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Joined: 9/25/2008
Msg: 41
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Awesome post dude! Of course I like to think of myself as old fashioned when it comes to mannerisms so maybe I'm biased.

Now, if only a woman would write a similar post about women can treat men without some of the ugly cattiness... actually I think it works both ways in just about the same manner, there are just tweaks. I mean if a bunch of women called me pretty, I wouldn't mind but... I'm not gonna wear a dress for it. Besides, they're called kilts! :p

Joined: 7/27/2008
Msg: 43
How to treat a lady
Posted: 10/5/2008 4:52:33 PM
Op, was raised by my parents like you were your grandparents, it is true, Chivalry isn't just for someone you look in hopes of something, it is a way of life which I strive for. I was raised different from a lot of people I know. I was raised on Classic music like sinatra and some rock n roll, I was raised to respect women and men EQUALLY and as individuals. I listen and although I don't have a ton of lady friends, the ones I have really enjoy my company.

Chivalry ain't dead, it is just underpracticed.
Joined: 7/27/2008
Msg: 44
How to treat a lady
Posted: 10/5/2008 5:13:13 PM
Desert Wildflower, you need to get laid, not by me, but you seem to have a lot of pent up anger against men, I do chivalrous things for the sake of it, not to get in their pants, that is childish, and i amshocked at all the generalizing statements you make about men, god, its pathetic. am i better than women? no are they better than me? no. Why do you think all men are only after some **** or a blow job? bad experiances with men? oh well, and I know my spelling ain't perfect, or great, ya know why, cause i don't Fu cking care. Go get laid already, relieve that frustration out on a midget or something, maybe a flower
Joined: 2/27/2008
Msg: 47
How to treat a lady
Posted: 10/5/2008 10:04:53 PM

Most women really appreciate those small touches..more so than cheesy lines, insincere compliments or expensive dinners
Ofcourse there are still those who are offended by that behaviour and look at it like the man is being chauvanistic...but in my book, I think it's a beautiful, old fashioned and charming way of behaving ;)

I respectfully disagree; most women under 30 are as bad as men; they are into looks mostly; then money. And some put money first. Not all of course but many.
Joined: 3/1/2008
Msg: 48
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Posted: 10/5/2008 11:25:28 PM
I can't believe that this combo "contact broadcasting" and "nice guy" thread didn't get deleted

Maybe the OP has an "innie" with the Mods.

The OP said:

I talk to all ladies, be she tall -- short, thin -- fat, bald, blind or crippled

The OP gets a little "whacko", IMO, with the nonsense that "all women are beutiful", blah, blah, blah. Maybe in the eyes of God

I would wonder if the OP would spend the rest of his life with a fat, toothless, bald, blind and crippled old hag?? Or would he sing a different tune if he was caught having to live up to his "chivalry". It's one thing to talk to someone whose fat, bald, blind or crippled ... it's quite another to accept such a person into your life and live happily ever after.

God ... how I hate thinly veiled attempts at "sincerity" when the person isn't faced with having to live up to his "higher ground" morality.

Yup, they love it. They especially love it from meek NiceGuys(tm) who end up in the FriendZone(tm).

But after the doors have been opened, the small gestures have been received, and the gracious attitudes absorbed...

They go chase BadBoys(tm) who have not one ounce of chivalry

That would account for a large percentage of women. All the Broken Heart threads of cheaters, losers and abusers is evidence to that.
 forum girl
Joined: 7/26/2008
Msg: 51
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Posted: 10/6/2008 2:10:03 PM
I think it is all about manners and respect for each other. Showing respect for all people is very sexy. Nice guys don't always finish last. I have to say that I have also met quite a few "bad boys" who have great manners
 bulls eye annie
Joined: 8/10/2008
Msg: 52
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Posted: 10/6/2008 7:37:31 PM
Wow, lot's to read. Personally, after doing for myself all my life, it's difficult for me to slow down for the man to even OPEN the door FIRST..haha, or I'll hop into the vehicle without thought. He's definitely gonna have to walk faster than me!

Gosh, and those flowers--they're gonna die, I'd rather a plant (that has a fair chance of living). Chocolate.....okay, that's a soft spot.

Chivalry.....isn't that when two people throw themselves on a horse and ride off into the horizon? Hmmmmm?

Fast forward to the 21st century. By no means am I implying that he be a push-over or a welcome mat. but a man who has kindness for all and respects others would still be a welcomed reprieve.
Joined: 3/1/2008
Msg: 54
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Posted: 10/6/2008 8:09:25 PM
YES Padawan61 -- I have dated those who are considered fat, bald -- a blind lady, and yes even one that was in a wheel chair

Dating is one thing ... but living happily ever after with them is quite another story. Read my post ... AGAIN.

I wrote so that the men would realize that women, and I do mean all women, in some form, love to have the simply things said or done for her

Yes, yes ... I'm sure the fatties would love to have the simple things said and done for them too ... but methinks they'll be waiting a long time. There's only so much of YOU to go around.

You are the type who passes on the not so pretty -- because you fail to see the inner beauty

Inner beauty is for ugly fat people.

The true beauty only can be witnessed by hearts of love

Therein lies the truth ... how much "hearts of love" can one have for ugly people in order to get to the "true beauty"??
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 56
How to treat a lady
Posted: 10/12/2008 9:11:23 PM
"LOL exactly the point. Most of the of the few men she knew that acted like gentlemen were her FRIENDS.

Case closed."

Judge and jury for all women. My male friends do that, because they are gentleman, the men that I have dated and been involved with do also. It's not an absolute, and doing so doesn't automatically relegate them to "friends". Only my experience, which is all I can speak from and to.

If it hasn't been said, I have not only noticed but experienced that the women who are ladies don't spend time with men that aren't gentleman. It's not an "act" or a proscribed set of behaviors. I've known men who would "act" like gentleman up to a point and for a purpose. It's a ruse, the gentleman that I have in my life and have had in my life ARE gentleman it's not a put on false persona which is why the "nice guy" phrase gets such bad press.

More often than not, it's something that the "nice guys" try to foster an image, but if you politely decline a date with them, they're no longer as nice as they tried to appear.

I've never put "lady" in my profile, never will. Those that know me, I let them make up their own mind. And I've been privileged to know many gentleman and ladies from this site.

"Because basic manners are simply a part of who someone is, and how he/she goes about living life. Most people don't view manners as anything unusual, and if asked to describe themselves, would never think to mention being "nice" or having manners. "

I agree with Ren up to the point of saying basic. Not going to haggle over a word. Behavior is obvious from investing time in knowing someone. Well mannered individuals are just that, have no need to talk about or try to promote it. Well mannered indiviuals are just that, regardless of age or gender.

When someone's polite or nice to you with another agenda, it's SOO obvious.
Joined: 3/11/2008
Msg: 57
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Posted: 10/20/2008 9:18:36 PM
I think the OP meant, " enough said" by him.
Why are people so quick to take offense and/or judge each other here?
Joined: 2/16/2009
Msg: 59
How to treat a lady
Posted: 5/21/2009 7:40:09 PM
Chivalry is not dead - just gasping for air in the intensive care ward.

I take great pride in being chivalrous to all the ladies I hang out with.

Unfortunately, there are some women who bite a man's head off when we act chivalrously towards them. They equate behavior like this as belief in their assumed weakness rather than just respect.
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 60
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Posted: 5/21/2009 10:40:23 PM
What's yow numbah ??????
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