guy at a Del Taco and he couldnt beleive it- he became flushed and couldnt stop saying thank you.

My mum and I were walking into the store on a cold morning and offered a guy $5 for some coffee and he turned it down saying he had enough to get by...

The lesson- it all depends. You are going to find honest and dishonest people no matter where you look.... but always think- what if I was in that situation?
 WannaCStarz
Joined: 4/5/2007
Msg: 70
Do you help out people with signs at the end of EXIT RAMPS begging for money?
Posted: 9/23/2008 6:23:38 AM
where do they get their markers and poster board for the signs?

The ones i see are usually well written and on nice poster board with thick markers , i even saw one sign that had been printed out on a computer.

now these are ones i wont give freely to . . . .

But being of the social service field myself (battered women and children) i have a lot of compassion, I know that it only takes one or two lost paychecks to be where they are......
 mamsmaf
Joined: 9/13/2008
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Posted: 9/24/2008 8:44:57 PM
I give them something, a chance to get some exercise. Some guys can jump clear over my car when I try to run them over.
 Rosalund
Joined: 4/5/2008
Msg: 75
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Posted: 9/24/2008 10:29:24 PM
It depends on the person and the feeling I get seeing them. I live in a on the coast and it rains a great deal here. Anyone who is out in pouring down rain....to me they are in need.
I know there are professional beggars doing this, and know the ones who do drugs do this for I have heard them talking on the city bus.
But one time I saw a man digging through a city garbage can, and when he found a glass of pop (there was just a tiny amount left) he started to drink it. This man was dressed in poor clothes but still has a style about him that told me he had know better times. I had never seen him around my town before. Its hard to explain....here...anyway I immediately told him to not drink the pop.....and gave him my lunch I had packed . When I ask him if he smoked...and gave him my cigarettes too. The look in his eyes of gratitude.
He immediately walk a small distance away and sat down and ate half the lunch and put the rest away and walked off.
I learned a lesson there...... I don't know the shoes they have walked in or where they go and why they are where they are. But a helping hand if I can and a smile does not harm. Now I don't always do this for I don't have the money.....but there are many who are homeless and unable to find work.
I do believe as time goes on this homelessness will just get worse. Someone reading this right now and ....could well be homeless and out of money in the future for none of us knows what the future holds so lets be kinder to our fellow man...and not let the ones who abuse hurt the ones who really need.
 SweetDreamsRmadeOfThis
Joined: 8/13/2008
Msg: 79
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Posted: 10/1/2008 12:33:25 PM
Helping others is something a freind of mine does well and she actually helped me out of slump time in my life where i had absolutely nothing left and was down to despair.

the reason behind everyone fallin down on luck may be different. mine was due to my child getting killed and my whole life crumpled. she found me in a state of rags and took me in and fed me. since then i had found out she was a counselor and has a passion for life, living and all mankind. i owe my life to someone who had compassion on someone who had lost it all

none of you know who or how or why or what might happen to any of you. be more kind.
 jimmywalton407825092
Joined: 7/14/2008
Msg: 81
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Posted: 10/13/2008 6:51:41 AM
I think that is a great answer restless and i commend you, although i just wont do it unless i know that they are not going to spend it on wine or crap they dont need because i can use that money myself for crap i dont need.
 SweetDreamsRmadeOfThis
Joined: 8/13/2008
Msg: 83
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Posted: 10/15/2008 10:15:41 AM
ah stephy, you sound just like my friend here . she has such a soft heart and she would turn off that exit ramp and go to the gas station cross the street and go back and give them something if she dont have her kids handing them a buck or two out the window. that just drives me up a friggin wall! i dont know how she is so sweet to everyone but she never stops, my heroin. !!!! Im gonna have to add you to that list. I admire people like you all!

sweet dreams
 Uncle Fist
Joined: 12/18/2006
Msg: 85
Do you help out people with signs at the end of EXIT RAMPS begging for money?
Posted: 10/15/2008 2:23:02 PM
I don't give money to homeless people. Most of them don't want money for food. Don't believe me? Keep a can of vienna sausages or something in your glove compartment and offer it to them instead. Or if there's a McDonald's or something across the street, offer to take them over there. See what happens. They get mad.

