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 -Horrible/Brazen-
Joined: 9/17/2005
Msg: 126
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Some of these posts make me want to vomit. I'm shocked but definitely not surprised how many people are so prejudiced towards a person based solely on their sexual orientation. Shame on you. You're not even taking into account someone's values, you're assuming because they're bi-sexual they're not monogamous. Well that to me is very ignorant.
 ya472
Joined: 8/8/2005
Msg: 127
Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 11/18/2005 8:03:21 AM
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Because I see a lot of responses that just assume Bi = cheater




In a monogamous relationship, BI = Cheater



Simple.

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 -Horrible/Brazen-
Joined: 9/17/2005
Msg: 128
Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 11/18/2005 8:07:15 AM
Again, you assume because someone is bi, they're practicing their preference. Someone who is bi, has the same temptations as a straight individual, it's a personal choice whether or not they act on that. Assuming they do from the get-go is unbelieveably stupid.
 ya472
Joined: 8/8/2005
Msg: 129
Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 11/18/2005 8:25:30 AM
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you assume because someone is bi, they're practicing their preference. Someone who is bi, has the same temptations as a straight individual



If you promised a monogamous relationship, there is NO WAY that bi-sexuality is an issue, any more than a man/woman who enjoys porn is considered a cheater.

Bi-sexuality by definition is a practice, not a fantasy.



I don't assume anything, just stating plain facts. (stupidity is relative; keep it in the family)

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 JasmineKai
Joined: 10/27/2005
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Posted: 11/18/2005 8:31:47 AM

If you promised a monogamous relationship, there is NO WAY that bi-sexuality is an issue, any more than a man/woman who enjoys porn is considered a cheater.

Bi-sexuality by definition is a practice, not a fantasy.

I don't assume anything, just stating plain facts. (stupidity is relative; keep it in the family)


What facts? I must have missed them. Restate these "facts."

Definition, Bisexual: Of, relating to, or having a sexual orientation to persons of either sex.

It's just an orientation. Meaning, you would sleep with either sex. Doesn't mean you will seek either sex while in a relationship.

Bi does not mean cheater. Cheater means cheater.
 ~Dangerous Liaison~
Joined: 8/22/2005
Msg: 131
Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 11/18/2005 8:36:17 AM
sure...why not. if you were married, you wouldnt be with anyone else (in a perfect world) so what would be the problem? I hae dated men who had been with other men, there was nothing wrong with it...actually it made things kind of fun...it put my own indescretions to shame.

lol.
 questing41
Joined: 5/8/2005
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Posted: 11/18/2005 8:43:01 AM

Bi-sexuality by definition is a practice, not a fantasy.


Ah! Rule by edict :)

In the same way that when someone finds both brunettes and blondes attractive, they cannot be monogamous, they simply have to have concurrent relationships with both.

(Unless their partner is willing to dye half and half of course.)

I'm glad we could make these facts clear.

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As for me? Yes, of course I would.

Ideally someone is going to choose a partner for the quality of their person rather than their external paraphernalia.
 ya472
Joined: 8/8/2005
Msg: 133
Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 11/18/2005 8:45:05 AM
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Cheater means :
Meaning, you would sleep with either sex.


It is a matter of tense, if it is past tense, it is unimportant, if it is present or future tense, it is important.

I wouldn't marry a person who is considering bi-sexuality. They haven't taken responsibility for their decision to be monogamous.

(my definition of monogamous, married and sexual with only one partner)
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 -Horrible/Brazen-
Joined: 9/17/2005
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Posted: 11/18/2005 8:51:40 AM
@ya472.

You realize with that statement, you've just insulted people who happen to have alot of personal responsibility. When *I* am in a relationship, I'm very monogamous, in fact I would be against having a threesome, even if my partner was accepting of that. Again there you go assuming something you really know nothing about.
 JasmineKai
Joined: 10/27/2005
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Posted: 11/18/2005 8:53:43 AM

It is a matter of tense, if it is past tense, it is unimportant, if it is present or future tense, it is important.

I wouldn't marry a person who is considering bi-sexuality. They haven't taken responsibility for their decision to be monogamous.


Ah I see you're using the little known argument strategy, Tense.

However you're still wrong. Sorry. Let us assume for a minute that I am Bisexual.* That refers to my orientation. Not my activities. I am Bi, I will be bi in the future, and I was bi in the past. This orientation won't change if I were to marry someone. I would still be of the orientation that would be attracted to both sexes. I just wouldn't be acting on any desires. Just as a straight person wouldn't be acting on the desire to sleep with someone else. And a gay person wouldn't be acting on their desires.

Gay/Bi/Straight = orientations. Not activities/practices.

Notes:

*Read carefullly.
 ya472
Joined: 8/8/2005
Msg: 136
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Posted: 11/18/2005 8:59:40 AM
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It isn't about winning, though I am. LOL

Orientation -> partner -> monogamous -> to the end .


Simple

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 questing41
Joined: 5/8/2005
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Posted: 11/18/2005 9:01:35 AM
I'm glad winning isn't important to you :)


It is a matter of tense, if it is past tense, it is unimportant, if it is present or future tense, it is important.

I wouldn't marry a person who is considering bi-sexuality. They haven't taken responsibility for their decision to be monogamous.

