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 Dig Dirkler
Joined: 8/12/2008
Msg: 176
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I couldn't deal with it. I'd always be worried that I'd come home from work and she'd be licking the legs of the next door neighbor. lol
 Puma0622
Joined: 7/29/2008
Msg: 177
Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 9/16/2008 12:29:05 AM
I laugh when people immediately assume that bisexuals are more likely to cheat/"switch sides" as if it's something that can be put on and off like a jacket....
 retired67
Joined: 4/17/2007
Msg: 178
Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 9/16/2008 7:32:21 AM
No way in hell!!!!!!!
 lucky_sevans
Joined: 9/8/2008
Msg: 179
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Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 9/17/2008 12:24:36 PM

I laugh when people immediately assume that bisexuals are more likely to cheat/"switch sides" as if it's something that can be put on and off like a jacket....


I suppose it goes to the whole adage that people fear what they don't understand.

I can totally see that just a person's orientation doesn't make them automatically a nymph. I mean I like women, and if I am with a woman, I can get through my "unexplored relations" with other women... why would it be different?

But I stand by what I said earlier about long term. You wouldn't think it was a good idea if your husband stayed the night or went out drinking with another woman right? Now would it matter if said woman friend was confirmed lesbian? Me? I say "maybe"... In essence, in this context she would be no different than one of my husbands male friends.

Now I have a wife who's bisexual. I probably dont feel comfortable with any wife being in situations that could be potentially troublesome with the opposite sex... problem is, with her, everyone is the "opposite sex". I am not a jealous/possesive person by nature, and I wouldnt want my lovely wife to not "have a life" but I also wouldnt want to have that personal discomfort of that "potential" lurking around all-the-time, I mean we are talking LTR/marriage.

I cant figure out how to express this w/o infringing on "trust". I know what trust is. And I wouldnt say that a bi person is less trustworthy. What I am saying is that unless you really have an "open" relationship (I wouldnt/couldnt) you just wouldnt want to live a life where your partner was constantly in those situations as described above with your hypothetical husband.

/clear as mud huh?
 blairskimo
Joined: 7/22/2008
Msg: 180
Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 9/17/2008 1:02:58 PM
Well as you may already know bisexuality has become a "trend". So you get these pathetic wannabes running around screaming "look at me im bi" and ****ing everything in site. And this is where people get the idea that all bisexuals are whores, sluts, cheaters etc. buts its not true! I mean I know there are gonna be bi's that sleep around but straight and gay people do to. It all comes down to what kind of person you are not your sexuality


Absolutley true . I have met bi / gay men and women and the majority are decent and actually upstanding people who are geniune and honest .

BUT

If some one doesnt want to marry/date one cause they have an issue with their sexuality or fears or concerns ; beating the shit out of them with passive agressive emotional and verbal barrages like your "ignorant" , and stop being so stupid and blah blah blah is just as pathetic and vile as the people who are abusive towards those that are "different" from them.

Now I am not reffering to then one I am taking this quote from . I am not reffering to any one in particular . I am just saying that when it comes to this topic EVERY ONE deserves respect .
 TrinB
Joined: 4/27/2008
Msg: 181
Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 9/17/2008 2:47:34 PM
um..................................................................no
 Twohawks67
Joined: 4/26/2008
Msg: 182
Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 10/2/2008 6:46:32 AM
no because it crosses the boundries of being true to one cheating is cheating weather it with your own sex or the other
 Rustmouse2000
Joined: 5/24/2008
Msg: 183
Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 10/2/2008 10:57:21 PM
Generally speaking, yes...

It does kinda depend on the person, but it wouldn't be a concern that they're going to "cheat" per se. Going into the relationship knowing that your partner has partners of both sexes, you just have to come to an understanding of what is acceptable and what isn't.

For example; If I was dating a bisexual woman - one who had to have partners of both sexes, rather than one who is content with a single partner, regardless of their gender - It would be important to discuss what kind of relationship is acceptable - would your partner be allowed to have 2 separate relationships - one with you, one with a female?

