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 chatte
Joined: 6/7/2008
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there is no place more alone than with someone in a dead relationship.


So true! I've never felt worse and more alone than at the end of the 2 signifcant relationships in my life. It's almost like, the person is close but oh so far. It's a daily reminder of what is missing in your life and you have no ability to get it! When there's no one, there's hope that you can find someone! And this time you know exactly what it is you were missing and what you need.

I had a LTR breakup in a very messy way earlier this year and one of the phases I went through was the "I'm 48, am I ever going to be able to find someone" fears. Thankfully I got over it (ok, it tries to creep back every now and then!)! With that kind of fear you tend to compromise yourself and your own principles just to not be alone. If I am meant to be alone as in without a SO, so be it. I have an amazing life and amazing friends who constantly remind me that I am their family. I will never be "alone", nor am I ever lonely.

Do I miss that closeness, that partnership and familiarity that you feel with another person? I sure do. I miss all the silly, little things like calling when I leave work that I'm on my way home. But I never want to be in a relationship again with someone who reminds me of what I am missing.
 El_Mariachi
Joined: 4/21/2007
Msg: 62
Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 9/19/2008 9:42:14 AM
'K

Now I'm really scared.
 lelathecat
Joined: 6/14/2008
Msg: 64
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Posted: 9/19/2008 1:03:35 PM
No matter what we're going to be alone anyway. Someone will die first.

My parents were married for nearly 50 years. It's been 5 years since my father has passed and my mom is alone and she hates it. That is just the way it goes sometimes.

I agree there is no lonelier place than a relationship or marriage that is bad.
 BlueEyes1712
Joined: 4/24/2008
Msg: 65
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Posted: 9/19/2008 2:42:35 PM
It makes no sense to worry, only wastes energy that can be used for better things. I don't think anyone wants to face life alone, which is why sites like this exist, finding someone hopfully for the last time.
 jowwoj
Joined: 4/6/2007
Msg: 67
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Posted: 9/19/2008 2:49:20 PM
worried about it, unfortunately I'm already doing it!
 beehearnow
Joined: 9/28/2007
Msg: 71
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Posted: 9/19/2008 3:31:18 PM
Worrying is a waste of good time and energy, plus a method some people use to deprive themselves of new and interesting experiences. No, I don't bother to worry about growing old alone. I just look forward to finding out happens next.
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
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Posted: 9/19/2008 4:06:12 PM
michaela, I don't worry growing old and alone, if there is no special man to love,I can give my love more to unfortunate children .... I put love in my heart not fear..
 Ron9
Joined: 8/10/2004
Msg: 74
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Posted: 9/19/2008 11:04:47 PM
I am older than most of you.

Until five years ago - I pretty much was always in a relationship.

At first I thought ...... ok Ron - you know what to do.

I have never ever been interested in anything but a real two way match.

I really thought I would meet a two way match within six months ......... silly boy ....... silly silly boy.

Five years later ...... things have just changed far too much from when I last looked for a match 25 years ago.

Silly boy indeed.

I won’t settle and unless I start figuring out where to go (in real life) things just are not looking that great.

Working from a home office and seldom even leaving the house ......... well that is not helping much.

Online is fun but it is just too weird. Many of the gals think guys are just trying to get into their pants. Many of the gals have so many guys coming at them - most of the guys get lost in the shuffle.

Online is great for just goofing around but ....... to me it seems it would be a total fluke to actually make a match online.

When I do go out - all I see is kids. I assume all the 45+ gals are home with ........ B.O.B. lol.

I simple hate being single but ...... we have to deal with what ever is what ever and just keep going.
 beehearnow
Joined: 9/28/2007
Msg: 76
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Posted: 9/20/2008 9:02:30 AM
if I chose to worry, I'd worry about being trapped in some sort of mutually disrespectful association just for the sake of not being alone.

sheesh, i always have myself to converse with
 val0214
Joined: 5/7/2007
Msg: 78
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Posted: 9/20/2008 12:36:48 PM
OP,

It does get lonely. But getting old alone?

Not really. I figured, when I'm too old to care, I'm going rebel. I have a fantasy of setting up my easel dressed in nothing but a straw hat and painting seascapes on a nude beach.

I won't be alone for long.
 Ethnea
Joined: 7/18/2008
Msg: 83
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Posted: 9/25/2008 1:17:42 AM
Alone? Well, currently, my bed holds 4 of us... two very large dogs and a cat. I also have a school of fish downstairs in their tank. Great friends, family spread all over (both biological and adopted - the adopted family rocks, the biological is fodder for Jerry Springer). While I do not have a mate currently, I am far from alone. I have a feeling that such will be the case in old age, too. While it would be wonderful to have someone to cuddle with, converse with, etc., I enjoy being alone (now, if only I could have the financial benefit of 3+ jobs without the hours laid out!)
 kane stays
Joined: 6/8/2008
Msg: 84
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Posted: 9/25/2008 1:44:19 AM
I'm already alone.
 christinaFromBoca77
Joined: 9/10/2008
Msg: 85
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Posted: 9/25/2008 10:31:20 AM
I dont worry about it because I don't care...when im pooping in diapers and can't even remember where I am...I dont think i'll care if there is another old geezer called my husband laying in the hospice next to me, croaking as well.