I had a guy come up to me and ask me for money in a parking lot one night years ago. I gave him a buck and went inside. When I came back out, that same guy came up to me and asked if I knew where he could get some coke.

He's lucky I didn't punch him out and take my dollar back.
 SweetDreamsRmadeOfThis
Joined: 8/13/2008
Msg: 87
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Posted: 10/15/2008 9:20:45 PM
LMAO, Rapheal!! Ok, i really needed that laugh. So what made you NOT punch his lights out and take back your dollar, (plus interest) haha. what a friggin HOOT!~ thank you for making me smile today. :)
 Rosalund
Joined: 4/5/2008
Msg: 88
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Posted: 10/18/2008 1:26:44 AM
There are many who do use this for drugs and such. But there are also many who are in real need........and the times will get worse believe me for many more are homeless now than they were 20 years ago.


I let this be my motto
 Lynsteph74
Joined: 12/1/2005
Msg: 89
Do you help out people with signs at the end of EXIT RAMPS begging for money?
Posted: 10/18/2008 7:22:11 PM
When I think of it, I usually put a box of (non-chocolate!) granola bars in my car, just for this purpose.....that way, whether they are in need or not, I don't feel either 1-guilty for ignoring them, or 2-stupid for giving them money. The times I have handed them over, truthfully or not, the people were polite and said thank you, anyway.
 rustytimber
Joined: 2/13/2006
Msg: 92
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Posted: 11/2/2008 6:08:39 PM
Next time you seem someone panhandling, look at their shoes. There's a guy that panhandles near our Walmart with $100 nikes, and theyre not thrift store nikes either, they're new. I had a guy want money for food outside a wendy's, so i offered to buy him a burger or whatever, but he replied "oh well, ummm, i can't eat that fast food" but he still wanted the cash....wearing brand new timberland boots.
 DoritoMuncher
Joined: 12/1/2012
Msg: 93
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Posted: 4/8/2013 8:16:00 PM
A couple of years ago, I was riding my bike in downtown. There I saw an old man (looked like he was in his late 60's) sleeping under a bridge. His clothes were worn out, and he looked as if he didn't take a bath for a couple of months. It was summer so I wasn't too worry about him sleeping there. On the way back, I saw him waiting for a pedestrian light to turn green, and I tried to get his attention by saying, "Excuse me." As he was turning around to face me, he was already ready to receive changes from me by putting up his hands out towards me. In return, I offered him two oranges, and he waved me off.

About two months ago, at the end of an exit ramp, I saw a young woman (looked like she was in her early 20's) holding a sign (I will get back to this one in a sec) begging for money. Her clothes were clean, and in fact, she looked like any other 20 year olds. One thing that I thought out of place was the fact that she was wearing a yoga pants. It was well below -10 degree Celsius with the road covered in snow, yet she was wearing what appeared to be a thin yoga pants. Whether it was warm enough or not, I have just never seen any beggars with yoga pants on. Anyway, she was receiving changes from a lot of people. She was so busy collecting the money, she had a very little chance to actually holding up the sign so I couldn't see what she wrote on there. In fact, I was wondering what kind of beggars wear yoga pants.

It looked like the young lady was getting much more help from people than the old man although I would think the old man needed more help. At the same time, the old man could afford to reject my oranges so I assume he wasn't hungry, and the way he automatically assumed I would give him money shows that he was still getting enough help from people even though it seemed a lot less when compared to the young lady.

What do you base your decisions on when you hand out changes?
 HelenBackAgain
Joined: 1/7/2013
Msg: 94
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Posted: 4/9/2013 4:30:22 AM
People with liver and kidney conditions and other digestive problems, not to mention dental issues, all common among homeless folk, often have strict dietary restrictions. Say someone has severe gingivitis, or an old filling recently fell out - he can't eat an orange, it would be agony. And of course they also have preferences, just like the rest of us. (There's no way I could choke down liver, even starving, it would just come right back.) So I would not expect everyone to automatically accept any sort of food, though I might ask if they wanted it depending upon circumstances.

Generally I just give everyone a dollar, or whatever coins I've got - but only if, when, and where I am sure it is safe to do so.