I've dated bisexual women of both types. Having a relationship with one who wished to have a single partner, though it didn't matter what gender, was pretty much the same as dating a straight woman - we were dating and that was it, though she could appreciate the female form as much as I did, which was a bonus - she never got pissed if I was looking at other women - unless I didn't point them out to her.

Dating a woman who has to have a partner of both sexes is a bit tougher, and I learned that the relationship worked out best if all parties were involved in a relationship together - which makes it tougher to find someone compatible, but better for long-term stability in the relationship. When it was two separate relationships, inevitably problems arose with the other (third) partner, because she was completely monogamous and couldn't understand why the bisexual girl wasn't.

Bisexual guys tend to be a different story (though I've never dated guys) - they tend to be far less monogamous and more likely to have multiple partners - causing all sorts of problems with relationships. I wouldn't recommend marrying a bisexual man.
 The_Bachelor63
Joined: 1/13/2008
Msg: 184
Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 10/5/2008 10:36:18 AM
I am a one woman man,but
i would marry a bisexual woman,
if i fell in love with one, and as love as she only
had feelings for one individule that she really cared about
i could except that.
 SomeoneLoveYou
Joined: 9/3/2008
Msg: 185
Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 10/7/2008 1:12:01 AM
Genral speaking,
MAN would love to marry bi
Woman dont like to..

 Chocolatebrowne
Joined: 1/19/2006
Msg: 186
Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 10/9/2008 11:40:33 PM
No. Bisexual men tend to be "problemmatic". At least that is what I have heard from the gay men and straight women who have been involved with them....
 MzBigNSexy1
Joined: 6/12/2006
Msg: 187
Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 10/9/2008 11:43:21 PM
I am kind of a hypocrit , being a bisexual female , I would never marry a bisexual man nor would I marry I bisexual man . It'll have to be 100 percent straight man or 100 percent lesbian female . I want a long lasting relationship and I have been jolted one too many times by other bisexuals . Doesnt anyone beleive that monogomous also includes not having relations with a same sex partner!!!
 MzBigNSexy1
Joined: 6/12/2006
Msg: 188
Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 10/9/2008 11:47:53 PM
As a bisexual male I get really pissed off when I tell someone whom I am in a relationship with my orientation and they immediately get insecure, thinking I'm gonna cheat or that I have an STD. It's not like that at all! I'm simply attracted to both and could love either, I don't NEED both to be satisfied!
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AMEN!!! Preach on my friend! But you gotta see that a majority of males and females who ARE bisexual really do need the best of both worlds which gives the rest of the GOOD and TAMED bisexuals bad Name when all we are is open minded for love with one or the other . Not both. Its not like me are metrosexul . Now THAT is different...
 Dempcey
Joined: 8/5/2008
Msg: 189
Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 10/10/2008 2:33:28 AM
Well this is an easy one for me. Hells No!
Not date, not marry, not flirt, nada.
The whole idea of a umm male member having been in a male area just kinda kills the mood.
 ExplosiveSheep
Joined: 9/22/2007
Msg: 190
Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 10/10/2008 3:17:37 AM
Hey as long as it ain't turning into a "party trick" I still don't see what the problem is.

There's plenty of straight and gay people that cheat on whoever. Hell there's plenty of "good christians" that cheat, plenty of atheists that do the same, fat people, thin people, ugly people, pretty people, there's someone out there for everyone to screw around on their partner with.

I think if you're having trouble with the bi-sexual people you're dating, it's more likely the type of person you're attracted to, rather than their sexual orientation or lack there-of.
 Must Love Snakes
Joined: 8/26/2008
Msg: 191
Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 10/10/2008 5:08:46 AM
Whoa I'm sorry, I didn't realize I stepped back into 1950! Must have took a wrong turn at Ignorance Ln and Idiot Way..

I'm bi. I have never cheated on a partner or left a partner for a member of the opposite sex. A bi sexual is just as likely to cheat as a gay or straight partner. Just because there are more options, doesn't mean I crave sex from a female or male, depending on who I'm with.

