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 LAchicStuckinOC
Joined: 7/8/2006
Msg: 101
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No offense to the LGBT community but I'm not down with fence-sitters ;) You gotta know what team you're playing for. Pick a side and run with it! =)
 hojash
Joined: 4/7/2006
Msg: 102
Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 7/22/2006 3:19:54 PM
Yes I would. I dated a man for tow years and he's bi. We're still best friends and still totally in love with each other just he's in back in TX and I'm back in WI. So it's not gonna work and we both know it. But just because they like the same sex as well as the oppposite you'd say I do love you and I will date you but since you do like men/women no I won't marry you. That's not true love then is it????
 vahbsc
Joined: 1/5/2006
Msg: 103
Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 7/22/2006 3:22:46 PM
marrige?

i want to get married, but i can get cheated on as a gf instead of a wife
 Dynamite_Smile
Joined: 8/15/2006
Msg: 104
Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 9/12/2006 1:18:30 PM
Nope, the odds would be against me.
 gtxblueyes
Joined: 1/4/2005
Msg: 105
Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 9/12/2006 1:25:33 PM
Wouldn't that mean twice as many persons to look out for? I have not dated a bi person to my knowledge, so much to find out about.
 Double Cabin
Joined: 11/29/2004
Msg: 106
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Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 9/12/2006 2:09:38 PM
If the woman was responsible of course, but a man would always be out of the question. would you marry a hobbit if it had enough money to burn a wet mule?
 Origam
Joined: 8/9/2006
Msg: 107
Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 9/12/2006 2:37:18 PM
Yes I'd marry a bi man. I don't see how someone being bi makes them any less worthy of being married or in a serious relationship than someone who is straight.

It's not a guarantee that just because you marry someone straight that they won't cheat, look, flirt, etc. with other people ya' know? Kind of like it's not a guarantee if you marry someone who's bi that they'll cheat on you. A bi friend of mine puts it this way.. "I look all the time, nothing wrong with looking but when I'm in a relationship with a man, I'm straight.. when I'm in a relationship with a woman, I'm gay.. when I'm not in a relationship I'm fair game".
 heyitsdoug
Joined: 3/8/2006
Msg: 108
Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 9/12/2006 2:49:33 PM
I'm not sure that it would make much of a difference?
If she's faithfull.....it's more like she USED to be bi-sexual.
If not....she's a cheater, either way, and of course cheaters suck!
 JokerWild
Joined: 8/27/2005
Msg: 109
Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 9/12/2006 3:44:16 PM
Of course I'd marry a bisexual woman...why? Because if we're married then she'd have no more interest with a woman or cheating on me :)...unless she well cheated on me. Then I'd get a divorce and damn her rotten soul to the bottomless pits of hades!! But cha, I'd marry one.
 stencilpro
Joined: 2/26/2006
Msg: 110
Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 9/12/2006 8:27:25 PM
Bisexual women are great! They tend to not have a lot of inhabitions. As long as it's bi and not lesbian in the closet. I've dated a few Bi women and they are a lot of fun and loyalty is loyalty no matter what they like. That comes down to character. Makes for intersting roll playing also! Bi men well no comment there. It's easier for women to be bi then men. With women they can give and take pleasure without pride getting in the way. But with men it would be very hard to let down my guard to try even if I was so inclined. Thats why lions live one male to several females! Thats the ticket! LOL
 Robbbyg
Joined: 8/14/2006
Msg: 111
Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 9/12/2006 9:29:54 PM
I am interested in BI women and i have always wanted to have 2 or 3 in a fulltime relationship, because sometimes one woman just isnt enough
 heyitsdoug
Joined: 3/8/2006
Msg: 112
Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 9/12/2006 10:11:01 PM
I may have mis-understood.......I, apparently like some others, thought
that BEING bi-sexual meant actively having sex with both sexes.
I didn't think just being attracted to both sexes made you bi-sexual?
.......hence my "used to be" statement earlier......just like someone in
a straight relationship in the past, and a gay one in the present, used
to be straight? ..........but then I guess they'd be bi?
WOW! I don't like this thread anymore!
 pansatyros
Joined: 3/24/2006
Msg: 113
Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 9/12/2006 10:36:48 PM

Hmmm, why not... if he would keep his other private life out of our private life. Sex is not only thing people share in their relationship... so if e.g. friendship chemistry would be extraordinaly strong, why not... wouldn't that be just accepting the other person as he is?


Does that mean that...errrrrr...if your man has a keen interest in...errrrrr...blondes...he is allowed to develop a strong...errrrr...friendship with them?

