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 heartuvgold2
Joined: 3/20/2008
Msg: 176
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In my religious upbringing it's not a good idea to marry someone who
practices anything outside of the "norm". I have dated bisexual men
and they are very forgiving and don't expect any more from their partner
than they do from themselves. It would pretty much be anything goes for
me as well as for him and that wouldn't be what I believe marriage is all about.

I take marriage vows very seriously and the part about keeping yourself only
for them would have to be thrown out altogether. Both parties would have to
be willing to accept other people and it would be way too complicated.

Marriage is supposed to be two people, not a whole neighborhood.
So the answer is absolutely not.
 Spitfire1956
Joined: 3/9/2008
Msg: 177
Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 4/9/2008 4:29:37 PM
No..I sure wouldn't.
 chickalina
Joined: 12/5/2007
Msg: 178
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Posted: 4/9/2008 4:38:09 PM
For one thing you cannot make a person become gay or straight. They are what they are and no one is going to change them. You must have some interest in finding out if you asked the question. If you are straight and thinking of being with a woman don't worry she is not ghoing to change you. It is just probably something you have been thinking about hence the question. No I personally would not because I would wonder if I was the front guy and who was the back guy.
 INDYDUDE
Joined: 10/23/2007
Msg: 179
Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 4/9/2008 4:42:45 PM
No, three's a crowd.
 WiredFX
Joined: 3/28/2008
Msg: 180
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Posted: 4/9/2008 5:05:44 PM
Yes I did, and I would do it again. When we first started dating, she told me about it. I was fine with it. We got engaged, then married, at that time she told me that I am the only one for her and had been since we started dating. She hasn't been with a female since we got together, that I know about.. Now she has come home from work with wet panties and telling me all about this hot girl that was there and hit on her. I'd tell her to go for it and have fun, the only thing I ask is to know when I should or shouldn't come home for a while. She always has a shocked look on her face when I tell her that. Hours later she will tell me that she was testing me. One day she was crying when I got home and she told me that she had girl over and they did their thing, and was worried that I would get mad because she didn't tell me. Hell, I started asking for details, what was she like, seeing her again, was I going to meet her, and stuff like that. I received another shock look, she said that I wasn't fun to torment anymore. She was testing me again. It has been years since she tried again.

I will admit though, she is the best in bed I have ever had.
 music_fan
Joined: 4/6/2008
Msg: 181
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Posted: 9/14/2008 9:00:13 PM
Tough question to answer but I'll try my best.

I would marry a bi girl if we both love each other and if she can be monogamous, I don't like sharing my girl, when I'm married, she should be with me only, no girls (other than friends).
 indehills
Joined: 2/23/2008
Msg: 182
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Posted: 9/14/2008 9:08:05 PM
but who afterwards chooses to be straight....

But here the question is about someone who still bi...What do you think?

Well, first of all, I would think that any gay or bi person would tell you that being gay, bi, or straight is not a conscious choice. People don't just decide to become a certain sexual orientation - they just decide whether or not to accept the feelings that they've always had. The question is whether or not they will ever decide to act upon those feelings if they are in a committed relationship with you.

I would be too afraid that they WOULD act upon those feelings someday.

And its funny to hear the guys in here saying "yeah, I'd love it", or the one saying "I asked her all the details". It wouldn't be so funny if one day the two of you are married and the other woman is the ONLY one who's getting sex from your wife.

Also, remember that cheating is cheating. A bi partner can cheat with and leave you for someone of the same sex, the same as a straight partner can cheat with and leave you for someone of the opposite sex.
 lucky_sevans
Joined: 9/8/2008
Msg: 183
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Posted: 9/14/2008 9:33:01 PM
So here's the thing...

I have historically always had more women than men friends. When I get into a relationship with a woman this can sometimes cause trouble. One of the first things I do is introduce them: because I have great appreciation for woman's intuition and I want my potential to see[feel] for themselves that they are truly friends and non-threatening. Usually I will back-off my friendships a little... I dont give them up, but I dont stay all night and sleep on their couch anymore either... and I guess I back-off a little emotionally as well. I suppose this isnt so much intentional but just occurs naturally as the emotional and time bond increases with the SO.