Jeez people. Seriously?
 kranks71
Joined: 3/11/2008
Msg: 192
Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 10/10/2008 10:24:09 AM
"Can you say flipity flopity"
From personal experience, they just are not sure who they want to be "Bi Women that is"
and their is always confusion. Now in my ex I had two lipstick women, but the jealous factor
was so high on the other womens side it was like she was stalking every moment.
 Drobot
Joined: 5/3/2008
Msg: 193
Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 10/10/2008 10:45:48 AM
Not only would I, I did.

My wife and I have been married for almost 18 wonderful years. Neither one of us have cheated on the other and everything we do is with the other person's consent.
 tonyyarusso
Joined: 6/12/2007
Msg: 194
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Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 10/25/2008 11:46:38 PM
Sure. A past girlfriend of mine has actually since come out as bi (long after our relationship ended), and I don't see why it would affect a relationship with her. Obviously once in a relationship and when married you would expect fidelity, but that's no different from anyone else. The only difference is that there's twice the competition to get to that point! :P

It should be noted that it is somewhat common for someone to consider themselves bi as part of the process of concluding that they're actually gay (I think it's easier that way), so you'll want to take enough time to find out if that's the case or if they are actually bisexual and are going to remain that way. However, this should be pretty easy since if you wait a reasonable amount of time before taking the step into marriage this will take care of itself.

Also, a large number of posts in this thread make me very, very sad and angry. Grow up and learn about the world around you. That's all.
 spicynicegirl
Joined: 8/10/2008
Msg: 195
Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 10/26/2008 8:10:45 AM
No. I just don't feel like I could ever completely trust where they were. Isn't it hard enough being with one type of person? LOL
 JulieC29
Joined: 6/16/2008
Msg: 196
Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 10/26/2008 10:11:41 AM
Would I marry a bisexual man? NO! Not only would you have to worry about women he was looking at or looking at him, but I'd have to worry about men, too.

There are also seem to be a number of these people who go one way or the other for awhile, too, and I'd hate to get stuck in the middle with someone who wanted to pull a 180.
 Rob7899
Joined: 10/12/2008
Msg: 197
Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 10/26/2008 10:15:17 AM
Ya thats a tough one, the primal man in me screams of course I would lol but my more civilized frontal lobe knows there would likely be issues...
 xtina-novelista
Joined: 6/5/2009
Msg: 198
Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 6/11/2009 8:17:53 PM
I don't think its fair to say that just becuase you marry someone bisexual that they might stray to the sex thier not with.

Bisexuality is not about getting away with ****ing both sexes, it means that you have the possibility of having a relationship like any straight/gay couple with either sex.

I would expect fidelity either way.

I am bisexual and I would not use that as an excuse to be unfaithful. I don't need both to make me happy. It doesn't matter if u are male or female, its about the feelings the other person creates, and i would not destroy a great relationship just to indulge in phyisical contant with the sex i decided not to be with.

I my opinion its the same as any other couple. Cheating is cheating, and faithfulness is faithfulness.
 Level_42
Joined: 3/18/2009
Msg: 199
Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 6/11/2009 9:20:24 PM
No way......if a woman wants to go down on another woman, insert fake penises or fingers into each others twats , french kiss, or in any way act like they are in love and wanting to have each other sexually......NOT MY TYPE OF WOMAN.

However, it doesn't bother me in the least if a woman has a female snuggle buddy on the side..just so long as the romance sexual part is for me.....and the snuggle part as well....I can't have the sex without the affection. But I'd never begrude a woman who needs a little affection from another woman...so long as she was a bit discrete about it and never loses the affection for me.
 mthomjmark
Joined: 2/27/2008
Msg: 200
Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 6/11/2009 10:52:09 PM
OP; not in a million years; so many people cheat and they are just into one sex; can you imagine marrying a girl and her not being able to be with a woman when she wants too? no way/

not in a million years.
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