(my definition of monogamous, married and sexual with only one partner)


In the same way that you wouldn't marry a person who could find anyone but you attractive, be that person Johnny Depp or Charlize Theron I hope...

Being able to appreciate someone else (regardless of their sex) in no way suggests that they'd prefer to be with them.

I think that's your stumbling block.
 newleaf
Joined: 11/2/2005
Msg: 138
Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 11/18/2005 9:03:22 AM
You have obviously never been hurt by a relationship like this. It's a really difficult position to be in, believe me.
 -Horrible/Brazen-
Joined: 9/17/2005
Msg: 139
Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 11/18/2005 9:03:51 AM
No, I'm afraid he just doesn't 'get' it.
 Synical
Joined: 8/16/2005
Msg: 140
Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 11/18/2005 9:04:16 AM

(my definition of monogamous, married and sexual with only one partner)


That doesn't mean its the accurate definition.

Granted, I'm new to this thread, I haven't read back yet .... but bisexuality has nothing whatsoever to do with monogomy. A person can be interested in both genders sexually and be completely commmitted to their relationship when they're in one. There's no difference in that than with a heterosexual. They still remain interested in the opposite sex, unless they take their commitment seriously.
 -Horrible/Brazen-
Joined: 9/17/2005
Msg: 141
Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 11/18/2005 9:05:10 AM
You know, I've been hurt more in straight relationships than bi-sexual ones, so who are you trying to kid? A cheater is a cheater regardless of their sexual orientation. Seriously, how hard is that for people to grasp?
 newleaf
Joined: 11/2/2005
Msg: 142
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Posted: 11/18/2005 9:06:12 AM
Well I don't want to make you vomit...and maybe it's a matter of not being up front about it before the relationship starts...but cheating is cheating. Somebody else in my bed with my man = cheating man.

I have been in a relationship like that before. It hurt. It had nothing to do with the person's sexual orientation, actually, but had to do with the person having sex with somebody other than his wife.
 newleaf
Joined: 11/2/2005
Msg: 143
Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 11/18/2005 9:08:32 AM
Oh I have to jump in here on top of your reply. I assumed a lot. I assumed that the OP meant a "practicing" bisexual. My apologies to anybody I offended.
 Robin Orca
Joined: 11/6/2005
Msg: 144
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Posted: 11/18/2005 9:09:05 AM
To add to this thread, I am a bisexual woman. I have been married once and in committed relationships and have not cheated. The fact that a person is bisexual doesn't make them more likely to cheat, in fact, I would guess it would be less. the reason being that they have already experimented in those areas. A person who has not, and is presented with the opportunity, who has any curiosity at all, could possibly be a bigger threat in that department. Make sense?
 ya472
Joined: 8/8/2005
Msg: 145
Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 11/18/2005 9:13:58 AM
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Sorry Questing, I don't get your point. ???

By the way, I never stated anything about homosexuality or hetrosexuality, just bi-sexuality.


The only issue I brought up, is that a monogamous relationship has no lieniency for bi-sexuality.


mono and bi cannot share the same byline. lol

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 -Horrible/Brazen-
Joined: 9/17/2005
Msg: 146
Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 11/18/2005 9:15:26 AM
@Blew

No problem. I think that's the whole problem with this thread, people think bi-sexuals actively practice that other facet of their sexual nature.

@Robin

Neat way to look at it. You definitely have a point there, I'm so open minded, not much phases me anymore. I've sowed my oats and the thought of straying even when I was younger was never an issue, just because I'm open about what I like now, sure doesn't mean I'm any less of a person.
 questing41
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Posted: 11/18/2005 9:23:32 AM
ya472>
Being bi-sexual has no conflict with being monogamous, in the same way being heterosexual has no conflict with being monogamous.

Your argument isn't based on sexuality at all (except in an ad hominem sense).

If I'm in a relationship with a girl, that girl being able to find other girls attractive is in no way materially different than her being able to find other guys than me attractive.

Thus, to avoid hypocrisy, you should be able to tell me that when you're in a relationship with a gal, that you find no one else the least bit interesting or attractive (be they anyone.. models, actresses, your first love). If that's true, I applaud you!

But if so, it still has nothing to do with sexuality, because you're attracted to that person, not their sex.


You're welcome to (futilely) dispute any of my premises though :)
 ya472
Joined: 8/8/2005
Msg: 148
Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 11/18/2005 9:24:43 AM
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I should get to work. LOL

For a hetrosexual person, there is the temptation of four billion people of the opposite sex.

For a bisexual person, everyone is a sexual temptation.


How scary! I will be happy with just one responsible partner.

And if that one person is bi-sexual, it will be important, AFTER our relationship ENDS.

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 Double Cabin
Joined: 11/29/2004
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Posted: 11/18/2005 9:29:22 AM
^^^That my friend is the right answer in my kenning. I'm afraid of other penises though, my last vestige of homophobia, so I'd have to say I might marry a bisexual that was born with and kept her vagina.
 ya472
Joined: 8/8/2005
Msg: 150
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Posted: 11/18/2005 9:35:52 AM
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We agree Questing


But if so, it still has nothing to do with sexuality, because you're attracted to that person, not their sex.


But you are just a little confused.

When you are truely attracted to a person, you forsake all others; sexually, spiritually and emotionally.

example: I love my mother, but am no way sexually attracted to her.

Bi-sexuality is just that, a sexual issue.

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