I would not mind at all, let me stress this at all if my girlfriend(s?) wanted to experiment with...errrrr...other women...curiocity is a potent aphrodisiac...


I obviously was ready to let my imaginary bi-man to have his male affairs and not consider them as a threat to myself :p Well, well, you live and learn new things about yourself!


(muttering to myself: she is alive!!! alive!!! alive!!!)
 Fly on the Wall
Joined: 8/21/2006
Msg: 114
Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 9/12/2006 11:42:11 PM
Reading this forum has made me twitch. OF COURSE I would marry a bisexual man, if he asked me to marry him, then OBVIOUSLY it's because he loves ME, and only wants ME.

Being bisexual simply means a person has the capacity to love regardless of gender. There is an issue here presented by extremely misunderstanding heterosexuals thats driving me insane:


NO WAY!! No time for His identity crisis for me!!


It's not an identity crisis, it does NOT mean they don't know their preference and certainly does NOT mean they are confused. Bisexual people are NOT confused about their sexuality, they simply do not let gender decide who they are limited to loving.

A bisexual isn't going to marry someone of the opposite gender and a few years down the road decide they want to have someone of the same sex and leave you. This opinion seems to be completely driven by a heterosexual's fear of being dumped. It is just as likely for a man to get dumped by his heterosexual wife because she wants to be with the hot young pool-boy. In both cases it means one thing: YOUR PARTNER DOES NOT LOVE YOU. It happens sometimes in marriages for various reasons that have NOTHING to do with the partner being bisexual....unless of course their husband/wife is overly paranoid about the issue to the point that it causes friction within the relationship.

If a bisexual marries you in the first place, it means they LOVE YOU, and want to be with YOU. Talking about them not knowing their preference....well, if they choose to marry YOU, obviously the preference is for YOU. Talk about insecurities.

The only people who are 'confused' or don't know their sexual orientation are those that say they want to experiment, you experiment when you are unsure of something, this is not the case with actual bisexuals.

Therefore I personally think that for all those that say they wouldn't marry a bisexual....it's simply because they REALLY don't understand a thing about it, and have fear and insecurites. I read a lot of 'I dated a bisexual before, NEVER AGAIN'......so people are stereotyping now...thats just as bad as saying 'I dated someone of *this* ethnic group before, NEVER AGAIN'

I don't mean to sound like a total B*tch, but I really feel sorry for those who are too closeminded to even date someone thats bisexual, you could be missing out on the greatest relationship with a great person, all because of your misunderstanding of them, and not realizing that dating a bisexual, from the point that they decide they like YOU is that same as dating someone who is heterosexual.
 tmofedm1
Joined: 9/1/2006
Msg: 115
Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 9/12/2006 11:58:32 PM
Totally not....I expect monogamy, be it abstaining from other women or from other men.
 Fly on the Wall
Joined: 8/21/2006
Msg: 116
Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 9/13/2006 12:29:00 AM

Has ZERO to do with being closeminded, at least for me - I prefer my partner "putts from one side of the green only" - that's called a PREFERENCE.


But if his preference is you, then what does it matter if he dated a man in the past? The past is the past, and if a man currently had feelings for you....I don't see how him being bisexual should matter as long as his eyes are on you. :P




Totally not....I expect monogamy, be it abstaining from other women or from other men.



......


Bisexuals ARE JUST AS MONOGAMOUS AS HETEROSEXUALS. Within both orientations you can find individuals who aren't monogamous....you shouldn't be generalizing this trait that some people REGARDLESS of orientation have, to one orientation. A heterosexual is just as likely to cheat on you as a bisexual, there is NO DIFFERENCE.
 julietjuliet
Joined: 7/3/2006
Msg: 117
Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 9/13/2006 12:34:30 AM
OP: You can you pencil me in as a 'NO' on this one thanks. I'm just not into 'triangles'.
 Fly on the Wall
Joined: 8/21/2006
Msg: 118
Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 9/13/2006 7:27:03 AM

Leara - If you READ the original post - the question was "would you with someone that IS STILL BI.. as in present, not past. So my answer remains, HELL NO!


