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 ~JustSimplyMe~
Joined: 8/18/2006
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I need some suggestions.
My 2 kids are in daycare 3 days a week. They have been in the same daycare for the last 2.5 years, and I really don't want to move them. The daycare takes them to and from school everyday and I am a firm believer in not switching schools...I don't think its fair to the kids.
But, my problem is they put my 5yr old daughter down for a nap every afternoon she is there. Nap time at daycare is from 12:15-2:15.
Every night she is up until 11pm. She rarely naps when she is home with me, and the days she isn't in daycare she is in bed by 8pm.

Any suggestions (other than switching day care provider) for getting them to cut out her naps? If I tell them that she stays up later after being there...they smile and tell me to put her to bed earlier.
How can I get her to stop napping there when she has to lay on a mat, in the near darkness and listen to soothing weird music for 2hrs every afternoon she is there?

She's in kindergarten...she shouldn't be napping!
I'm at my wits end!
 carolann0308
Joined: 12/9/2006
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Posted: 10/3/2008 10:24:33 AM
Write note to the director saying no more naps. My kids did not nap regularly after 4 years of age. If they do not comply then it does not look like you have a real choice here.
 ~JustSimplyMe~
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Posted: 10/3/2008 10:36:26 AM

Why is it that people always wish to impose their rules or beliefs?

What are you getting at?
 Seafarer227
Joined: 11/8/2007
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Posted: 10/3/2008 1:08:23 PM

It's really important for kids to stay on a schedule and if your daycare interrupts that schedule, IMO, you should let them know about it. If they aren't willing to change to accommodate it, then you might have to move the kids somewhere that will.
Precisely and it would benefit you and your children to get into the mindset "I'm paying them to provide a service" instead of allowing them to dictate what's best for your child.
 NotInnocent
Joined: 9/7/2007
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Posted: 10/4/2008 7:35:05 AM
Put her to bed at 8 and have her stay there. you make the rules.. You are the mom. Escort her to bed and make sure she stays there..

or tell your daycare that she doen't need a nap..
 sweetkisses1970
Joined: 8/12/2007
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Posted: 10/4/2008 8:40:20 AM
One thing kindergarten is not day care-- most kindergarten are in schools. Children need rest. I work in a preschool center not a day care. We have a full day option that runs 7:30am till 5:30pm and yes some children are there 10 hours per day 5 days per week. Weird music most likely classical or lullabys-- They do not have to sleep but they do need to stay on their cots and rest. If you allow 1 to get up several will follow and most of the children need their naps they get fussy and downright prissy when they don't sleep.
It's not down time for the teachers they most likely do lesson plans, cleaning , get work together 4 the afternoon or the next day.

To avoid noise oh please noise is in school when children are present nap time or not.

If you don't like the nap schedule which you have known about since they have been their 2 1/2 years at this point, change from a center based to a school, she will have to go to 1st grade get her and you used to the public school system unless you want to go private.

The full day kindergarten in my district does not nap they go to gym for 1 hour and continue with work. Its up to the teacher and the group of children she has

good luck
 sweetkisses1970
Joined: 8/12/2007
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Posted: 10/4/2008 9:54:16 AM
Why is it that...... children that can nap look at it as torture and adults that cant take nap thinks its torture to stay awake : )
 ~JustSimplyMe~
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Posted: 10/7/2008 11:48:16 AM
So, I had a long talk today with the daycare provider about her schedule and how messed up it is the 3 days a week she is there. I used yesterday and today as a prime example. She was awake (in bed) until 11pm, and I had to wake her up at 7:30. She was upset because she was sooo tired.
I explained to our DP that she like all children needs a better schedule, and though I understand they may not have enough staff to watch her in a separate room, if they could even try to just remind her not to lay down, and give her a puzzle to play with.
The DP finally understood where I was coming from, and was upset that I even thought of threatening to move the kids. They love my kids, and would hate to see them go.
So here's to hoping that I finally got through to them.
Thanks for everyone's input!
 Alittlebratty
Joined: 7/3/2006
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Posted: 10/7/2008 9:50:19 PM
Advise the director that at nap time you want your daughter to go into the older rooms so that she stays awake and when nap time is over she can go back to her regular room.
 ~JustSimplyMe~
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Posted: 10/8/2008 9:31:11 AM