So I don't have any problem with my SO having a boyfriend(s). On the other hand, I'm not sure if I would be ok with her staying the night over at his house after going out for drinks. But if it were after a night out with the girls - "yeah, don't drive home" . Now what if she's bi? I know that doesn't mean her friend is bi, etc... I'm just sayin' that a LTR/Marriage could have lots of complications or potential rough-spots.

Personally I would be leery.

/ thinks its a good idea though!
 quietjohn2
Joined: 12/6/2004
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Posted: 9/14/2008 10:02:52 PM
Is there an assumption in the question and many responses in the thread that a bi person would be less likely to be monogamous than a heterosexual?

Is that sexist?

Would you marry a heterosexual partner who would date other people?

Can anyone explain why the answer should be different for a bi person? Am I missing something?

Just a naive heterosexual.
 shamrockguy
Joined: 1/8/2008
Msg: 185
Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 9/14/2008 10:20:33 PM
Yeah, right, instead of worrying that HALF the world wants to steal my girlfriend I can start worrying that the WHOLE world wants to steal her........I think I would have to say no.
 WisewomanGoddess
Joined: 8/19/2008
Msg: 186
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Posted: 9/15/2008 8:52:34 AM
Date? No. Marry? Hell, no.
 carolann0308
Joined: 12/9/2006
Msg: 187
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Posted: 9/15/2008 9:05:12 AM
No, I would not date or marry a Bi-sexual. It would be like dating a vegetarian far too many fundamental differences.
Are all bi-sexuals considered meat eaters?
 TakeMeTheWayIAm
Joined: 7/19/2008
Msg: 188
Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 9/15/2008 10:07:43 AM
If things work out for me and my girlfriend, yes I'll end up marrying her and she's bi. You don't choose to be a particular sexual preference--your only choice is in the individual actions themselves whether to *do* something or not.

I don't fear that my gf will be attracted to some girl, I'm counting on it. And she and I will talk about her attraction, what turns her on about that other girl and then we'll fuck like rabbits afterwards. It's the best of both worlds: she's like a guy friend, comparing notes on the kinds of breasts we both like and yet she's my lover as well. As long as you're not insecure it's a perfect arrangement.
 lucky_sevans
Joined: 9/8/2008
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Posted: 9/15/2008 11:44:01 PM

Are all bi-sexuals considered meat eaters?


Made me laugh!

/made me think too.
 BrianN23
Joined: 9/10/2008
Msg: 190
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Posted: 9/15/2008 11:53:42 PM
This isnt a topic Im gonna be kind about. I dont believe in alternative orientation and I wouldnt go near anyone in that lifestyle. People can do what they want I suppose but theres no way of denying the problems associated with it. Im really bothered by how some men can figure they can swing both ways, i.e. be lovey lovey with a man and then go find a woman next week. My reason being things like the hiv virus. Its a fact that in canada the gay community carries more than 50% of it. Before anyone gets all righteous on me look it up. God intended a man and woman to be together, nothing else.
 becky1205
Joined: 5/12/2008
Msg: 191
Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 9/15/2008 11:59:11 PM
As a bi-sexual woman, everyone's post is making me think that marriage is out of the question for me.
I call myself bi-sexual due to the fact that I have been involved with a few women. In fact all my relationships have been with women. Is that what I want out of life, no.
It was after those relationships and dating a few men, that I have relized that I want a man. I want a husband. So for those out there that have posted they wouldn't marry a bisexual person, are you that insecure that they will leave you?
As for would I marry a bisexual man, yes. I think that sexuality is a healthy part of a relationship and if that was part of their past, great. If there are unexplored feelings, I would ask that my partner explores those feelings before marriage or even engagement. If they are ongoing feelings, I would have to second guess marriage, I know that when I get married, it will just be my partner and I.
 Dig Dirkler
Joined: 8/12/2008
Msg: 192
Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 9/16/2008 12:00:06 AM
I couldn't deal with it. I'd always be worried that I'd come home from work and she'd be licking the legs of the next door neighbor. lol
 Damon0028
Joined: 7/8/2008
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Posted: 9/16/2008 12:01:59 AM
Amen, Brian... For the record, I just can't see what one man can find to love about another one's hairy @ss!

I have a couple who are my best friends in the world, and she is bi, with a predilection toward women. Joe is fine with it, but the difference between he and I is that he can't always get it up(she told me) and I'm always ready to go, like, NOW!