Who cares.
 dudewtf87
Joined: 4/2/2008
Msg: 90
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Posted: 10/29/2008 6:43:17 PM
yup i agree its all about the money so it has to be 2 ppl to a room with old betty and her bowel movements in the night u wont be alone ull be with betty with her walkin farts and night terrors and it aint worth gettin married nomore cuz marriage is just a rental everyone i know is divorces and i just had a engagemtne after 5 yrs sawed in half cuz the b**** got numb and selfish noone believes in one person nomore there always lookin for someone better i myself am old fashioned and wouldnt mind stayin with 1 person forever but i just dont iknow if itll happen but i aint goin to no nurshing home with old phil and his farts and crappin on my bed as a joke no siree im goin out the fun way in the woods with a gun... in my underwear!
 dudewtf87
Joined: 4/2/2008
Msg: 92
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Posted: 10/29/2008 8:05:09 PM
most talk the talk but dont walk the walk and i will not be in a nursin home like i said a gun nekked in the woods and with all that talk i knew u was a cna cuz i used to know a couple cnas and they got the craziest stories and the saddest stories its a real buzzkill wen ur drinkin but crazy stuff does happen in them nursin homes which is why i aint goin to one if u can pry my gun from my old fingers then i will put up a fight and will not go to a nursing home it is possible to die in ur own home and wen that time comes it will come i will not be preserved on some machine in a coma
 platypus_man
Joined: 8/29/2007
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Posted: 10/30/2008 11:00:32 AM
Any time I feel lonely, all I have to do is think of all the crazy women I've come across, and remember what it would be like to be stuck with them. Then, all of a sudden, peace and quiet seems very nice. Better to want a companion and not have one, than to have one you don't want, and can't get rid of them. I guess that's why I'm currently single.
 Msh90
Joined: 8/30/2008
Msg: 95
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Posted: 12/16/2008 3:09:56 PM
Not really I have 1,0000 other things to worry about.

I do worry about never getting married or having children but I figure it will happen evertually even if I have to lower my standards a little bit.
 kane stays
Joined: 6/8/2008
Msg: 96
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Posted: 12/17/2008 7:29:43 AM
I'm not worried. I already have my room picked out at the nursing home and I know all the secret codes to the outside doors! Catch me if you can!
 phishkev
Joined: 9/19/2008
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Posted: 12/17/2008 2:32:26 PM
I do-I am tired of not having a relationship "work" for whatever reason-all people are different as are the reasons their previous relationships collapse-I keep trying and I KNOW I'll find someone to "compliment" me-someday!!!<img src=http://www.plentyoffish.com/smiles/icon_201.gif border=0>

By the way-I LOVE CATS!! Hee!!
 Riverkilt
Joined: 11/16/2008
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Posted: 12/18/2008 6:38:30 PM
Every day.....every day....

Was just thinking about this and came on the board to see what was up and dang....there's my mind....every day...
 Hiker 60
Joined: 3/12/2008
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Posted: 12/22/2008 6:34:14 PM
Wow, six pages of people who more or less feel the same way I do, there are a lot of us...
For what it's worth - happy holidays to all of you, and may 2009 be the year that we all find that special person.
 _jay_see_
Joined: 11/24/2007
Msg: 118
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Posted: 12/27/2008 7:29:30 PM
I'm not really fussed about finding a "soul-mate"; I gave up on that long ago.

I am worried that all my friends will have died before I do, so I may have to spend the last 10 years of my life without them.
 Sensitive P. Ness
Joined: 12/15/2008
Msg: 119
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Posted: 12/27/2008 10:35:40 PM
Why worry about it??

It's gonna happen regardless.

Shoot, I think that going through life alone, sux!

But what are ya gonna do about it??

Jump into an unhappy relationship, just to NOT be alone???

Nah, I'll pass on that too!


I think that, ultimately, our hearts want what they want.......

And we shall be alone until IT gets what it wants!

I shal be the best that I can be, for me, and for whomever is right for me.

And when that person comes along, they will be satisfied with whom I am and what I have to offer.
 mrtom2008
Joined: 12/22/2008
Msg: 124
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Posted: 1/11/2009 4:48:27 PM
I feel it's sad that the divorce rate is over 50% these days. Times have sure changed and people feel it's just easier to move on rather than put work into what they've already built.

I too am a divorce' but not because I did not try!

And yes, it sure would be lonely growing old alone! I try not to worry about it. All I can do is learn from past experiences and try and be the best person/mate I can.

Best to you in the New Year!
 shparks
Joined: 12/17/2008
Msg: 125
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Posted: 1/11/2009 8:04:24 PM
Yeah, I worry about that. I sometimes think of finding love like winning the lottery. The odds are that it is never going to happen to me. But I still keep buying tickets anyway.
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