The daycare you currently send your kid too probably has younger children as well(1-4) and these kids do nap

They have kids from 3-9 actually. She is one of 4 who go to kindergarten. Previous years, there has been an afternoon kindergarten class, which got the older kids out during nap time. This is the first time in 10years daycare has not had the option of an afternoon kindergarten class. Our bad luck it seems. Thankfully, we seem to have worked it out to limit her naps at daycare.
 ~JustSimplyMe~
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Posted: 10/8/2008 2:59:57 PM

Maybe if she was not staying up so late at night she wouldn't be tired and sleeping at nap time


She goes to bed at 8PM every night except Mondays, Thursdays and Fridays (the same days she goes to daycare), those nights she is in bed, but not asleep until after 11pm.
Every morning she is awake by 7. She rarely sleeps on her daycare off days.


You can't force a child to sleep.


So, what would you suggest I do? If I can't force her to sleep...how do I make her go back to bed 5.5hrs after she wakes up from a 2hr nap!?
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
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Posted: 10/8/2008 4:26:08 PM
My 7 yo came home from grade 1 last year and would nap. Every child is different and has different needs. Most kids do not get the required amount of sleep they need. It freaks people out when I tell them my 11 yo is in bed at 8 pm. We are up about 630 to get ready for school, and his ped wants him to have 10-11 hrs of sleep. I'm lucky if I get 8 out of him.

Instruct the daycare that you do not want her napping, that you'd like it if she could have quiet time, perhaps in another room away from the music and darkness so that she could read or color quietly... that's what I had to do with my oldest when he was about that age. He'd still nap and then be up at 11 pm. Or if they insist on her napping, ask that it be limited to no more then 40-45 min. Then move her for quiet activities elsewhere.

The daycare mine were in, the SK (senior kindergarten, 5 yo) kids sill had quiet time. She would put them on their mats and sit and read to them daily. Some of the kids would sleep (my youngest included!!) and some would just listen quietly. The trick is to wear them out afterwards!!! And thankfully the daycare took care of most of that for me!
 Rustmouse2000
Joined: 5/24/2008
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Posted: 11/10/2008 10:07:57 PM
In all honesty - the napping for kindergarteners is still normal and acceptable. Your youngun, however, obviously doesn't need that nap, and it tends to create a problem for you.

You have a couple of options here - If you really don't want to change daycare and they won't work with you and allow your kid to stay up, you can still put your child to bed at a regular time. Give her some quiet activities to choose from - reading or some toy (like a stuffed animal or favorite doll) that will allow her to occupy herself if she can't sleep, but nothing that will encourage her to stay awake.

As long as your child doesn't seem to be suffering from staying up late, well, there's little harm in it.

As for the daycare provider, they really should be working with you. Just like the teachers at school, for everything to really work out, they need to be part of a child-raising team, which includes the parent. If they're inflexible, or unwilling to work with you (or simply won't provide a good explanation why they feel that their way is best) then you should consider finding another option... Every child is unique, and though the rules will always vary between home, grandma's house, school, the store and daycare, the parent's authority should still be respected, and if at all possible, every effort needs to be made as to not undermine that authority.
 techgirl27
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Posted: 11/30/2008 6:14:11 PM
If she's in Kindergarten, why is she not at school all day?

All the daycares I have used don't make the school agers take naps. They do make naptime for the preschoolers but can't FORCE them to sleep of course.
 packagedealx3
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Posted: 12/4/2008 11:04:36 AM
There should be some place where your daughter can sit quietly looking at books or playing with toys. If they think it will be a problem getting others down, she can lay down for a few minutes until the others conk out and quietly leave the room. If they are not willing to work with you, you need to consider whether her staying up late is affecting her school. If she is getting enough rest between the two and doing well in school you are essentially stressing for nothing. If you need the downtime at night, tell her she can stay up if she plays quietly so that you can have some time by yourself before you go to bed.
 ~JustSimplyMe~
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Posted: 1/25/2009 11:51:36 PM

8:00 pm is little early for an child my son is two yrs old he wears himself out by playing all night and he ends up falling asleep, around 11pm and he sleeps until sometimes 10:00AM maybe 9:30am


The whole point is that she doesn't have that luxury. Thankfully daycare has been co-operating and she doesn't nap nearly as often.
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