I dated a bi chick for a couple of years, without realizing how big a deal, or how troublesome it could be. Her lover, Betty, looked like Broom-Hilda, and acted like a possessive man. She recently told me that it took a year and a half to get rid of her, lol... They were together for about 8 years. That was enough for me- I felt like I was being cheated on. So, the answer here is unequivocally NO! No way in hell I'd date or marry one, given that I have first-hand experience with the bullshit and knowledge of the associated emotional risks.

While we were in the drawn out process of splitting up, I would get showered and dressed to go give her what she still wanted from me, and my buddies would ask them where I was going... I would reply, "I'm going to refill Betty's feeder."

-damoN-
 Puma0622
Joined: 7/29/2008
Msg: 194
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Posted: 9/16/2008 12:29:05 AM
I laugh when people immediately assume that bisexuals are more likely to cheat/"switch sides" as if it's something that can be put on and off like a jacket....
 geocacher69
Joined: 9/3/2008
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Posted: 9/16/2008 7:27:10 AM
As a bisexual male I get really pissed off when I tell someone whom I am in a relationship with my orientation and they immediately get insecure, thinking I'm gonna cheat or that I have an STD. It's not like that at all! I'm simply attracted to both and could love either, I don't NEED both to be satisfied!
 retired67
Joined: 4/17/2007
Msg: 196
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Posted: 9/16/2008 7:32:21 AM
No way in hell!!!!!!!
 Artistee
Joined: 7/24/2006
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Posted: 9/17/2008 9:10:13 AM
I suppose it might work with some...but I couldn't do it...I couldn't take her seriously, and would look at it as a possible potential for threesome fun...

I don't mean to sound like a prick, but that's how I'd see it...just not marriage material...

...And if I were a woman, that's about how I'd feel about marrying a bi-man as well...I probably would paint an even more disgusting picture!

...Sorry!
 lucky_sevans
Joined: 9/8/2008
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Posted: 9/17/2008 12:24:36 PM

I laugh when people immediately assume that bisexuals are more likely to cheat/"switch sides" as if it's something that can be put on and off like a jacket....


I suppose it goes to the whole adage that people fear what they don't understand.

I can totally see that just a person's orientation doesn't make them automatically a nymph. I mean I like women, and if I am with a woman, I can get through my "unexplored relations" with other women... why would it be different?

But I stand by what I said earlier about long term. You wouldn't think it was a good idea if your husband stayed the night or went out drinking with another woman right? Now would it matter if said woman friend was confirmed lesbian? Me? I say "maybe"... In essence, in this context she would be no different than one of my husbands male friends.

Now I have a wife who's bisexual. I probably dont feel comfortable with any wife being in situations that could be potentially troublesome with the opposite sex... problem is, with her, everyone is the "opposite sex". I am not a jealous/possesive person by nature, and I wouldnt want my lovely wife to not "have a life" but I also wouldnt want to have that personal discomfort of that "potential" lurking around all-the-time, I mean we are talking LTR/marriage.

I cant figure out how to express this w/o infringing on "trust". I know what trust is. And I wouldnt say that a bi person is less trustworthy. What I am saying is that unless you really have an "open" relationship (I wouldnt/couldnt) you just wouldnt want to live a life where your partner was constantly in those situations as described above with your hypothetical husband.

/clear as mud huh?
 NOLA Chick
Joined: 8/26/2008
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Posted: 9/17/2008 12:44:45 PM
I was married to a bi-sexual man for 13 years. It wasn't his bi-sexuality that bothered me. It was him using it as an excuse for why he "had to" cheat, repeatedly. Oddly enough, he cheated with more women than men.

I don't think sexual preference has anything to do with fidelity. If a man is gonna cheat, he's gonna cheat. If he's bi-sexual, that just means there's more of a variety, but he has to be inclined to be unfaithful in the first place, regardless of the temptation.
 GothamGal
Joined: 7/31/2008
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Posted: 9/17/2008 12:52:03 PM
Hell no!

For me marriage means fidelity. If one's husband you KNOW want to bed men, there's no way one can count on his being faithful to you or any other woman.

In this day and age male homosexuality carries the AIDS risk with it, too -- a "present" no one should have their spouse bring home. It's an STD one cannot recover from.

Since I am not both male and female, but female only, there is no way I could keep a bisexual spouse pleased without a transgender series of operations.

A husband who wants guys? My ego just could not handle it. I wouldn't marry him in the first place. Nor date such a guy, either.
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