Ok...I'm not aiming this response at you ^^^^^^ Going back it seems a lot of people are confused by this too. So this is in general of people being 'still bi'

this seems to be something else people are confused about. If your orientation is bisexual...it wil always be bisexual, you dont become heterosexual when you are with someone of the opposite sex, people won'[t ever change a bisexual person's orientation....BUT is does not mean they *crave* to be sexually active with people of both genders, it doesn't change the fact that if someone is bisexual and is with you...it's because they chose to be with you becuase they care about you, and not someone of the same sex....I really don't get why people aren't understanding this...if they have been in a relationship with a bisexual that dumped them saying they wanted to be with someone of the same sex, *gasp* it means they didn't love them to begin with. It's the same with a heterosexual couple, if your partner loves you theres no worry, because you trust each other, but if they don't love you, even if their heterosexual, they'll still run off and cheat. It's the same in heterosexual and bisexual relationships, there needs to be trust and love. God, if people are worried about a bisexual partner cheating on them, the bisexual can just as easily cheat with someone of the opposite sex. It really seems to me that people's fear of bisexuals in a relationship is groundless.
 good_eat
Joined: 7/8/2006
Msg: 119
Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 9/13/2006 7:33:29 AM
A bisexual woman is my preference.
 grey shado
Joined: 8/13/2006
Msg: 120
Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 9/13/2006 9:27:23 AM
actually being bi for over 25yrs i think i can address this..the answer is yes

one other said that bi's can luv tis tru

its just that as a bi and knowing many of like mind its about the other

individual not waht gender they are.

if a bi ladi or male asked me it would only depend on how i felt about them not what preference they have.
 firstladyiam
Joined: 3/28/2006
Msg: 121
Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 9/13/2006 9:28:34 AM
I'm with you, lonertx63 - I'd say "bye" as well............................
 t-gurl
Joined: 9/9/2006
Msg: 122
Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 9/13/2006 3:52:56 PM
Well, looks like I came into this at the end but who cares? The funny thing is that both of the major posters on this page (or the last page if I didn't count right) are correct and actually arguing the same thing.

First off, it's been said many times in this thread but I'll say it again. Straight, bi, gay and lesbians can ALL be monogamous. Just as they can ALL be promiscuous and cheat. So there is no point in thinking that a bisexual is going to automatically look outside the marriage. Just as there is no point in thinking that a heterosexual is automatically going to be faithful.

Completekaos stated her preference. And that's fine for her. She can marry whoever she wants.
Gay men are not considered closeminded for not wanting to marry a woman
Lesbians are not considered closeminded for not wanting to marry a man
Straight people are not considered closeminded for not wanting to marry the same sex

Closemindedness comes into play in not allowing others to make their own choices or for berating them or humiliating them for those choices.
 AgelessWonder
Joined: 4/12/2006
Msg: 123
Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 9/13/2006 4:11:58 PM
The only thing I would see if you are bi, you have a bigger pond to if you do decide to cheat!!
 -=Kalidor=-
Joined: 7/14/2006
Msg: 124
Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 9/13/2006 4:23:40 PM

Ok...I'm not aiming this response at you ^^^^^^ Going back it seems a lot of people are confused by this too. So this is in general of people being 'still bi'

this seems to be something else people are confused about. If your orientation is bisexual...it wil always be bisexual, you dont become heterosexual when you are with someone of the opposite sex, people won'[t ever change a bisexual person's orientation....BUT is does not mean they *crave* to be sexually active with people of both genders, it doesn't change the fact that if someone is bisexual and is with you...it's because they chose to be with you becuase they care about you, and not someone of the same sex....I really don't get why people aren't understanding this...if they have been in a relationship with a bisexual that dumped them saying they wanted to be with someone of the same sex, *gasp* it means they didn't love them to begin with. It's the same with a heterosexual couple, if your partner loves you theres no worry, because you trust each other, but if they don't love you, even if their heterosexual, they'll still run off and cheat. It's the same in heterosexual and bisexual relationships, there needs to be trust and love. God, if people are worried about a bisexual partner cheating on them, the bisexual can just as easily cheat with someone of the opposite sex. It really seems to me that people's fear of bisexuals in a relationship is groundless.


Yeah... its like saying "I won't date anyone who's straight because I want to be the only man she loves and if she's still attracted to men while being with me then THAT IS A BIG FAT NO"

Its mostly just lack of proper information and ignorance that causes these kneejerk reactions i think.

I also think that the younger crowd isn't as likely to be caught up in it as the older ones, unless they are just from some super opressive religious background.

I'm pretty sure every girl I've dated except 1 has been bi-sexual.. hell, I just assumed all girls were ;)
 Danp_13
Joined: 9/5/2006
Msg: 125
Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 9/13/2006 4:35:25 PM
BAHAH ! if she has bisexual girfriends SURE!
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