I wouldn't think anything of clothing and shoes, they might have got them from a donation box that morning. But then I'm from Boston, where donation boxes get stocked by Beacon Hill residents... our homeless were filthy as anywhere else, but sometimes surprisingly well dressed. Although they'd do odd things like put a new Lanvin dress over a rotted Fair Isle sweater. Whatever worked for the weather, I guess, and personal neuroses and superstitions.

Anyway, hair, skin, and nails are the real tells, for me, whether or not someone's the genuine article. They might have had a shower at the shelter that morning, but those features will still look weathered at the least, because they are, and nails usually have ground-in grime that won't come out if they've been on the street any length of time.
 shine1274
Joined: 2/12/2013
Msg: 95
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Posted: 4/9/2013 9:43:40 AM
I volunteered at a soup kitchen for a while. I saw these people every day. While maybe half were substance abusers, the rest were mostly mentally ill and a small number were just down on their luck. But even having that experience, I still tend to assume the worst.

One day we were getting ready to leave to go shoot a documentary in Georgia, and we came across this guy with a sign up in front of a Wal Mart. He didnt look homeless. I said "Meth addict", my buddy pulls up and asks what the guys story was. The guy says "I am a roofer and couldn't find a job. So I ended up working with Mexicans off the books to make money to feed my family. I fell off a roof and there is no insurance for under the table labor." He lifts his shirt up and turns around and there were relatively fresh staples going up several inches along his spine. He broke his back. My buddy hands him two $20 bills and the guy starts crying and he says "I used to be good man". My buddy says, "You still are."

I felt like shit.
 Midwest_Southwest
Joined: 9/9/2012
Msg: 96
Do you help out people with signs at the end of EXIT RAMPS begging for money?
Posted: 4/9/2013 2:32:14 PM
Sure, when they are near and I have cash. Heck, I give money to all sorts of things, including organizations with huge overhead.
 moonshadow2010
Joined: 2/25/2013
Msg: 97
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Posted: 4/10/2013 8:23:49 AM

OK people...a lot of the folks you see begging (although here I've never seen it at exit ramps, usually in front of convenience stores) are homeless, and a lot of the homeless are mentally ill and/or alcoholics or addicts. I work in the social service field in our county, so I'm somewhat familiar with these situations. If I see someone begging as I'm going into the store - on the way out I give them a sandwich and a drink. NOT the cash. I have also engaged some in conversation, and told them places they can go for help. If you really want to help someone - there are ways of doing it short of giving them the opportunity to get their next fix.


I agree Cookie... I have worked in the psychiatric and forensic psychiatric hospitals in my province and the best thing to do is to make eye contact, smile and engage them. You will be able to tell pretty quick who is suffering from a mental health issue and who is just begging.... I also agree with the food instead of the cash.

I rarely carry cash these days as in Canada, our 1 and 2 dollars are coins and they get heavy....:)
 SpringMataLeao
Joined: 10/12/2012
Msg: 98
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Posted: 4/10/2013 10:27:15 AM
I no longer give anything to beggars.

The few ruined it for the many, but on at least 6 occasions, I have offered food and/or water to the beggars, and they have gotten an attitude. Many of these people are scam artists, and many are alcoholics or drug addicts.
 junipermoon
Joined: 3/1/2006
Msg: 99
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Posted: 4/10/2013 5:05:07 PM
anyone at the end of an exit ramp in pa will get plowed over in a matter of seconds.

between the 18-wheelers and the soccer moms and the cell phone freaks and the crack-smoking cabbies, no panhandler would stand a snowball's chance in hell.
 DevilfromToronto
Joined: 9/23/2012
Msg: 100
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Posted: 4/10/2013 6:37:15 PM
I had struggles everytime I saw them, give or not give...
 cooldog65
Joined: 6/27/2011
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Posted: 4/11/2013 4:53:43 AM
I got burned once in giving a young skinny pregnant girl $10 in the local mall parking lot. A week later I saw her in a Target parking lot. She had the same sob story as last time. I didn't fall for it a second time. Fool me once...

I was caught by surprise when I was pumping gas and a Cadillac Escalade SUV rolled up next to me. The lady in the passenger seat stepped out and tried to give me some BS story about needing some money. She appeared to be dressed expensively. I ignored her and she copped an attitude with me. Unbelievable.
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