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 Red Fish GF
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Yes, but namrael, that's how you feel about it. What I object to is the insinuation that there's something wrong with people who don't like it.

That's my main point here. If someone in particular said 'it's very important to me' that's different from implying that bjs are part of a healthy sexual life (as in, for everyone). And telling -or just thinking- a partner that there's something wrong with them for not liking it.



Exactly!

I was told on one of these threads that I need therapy because I don't like it. There are men who can deal with not getting oral sex. Most of them are not posting here though, lol. Some men do not have getting BJ's at the top of their list when looking for a relationship.
 verygreeneyez
Joined: 3/15/2006
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Posted: 11/1/2010 10:46:18 PM


Yes, but namrael, that's how you feel about it. What I object to is the insinuation that there's something wrong with people who don't like it.


That's my main point here. If someone in particular said 'it's very important to me' that's different from implying that bjs are part of a healthy sexual life (as in, for everyone). And telling -or just thinking- a partner that there's something wrong with them for not liking it.



Exactly!

I was told on one of these threads that I need therapy because I don't like it. There are men who can deal with not getting oral sex. Most of them are not posting here though, lol. Some men do not have getting BJ's at the top of their list when looking for a relationship.

 Just_Jay79
Joined: 10/11/2005
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Posted: 11/2/2010 6:20:35 AM
I can deal with not getting them frequently, or even for very long for that matter (quick warm-up foreplay), provided that she's on the pill and we trust each other enough to have bare sex. The sensation of sex without a condom MORE than makes up for the lack of similar sensation during a BJ in my opnion, and bare-back sex normally trumps BJ's because you usually ALWAYS get to finish inside, maximizing the sensation whereas she may pull away at the last minute during a BJ.


However I still like getting BJ's, and I LOVE going down on my lady. If she feels cunnilingus is "icky" and doesn't want it, fine, I'll let my fingers do the walking. If she doesn't even want THAT, then I might get concerned, unless she's so naturally riled up that straightforward sex gets her off fiercely and frequently.


Lastly if a woman I'm dating doesn't want to receive and consequently never GIVES, then I may be out the door because I still LIKE to receive, even if it's only once in a blue moon. An eternal monogamy together without BJ's feels like... well.. an eternity.

"Just because she chooses to be a vegetarian doesn't make me one by default."
 Consigliori
Joined: 1/7/2008
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Posted: 11/2/2010 2:32:38 PM

Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?


I have also been known to survive without liquor, chocolate, ice cream and blackened redfish for short periods. Just don't ask me to be happy about it.
 kaiser1one
Joined: 2/20/2009
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Posted: 11/2/2010 4:19:35 PM
I can deal. But I got a problem when a woman won't do it for some unnamed reason while I go down on her all the time. A little reciprocation never killed anyone.
 bilby886
Joined: 7/19/2007
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Posted: 11/4/2010 8:03:15 AM
Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?


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 abelian
Joined: 1/12/2008
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Posted: 11/4/2010 9:04:43 AM
Not only can I not deal with not getting blowjobs, I wouldn't deal with a woman who doesn't actually like to give them. There's nothing at all appealing about any sort of sexual act that my partner would only tolerate for my benefit. Since women there are an abundance of women who fall into the ``enjoy it'' category, I didn't see any reason to compromise.
 kayliecat
Joined: 12/8/2007
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Posted: 11/4/2010 7:34:07 PM
Well, funnily enough (if you know me well), my ex husband did not enjoy bjs or any oral performed on him, but he loved performing oral on me...

And I said funny because at the time, I greatly disliked oral on me and I did (and still do) enjoy performing oral on males.

Gee no wonder we were such a mismatch! LOL Anyway, yes, guys definitely exist who aren't into bjs!
 bilby886
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Posted: 11/5/2010 8:28:19 PM
In Papua New Ginea the cannibals don't do "69" or "68"
Its more of a "181"



My "precious" likes women to kiss it ...precious ahhh precious ..precious lets go f@#$ some sexy hobbitses......we can play with their hairy feet ...heeeeh
 1eastshore
Joined: 11/3/2010
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Posted: 11/6/2010 5:40:06 PM
Fortunately this would never a problem for me. Since I love giving BJs.
 whytwater
Joined: 8/7/2008
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Posted: 11/7/2010 6:42:35 AM
^^^^^^ Had a lover who felt just like that once. Blonde, too. Sigh
 poker_fan_in_nyc
Joined: 4/6/2007
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Posted: 11/7/2010 7:03:23 AM
I can't read all these pages...sure my comment has been said before:

A man should NOT accept this...it is a deal breaker...and the same for me...I MUST be with a man who enjoys all things about ORAL as much as I do...

If I fell in love with a man who did not like to give I could not be with a partner like that
 Justdonald
Joined: 2/15/2010
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Posted: 11/7/2010 4:07:28 PM
My best sexual and overall relationships have been with women who did not. There were many other ways to exhibit their talents in many places.
 mrcs84
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Posted: 11/7/2010 9:40:01 PM
Are there men that can cope with not getting head? Yes

Are they amongst the majority? Probably not

Am I one of them? No
 Justdonald
Joined: 2/15/2010
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Posted: 11/9/2010 7:54:59 AM
Don't get discouraged or think that these peope are typical. A lot of people have perfectly good, great, hot and exciting sex lives without having to perform the way a lot of these people feel is necessary. Usually it is because they are small, need help or not as skilled as others. People who engage in these actvities often insist that they are "normal" and that EVERYONE does it and if you don't you are immature or weird or a freak.

People who like and need that, fine, but OP: Don't do anything that you don't want to. There are people who will love you and"enjoy" you as you are. If not, you will just be resentful and faking.
 eastwood969
Joined: 12/21/2009
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Posted: 11/9/2010 9:14:37 AM
Since I have already had plenty of them I guess it doesn't matter,but its really unfortunate that the only thing I do desire in a woman is that she look like a model and likes to face sit but the ones I like are all escorts and that draws in the police. When are the laws going to change in this country so we can truly be free.
 PrinceCharmingsCousin
Joined: 9/1/2009
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Posted: 11/12/2010 4:57:10 AM
CAN we: sure.
Do we HAVE to: NO.

like the saying goes show me a hot girl and i'll show you a guy who's tired of banging her. Fact is if one person wants or is used to X in their sex life, and its important to them and it doesnt involve another partner, or animals or kids or feces....you have your right to NOT want to do it if you so chose...but they also have the right to kick you to the curb and find someone who is more compatible with them.

Ladies would you really want to be with a guy who loves getting BJ's but you won't give them...dont you think he's gonna eventually WANT ONE...and go get it elsewhere??

This is similar to when women don't get romance (what they consider to be) in their relationships...why should they stay?
 Arlo_Troutman
Joined: 9/26/2009
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Posted: 11/13/2010 8:43:22 AM
(justdonald) Usually it is because they are small, need help or not as skilled as others.


I assume you're attempting to disparage those who say they "need" fellatio to have a happy relationship; given the tone of your post, I think that's a valid assumption.

Maybe they just like having a sex life that includes fellatio, and his little cousin, cunnilingus? It almost certainly does not have anything to do with being "small", "need(ing) help", or being "not as skilled as others."

Why are people so quick to spew insults? Stop the hate, people!




(PCC) This is similar to when women don't get romance (what they consider to be) in their relationships...why should they stay?


(heaving a deep sigh here...) Because, women are allowed to have their preferences, while men should just shut up. Didn't you get the memo?

Dr. ES...
 good_catch77
Joined: 3/28/2007
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Posted: 11/13/2010 9:16:53 PM
I'm not going to read all 56 pages and I'm sure the OP is long gone. But I feel like responding to this. Been thinking about my answer for a couple of days.

Could I deal with NOT getting BJ's? Sure I guess I could.

Would I want to? Um no

Do I expect a BJ? No not really, unless she expects me to go down on her. It's not good to give but not receive. Never been much on double standards or "its alright for me but not you" situations.

Sex is a very important part of any relationship I'm in. Without it I get uninterested and start looking for someone else. I would never cheat. But if I found a potential new partner I would break it off faster if the sex life had gone away...unless it was a medical reason.
 RushLuv
Joined: 4/16/2009
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Posted: 11/13/2010 9:41:00 PM
This is like asking men if they could do without sex. Both answers are no.
 MsMicki
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Posted: 11/14/2010 6:58:23 AM

A lot of people have perfectly good, great, hot and exciting sex lives without having to perform the way a lot of these people feel is necessary. Usually it is because they are small, need help or not as skilled as others


Translation.........I don't eat pu$$y!
My penis is the golden shaft of God and that is all you should need to be satisfied.
 Secondhand_Lion
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Posted: 11/14/2010 9:41:28 PM
^^^^You can solve that problem by cutting down on the refried beans...................
 OpenItAndIFillIt
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Posted: 11/15/2010 7:19:11 AM
Receiving oral sex is very important to men, normally. There are plenty of men who do not like the experience, however.

But, I would recommend you work with a sex therapist to overcome your aversion. Sex is a gift from God. Limiting yourself sexually limits your ability to feel pleasure from it.

Also, if you love getting oral pleasure and do not reciprocate, it will cause a rift in your relationship. Reciprocity and being down there as long as he is down on you is expected.

I have had women who loved getting pleased but only did enough oral to get me hard. I can tell you that it is not fun to get a little head then have a vag presented to me.

I mean think about it. What you are doing is working. Why the hell are you stopping? Other holes are going to be taken care of, so don't stop. However, if you stop, and do so frequently, you are telling me that a relationship with you is going to be filled with disappointment and failed expectations.
 Consigliori
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Posted: 11/15/2010 9:25:13 AM
Blowjobs suck.
 kayliecat
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Posted: 11/15/2010 12:28:16 PM
I'd much rather receive oral from a guy 1/3 of the time and give him oral every time...

It's not about reciprocity at all.

It's about giving and receiving pleasure the way you and your partner like it. My partner LOVES BJs and I love giving them so it's a big part of our sex play. I like oral on me much less. I enjoy it as a treat at the most not a staple, so he gives it more that way. But he knows I love to ride him and slide in close to him to get him in deep so we do that a lot. I know he loves the up and down movement, really shallow, so I do it as much as I can as well (which isn't a lot b/c my leg muscles give out fast).

Some men don't care for bjs... quite frankly those guys are not a good match for me. But those guys are good matches for chicks who don't like bjs either.

Compromise is important, being open to trying new things is important too. BUT at the same time, if it's a "must have" or "must not have" then more important is finding someone who feels the same way you do.

I'm having the best sex of my life with my guy and it's because we are a really good fit sexually, AND we both try new things and give small compromises when needed... And we both feel really comfortable talking about our needs, likes, dislikes, etc. and are respectful of them.

There is someone for everyone out there... BJ dislikers are both male and female, and BJ lovers both male and female... ANd then a lot of people don't care either way and can compromise (aka do it sometimes but not all the time, or don't swallow, etc)
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